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Boyfriend
I recently started dating a guy. I have known him since I was little but we starting becoming friend about a year ago. We texted everyday talked every night he called me beautiful and things like that. I found out he liked me asked him about it and we ended up dating but now I feel different. I feel like he'd more of a friend then a boyfriend. I've never been physically attracted to him but he had a great personality. I feel like if were going to kiss I won't want to do it. Can you have a relationship without physical attraction? Also Im not very good at complimenting people. I can be mean but I just joke around. I feel like as his girlfriend I should be all "aw you're so sweet. I love you" blah blah but I cant. With all my past boyfriends I've never been like that. Im not clingy and I dont express my feelings. How can I be nicer to him. How do I make him feel like he means something to me. I think I have this wall up because Im scared to get hurt. Or is it because deep down he's just a friend to me and I dont want to tell him these things. I love talking to him and he makes me laugh and smile,but friends do that too. I can't break up with him because what if I do like him and Im just too stupid to know it.
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I understand you perfectly! I felt that exact same way about a friend. We would flirt, and joke around and it was just so much fun. One day, one of our mutual friends suggested we dated, I didn't really want to but he asked me and I figured, we acted like we were dating so why not? So I did. A week passed, and I was just so ashamed of my way of thinking. I didn't flirt anymore, thinking it might lead to more serious things. Maybe I flirted when we were friends because there was sort of a safety net, you know? I was sure nothing would happen because we were just friends. Well, I felt like I was a lot more comfortable being his friend then his girlfriend so I told him. Luckily he felt the same way and we've been good buddies ever since. Being clingy, or too emotional may just not be your thing.If he's with you, it's probably because he likes that. Don't ever change for anyone, you're perfect. Just have a straight talk with him, ask for some time alone? Maybe in that time you'll realize you're true feelings. Best of luck [:
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Hii :)
So i just want too say this first !
You cant make your self like him you are going too regret it.
The thing is that you don't know if you like him.
You want to but you just can't.
Your not stupid either its normal to feel confused.
I think that ya'll to rushed into things maybe if yall would have stayed good friends and got too know each other better than it could have worked out.
Now you can play the 21 question game with him so you can know stuff about him and he will know more about you.
But if you start too feel like you just dont like him at all then ithink you should either end it completly or just take a break,which ever one makes you happy. But im just saying i dont know you,but dont blame yourself if it doesnt work out dont cry about it that just means that he wasnt the one.
Just remember too dont blame or regret yourself !
So i hope this helped !
Bye!! :)
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Hey there,
Okay let me tell you this is exactly how I felt about my boyfriend when we first started dating. So I can feel I can relate to this quite a bit.
I didn't find him sexually attractive what so ever.
But he was the sweetest,kindest most down to earth guy I had EVER met. He made me laugh like no one else ever could and just truly understood me. I felt like I could be myself around him. Everyone kept telling us to date but I just didn't feel it. After about a year and a half he was there for me during a very bad break up,and I realised maybe what i've been looking for has been right in front of me? (as cliche as that sounds)
So I gave it a go. In the begining much like you I felt like I just couldn't be attracted to him.I Would cringe whenever he would commpliment me or call me baby or babe. I couldn't call him those things at all. Around 5-6months In I contemplated ended it. But I said id give it a little longer. My sister told me that when you fall in love with someones personality,eventually the physical attraction will shine through. And you know what?That is exactly what happened. Almost 3years later we're still together,and stronger than ever.
I don't know how or when but I just found myself becomming more and more attracted to him physically.
So what I would say to you is give it a bit more time. You only recently started dating love takes time to grow in my opinion.
I put up walls like you also but you need to learn to let them down just a bit to let people in. There's a risk you might get hurt but that risk is there with any relationship. As the relationship progresses you will find it easier to let him in and express yourself. You don't have to do it by saying I love you a 100 times a day or calling him baby or whatever. Find your own little ways of showing it. Like posting his favourite song or a song that reminds you of him to his facebook if he has one. Or texting him a random song lyric. Stuff like that.
Some would say it's not fair to lead him on,but I don't think you're doing that. I think you do really care for him you just don't Love him yet. My boyfriend confessed his love for me first but it took me a lot longer. And that's okay :)
You will know if it's going somewhere or not. So in short give it a little more time and see how your feelings are then,if you think there is no way you could ever be intimate with him well then it's best to end it.
Good luck and I really hope I helped. :)
Much <3
Jess 18/f
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