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How do i tell my mom i want to date someone?
ok i'm 17 and i always told my parents i didn't want to date and they always told me to tell them when i wanted to start to date, so you know they can meet him an all. the problem is that i want to tell my mom because my parents are divorced and i trust my mom more but when i tried to tell my mom that this guy liked me and that i liked him too her reaction was happy only cause i told her i didn't want to date. so i had to lie because i was afraid pulse my mom has been feeling stressed with work and all the issues we have that i feel i shouldn't say anything but i feel bad for the guy i like hes very nice and is willing to meet my mom.its not his fault i'm too afraid to say anything! someone give me advice i dont know what to do....thanks
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Alrighty. Well I've been exactly where you are. My parents have had a lot of differences,they are divorced too, but when I brought the guy I liked(lets name him Bob) home, I was pleasantly surprised. You see, my mom called my dad and they both were at my house when I got there with Bob. They sat down, very civilized, no arguments about anything, and just talked with Bob. They made me feel at east, as well as Bob. My dad made the cliche accusing, and warnings to not hurt me, My mom laughed it off as did Bob and I. We all had dinner cooked by my Mom and then my Dad dropped Bob off at his house. So you see, your parents may be divorced, maybe they don't have the communication mine do, but they should come together or at least meet with Your Bob individually. Important thing is that you all feel comfortable, and no arguments occur as your Bob will be the guest of honor, and your parents should do their best to make YOU feel good that day. Just talk to them both, tell them what's happening and what you'd like them to do. Be honest, I'm sure they'll understand and probably do something for you. Best of luck [:
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First I'm a parent old enough to be a grandparent.
If you were 14 or 15 I could understand your reluctance. Your 17 and it is about time you started dating. At 17 you are now mature enough to handle all of the different aspects of dating and if you plan on going away to college soon. You need the experience of dating while you still have the safety net of living at home. Call it dating with training wheels.
This is something we as parents understand. As much as mom may be stressed out with work and other things she is most likely anticipating you starting to date.
My advise is to make mom a nice cup of tee one night a sit down and talk with her. Tell her you have met a nice boy you would like to date. He would like to meet her before you two start dating. How and when is the best time for the 3 of you to get together to meet and talk. This would also be the time to ask mom if she has any dating advice for you.
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I think you should just have a nice and calm talk with your mom and explain the whole situation the right way so that your mom won't flip out and tell her that he's a sweet guy and that he wants to meet her.
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Go ahead and tell her. She can handle it. She's a mom. I bet she's been expecting this day to come. Your mother should have the wits to know that you will want to date when you meet the right guy. She even gave you a verbal invitation by asking you to let her know when that time comes. You have already hinted a guy in your life and she didn't flinch. Know that moms know a lot more than they let off. Take a deep breathe and get it over with. You are almost an adult. Your mom must know that you aren't going to be forever under her wing in her nest. It's a big step but it's one you are going to have to make sooner or later.
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