Hey, I'm Kelli, better known as fabulous ;)
after a very long break from this site, I'm back and ready to help out anyone who needs it.
A little bit about me:
I'm fourteen and in eighth grade.
I'm a crazy girl, and I always have a smile on my face.
I love to sing and dance, I spend most of my time doing one or the other.
I am nice to everyone, until they give me a reason not to be.
I have the best friends in the world, and without their love and support, I wouldn't be who I am today.
Ask me anything, I'm told I'm good at advice so don't be afraid to ask my opinion. I'll do the best I can to help you out! ♥
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ok....im 13 and pregnant i dont want to tell my family because i think they will be ashamed.I dont want to get an abortion because i think its wrong.I also dont want to give "it" up for adoption, because my friend was adopted and he doesent like it.I just really need some help.What should i do? (link)
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Hey. This is definitely a hard situation. I'm not going to lie, these decisions are BIG and are going to affect both you and your family. But the important thing is not to go through it alone. Honey you need to find an adult you can confide in or ask someone to come with you but you have to tell your parents. Eventually there going to find out anyway when you start showing. Although your parents may be disappointed, they will be able to help you. Look at all your options and I agree with you 110% abortions are just wrong. Sweetie if your this far.. you are strong and you can do it. Just have faith and do what you need to do. Good luck and let me know if you need anything else. ♥ fabulous
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Thirteen, almost Fourteen.
110 Pounds.
About 4' 10'
My stomach almost makes me look pregnate when I'm not sucking it in, which is weird, because I used to do 100 curlups a night. I've got a four pack if I suck my stomach in, but I always feel fat and disgusting.
Is this normal? How should I adjust my weight? (should I gain, lose, or maintain?) (link)
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hey. there are a lot of sites that will let you enter your height and weight and tell you whether you are too thin, overweight, or perfect. The site I use most is am-i-fat.com and on the task bar on the left click on am i fat? I believe it is the third one down. Also you can call your pediatrician and schedual and exam. I wouldn't be too worried about it. If your healthy that's all that matters :] ♥ fabulous
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stupid question but i had a bf and he gave me this singing toy for valentines day.
i dumped him, and now i hate him and i never see him anymore (he moved). well whenever i look at the toy it reminds me of him. i really wanna get rid of it, but i dont wanna throw it away cause he spent his money on it, and i cant give it back to him cause i lost contact with him, and i cant give it to any of my friends cause i told them what he got me.
oh ya and i am not going to be in any relationship soon so i will not give it to my future bf. (anyways its ugly as hell and i hated it when i got it)
lol any ideas on what to do with it? (link)
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Hey. Bring it to an orphanage or drop it off with Big Brother Big Sister. I'm sure the kids there would love a cuddly toy to hug :]. ♥ fabulous
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i have the worst jealous problem ever and my boyfriend knows it. i think it's starting to affect our relationship. are arguments are only about that, and i'm the one that starts them because i ask stupid questions. then after the fight we are all better. but i need to know what i can do that will help me get over this, because he has no idea what to do anymore to prove to me that nothing is going to happen between me and him, and i'm scared that if things don't get fixed soon i'll lose him...what can i do so get me self over this jealous problem i have?? (link)
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Hey. There really is no given cure for jealousy but I would reccomend being more trusting of your boyfriend. If you have no reason to not trust him, it is probably better to give him the benefit of the doubt. I know it's tough but if he is a worthwhile guy, you'll find out pretty quickly that jealousy is not needed. Good luck with your guy I hope it works out for you. ♥ Fabulous
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is there anything i can download where i can download music for free and put it directly onto my ipod. thank you (link)
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Hey. Well there are sites such as limewire where you can download free music but I wouldn't reccomend them because they are illegal. As far as things go, itunes is cheap with only a dollar per song. Sorry if this isn't the response your looking for but I hope I helped a little. ♥ fabulous
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15/f
I have OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and my case is pretty damn bad. I could worry over the SMALLEST things...and not sleep until I either know the answer, or do something right. An example: if I write a LONG essay in pencil ... and then I remember that I have to do it in ink or I get an F...I start FREAKING OUT...like complete, full out PANIC. I start crying, and worrying...and I can't help it. So...what do I do? I rewrite it in pen, and waste my time...only to find that it wasn't even due. This is what always happens...I worry about something, and it isn't even that important. The problem is that, these little problems causing my anxiety are literally RUNING my life. And I ask people what I could do...and they all give me different opinions at different situations...and I'm TOTALLY thrown off. How can I just stop obsessing/worrying over the smallest things that really have no value on my life? grrrr....thanks in advance (link)
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Hey. I know what your going through and it is really tough. Your very brave. My mom and my brother have OCD and I myself also have a mild case of that and anxiety. To be honest I would reccomend a visit to a therapist. There is no shame in it and they can help provide you with medicine that control your problem and help you live your life a little bit more stress free. Good luck and I hope everything works out. If you have any more questions feel free to ask. ♥ fabulous
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Ok as you get older is it possible for your face to get longer and then for your nose to appear smaller? but it is actually the smaller but same size? Or would your nose just grow bigger along with your face?
Weird question i know but please try and answear it. (link)
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Hey. Yes your face can get longer as your body adjusts and it thins out. And no your nose does not get smaller but many people will use the expression that you eventually "grow into your nose" I am still waiting for that day to come for me. lol anyways hope I answered your question ♥ fabulous
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15/f (sorry if it's in the wrong category)
I have VERY long hair. And my hair's like really thick and healthy. Lately, I've been washing it too much. And now I worry that it will like all fall out. I've been noticing that it's getting thinner and thinner. But sometimes, however, it's normal. I wash my hair like every 2-3 days...and sometimes, when I put gunk in my hair, or come out of the pool, I was it every day. I don't know what to do. My hair gets greasy VERY quickly. And I mean like every 2-1 days. And it's gross just walking around like that (since my hair is always down). This causes me to wash it so often. Now I'm worried that all of my beautiful hair will either wear out, or fall out...or something bad will happen. ;_; advice please? :'( (link)
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Hey. Don't be nervous about losing your hair. As you grow up your hair will thin out a little bit and that's normal. Washing your hair every two or three days is also what most hair dressers would reccomend. I`ve read that if you run lemon juice through your hair then rinse it out or wash it, it sucks up all the grease. If you google tips for long hair I`m sure you will find something that works just for you. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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ok. this is super duper embarassing.
i am 16, female. and i pee my pants when i laugh. like kinda bad. when i start laughing, i just lose control of my bladder. and then its soo hard trying to hide the (sometimes) huge wet spot on my pants. (i also wet the bed, but thats only once every 2-3 months so its not a huge problem)
i have tried using the bathroom like every five minutes: doesnt help AT ALL. i have tried thinking of something sad/not funny when i laugh: doesnt help. i have tried concentrating really hard on not peeing: doesnt help.
my social life has been affected by this: there is this girl i met at camp, and we became really good friends, but she lives like an hour away from me, but she has invited my to visit many times. i really want to, BUT SHE IS HILARIOUS!!!! ahhh!! (oh ya btw summer camp was hell for me: it was fun but also funny -> causes wet pants)
please help me. i am willing to do anything but get diapers (i wear tight jeans) and hang out with serious people. like i am actually a really humourous person myself, and it kills me to be scared to laugh. (link)
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Hey. It sounds as if you have a condition called "overactive bladder" that or you just have a very small bladder. I would make an appointment with your doctor and see what he reccomends. There are commercials for pills to help with problems like these such as Detrol LA and after running some tests, your doctor will be able to perscribe one that is good for your condition. Don't try anything without notifying your doctor or pharmicist because some of the fad pills wont help your condition ,they'll just ruin your health. As for your social life, nobody has to know. Just go to school prepared with extra jeans and underwear. If theres a problem go into the bathroom and change. True friends won't judge you especially if they know theres something wrong. Good luck and I hope I helped ♥ fabulous
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14/f
I know this is kind of gross, but is it weird to have hair growth on your stomache?? And what can I do to get rid of it?? Without waxing it, or lazor hair removal. And shaving is such a pain is there anything that will get rid of it for good???
Thanks. (link)
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Hey. I don't have many tips for hair removal but no it isn't weird for the hair to be there. Some girls get it darker but almost everyone has it. I do but I mostly shave it off. Sorry that this is vague but hope I helped even a little! ♥ fabulous
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ok i just turned 13, and i have not gotten my period yet. i have some pads and today i was curious so i tried one on. well it didn't fit right it seemed a little too big. but i got the smallest size. well i tried putting on using the directions (i'm using always). well i'm still using hanes girls and i put it on it feels uncomfortable. but then again, its my first time wearing a pad. so please tell me if its supposed to feel that weird, and also tell me anything i need to know about my period kuz i live with my dad, AND I CANT TELL ANYONE ELSE!
thank you (link)
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Hey. Absolutely it is! I remember when I first got my period last year when I was 12, I wore a pad and was like "mom I feel like a duck cause this thing makes me waddle!" Practicing is actually pretty smart so you can be used to them when your period rolls around. Even though there big, that's good because they offer better protection from leakage. Try out different brands and sizes. Panty liners are generally for light days and they range from that to maxi pads for extremely heavy flows. If you still find that you do not like the pads, tampons are also an option. As for what to know, when you first get your period it will be VERY irregular so dont panic if it lasts for a very long time, ends quickly, or comes one month then skips a few others. Girls are generally not regular for at least a year. If you are into sports especially running, your period may stop during the season but thats normal so don't panic. Many girls get cramps with their periods some lucky girls get light ones other unlucky girls (myself included!) get kind of bad ones. Heating pads are excellent. Motrin works well also. Many people will tell you a warm bath is good but when you have yohr period, it isn't sanitary to take a bath. Make sure you change your pads often and especially tampons. Never sleep with a tampon in to avoid toxic shock syndrome (extremely rare disease from wearing a tampon over eight hours) dont panic this is VERY VERY rare. Try to take a shower every night on your period to keep that area clean. If you have any other questions feel free to ask! ♥ fabulous
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ok my glasses just broke and im tired of it. i want to get contacts but i want to know the pros and cons of them first before i spend my money on them. would it be better to just get my glasses fixed and what is the best place to get contacts. also i am 14 f and i have to pay for them myself so i need cheap one's ( but good quality). my friend said go to walmart and get them. is that ok? i just need help intirely! please help me... (link)
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Hey. Contacts are a big step but I know tons of people with them. A good way to decide if you are ready for contacts is this. Are you a neat person? If you tend to keep things neat and tidy then contacts would be ok to get because they require a lot of care and they need to be extremely clean to avoid eye infections. If you are on the messy side it may not be such a good idea to get contacts. I think the best way for you to know for sure is to get the contacts and try them out but also get your glasses fixed. This way if you don't like the contacts you still have your glasses or if you like the contacts but want you glasses for night time or reading you still have them. Walmart does have contacts although my mom goes there and they tend to be on the more expensive side. Go online or look in the yellow pages and compare prices. Also maybe go to an eye doctor so they can test your eyes and guide you through this process. Good luck! ♥ fabulous
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if i have heavy eye make-up what color of lipstick shud i use? please recomend me alot of colors thanks!!!!!!!! (link)
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Hey. Its always a good idea to balance out your makeup so it doesn't look like you went overboard. So if you have on heavy eye makeup, go for a nuetral shade of lipstick this way the attention is focused on one thing and it isn't as overwhelming. Hope I helped! ♥ Fabulous
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Hey. Well, I get these random "spells" as I call them, of depression. I don't know if I'm bipolar. And like, I have a pretty good life. Not perfect, obviously, but not as bad as other people's. I don't know what's wrong with me. Also, I have little to no self-esteem, if that helps at all. Help!! And thanks in advance :].
P.S. 13/f, Idk if that will help anybody. (link)
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Hey. I am really sorry for what you are going through I know that must be really tough. The best thing for you to do is to tell one of your parents or another adult you trust and then you should visit with your doctor who could then help you see a therapist. The therapist would be able to locate the problem and there are some medications that will help this very treatable problem. Good luck stay strong! ♥ fabulous
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what exactly is blackmail? (link)
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hey. blackmail is when somebody either has something of yours or knows something about you (generally something bad) and then they use it against you, usually to gain something they want. Hope I helped ♥ fabulous
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ive been taking a shower once a day washing my face 2wice a day and all that happens is i brake out more and im getting sick of it and i baught face wash and im starting to use proactive but ive been washing my face for a year and its still not working what should i do (link)
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Hey. It's actually probably better if you don't wash your face as much as you do because that can cause breakouts as well. Get an acne face wash and keep it down to washing your face once a day. Also try to keep your hair away from your face when you sleep because the oil from your hair can cause acne if it gets on your face. Keep trying proactiv but if you don't see positive results expierment with other acne control systems. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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What is your opinion on brown hair?Do you think it is ugly? (link)
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Hey. Absolutely not! I have light brown hair and know tons of people with brown hair; it is very pretty. Even though the style seems to be blonde hair, brown hair is just as sexy. Expierement with different colors if you dont like brown but brown hair is beautiful. ♥ fabulous
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Hi everyone,
I was wondering, how long does it take for your stomache to shrink from not eating??
Thanks for any help, guys!
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Hey. I wouldnt recomend trying to lose weight the way that you are. It could develop into anorexia or even if it doesnt, within a week you will be very unhealthy and very weak. Food is what keeps your body working properly and without it you will find that your body is not functioning. Just eat smaller portions and healthy food. It may be a good idea to talk to your doctor before losing weight where you can discuss how much you think is a good amount to lose or whether or not you even need to .Just watch what you eat and excersize and as long as your healthy and fit I'm sure you'll feel and look a lot better. Hope I helped ♥ fabulous
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my dad wants to re-do my room, and i have the colors maroon or teal in mind. (not together)
but what color carpets go good w/ each of those colors? pictures of other cute colors together might be convincing as well!
any input would be helpful! (link)
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Hey. Well I have a friend who painted her room a tealish color and what she did was buy a beige rug and hang up all sorts of beach decorations so now her room looks a little like the ocean. It looks really great. If you get maroon, maybe you could make your room like a "celebrity" room and hang up like posters and gold stars. A beige carpet would look great in there to. Sorry if this doesn't help much but good luck with your redecorating. ♥ fabulous
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Which is better, an Ipod video or Ipod nano?
I have the choice of which one I want to get as my xmas gift. I know Ipod video has alot more memory but aside from memory size, which is more convinient for me? 16/f btw (link)
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Hey. Personally I would get the ipod video because aside from regular music, you can also watch music videos, tv, and movies. But if your just looking for a small place for music an Ipod nano is really cool to. Hope I helped ♥ fabulous
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