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Age: 13
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ok i have this really weid bump on my face. It is on my forehead right near my eyebrow. It is really big and red and hurts realy bad...its also really hard. My mom siad its just an ingrown pimple but it is really big...what could it be?? (link)
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It's probably in ingrown hair. Do you pluck? Go see a doctor. Don't touch your eyebrows right after you pluck them because you can clog the hole with oil.
!~*becca*~!
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i need a great theme for our hallway and i am a junior. we really wanna beat the seniors but the seniors have a great idea of doing super mario brothers.... what should we do? any ideas would help! thanks! (link)
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Do something like...uh...Attack of the Killer Tomatoes!!!
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i like my friend from school but i dont know is she likes me back what should i do? (link)
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Flirt with her and see what her reaction is. If she flirts back, ask her to go somewhere with you. Pick somewhere that won't be awkward, but not too friendishy if you know what I mean.
!~*becca*~!
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HEY, my name is trish. i need help wit h something and i was wondering if you could help.
im blemic and i told my friend that and she got really mad and said if i dont stop making myself throuh up after i ate then shes is going to go and tell my dad. my momm passed away three years ago and my dad is the only parent i have and he doesnt always have time for our problems with his work and taking care of my sister who is 7. im really mad at my friend for saying shes going to tell. im even more mad at vicky because shes also been telling some of my other friends. i wish she wouldnt do that because now they are all telling me to stop and ganging up on me. oh no!! what should iu do about this?
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I'd be happy to try and help. If you don't want everyone to know, tell your friends who are spreading it around to STOP, because it's none of anyone elses' buisness and you don't feel comfortable with them knowing.
You really want to stop with the bulimia stuff. It's not good at all and you could end up in the hospital and once you stop purging you'll gain all of that weight back really fast and then gain even more. It's a proven study.
Get help!! Talk to you dad about it. I know it's hard, but he's the first person you should go for. He'll always have time for your problems. If you're afraid of him getting mad or upset, remember that he will be surprised, but he won't deny you help. and if you can't handle talking to him about it, then go to a school counselor.
I'm sorry about your mom. Good luck!! I'm always glad to help!
!~*becca*~!
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Well there a girl I really like and we have been awsome friends. I want to tell her the way I truly feel about her, but I don't want to make anything more akward then they are, and ruin our friendship. It already came close to being decimated, and so whats the best way to let it out. (link)
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Yeah, it could very well ruin your friendship. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't like her. Flirt with her a little, and see how she reacts. There is no real way to tell if she likes you back besides asking her. Get a friend of hers or yours to ask her all casually, like, "Hey, would you ever consider going out with ___? You two would make a cute couple...." or something like that.
hope i helped!
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Alright, Me and this guy were talking a lot and he told me he loved me and all that jazz. Then he started getting mad at me over stupid things and once I would explain myself he would be like alright. Then we got in this huge fight. And fought for a week. Then just yesterday he IMed me out of the blue. He said that he wanted to try the friends thing for now. I really like this kid, If I don't love him. I don't know what to do. He's always flirting with other girls and everything and I'm just like...wow. I really want to go out with him. But I know he would say no. I just wish he would like me.
I mean whenever he said he wanted to try the just friends thing for now part he sent me this poem/letter he wrote during the week we were mad at eachother and it made me cry. It basically said that he will always care about me and that sometimes he's stupid about things and wishes I would just over look them.
I really don't know what to do. I'm so confused. I just want him to like me..Wow...Please help me.
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Talk to him!!! Ask him if he likes you. If he sent you that thing, then he probably does. Ask him out anyway. Don't get stressed about it.
!~*becca*~!
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How likely is it for you to get pregnant if you ONLY use a condom meaning you are safe but you aren't as safe as you could be because there is no birth control involved? (link)
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If you use one, then the chances are pretty slim to none. If you're worried about it, use a home pregnancy test.
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I want a new sn because I have had mine forever...here is some stuff about me to help..
1. I cheer
2. I live in Texas
3. I beleive in love
4. I love silly things
yup, i would definately like some help.. (link)
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sillililcheerbytch
try that.
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Okay this is pretty unlike me and I know I'm gonna sound retarded, but this weekend me and a few of my buddys are going to the mall and they're are always reeeeeaaallll fine girls there and even though I'm not a bad looking dude (shallow?) I always never have any courage to approach them, any suggestions? I would be mucho greatful =) (link)
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Just go up to them and flirt! Just take a deep breath and just walk up to them and just be all "...hey." Most girls aren't too too shallow, but they like guys who act comfident.
hope i helped
!~*becca*~!
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This might be kind of gross, but for the sake of my friend, please try to help...
I recently found out that one of my friends is purging or becoming bulimic. I'm pretty sure she is but i have no clue how she's doing it. I mean, i've heard different stories and i really want to talk to her about it, but i can't yet. My only question is, is there any kind of medicine/drug that she might be taking for her to do this??? I dont know much about this so i really need to know to help. I know that alot of people just say, "stick your finger down your throat", but i'm not sure if she's doing that. I know she's taken drugs before but i don't know if that can literally cause you to purge. She's had trouble with stuff before but i just recently found out about this. I need to know if what she's taking is causing this. If you have any idea or can tell me what the pills are, i'll appreciate it. I'm just really worried and kind of naive about all this. Please help!!! (link)
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I don't think she would go to the trouble of making herself throw up any other way. Talk to your parents or her parents about it to get her help, because you can't do it yourself.
!~*becca*~!
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Ok before this question i've asked another on similar but this question is like the sequeal to it. So the qustion before this was I still like my exboyfriend who now lives in L.A. and i'm practicly inlove with him but i'm only 13 so I finally took the peoples advice who answered this and got his number from his friend that I know. So know I really want to call him but i'm nervouse because after I broke up with him for a really stupid reason we havn't talked for like a year but I know he still remembers me because his friend told me that he would always talk good about me. So what i'm asking is should I call him and say that his friend wanted me to call you and tell you that he can't call you because he got grounded would that be good so then we can just lead on from there or what because I refuse and really don't want to say that I just called him just because I want a good exuse( i'm a shy person somtimes) Thanx will rate for helpfull answers( will rate high!) (link)
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Well it would help if I knew where you lived in relation to him. If you live very far away, then don't bother calling him. Long distance relationship suck and never work out.
If you want to talk to him, just do it. Just be like, oh, hi, long time no see. Just talk about random stuff. It will probably be awkward at first, but it'll flow.
Hope I helped!!
!~*becca*~!
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i need some more advise any one pls (link)
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There isn't much you can do yourself. Talk to her parents, or yours (and tell them to talk to her parents or something). Make your girlfriend feel good about herself. The reason she is making herself throw up is probably that she either feels fat or worthless. Let her know that you think she's beautiful and perfect the way she is.
Hope I helped!!
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Ok. 13/m. I don't know if this question goes under Families or Work/School Relationships. Sorry it's so long. I'm really worried for my sister (14/f). She just found her first date at school this year. They went to the movies and all. My sister was just sitting there waiting for him to do something. She had her arm on the armrest the whole time waiting for him to hold it or something. She bought Junior Mints "just in case"---didn't use a single one. She could've talked to me. I've been asking and answering Advicenator questions for months now. I pretty much know what's going to happen and the pains she's going to feel. But no. She doesn't like to tell me stuff. Instead, she tells our cousin, who has serious boy problems. Boys rule her life. Her Bat Mitzvah was ruined because her newest ex was there. She couldn't enjoy Avenue Q because one of her exes liked it. She has serious issues. I know that. My parents know that. My sister just doesn't seem to get it, so she talks to her for advice.
My cousin is saying things like "Well, if he doesn't want to hold your hand, he must not be right. Dump him." or "Try rushing him, that usually works for me." I eavesdrop on their conversations because I'm concerned. I want her to listen to me. I've gotten chances to talk to her which I of course took advantage of, but she refuses to understand. She doesn't believe that she'll face hate, jealousy, rejection, etc. I felt most of it first-hand, but as for the parts actually IN the dating, I couldn't get that far. She doesn't think I know enough. Just because I'm younger and haven't actually dated doesn't mean that I haven't felt jealousy and rejection, I haven't been extremely depressed, etc.
How can I get her to listen to me? Thanks.
By the way, don't say to write in a diary. I'm already doing that, but my parents confiscated it last night for writing after dark. (link)
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Okay, sit your sister down and talk to her. If she doesn't want to listen, then that's too bad for her! Express you concern for her and that you think you possibly might know what you're talking about. It's pretty natural for older sisters to not listen to their younger ones, even if the younger siblings are right. It's the whole older sibling ego thing.
Don't eavsdrop. It's an invasion of privacy, and I know you wouldn't appriciate it either. I know you're just trying to help, but it's not really your buisness, no offense meant.
Hope I helped!
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Hey guyss. Well latley I`ve been having some trouble ( friends, grades etc. ) You know, the normal middle school drama. Well I`ve been taking my anger out on random people ( like saying sarcastic remarks or insulting them) without realizing I did it until I already said it. I want to be nicer to everyone and become more outgoing. Anyone got any tips to help get me started and to remind me to be more outgoing, nicer, and friendly in the future ? Thanks guys, I really appreciate it. xox (link)
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Think about what you say before you say it. Just stop and think. If you let something slip, just say something like,"I'm sorry, I didn't mean that. I'm REALLY stressed..."
hope i helped
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okay im 13 years old and i have a very stupid question... do you pee out the same hole your period is......i wanna start using tampons but i cant seem to find the 'hole' to put it in........ im sooo confused right now...any advice can help me thanks soo much in advance cause i dont know how i would survive without you all...... thanks (link)
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Whoa, no you could never fit a tampon in your urethra (pee hole). You tampon goes in the vagina, the hole that's under that, and before your anus. This sounds gross, but it helps: use a mirror. That way you can see where you're putting that tampon! Also use the directions from the tampon box. They are SO helpful!
I hope I helped!
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How can i lose weight?!i am 13 female and i weight around 154 pounds!! thats about 50 pounds more than what i want to weigh. any suggestions about how i can diet and exercise to lose like stomach fat or leg fat. how can i eat a better diet? i need to lose weight because i get picked on at school a lot and i dont want that to happen anymore. Please help me out!!! (link)
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Stop eating too much sweets. You want to cut out stuff like candy and soda and stuff because that REALLY adds the pounds to you. Eat more fruits and veggies when you want something to snack on. Only eat when you're hungry. Don't use food as your comfort, or something to do when you're bored. Do something to occupy your time. If you get hungry between meals, have a glass of water, especially when you have a sugar craving (this usually means you're thirsy, I've read that somewhere).
As for excersize, take walks, bike rides, do crunches/situps, etc.
It takes a lot of willpower to lose weight. You have to be dedicated. Just imagine your improved self in a bikini and all of the guys drooling over you. It works!!
Hope I helped!
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well every morning i straighten my hair and it looks all pretty and perfect but by the time its homeroom it gets all gross and frizzy! and i hate it
any sugesttions?
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That happens to me too. Make sure you get all the layers of your hair. Pin it up to get the bottom layers, then get the top ones.
If that doesn't work, try straightening gel. I've seen them in CVS or something.
Hope I helped!
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Sorry if it's long I'll rate 5's to serious answers.
My dad has been going over his brothers. Lately and he has been taking pills and stuff while he is their. I didn't find out this out until today. My other uncle says they really messed him up when he was younger and doesn't want to see it happen again. Well today he told me he was leaving because my mom and him were arguing he said he'd be back in a few days but I don't want him to leave at all. This really upsets me because I love my dad with all my heart. And my mom says their taking a break which usually means divorce and I don't want them to separate because I love them equally. My dad says this is because my mom drinks (not heavily) and stuff. I think I am a cause for this to because last week my mom and I were arguing and the cops came (for disorderly conduct or something) and as soon as my dad came home she told him. I'm really confused because I love both of my parents. Last night when they were arguing I cried myself to sleep and thought of suicide. This is the first time I thought of this in a few years. I don't think I would really do it thought. What should I do for my family and myself? (link)
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Okay, first of all, none of this is your fault!! You have nothing to do with your parents' relationship. Don't even let yourself think that.
Nothing is worth killing yourself over!! The only thing killing yourself would do would make it worse, because your parents would blame themselves, and possible each other.
Call a teen hotline or talk to a school consoler if this is too much for you. You shouldn't have to deal with this alone. Get help!
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i'm going to a small party on saturday night, and i know there's going to be like kissing games.... what do i do if i have to be the one!? what if i'm too shy and stuff? also, any sites on how to help me like lear how to kiss right and stuff? haha thanks! (link)
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If you don't want to take part in such games, then DON'T! Don't give in to peer pressure. Do what's comfortable. If you say you don't want to, then the people who are too shy to do even that will find their voice and speak up about it and possibly look up to you because of your bravery. And there really isn't any "right" way to kiss. If it's making out/hooking up or whatever you wanna call it then you just sorta tilt your head to the side, part your lips, press your mouth to the other person's, stick you tounge in and sorta move it up and down with their tounge. Don't waste your first kiss though, unless you really want to. If it's just a little peck, then it's not a huge deal. But if you don't feel comfortable, then just make that clear.
Hope I helped!
!~*becca*~!
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Ok. I am a 13 year old girl and i dont know why but when i go to sleep i think about sex a lot i mean a LOTT. I feel like i am the only one that does it. I feel like a porno-freak and i dont know why i do this it kind of comes naturally. Is it normal? I dont have my period yet and can anyone tell me what masturbating means??? i know a lot about sex but i dont know what to do about this. I think that if people find out they will hate me. I dont want to finger myself or anything. I just want to be a normal kid. I dont have a boyfriend and i dont think about anyone in paticular. I just think about sex. HELP ME!Since this was very long i will reat high if you try to help!!! (link)
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Ha! You think you're the only one who thinks about sex? You're very wrong. Almost everyone thinks about it.
Mastrubating is touching yourself in a way where it feels good in that way. You know what I mean? Like rubbing yourself.
Hope I helped!!!
!~*becca*~!
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