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okay, so i had this friend, let's call her Em. and she was seriously my bestest friend. but then all this drama happened during sophomore year of high school and our friendship fell apart. now we're juniors and we're cool now. like we say hi and we're friendly to each other and stuff, but it's still pretty awkward between us. like we don't talk like we used to and we obviously dont do all those things best friends used to do anymore. i really miss her. but i don't think she misses me because she has another best friend at school. i want to gradually become close with her again, but i don't want to seem SUPER CLINGY to her because that was one of the reasons why our friendship fell apart. what can i do to get my best friend back? any advice is welcome. thanks so much in advance! (link)
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What you can do is get along with her best friend,be very friendly,so she tells Em that you're a nice person,it'll be much easier for you to get closer to Em,or you should talk to Em in private,tell her you miss the way things used to be,what can you do so things can go back the way they were.
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ok well i really want to lose weight but my mom never buys anything really healthy like instead of getting chipc she could get those 100 claorie pack things but she goes with the chip and it's not helping me at all to lose weight how can i get her to buy better stuff healthier stuff (link)
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Say to your mom that fruits,vegetables are good for growth,your health,the doctor strongly recommends especially if you're on a diet or you're not,stuff like chips makes the person gain a lot of weight,it's a waste product,it doesn't help you at all but, healthy foods bring out lot of benefits for your body.
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I've been with my boyfriend for ten and a half months now and I find myself trying to start problems with us. Like yesterday for example, my boyfriend was completely happy and everything was perfect for him and I don't know I just decided to push myself away from him. He spent the whole entire day asking me what was wrong. I don't know I guess I don't like him being happy unless its just me making him happy. I just don't know what to do. The fact that I'm not happy most of the time unless its because of him kind of makes me want him to feel the same way I guess. (link)
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I get what you're saying you need to let your boyfriend know what's going on otherwise he won't be able to understand your actions,he may take it the wrong way,also may be that you want to have a reason to be in a good mood don't , I'm sure you'll work things out with your boyfriend.
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I got a pup when I was in about 4th grade. I'm in my junior year now. He's 9 years old. I find this strange that when I look at other dogs and meet them.. they are just animals.. pets.. dogs to me.. But when I'm with my dog, he's not just someone [hah, an animal] you go "aww cute" and pet.. Isn't that strange? I treat my dog almost like a person and he gets the affection he deserves.. but other dogs.. I don't know how to explain this.. But why am I thinking like this? Is it just because I grew up with him and he became so familiar? He does not act like a normal dog you can say. He's not hyper and he's not confusing to me or unpredictable. I can tell when he's sad, sick or in pain. I feel out of place. I met my cousins new puppy and he was wagging his tail.. being hyper.. To me, that dog was just a pet you take care of. But my dog, he's a part of the family and sometimes i feel like i can understand him just by looking at his eyes... It makes me feel weird, is this wrong? (link)
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No,of course not like you said you just got familiar with how he feels or state of mood he's in,dogs do have feelings just like we do,I know this because I also have a dog too,really sweet of you to be kind to your pet,as far as the other pets they have someone to look after them just like you do with your dog.
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i met this girl through family friends and she's new to my school. we talk online(aim) and she's a grade younger than me. i want to become friends with her because i recently lost all my friends except one or two so i'd really like a new friend that doesn't know my drama. the thing is that i never see her in school except for one day where we have classes right next to each other but she goes one way and i go the other way and i think she takes the bus home so there isn't much time to hang out after school and i have practice anyways. she's rarely online or she's never online when im online. how can i make this work? (link)
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Try hanging out with her over the weekends or when you go online schedule days that you're both available,also that you would like to be her friend,try to be into her interests,getting to know more about her,her background,dislikes,and about life.
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Hullo :] 15/f Well, about a year ago, I met a guy online. And I didn't have much friends at that time, so I would be obsessed with talking to him. To the point of staying up till 3 in the morning waiting for him to log in on MSN. He's meaner nnow.....and he changed. He messes with my feelings and hurts me. Okay and so...Now, as I started school. I found that I'm more distracted. And I could seriously not give a shit what he thinks of me anymore. He insults me and makes fun of me. I don't need him. I don't even catch myself thinking about him anymore. He's like an extra unneeded load on my shoulders. My question is...how do I cut him off for good? I don't want to talk to him anymore. How can I do it nicely? Or should I just delete him off MSN..cut him off? Thank you very much. Any advice would be appreciated :] (link)
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Well if you don't want him to feel the need to want to keep on hurting you,avoid making another enemy then you cut him off nicely.But,if you delete him off msn not only will that show him you want him out of your life but you don't care about him any more.So I say the decision is in your hands.
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hey everyone dis will be pretty long but i justreally need a answer quick.. please.. ok
well i really like this boy and all and last year he always used to look at me always used to talk to me and stuff and i really started ot like him i mean badly anyway he went to amerrica and stuff and then he came back
and asked for me and stuff and my sis told him when i ws comin to skool anyway this year you kno when you first go to skool and stuff and you havnt seen people in a long tmie and you get nervouse and scared and you kno what im saying anyway i was like to him heeey then i saw my friends behind him i was soo dammn exited to see them and stuff and so then BY MISTAKE honest mistake i just ran away from him and hese like why are you runnin and i totally ignored him but i swear i so did not mean it i just didnt think anwyay i told him i was sorry and now we talk and stuff and whatever happend happend lol but i duno man.. i feel that he doesnt like talk to me as much as he used to everyone finds him the same somehow i find him diffrent and like i find him we dont talk as much andhe never looks at me alot like he used to we shake hands everytime we walk buy and stuff but i duno please dont tell me hese prolly still mad that u ignored him cause i kno hese not i mean we talked today normal laughing and stuff and he told me he wasnt mad and stuff.
But what do i do to get him to talk to me more i dont wanna always come up to im cause he will find me annoying any suggestings?? please?? thanks (link)
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Why don't you tell the guy that you are going through something very difficult,you really need his support,to see his reaction,to see if he really cares about you,then trust me he'll be talking to you more,of course by not going up to him all the time,so you get his attention,then he'll come to you on his own if he really likes you.
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My only friends are at church and are all older. I have none in school. I mean I have some, but I don't call any or talk with any outside of school. What should I do? And please don't tell me to be more out going and talk more. I already tralk a lot. And I've already tried to just invite someone over to my house or call them up. But then they called me too clingy. So what do I do? (link)
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If what I advice you to do at school you didn't have it's not my fault,another thing that's why you don't have any friends outside because you're a mean kid who is clingy!!You are really sad and pathetic!!
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My boyfriend who I loved just broke up with me.
But the thing is he broke up with me for no good reason. He told my best friend that he thought it was time. But I don't really understand that. We had an amazing date like 3 days ago, and we both had a ton of fun, and he seemed like everything was normal, he kept kissing me and all that normal stuff. But just last night he broke up with me. But the thing is we have only been going out for two months and in his grade (he's older) apparently it's not cool for a guy to be in a relationship for more then 2 months. My friend also asked him if I did anything wrong, and my ex told her to tell me that I didn't do anything wrong. He really hurt me, and i haven't stopped crying. I don't know what to do. I don't think I ever want to date someone again. I only want the guy that broke up with me, and I believe I always will.
Can you explain to me why he broke up with me?? And what I can to do stop feeling so lousy??
HELP!!! (link)
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Either like you said that because some people think it's not cool for a guy to be in a relationship more than two months or he likes some other girl.If I were you I forget about him he broke up with you for something that isn't your fault at all,he didn't even had the odesity to even give you an explanation!Like I told ohters fight the feelings you have for him,go on with your life,learn to live without him,and don't make the same mistake by trying to get back with him because he'll hurt you again.
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sorry for making this long
ok my older sister is married and has two kids which makes them my neice and nephew and i've never even got to meet them my nephew is almost two and yeha i really want to see my sister and my brother-in-law and my neice and nephew i havent seen my sister or brother-in-law in like 2 or 3 maybe even almost 4 years well they live in Hawaii and i live in Wisconsin but she always takes time to go to texas or california to see my brother-in-laws family we've asked her to come ou here but she always goes to texas or something how can i make it clear that i want to see her i mean we've all told her we want to see her you know but she doesnt listen and doesnt get that me and my other sister nad my mom and dad and grandma miss her now my mom has got to see her like 3 times cause she's flown out there my grandma spent like 3 months there and my dad has seen them two me and my sister are the only ones who havent seen them and me and my sister used to be kinda close i mean we had lots of fun together she would take us to the pool or go iceskating or stuff like that and we would just like dance to music and stuff but since she got married and stuff we havent done anything like that and i really miss her but i dont know why but i cant be like emotional with my family it's just kinda weir but i want to make it clear to her that i miss her and that i wanna see her and that i'm mad at her for always seeing by brother-in-laws family (link)
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When you say it to her say it in a tone that's at a good level,that you would love to see her,that she should think of her own family too,that's it's been years that you,the other members of your family haven't seen her,she can't be selfish,not think of others,say how much you missed her ,she'll start to get this in her head,also that if her husband really loves her he'll let her visit her family.
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my best friend is a guy and this guy is amazing. he knows when to be funny and when to be serious, he knows when to give you the advice you want to hear and the advice you need to hear and most of all he knows how to treat a woman...and he's got money and a smokin' body but that truly doesn't matter to me. he'll pick on me but then he holds my hand and says "i love you, im just joking" one day i was at his house and it was just me and him and i was going to tell him i liked him but just before i said it he told me he liked this other girl so i never told him i liked him. after a month of him and this girl fighting they're finally going out and of course he asked her in a way that is normally only in the movies. so now he has a girlfriend and they're so cute together i would hate to break them up, but they do fight. anyway, the other day me and this guy were at a soccer game. we were sitting on the bleachers, him on a bench lower than me. a girl was sitting next to me but she got up and left and he came and sat so close to me that our bodies were pressed together and there was at least 4 feet of space where he could have sat. of course i loved this and at first i moved over about an inch because people were looking at us weird because they know he has a girlfriend. he moved closer to me again. 5 minutes later i had to leave so he gave me a hug and said goodbye. i have back to back classes with him so i see him a lot during my school day. i really really like him and my mom absolutely adores him. i know i can't get over him. i've already tried about 3 times and everytime i try to get over him i just like him more. i don't know what to do! sorry it was long, i felt like i had to tell the WHOLE story. please please help me (link)
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If you say you like him a lot you'll wait until he breaks up with his girlfriend so you can be with him,a couple like that always fighting it's obuvious that the relationship is not going to last.
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I've been in school for a week, and I feel/am so alone! I hate it so much. I came home crying. My parents keep saying it will get better after half a year or so..but I don't want to be the loner walking around on my own for 4 months! I've talked to some people...they are nice but they aren't exactly friends.
I hate being like this, and since all the lessons are mixed up, you don't have many lessons with the same people.
Can anyone give me ANY advice...and how could I make some friends at least?
Thankyou sooo much.
I'm always a happy person, but for the first time in YEARS I'm depressed... (link)
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Try to keep talking more to the same people,you could tell them about your problems so they see that you trust them,ask them what they advice you,for their opinion,then you ask them their's,say stuff that are true,try not to be funny because people say when they try not to it makes them funnier.Follow them around,conversate into what they are talking about, don't worry you'll make friends soon.
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okay this is long and complicated, but if youre reading this. THANKS :)
its really really stupid, and youve probably read like a MILLION problems like this, but if you help me id be really grateful.
Okay so my best friend laura used to go out with this kid jake. jake and i would talk all the time on aim, and he'd tell me like "ohh i kissed laura todayy" and id be like "haha cute" or whatever. but he'd always say "i love you" to me. and i would never say it back, because then laura might take it seriously and hate me, or jake would use it against me. so then they broke up cause laura just didnt like him anymore, and i was still talking to jake. then he started becoming good friends with these two girls i really dont like, meg and michelle. they were really into him and stuff, and theyd talk ALLLLLL the time. i got so jealous. jake was giving them more attention than me. we didnt really talk as much. then one day he randomly imed me, and we were talked for a while. i really started liking him again, but i think he likes meg or michelle. jalksjdfsjld i DONT know what to do. im a shy person, you wouldnt think that cause im funny and pretty outgoing, but i could nver tell jake how i feel, its just not me. i dont know what i should do! i flirt with him a little, and he does back usually, but other than that, what can i do to get his attention?
sorry its really stupid, but thanks (link)
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Hey there is nothing wrong with you letting him know your feelings for him in fact it's better so you'll know if you'll be corresponded,not have the curiosity all the time thinking what if I would have told him,go ahead flirt a lot,even if he is talking to the girls try going straight up to him,say that if you could speak to him alone for a little,then reveal to him your feelings towards him,everytime you see him say hi to him.
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Okay my best frann lets call her Ashley.
She talked to my ex bf and pissed him off to where he broke up with meh. I was so mad at her but I was still her best frann bc we have known eachother for 8 years. But Lately we have been getting into big fights and now she won't talk to mehh bc I asked this guy she likes if he liked her and now she hates mehh for askign him that. She won't belive mehh when I say that he said no. She thinks Im lieing. I want to help her but I can't do that if she likes him so much she doesn't want to belive mehh. She won't even look at me now and she told mehh that if I were a true frann I wouldn't lie to her like tht but Im not lieing. I want to work this out but I have to go to the same school as her and she said if I say one thing to her she will tell everyone all my secrets and Im kinda scared. I have tons of other franns but she is making my frann Kelcie hate mehh. I wish I knew what to do.
Your help would be nice.
thanks.
XOXO
shelbyshoo (link)
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You see she is not a friend that you could trust at all just because she's upset at you doesn't mean she has to threaten you that she'll tell all your secrets,you have to stay away from her otherwise you know the consequences she will be capable of ruining your reputation,talk to Kelcie,try getting her on your side so she could talk to your friend Ashley,convince her to believe you in what you told her, and get you too back to being friends.
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i feel like my life is slipping away because im always trying to find a girlfriend that will last more then a week, but everything falls through. i keep thinking that if i dont make memories now then when im old i wont have anything and ultimately end up commiting suicide (link)
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You can keep other special memories don't go to the crazy thought of killing yourself,as far as girlfriends go most come,go,but few land up being with the guy forever or in a very long term relationship,keep in mind that you have to focus on who is the problem whether it's her or you,understand the issue in order to rescue the relationship,communication is very important,trust so it can last from both boyfriend and girlfriend.
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well me and my ex just broke up a month ago and i'm not sure how to get back in the game. i mean he was an okay boyfriend but i knew the realationship wasn't healthy because we always fought about who's cheating on who. but other than that he was proud to be my boyfriend he would show me off and everything. i never had that with anyone else. i miss him i guess but then i'm over him to? we've had closure and i'm good with that because i needed it. but now when ever i find a new guy to crush on my mind goes back to my ex. i wanna stop thinking about him and move on but i don't now how. can you help me please? =]]
thanks! =] (link)
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Think about all the hard times he made you go through,turn it into anger so you could lose the feelings once,for all,keeping yourself busy,having the time of your life with the new guys you meet.
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Ive like this guy for a while now and I told him last year like three days before we were let out for summer on the phone and he said he likes me too. Now we're back at school and freshmen and everyone is tring to hook up with each other and i told my friend that I still liked him..well my friend told him and he said he liked me too..but now when I was about to get with him he just walks by me in the hall way and dosent talk to me ..my friend said that he just want to chill this year meaning staying single I understand that but I still want to be his friend but he want even look at me nor talk to me (link)
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You need to personally go,face him,speak to him about being friends,you're cool with the fact that he just wants to be chillin,all,that you're willing to wait for him when he is ready to wants something more than just friends.
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ok i like this boy and he told me i was cute but he didnt like me like me so like wat should i do cause he is soooooooo hot and i really like him so wat can i do to get him to like me (link)
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By conversating a lot with the guy,ask him stuff about his life so he knows you are into him,he notices your interest in him,don't give up there is still hope for you.
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Alright I asked advice about a 13 year old friend of mine, who was being abused and that helped a lot thanks everyone...but now I need desperate help with my boyfriend. I'm seriously in love with this guy, but I feel as if theres not honesty or trust in the relationship. I'm 19 and he's 17 we've been going out for almost two weeks now. He claims to be in love with me. The thing that bothers me is a bunch of people have been telling me a bunch of stuff about my boyfriend. Like he stold some girls picture and made an account on a chat called userplane the chat rooms name is called teen chat. Then today a friend of mine IMs me on AIM, and says that someone I know talked to him and my boyfriend was talking about a different girl, how he was already going out with her. And he said that if she doesn't respond to him then he'd just have to settle for me as a back up. I don't get wtf that means but I'm so freaking upset. Please help out and tell me what to do!!! Thanks. (link)
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Ask him yourself about it but he'll definitely deny it or investigate yourself first because people could be lying about it just to spread rumors don't make conclusions already until you're really sure.
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so me and my bf just broke up. Because his mom cought us makeing out and his mom hates me now. And he told me he still wnated 2 be friends and that we would date when he gets everything sorted out with his parents. And now i don't know what happend and all the sudden he won't text me or talk 2 me.
WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!? (link)
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Try insisting,keep trying to get in contact with him,confront him,ask him what is going on with him,why he wouldn't answer your messages you sent him,but I think right now he is trying to get his parents to understand that he wants to be with you or maybe his parents took his phone or something just try to be calm, and everything will turn out right.
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