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my sister
sorry for making this long
ok my older sister is married and has two kids which makes them my neice and nephew and i've never even got to meet them my nephew is almost two and yeha i really want to see my sister and my brother-in-law and my neice and nephew i havent seen my sister or brother-in-law in like 2 or 3 maybe even almost 4 years well they live in Hawaii and i live in Wisconsin but she always takes time to go to texas or california to see my brother-in-laws family we've asked her to come ou here but she always goes to texas or something how can i make it clear that i want to see her i mean we've all told her we want to see her you know but she doesnt listen and doesnt get that me and my other sister nad my mom and dad and grandma miss her now my mom has got to see her like 3 times cause she's flown out there my grandma spent like 3 months there and my dad has seen them two me and my sister are the only ones who havent seen them and me and my sister used to be kinda close i mean we had lots of fun together she would take us to the pool or go iceskating or stuff like that and we would just like dance to music and stuff but since she got married and stuff we havent done anything like that and i really miss her but i dont know why but i cant be like emotional with my family it's just kinda weir but i want to make it clear to her that i miss her and that i wanna see her and that i'm mad at her for always seeing by brother-in-laws family
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Well you can simply tell her that you miss her and want to see her. Let her know that she is a big part of your life and it seems pretty empty when you dont see her. Maybe she will start to understand. I have a younger sister and I had no idea how big of impact I have towards her and that sometimes she just wants me to spend a whole day with her. Tell her that it is also important that you see your niece and nephew. They are part of your family and you want to share your love with them. If you want you can even plan a date for her to come see you. Search for a plane ticket for her. If you actually take part in trying to get her to come see you then maybe she will realize that she is wanted there.
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When you say it to her say it in a tone that's at a good level,that you would love to see her,that she should think of her own family too,that's it's been years that you,the other members of your family haven't seen her,she can't be selfish,not think of others,say how much you missed her ,she'll start to get this in her head,also that if her husband really loves her he'll let her visit her family.
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Tell your sister how much you miss her, email her, write her a letter, etc.
You could even tell her how much you've been thinking about old times- include a few stories to make her realise how good being close was.
HOWEVER, when you tell her how much you miss her, don't emphasise how much it hurts that she sees her husband's family, because that might make her feel like you're attacking him.
You need to make sure she knows that you've accepted their relationship and that you're willing for him to share a little bit of the closeness you used to have as sisters.
Good luck! xxx
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well i had the same problem with my ever so obedient sister who done whatever the old ball and chain wanted to do on his few days off a year.I got tired of begging her, so i wrote him a letter and told him how much it would mean to everyone for them to be at my mom and dads ann. party and how depressed everyone was without them every holiday, and how she really missed being back home, and wouldnt it be nice to suprise everyone if we could make that happen, by the time i was done i had him thinking it was his idea. guilt trips are great huh. you could even offer to babysit while they all go out for the evening like they used to. thats my advice honey,i hope it works out 4 u 2 oh yea did i mention my sister and her family live just a few miles away now. lets just say that i spent alot in postage stamps to make that one happen. BRIE
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