Hi. My name is Alissa-marie, by friends call me Alissa or lis. I'm really open to comments and questions, because i get them alot. OK, Im supposed to give some sob story of why im here. But thats not gonna happen. Because im here because i feel the need to help some one, and i like to do it. You dont like what i say, oh well. I am an up front person. I know how to beat around the bush and i know how to jump into it.(perferably, jumpin, lol)So, now u know a little bit about me. But this is all you need to know. Why? Because this column isnt about me and my woes-you can go to my live journal for that. This is about you. Ask intelligible questions, and you get one back. If you ask a dumb question -and i dont always have a sence of humor- dont expect an answer.**There is a wonderfull button called 'reject'...**
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umm this guy asked me on a date a couple weeks ago but it was like well since we like eachother we should hang out some time and i was like yea and then he was like well i hafta go but i'll ttyl about hookin up and i was like ok . .nd i was like really happy n stuff but he hasnt said anything about it nd like i dont kno if he still likes me bcuz i always have to i.m him and then he'll talk n stuff but like i dont kno it seems like he doesnt and all my friends say to just ask him to the movies or sumthing cuz i realli wanna kno if he still likes me but on the othher hand i really dont wanna get rejected cuz i like thys one a lott . .i need help
-iCEd lAttE x0x (link)
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take yor friends advice and go for it! If hes says no and gives some lame excuse, hes not intresetes. If he says yes and you guys have a good time that couples have, hes intrested. If he treats you just as a friend, then thats what he whants to be: just your friend.
XoxO Alissa-marie
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if ur invited to someones birthday party and you dont realli kno them but u have talked b4 awhile ago but one of ur other frnds is frnds wit them and she told them 2 bring u .. should u get them a bday present or wat? like if its a "party" bday party, and ur not real close frnds, should u? thnx i rate (link)
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bring them a prez. Find out a little bit about her, what she likes from your friend. You never know, you guys might become best friends because of that prezent!!!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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This boy (lets call him Dan) asked me if i wanted to go out 2 dinner with him, i said yes, but i dont fancy him or anything. i dont really know him either, so what do i do if i didnt enjoy the date and dont want to go out again ( i hate hurting peoples feeling) whats the nicest way of putting it??? thanx (link)
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Find someone who does. Then tell him, you know, i like you, but im sorry, we should only tell friendss. As you talk to him about different stuff, though, you can mention the girl who does like him....hopefully he'll catch your drift without you having to bluntly say it.
Hope i helped! Alissa-marie
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ok, this isn't really much of an advice thing, so it'll probably be deleted, but I hope to get sum answers in
We have to cover out books for a few classes, and like I don't want to do the whole newspaper, or brown back covers, because then you have to use tape, and I got a new book, like I'm the 1st to use it, so I don't want to have to pay
I'm in High School
I know that in middle school, they sold them to you, but I don't know where to get the Book Sox now (thats how you spell it, I'm POSITIVE)
if anybody knows, and if at wal-mart, would it be where all the regular school supplies are? (link)
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go to staples. They have the bomb school supplies, and i go there for ike everything!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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ok see all the girlz are lie acting like bitches to me and im so sick of it like 1 point there att my house then the next day the acting like there all that and like i deont no there just mean so help! (link)
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You just need to drop them and get somenew friends.They obviously dont really apreciate you, cause if they did, they wouldnt treat you like trash. They would respect you. Tell them, hey i really dont appreciate how you guys have been treating me, so i think you guys shoud leave untill you can act grownup again. Dont get walked over, hony!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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i have a boyfriend kevin but i want another guy named mike and kevin is like the hottest guy alotta ppl like him n mike is just soo much nicer n there is a less chance of him hurtin ur feelings becvause kevin is the kinda guy who would cheat on you and has already done alotta things that i dont know if im into yet...but lately i have been talking to mike alot and hanging out with him when im goin out wit kevin n i have NO IDEA what to doo....because alot of girls would be lucky to have kevin and i think i have alot more feelings for mike ... what should i doo?? (link)
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give kevin the heave ho and say hello to Mike. Hey, let those supposed lucky girls have him, because you never know if they already do cause hes cheating. Do whats right in your heart, girl, go for it!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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i love my boyfriend.. or ex boyfriend i should say, very much. so as of right now, i am waiting for him and i have been for about 3 months or so now. i know its unfair to me, but he has told me numerous times that he loves me and that eventually he would get back with me. we were together for a pretty long time and he decided to end things because he wanted to go out and have fun.. and also bc i moved, although, not a very long distance at all. we still spend time with each other now and then and we still keep in touch.. and he assures me that he isnt seeing any other females. but well, i was wondering, if he loves me like he says he does, then why is it that hes not with me now? (link)
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talk to him and ask him really, what is going on.he might be seeing someone and has feelings for you and doesnt want commitment. Talk to him untill you get an honest answer. It may just be that he needs to think it out, and hes a, a slower thinker.
XoxO ALissa-marie
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ok, well i cut. and i dont want to hear the "oh dont do that! blah blah blah" im really trying to stop and i dont need anyone to be pressuring me right now. but anyways..i usually cut on my shoulders so no one can see and so that i dont kill myself. but the other day i cut my wrist. and i mean, i wanted to, but i didnt want it to bleed...and i didnt even push hard. i just ran it slightly across the skin. and it just started bleeding. im fine and everything, but is that normal? like is the skin just really delicate there or something? (link)
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No, it isnt usually. I kno, because i used to cut. I dont do it any more, and i srill have problems. If you dont stop, you may get random cuts. I do. I wake up with cits and bruises in the mornig, they fade, but new ones resurface everyday. Go to a doctor and tell him that your skin has been getting thinner. If you keep cutting, then youll only have so much left cause itll be real hard for your body to keep making skin.
Keep me posted with anything else that happens!! XoxO ALissa-marie
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okay.. me and my friend, the other day at lunch wanted to get higher in tha line so i was like.. heyy.. that guy is hot.. lets go talk to him.. and we went over there.. and i was like.. wow.. your so hot.. and he was like.. thanx.. you are tooo.. so.. it was kool.. well anyways.. he asked me out.. and i said i dunno.. just so i can get to know him better first.. and now my friend is like.. no.. dont go out with him.. your steling him from me.. and im like.. uh.. ok? he was mine? so.. should i go out with him or not? * i WiLL rAtE* (link)
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First of all, ask her what that crap with being hers? It was your idea, and he asked you out, so...umm, honey, you need to back off! Tell her that you kinda like him, and since her asked you ouy, not her, she should give you some space. Let you decide, not her. Obviously, she biased, in more ways than one!!
XoxO ALissa-marie
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My 15 year old friend engages often in un-protected sex. No matter how much I tell her to wear a condom, or my god, at least go on birth control, she continues to give herself to random guys, especially under the influence. Recently, she slept over my house and woke up with severe morning sickness. She also became constipated, and complains now constantly about her stomach hurting. She hasn't gotten her period yet either. I called planned parenthood for her and it did nothing. I can't think of anything else it could be but pregnancy, and they want to schedule an appointment, which would mean she would have to tell her mom, which, stubborn as she is, would be a struggle at best. She's my best friend, and I cannot see her do nothing about this situation...any advice? (link)
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Tell r to tell her mom for the last time. If she refuses, then you need to tell her mom yourself. If she pregnant, she is going to need all the help she can get, and by telling her mom, atleast youll be on her side. She may not see it that way, and be calling you things that you got over in elementary school, but you should. Shell understand later. And you need to tell her mom now so that if she is in fact pregnant, then her mom can start preparing her. The sooner you talk to them, the better. If you friend decides to tell her mom, go with her. But just as support. There will be a certain time when you feel u need to leave, and that will probably be your cue to leave. Have fun babysitting!
Hope I helped so late at night , ALissa
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Ok, lets say one of your best friends just broke up with his gf, who you have kind of liked for awhile? Should you ask her out right away or give her some time? It wasn't a very serious relationship, but I don't know how she would feel going out with me, after being with my friend? (link)
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Give her time and space, cause she still may have taken it hard. Come up to her, and start a conversation about something other than him. If she starts hanging out with you more, when you do finally ask her out, ahewont be surprised. But dont get all to to chumy, because them shell think of you only as her friend.
XoxO ALissa
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SODAS! I took up Mountain Dew and I put on alot of weight drinking it and I tried to stop it but its like going threw withdrawl. I get headaches and everything, I throw up and my stomach hurts and this always happens when I stop drinking it. I'm starting school soon and mountain dew wont be available as it will if I were home. What can I do?
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decline, but dont totally stop. Your reactions are as if to drugs. If you usually had 5 a day, go to 3 or 4 for two weeks, 3 or 2 the next two weeks and so on. If you still have major problems, hony, u need to go see a doctor and get the issue solved. Cold turkey doesnt always help!!
Hope I helped
XoxO ALissa
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hey i was just wondering..how come my ratings dont show up on my column advice page thingy? does that mean i have no ratings?? (link)
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if they dont show up, either there is something wrong with your page, or unfortunately, you dont have any ratings.
mshonest4eva XoxO
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so a year ago my mom moved like an hour away to live with her boyfriend now husband....and i moved in with my granny cuz i didnt want to move that far from everything...and my sis moved in with my dad....well eventually i moved back in with my mom its been about 4 months and I HATE IT ...my granny said that i can move in the downstairs apartment at her house. but i know im gonna feel bad my sis says i shoulddent becuz our mom left us blah blah blah (link)
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If you hate, tell your mom, and say that you need some space. Its really hard on you and your sis, and you just cant stand the situation. She should understand, and yea blah blah. Its always going to be hard in that kind of situation for someone. Lucky you!
XoxO ALissa
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Heyeveryone, i really need some help!! ok, well, i did something stupid about a month ago..i talked to some guy online and gave him my picture..and i have a boyfriend that i really love. I guess why i talked to that guy was because he asked me about my boyfriend. And my boyfriend is moving to oregon and so i kinda opened up and talked to that guy about my b/f. now, my b/f found that convo and was really scared about our relationship. He said he trusted me 100% but now, he says only like 50%. Im so0o upset i've told him i'll never do that again..but he dont believe me..he's in oregon and we are doing long dist. How can i make him trust me more?! I really love him with all my heart and I want to make it work out. Any advice on my situation?! PLEASE HELP!!! ~manda~ (link)
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manda, tell him that he should trust you.if he had really read the conversations, he would have seen that they about your relationship! They werent about dumping him or something. If you truely pour your heart out to your boyfriend, he should understand. Hes supposed to love and trust, yes trust, you, and if he cant do because of some stupid conversation, then its time for you to reconsider the relationship. He should trust you, and if he cant theres a serious problem!
Hope I helped!!
ALissa
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ok... Me and my Ex-boyfriend Drew Broke up a while ago and he said he still liked me kinda and now he is going out with one of my old friends. I really want to still be friends with him and he is going to my school and I have lunch and homerome i think with him. But his girlfriend is going to another school! There is no way I can deal with that pressure... So I guess I am kinda askin 2 ?'s. How do I get my feeling out of the way? and how do I get him to be able to be my friend? Thanks! :( :)
.:*Erika*:. (link)
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You should talk to him and tell him that you think he should stay friends with you. As for your feelings about him, we can only hope that they turn out for the best. Love is like a chess game you never know what you will happen next-will the king captivate your heart or will you find that hes has a queen to diminish you?
With love
ALissa mshonest4eva
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A new girl at our skool is 17, engaged, and has a baby. Shes still a freshman cause she was expelled from her old skool her freshman year. Everyone makes fun of her cause she has a kid and is a 17 year old freshman. She doesnt let it bother her, but it bothers me. Shes a good friend of mine now, and I want to be able to stop some of the stuff. Is there any good ways to make ppl just shut up about it?
thanks! (link)
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You should tell them that its her life. How would they feel if they were called a hoe? I'm sure that they wouldnt appreciate it! Also, the world could do without ppl who judge. If they say the same thing, then they are actually hipocrits. She may regret what she has done, but firstly, she deals with it, and secondly, she did commit abortion, which they might of done. So, actually, you can point out to them that she is a role model.
Hope I helped!!
XoxO ALissa
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is wearin a thong slutty? like the purpose is so you dont have pantylines but sumtimes liek if usmones thong shows people think she's a slut. i was just wondering what evryone else htought (link)
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no, it does not make you a slut. However, ppl asume that it does. They wear it in that sence. You can make it mean whatever you like, and thats why ppl asume it to be slutty and like your easy.
XoxO ALissa
Feel free to ask my more questions!!
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I was wondering.. is masturbating bad for you?? (link)
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actually, its not bad for you physically. Many ppl joke about it, but it does prevent you from having Babies. If ya have anymore questions, feel free to ask me!
XoxO ALissa
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Hey! im moving into a new house in september. my room there is much smaller than my current room so i will have to change all of my stuff! I was wondering if you knew any sites that gave cute, creative, classy, unique, crazy, or pretty ideas on decorating rooms. I am 14, soon to be 15..and obviously a girl. I am kinda a 'do my own thing...be different' kinda girl. I want a room like nobody elses. Do you know of any ideas for decorating it? Or any sites that could help me out? Please respond quick..i am moving september 20th! (link)
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Go to home depot and lowes and Joan Fabrics and HAncock fabrick and get a diy book! Do It Yourself books always help you get that original look that you really want. Thats how ive got my style!!!
XoxO ALissa
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