about

advice

Okay so my boyfriend recently broke up with me because I refused to have sex with him. My best friend has a class with him and he is constantly flirting with her.The bad thing about is that she has a boyfriend and the though of my ex trying to get her to cheat makes us mad.I feel giving him a peace of my m ind,but I don't want to be rude yet I have no idea how to tell it in a nice way.What should I do?

he sounds like a dick!maybe try to get you best friend to talk to him. he might ignore what you have to say since he did break up with you and probaly doesnt care what you have to say. maybe hes just flirting with her to make you jealous?

[view]

ok im 14 my boifriend is 16 which means he will be 18 when im 16 can he go to jail cause im under age and should i break up with him till i get older

good question! l0l
no he cant, if no one complains.

[view]

well i just got a hair cut and its looks so bad and im worried hat the person i love is gonna look at me and be like ew what do i do?

if that person really loves you, theyll try to comfort you not make fun of you. it sounds cliche, i know, but its true.

[view]

Ok, well i straighten my hair everyday because if i don't then it will be poofy and thick and really ugly. But since i straighten my hair everyday it breaks off and gets split ends. Is there anything i can do or use that will make my hair not frizzy from all the breakage from the straightner? Not using the straightner is not an option. Thanks!

ok, well first, whenever you use your straightener, use this creme called straighten-up. sunsilk makes it and its in a purple bottle. i reccomend using the shampoo and conditioner also, they make your hair straighter (when you straighten it =]) and gives it a lot of moisture.
i hope i helped =]

[view]

13/f

me and a friend, we'll call her T. T is bi. I am supposed to be straight, but I'm confused now. Well, T and I went to a friends house and when my other frined fell asleep, we played truth or dare. I couldn't thing of one, so I said
'i dare you to do the first thing that comes to your mind when I say sexy.' She kissed me! She grabbed my face and kissed me! it was surprising and it scared me. but that wasn't the scary part. the scary part was... it was a nice kiss. well, then I was quiet and obviously, thinking about very stupid things. my friend said, i dare you to kiss me back. i don't turn down dares, but this one was a little creepy, but for some reason, i kissed her back. unfortunately, things got a little out of hand. she dared me to get on top of her in the bed, so i did... then, i think we made out then just... uh humped each other for a while. it was okay, but when i didn't feel that weird urge anymore, i felt so stupid. i cursed myself and i still do! the same thing happened again a couple weeks after school let out. only this time, we got a bit undressed, not all the way. again, i don't get how it happened. i don't want to be bisexual or lesbian. i want to be straight and straight all the time. what do i do about this?! I couldn't be considered bi could i? I get angry afterwards, then don't get turned on by any other girls. just guys... and then when T does the dares, then i get... yea. so, what do i do?!
Candy

i dont think youre necessarily bi...i just think that you like to follow through with dares =]
youre probaly just going through a little phase (i know you dont want to hear that, but everyone goes through that sooner or later, i know i did and so did all my friends).
i hope i helped =]

[view]

i cut my own sidebangs a couple weeks ago and they were short enough to be regular bangs. so i just clipped them back.

and now, my sidebangs are a little above my eyes but on the bottom they're sidewept..like this but a little more sideswept..

how can i fix this and make it look like regular sidebangs that look like this?

or when it grows out, will it just end up like that?

your bangs will most likely automatically end up like that if you just let it grow out. =]

[view]

I live in Alabama. I'm from Finland, where I am to return in a month. The thing is, I have been dating this handsome guy. Few days ago we got tipsy and were joking around about him giving it to me, but we weren't that serious. But now I think I am serious, can't stop thinking about it and can't decide whether or not it is a good thing. Oh, and here comes the best part; I turn 16 in October. He's 17 going on 18. It would be a good memory from America, because Finnish guys are even more assholish than American guys are (yes, it is possible). I know he's desperate and I am starting to become like that too. I want him so bad! My best friend in Finland would think I would be slutty but my heart would otherwise hate me for the rest of my life because my heart wants to bang this guy, and I don't care if I'd have a reputation in Alabama (who really would care about that?). I care about having a reputation in Finland, and that's what you get if you have sex when you want to. I don't know, what do you think I should do? Sorry about the enormous lenght of the question, I'm a storyteller. Thank you.

i think that if you go ahead and have sex, you might get even more emotionally attached to him which would hurt worse than not having sex (i hope that makes sense). i wouldnt have sex with him if i were you, you can always keep in touch, and if you do go back to the u.s., you then can decide if you still like him enough to do whatever it is you want to do =]
i hope i helped! =]
let me know how everything goes!

[view]

whats the best oil free make up and or a brand


that is under 15 bucks?


tryina go on a BUDGET =]

i suggest you go to wal-mart and look in the makeup section. most of the time the makeup says "oil free" or something similar. also, wal-marts very cheap! l0l =]
i hope i helped! =]

[view]

16/female

How long should you wait after hooking up with a guy and not recieving a phone call before deciding if he's used you or not? Sorry if that was a little confusing to understand, but it's been a week now and im not sure if i should just forget about him and move on, i really just can't stop thinking about him and i know after having sex the guy should at least call if he cares about the girl at all right? i mean if he dosent.. does that mean he has no feelings for her whatsoever?

sorry, but he used you. the only way hell call is if he wants more sex. im sorry if i sound harsh, but im just telling you the truth.
i hope i helped =]

[view]

Hi!! I was wondering if anyone knew of any organizations that you travel places and volunteer to help out. I love to travel all over the place, but I also love the feeling I get when I am helping someone and making a difference in the world or someone's lives.

Websites work too.

a lot of teen churches have mission trips for like a week and stuff. if you live in the atlanta area go to first church of jonesboro on wednesdays at 8. (ps. go in the building that says the roc). if you dont live in the atl area, like i said before, go to a teen church and listen up. =]
i hope i helped =]

[view]

whats a more breakable straightener?
CHI or GVP?

i would say that CHI is the better quality, also it depends on how you take care of it.
hope i helped =]

[view]

ok, this guy asked me out and i think he's pretty cute and i used to have a crush on him. The only thing is he asked me out over myspace and at first i thought it was a sincere question but im starting to doubt it and i think it was someone doing it as a joke...how do i find out if it was really him or just one of his friends playing around?

maybe tell him to give you his number to talk about it and then if he doesnt, youll know your answer =] if he does, call it and talk--if its the right number, AND you can find out if he really means it if he brings it up first, so try not to bring it up first.

i really hope i helped =] let me know how it went =]

[view]

My mom and dad are in a lot of debt right now. It's really hard on them I can tell so I try to not complain over stupid stuff anymore. Well my mom is taking it the hardest I think. I mean school's comming around and we see those adds for back to school clothes and stuff and I can tell she feels bad because we won't be able to do that this year. There are a lot of other things we can't swing anymore and I really want to tell her it's ok, and that I don't need any new things. But it seems like when I tell her that she just gets upset. Maybe I should just leave them alone? It's just nerve wracking to wake up and see my parents stressing over bills and things, and I can't do anything or say anything. What do I do?

Thanks...

if youre old enough maybe you can try getting a job so that you can buy your own stuff?
hope i helped =] i wish you the best of luck :D

[view]

i am 14 (i turn 15 next month) and i just got my period this year. i always used pads but recently i have been using tampax pearl regular tampons. i have three questions:

1. is it normal to feel discomfort while inserting a tampon? i.e. a tiny bit of dull pain.

2. is it normal to feel discomfort while removing a tampon?

3. would it hurt if i used super plus tampons since i just started (and have only used) regular sized tampons?

any help would be greatly appreciated! thank you so much!

1. yes that is normal IF you just started.
2. if you feel discomfort while you take the tampon out, try leaving it in longer so that it can get soaked a little better.
3. i would advise you not to until you dont feel any discomfort anymore unless your period is extremely heavy. if its not heavy, and you leave the tampon in to long, you can get a disease-its rare, but it happens.
i really hope i helped! =]

[view]

where can i buy a make up brush set? it doesnt have to come with the brushes i just needone where i can put my brushes in to?
thnkas

i think you can get that at rue 21 in the etc. section....but they might not sell them there anymore.

[view]

hi everyone =] 16/f

soo for a month or so i was hooking up with this boy who was 21. its pretty bad i know. but anyway, then he told me he has a girlfriend (who is also 21)
i should have ended thigns between us right there but he was so manipulative that i coudlnt bring myself to do it. i always tell him no when he asks to see me and he tells me i break his heart all the time.yesterday i saw them both at the local pool and he was starring at me the entire time and acting weird towards her. i feel bad. should i tell her or is it not my buisness?

thanks so much

if i was you i would tell the girl because you would rather be told too, right?
keep doing like you are, dont take his calls, dont see him, etc.

[view]

In your opinion, how stupid are boys?

very stupid relationship-wise, but i think they make awesome friends =]

[view]

What should you do when a friend is lying to you?

try confronting her. if you want to ask me a more specific question, just e-mail me, its kinda hard to help you if i dont know the situation.

[view]

im gay so what sould i do?

tell ppl...randy LEAVE ME ALONE! l0l stop asking me stupid questions!

[view]

I know that enough time has gone by and I should be over this already, but I'm still really, really, really angry about 9/11. It's not that I care so much about the "War on Terror" or anything, and I'm not really that into politics (except that I know I hate Bush and Cheney). But for some reason, the terrorists attacks on DC and NYC just really still get to me. I have nightmares about them, even though I don't live in that area and didn't personally know anyone who lost someone in the attack. Even though it didn't kill my loved ones specifically and I didn't see it happen in my city like the people did in Washington, Pennsylvainia, New York, and New Jersey, I still felt personally insulted by it on some deep level. It was like by doing that bin Laden had personally dissed me, my whole family, my friends, and everything that I've ever believed in or cared about.

It's been so long ago, and I was just a little kid when it happened...so why does it still make me so hurt and angry?

im so sorry that you feel that way, but i was still living in germany when it happened so i dont know how you feel. im so sorry =[
why dont you try asking sounds like pink or defined eyes? these are two of my favorite columnists and they can probaly help you.
im sorry i couldnt help you, but i hope one of the other girls will =]

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker