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Should I let him give it to me?
I live in Alabama. I'm from Finland, where I am to return in a month. The thing is, I have been dating this handsome guy. Few days ago we got tipsy and were joking around about him giving it to me, but we weren't that serious. But now I think I am serious, can't stop thinking about it and can't decide whether or not it is a good thing. Oh, and here comes the best part; I turn 16 in October. He's 17 going on 18. It would be a good memory from America, because Finnish guys are even more assholish than American guys are (yes, it is possible). I know he's desperate and I am starting to become like that too. I want him so bad! My best friend in Finland would think I would be slutty but my heart would otherwise hate me for the rest of my life because my heart wants to bang this guy, and I don't care if I'd have a reputation in Alabama (who really would care about that?). I care about having a reputation in Finland, and that's what you get if you have sex when you want to. I don't know, what do you think I should do? Sorry about the enormous lenght of the question, I'm a storyteller. Thank you.
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i think that if you go ahead and have sex, you might get even more emotionally attached to him which would hurt worse than not having sex (i hope that makes sense). i wouldnt have sex with him if i were you, you can always keep in touch, and if you do go back to the u.s., you then can decide if you still like him enough to do whatever it is you want to do =]
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You're in a bad time if you know what i mean, to think where and when you might be called a H? is not the idea, what comes after the doing in what you will have to face, unless you just want to get L? it's you're???.
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My vote is that it would be a bad idea.
Sex, especially for the first time, opens you up to a whole bunch of new feelings. It can make you very emotionally vulnerable to another person (not to mention the physical vulnerabilities of STDs and pregnancy) and it’s really helpful to have a person, especially your first time, be there to support you through the emotional aftermath of it. Friends with benefits and one-night-stands, are not so great ideas when adults with sexual history and emotional experience and vocabularies do them. They are plain bad ideas when inexperienced people try them out.
My second reason for saying this, and I truly don't mean this as an insult, but you couldn't even bring yourself to just type SEX! You kept saying 'give it me'. Can you see how that is kind of silly? Any time I see someone not even able to type the words, it’s a pretty safe bet they shouldn’t be doing the deed.
It’s not about what other people think. Screw them. It’s about what’s best for you, and fucking and leaving at sixteen is definitely not best.
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