Hi there Advicenators.
The last time I logged on here I was 21. Im almost 30 now. Wow I thought I was well put together at that time. I wasn’t. I was looking for validation in being right, or proving that I had the solutions to problems. I didn’t. It makes me think about all the times I went looking for answers online and who was on the other end of that answer. Was it someone like my 21 year old self who didn’t know anything? Be careful out there, friends, and I hope you get the answers you’re looking for.
-Kat
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So, the Samsung brightside I have had for about 6 months is really glitched out right now. I turn it on and it spazzes out and opens up applications I didn't hit. The back button shuts th Phone off and changes the master volume (wtf) whenever I send a text it types in 4678 and sends it to the person. It won't let me type, and when I try to view pictures it immediately goes to camera mode and freezes until I try to remove the battery. Any help or explanation to this would be great! Thanks in advance! (link)
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If there is no damage to the phone (INCLUDING water damage, check the sticker in the battery compartment to check for water damage), then you can get it replaced under warranty for free (warranty is a year). Also, it would be good to try and do a reset on the phone. Take it back to factory settings, I've had tons of phones and that usually works. If it's glitching out like that, then it;s usually a software problem. Also, in my personal experience, phone manufacturers don't really take pride in their basic phones like they used to. It's all about the smartphones now. So it's not uncommon for the basic phones to poop out at a year or less. Sad but true :(
Good luck!
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I'm trying to become a better person & stop being so negative, angry, etc. I want to change my life. What do I need to do to become a better christian & what do I have to do to repent from my sins? Do I need to go to church and get baptized? (link)
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Turning to religion is not the only way to become a better person. I grew up catholic and I know there is a lot of pressure to do right by god. But sometimes it's just about doing right by yourself. I myself live by the motto "treat others as you would like to be treated". Which, I know, stems from the bible and all, but there's really no religious motivation in it for me, it's just doing what I know is right. I struggle with anger problems, I take out my anger unnecessarily on people that I love and tend to push people away because of it. I've made a commitment to myself to be more self aware, I meditate every day, I vent my frustrations with exercise, and I let people know to tell me if they feel like i'm taking out my anger on them. I'm a better person for it, but it has nothing to do with god. I'm just trying to improve myself.
So, basically, you were created with a set of morals, you, as a human have the ability to think and reflect. Use these skills and make yourself the person you want to be. And by doing so, being a better christian will follow.
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My mother is currently in jail for a financial crime for eight months. I have no problem with my mother and She was a good mother. Before this misdeed though I am wondering if now it might be hypocritical for me to listen to her now that she is a criminal. One thing I wonder is how being in jail will change her. Obviously spending eight months there would change you somewhat. I mean now that my mom is a criminal and will be surrounded by other criminals for eight months. I've talked to her on the phone and she seems the same but I still wonder. One positive that may come from this, maybe she will go easier on me. Though that could be a bad thing I guess (link)
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I know someone that went to jail. And it wasn't quite 8 months, but what he told me was that being in jail changed him by forcing him to reflect on himself, who he was and his choices. For him it caused him to see that he was going down the wrong path and that change was needed. Also that he thought a lot about what was important to him. He said that there were a few bad people in there with him but it was mostly just good people caught in a bad situation or that made a bad decision in life. You can't judge all the people in there because they have made a bad decision. We've all made bad decisions, some worse than others, its just that some people haven't been caught.
As far as her going easier on you, from a mother's perspective, if I were her, I wouldn't go easier. (just my personal opinion) I'm not sure how old you are, but, I would not want my kids to go down the road that I did, especially if it included jail time. It really is a bad place to be. And when you get out you can't get a job, apartment, loans..it effects everything. So if she doesn't go easier then take it in stride, she's just being a mom.
I know that you must feel betrayed and pretty horrible that your own mom did something like this. She knows that she did something wrong, she's doing her time for it, I'm sure the last thing she would want is for her family to turn against her, or rub it in. Support is important in a time like this. I really don't think that listening to her would be hypocritical either because this is something that you can take in and learn from. I've gotten plenty of "what not to do" stories from my mom. And just because she did something stupid in the past, i don't think any less of her.
Anyways, these are just my thoughts, I hope some of it helps. Best wishes to you and your family
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Is this a good objective? If not, please give me some tips to better it.
Seeking a position within the company, _______, where I can strengthen my skills and gain experience in which I will make an even better employee in the future. (link)
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It's a good start but it is generic and nonspecific. You want to include why you would be an asset to the company. A resume is all about talking yourself up. A good objective would go like this.
A. What exactly are you doing?
B. What do you have to offer?
C. Why are you doing this?
For example:
(A) I am presenting to you my resume (B) which portrays my skills in ____, ____, and ____ (C) so that I may be considered to join (company name) as a valued member of the team.
Something to this effect with some more lively word choices.
Hope this helps you!
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Talent show ideas... (link)
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You can do many things for a talent show. You display things you're talented at, hence "talent show".
We might need to know what you're good at before you get any good advice.
But here are some ideas anyways:
-yodeling
-tight rope walking
-backflips
-fire spinning
-sword swallowing
-hoola hooping
-pull a rabbit out of a hat
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I m 15year old boy i want a sex relation ship with my sister. One day me and my sister alone in house my dad and mom gone out for shopping me and my sister Were fighting each other i suddenly i thought that i want to touch her breast so i pull her boobs so she fell down on bed.., she also come and pull me she also come and tare my shirt and i got angry and i tared her top so she stand in front of me with bra only she ask u want to tare my dress so i say yes., say want i want to do (link)
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First of all, assuming this is legit and not the work of a troll, please try phrasing your questions a little bit more clearly.
Second, no one should have a sexual relationship with their siblings. The fact that you're asking for advice about this tells me that somewhere in your mind you know this. My advice would be to stop this now before it gets out of hand.
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This is urgent! I don't know how to stop devices on my cell from running all the time, and I'm using up tons of data! Can someone also please tell me why when I go to sleep my phone battery is fully charged and when I get up it's low battery even if I turn the power button off? I love listening to playlist.com's music. Does that use up lots of data too? Cuz I'm losing my GBs like crazy. Thanks! Btw I'm careful not to watch videos or listen to the radio online. What can I do not to use up so much data? your advice is really appreciated since this is a new phone, and I'm really confused. I would really appreciate if you can give me names of popular sites that use up a lot of data! (link)
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Depending on what type of phone you have, you can turn the data off when you don't plan on using it. Look through your user manual or contact the manufacturer or your carrier for instructions.
Also, most smartphones have the ability to connect to wifi. Be sure you are connected to wifi whenever possible so you don't use up your data allowance.
Playlist.com is considered streaming and will use up your data and battery more quickly. As far as your battery dying when it's turned off, that may be a defective battery. I would talk to your carrier and see if they can better troubleshoot that problem. You can save battery life by killing apps running in the background, lower the screen brightness, and turn off location settings, to name a few. .
Popular sites that would use up data quickly are Pandora, Youtube, Netflix (anything that streams audio/video), any photo uploading to websites such as Facebook, Pinterest, etc. Also playing games that connect to the internet for an extended amount of time. Downloading a lot of apps can use up data, depending on the size.
I'm good with cell phones, you can message me for more information if you want to!
Kat
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Hello All.
Me and 4 friends used to do this thing for each of out 18th birthdays. We would each put in £40-50 and get the a large gift for whoever birthday it was. got a silver bracelet, a friend got a pure gold + diamond earring, another friend got an iPod touch, and the other got a silver and diamond chain.
When it came time to the 5th friends 18th birthday, I asked, "what do you want? Because we're unsure of what to get you. It has to come up to £200". They then said to me "I don't want anything big. I'd prefer a lot of smaller things, rather than one big thing that i'll probably never use'.
So we settled on it. Everyone was left to their own devices. I got a box, and filled it with personal junk, i.e. a birthday essay, a CD with our favorite songs, a photo album, etc etc.
We all decided that we would only do this for 18th and 21st birthday presents. We didn't want to create a prescient for every year, as it would become expensive, and really lose it's significance.
Yesterday, I was asked by another friend if I want to put in for an iPod touch, for the friend who told me that they didn't want anything big. 2 years after their 18th birthday! They will be 20 this year. The problem is, I don't really speak to her anymore. Our friendship got rocky in the past few months, and we just couldn't stand each other. So we haven't spoken in a while. And I got her a gift!
So should I put in? I have the money, but it's really about the principle. Not only do I not talk to her, but I got her a gift when she was 18. My friend who asked if I wanted to put in's argument was "She put in for ours, so we should get something for her". But like I said, I got her a gift. If they feel that they *should* put in, they should. But I don't particularly want to even speak to her, let alone put in.
So should I, from a moral perspective? I sort of feel like a bad person if I don't. And if I should not, how do I tell them I will not be putting in. I was just going to say no, but what I have in my head sounds rather "bitchy", for lack of a better word.
Apologies for the question for being so long: I'm terrible at explaining things! -_*
Thank you for reading. I'll be even more thankful if you would answer! :) (link)
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What a nice tradition! I guess what it boils down to is: What's more important? The fact that the two of you don't talk, or that it's your friend's birthday? Then again, it is sort of going against your tradition rules. If you've already gotten her a gift then, in my personal opinion, I don't see why you are obligated to put in for the iPod touch. Because your friend also said she doesn't want anything big.
Also, because my friends and I are broke and living paycheck to paycheck etc. I have never once been disappointed or had a friend be mad at me if I didn't receive/give birthday gifts. I completely understand if someone says "I love you and all but I had to pay rent instead of chipping in for an ipod touch. But here are these baked goods instead." (My soul for some freshly baked cookies).
Anyways, Those are my thoughts on the situation. I hope everything works out for you!
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Would you eat blue pasta? I want to make pasta salad got a red, white, & blue theme party with the following ingredients: RED- tomatoes, ham, pepperoni, salami WHITE- cheese, cauliflower, pasta BLUE= pasta dyed blue by putting food coloring in the boiling water. (link)
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Maybe this is just the kid in me but I WOULD BE ALL OVER BLUE PASTA. Give me a plate of weird colored food any day. The only concern I would have is it dying my mouth blue? Other than that, sounds patriotic and tasty.
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i have a bf and im moving in june. he told me he doesnt do long distance relationships,but im to important to break up with.
which btw is a really sad situation to me, i cried in my sleep cause he broke up w/me in my dream!
i dont know if he means it or not.
im not sure that he trusts me though.
1 things for sure...... i will never cheat on him.
not sure if i should trust him or not? (link)
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Long distant relationships are hard. I've been in one for 3 years now. It has only worked out because we have the utmost trust in each other. It can be even harder if you're young because you have to rely on parents for visiting one another. You can only really know if it's going to work for you by trying it out. Communication is the key to relationships, ESPECIALLY long distance ones. Be sure he knows that you would never cheat. Talk to him about how you feel, and try to understand how feels. No one can really tell you whether or not to trust someone.
I know at your age it seems like the guy you're with will be the last one. I've always hated when people said this to me, but through experience I've found it to be true. If this doesn't work out, there will always be boys, more relationships, and different experiences. Keep an open mind to the fact long distant relationships are not for everyone.
Best of wishes to you!
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There's this boy I like but I don't know how to tell him what would I say? I'm female and11years old (link)
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The best way to tell anyone that is you like them is just that; To tell them! Boys of any age need things straight forward and simple ;) If you have a hard time spitting the words out, maybe write him a note. The worst that can happen is he will say that he doesn't feel the same way. But worry not! You have so much time to experience relationships. Be brave!
I believe in you!
Kat
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I started cutting last weekend because i was like really upset. Then tuesday night i was really really upset and did it again. It was worse than before this time. They are really deep and i want to get rid of them really fast. I know what people will say don't cut its bad well it helps me and i just need a way to get rid of them quick. if you know a way that would be fabulous! (link)
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Neosporin helps fade scars pretty quick.
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I have only one friend and he knows me better than anyone else. I tell him things that no one else knows. The problem is that I'm too talkative. I make him laugh whenever he tells me that, but now he thinks it's too much. Two months already passed by since he last talked to me (even though we sit beside each other. How can I show him that I'm not that talkative person I was before? (link)
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Honestly, he's not really a good friend if you have to change who you are for him. If he doesn't accept you for being talkative then you shouldn't waste your time. If you start molding yourself to other people's expectations you'll never be your own person. Anyways, talkative is good! I love talkative people, they're always the ones that carry the conversation and make it interesting.
Good luck :)
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18/F
I'm going to have sex soon but I'm scared the boy will notice my stretch marks on my inner and outer thighs and a little on my waist. So I was wondering if you guys ever notice that stuff during sex.
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I'm female, but I know that there are more interesting things to look at during sex :)
They might notice it, but if they care about you then they won't mind it. No one's perfect anyways!
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My boyfriend and I are sexually active. The sex is alright, but I noticed he has never gone down on me, although I frequently go down on him. So today I called him out on it, "I said do you not go down on girls?" He said that he didn't, its something that girls should do, but for a guy to do that for a girl is not acceptable.
This is the only way I can get off, but I don't think he really cares. How do I get him to stop being selfish in bed? (link)
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Have you tried telling him this is the only way you can get off? If a guy knows he's not doing very well in bed, this is usually a blow to their self esteem and they try to correct it. It may just be that he's never tried it, and he's not sure how to initiate it.
How does he treat you otherwise? Does he treat you as an equal? Sometimes this attitude of what girls should and shouldn't do can develop into later problems. Selfishness in bed can grow to other areas and there's really no room for sexism in a relationship. This happened to me and in my case it turned out to be a deal breaker. If you've told him this and he still refuses, he may not respect you and your happiness. Sex is a big part of any serious relationship, and if both people aren't satisfied then it causes problems.
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13/f
whats a summer tomboy look but still cute? (link)
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Try Boyfriend Crop style jeans from American Eagle. Those and pretty much any t-shirt go great together. Plus, they go with flip flops or regular shoes too.
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Alright so it's exam week and my motivation level: low.
What tips can you give me that can help me focus better on my studies ? (link)
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How about this: Do you want to pass?
I know it sucks, but it has to be done.
what i do is study hard for 30 minutes and then take a 10 minute break and do something physical like sit-ups or a light jog. Have a set aside time that is ONLY for studying. Remove any distractions such as games, people, TV, the internet, etc. Tell someone that you need to study so there's someone else besides you keeping you accountable.
Hope this helps, and good luck!
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I love my boyfriend a lot. However, he has many hobbies that prevent him from hanging out with me or talking to me all the time and those times when we aren't hanging out or talking, I just feel so lonely and bored. Like I don't even feel complete unless I'm at least talking to him. So I was thinking maybe if I found a new hobby I could distract myself when he's not around. The problem is I can't really ever seem to find a hobby that I can consistantly enjoy...I've tried drawing, guitar, piano, craft stuff, all kinds of sports...it just seems like no matter what I start enjoying, it gets boring in a couple of weeks. Can anyone help me find a time consuming hobby or maybe just offer tips to stick with it? I really don't want to waste this summer being bored...Thanks! (link)
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Try building something, that's time consuming, take up something new, join a yoga or kickboxing class at the Y or some other gym. Start a new video game. Hang out with some friends, all girls need some time without boys around. Rearrange rooms, Clean!
Ok, really, you're only going to stick with something that you truly enjoy and, genuinely interests you. If there's absolutely nothing, make a list of things and when you get bored of one, just move on to the next. I have a long distance relationship so I find myself trying to keep occupied, and often failing, a lot. ANyways, hope this helps, if you find something super entertaining, let me know! :)
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okay, so i am 15 years old and my whole life i have been a daddy's girl and stuff. But we'd always go through rough patches where he'd pull me by my hair, jump on my stomach, or smack me with wooden spoons whn i was in my childhood state. Now that i am a teenager, he has gotten worse and he tries slamming our heads to the ground. He also still punches and yells really loud if i say something bad. If i stick up for myself now that im older i punch back and then he goes insane and throws things and punches and sometimes even strangles. But i don't know if he has a bad temper but i love my daddy cause when we get along, we really do get along. But we had a child abuse class in school because all i wanted to do was cry. Because all of the symptoms, warnings, and signs of child abuse were my dad. He also had a little wine glass by his bed and he drinks sometimes before bed. That's when most family fights happen, at night. I am so scared that he is really going to hurt me. I have an egg on the back of my head because right now he just punched me for sticking up fr myself. He is a successful dentist and i don't wanna ruin his career for having him get arrested and we need his money for our home and to support us, and i love him when we get along.. and i'd cry if he went away but it's those outbursts that i am deathly scared of. is there a place where he can get help? and still have his career? His psychologist doesn't work. please help me, please ): (link)
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This also happened with me recently. Sometimes men like this just need to have some sort of boundaries. They're the boss at work and then they come home and they're the boss there too and they have no one to tell them when enough is enough. talk to your extended family, have someone tell him that this is NOT OK!! and that if it happens again, actions will be taken to stop him. Whether or not you love your dad, abuse is abuse. You don't want this hurting you in future relationships, and things like that. Best of luck to you
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I've been dating this guy for a month now but he lives 3 hours away from where I live. He seems like a really nice guy but the long distance is making me nervous because everybody says it can't work out. We're both pretty young still (15 & 16) and so it makes me feel hopeless and, like...why am I even trying to be a good girlfriend, right? I don't know what to think right now. Is it possible for a long-distance relationship to really stand the test of time? Should I stick with this relationship or is it best if I move on to somebody closer to where I live? (link)
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I was in a long distance at age 16 and now a year later we're still together. We're only a bit older than you (i'm 17, he's 19) we take turns visiting each other over our school breaks by train or we get rides from friends or family. We live a good 6 hours apart. Anyways, if you feel really strong about this guy then don't let him go because of distance. Try it out for a while. But if it's making you feel hopeless then it's probably not the right kind of relationship for you. You're young, this is probably not the last guy you'll ever like, so don't stress out about it too bad!
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