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im karlyn.
i love volleyball.
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and my boyfreind.
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hey there!
ok so i have a big volleyball tournament coming up and i would like some songs that make me feel pumped up! I kinda want songs without words... so here's an example:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vUCK-SrLyX4
towards the end= when Casey tells Teddy "well if the van breaks down or something" and then her friend looks at her weird... after that they arrive at an ice rink... well theres a song playing and it goes like "dun da duuunnn da... yeah!" well do any of you know what that song is called??

if you don't, then maybe you could name some songs that are like that?
THANKS SOOOO MUCH! YOU ARE AMAZING! (link)
hey. so that song in my itunes is called the hockey hey song by jock jams.

but some other good pump up songs are...
cant be touched by roy jones jr
im'ma shine by youngbloodz
make room by gritz

theres tons more. you just have to know what to look for

good luck!


14/f In my town, there is a "nightclub" for teenagers to go to where people basically only grind and hook up all night. I've been there a few times, but I just do not understand how I can hook up with someone. Normally, I will just grind and then after the song is over walk away/grind with someone else. I really want to hook up with somebody, so how could I do it? Do you just turn around while grinding? Also, what if they don't want to hook up, then that is so embarassing! I would like any aadvice on how to hook up (with random strangers) while at a louuuud party/while grinding? Like is there a way you can let them know you want to hook up?

ANY ADVICE IS SOOO APPRECIATED!! (link)
thats just gross.
down right slutty.
you're 14. you need to realize that.
"hooking up" isnt good at any age.
what's wrong with just dancing..that's what the club is for anyways...

READ THIS...

hooking up is having sex...and you want to hook up with random people? thats skanky no matter who you ask. so dont be a bitch and rate people ones for saying that you shoudlnt have sex with random people, especailly because you can get stds, pregnant, and a bad rep.


I'm going snowboarding/skiing next weekend for the first time, and i was wondering if anyone had any tips to help me be more prepared. Like, what should i wear? my main concern is pants. I don't really have any that i think would be good for snowboarding. Jeans don't really seem like a good idea. any suggestions? I'd like to avoid buying a lot of stuff, but if its neccessary, thats okay. i'm only going for 2 days, so it shouldn't be too big a deal. I just want to focus more on having fun than freezing to death. thanks! (link)
I HIGHLY recommend getting some snow pants, just because they are made to block wind and also keep you warm. whenever i go snow boarding i wear leggings and tall socks, jeans, snowpants....if you're a girl i suggest a sportsbra. lol. and then short sleeve shirt, and long sleeve shirt and a sweat shirt and a jacket.

obviously you're going to want something for your ears, a headband or a hat will do just fine. and gloves of course. Also, depending on how the weather is you might want to get a mask. just because if it's snowing sometimes it gets really hard to see..but if you dont want to buy one, sunglasses might do.

have fun!!
ps. make sure you have tall thick socks, because if you dont the boots will rub against your leg and it will hurt!


ok so what exactly should you do if youre going to shave "down there"
because ive tried it many times.. but it never works out.
i use conditioner and shaving cream.
wen i shave the same direction as the hair there is still stubble. then if i shave in the opposite direction it cuts me and i get red bumps. i put on aloe vera or deoderant (i heard it helps with the bumps) after. but it doesnt help. is there a way to shave it all off without getting the red bumps or cuts?
please help because im seeing my boyfriend tomoro and i think i might go to 3rd with him (link)
hey i know what you mean, and it sucks but the best thing that you can do is shave while you are in the bathtub. sit in there for like 15-20 minutes, the hair will get really reallysoft and so will your skin, so shave like with the hair, and then shave against it and then it should be a lot smoother and you won't have any cuts, or at least not so many.

Also make sure that you are using a new razor, or one that has a fairly sharp blade, because the sharper it is the closer the shave, and the less chance of you getting cut



how do you do it?

i can straighten it with it (duh)
but when i try to curl it it just makes like a dent in my hair...

what's up with this and how the heck are you supposed to curl ur hair with a regular chi? (link)
no...thats why its called a straightener...lol.

you cant really curl your hair with it..just a little bit. you need a curling iron for sure


i like when my boyfriend like kisses all the way down my neck and starts sort of making out/sucking/generally playing with my boobs with his mouth.

is this normal or weird? (link)
haha totally normal. i know exactly what you're talking about. and i like it too.

lol its normal trust me


is there anyway to shrink? Because I'm 6'1 and i'm only a freshman. and i'm too tall for all the boys in my grade. so, how do you shrink?? (link)
heyy hun I know exactly how you feel. I'm 5'11 and i know the feeling of being taller than the guys. sure there are always going to be the short ones, but girls mature must faster than guys, so most of them will be catching up eventually.

There really is no way to shrink. apparently cofffee stunts your growth though! hah. its true, but you are most likly done growing.

dont worry about it. and hey...date older guys...they have matured already...and TONS of guys find long legs suuppper sexy :)


how do i know when im ready for sex?
me and my friend snuck out the other night
to meet my boyfriend [ we werent going out then ] and he wanted to 69 + feel me + finger me a such all i wanted to do was make out. but i really didnt know how to say "no" and we just didnt end up making it there. but i wanna know why he wants all this if were only 13 ! and we just turned it like him a month and a half + me two weeks ago . its insane i really dont know what to do. cuz in school he never talks to me , or hugs me or anything and my friend said that she told him to hug me and then he was like why ? and she was like just do it. and he said only if theres a reason + and she came up with something an was like " she thinks you dont like her" and then his friend said " what do you mean he dosnt " so why would he wanna do all that if he doesnt like me + am i even ready to do anything like that? like ive made out before + kissed but hes different. HELP ! !

britnee (link)
first of all, 13 is DEFINITLY WAYYY to young for sex.

and secondly...if you have to question your self if you're ready or not...then you arent. You will know when you are ready, and it should be in at least a few years.



i made out with my boyfriend last weekend for the first time and then i heard this girl using the term "french kissing"...is there any difference?

thanks in advance =] (link)
well when most people make out they frecnch kiss too. french kissing is kissing plus tounge.

so chances are you french kissed him


when you give a guy a blow job and the cum goes in your mouth? do u spit it out? or swallow it? if you use a condom, does the cum still go in ur mouth.?..can you get an std from it?? hehe thanks soo much! (link)
hey. well i think that most guys like it when you swallow. but like...i dont know some guys like to let it go all over you...i guess it depends, but i would go with swallow. no i dont think that if you use a condom it goes in your mouth.

and yeah you can get stds from giving head. so be careful :)


15/f
do guys like girls that play sports? i play ice hockey (link)
hey i definitly think that guys like it when girls play sports. I mean, like you're in shape and its better than a high matientence barbie who shops all the time.

lolll


Ok this guy i kinda like has a g/f but we stil alot and basically hanf out more then they do cause we work together. He was feeling really down and i decided to tell him, how i felt about before to show him that life is worth it and that hes a great guy.

and this is what he answered:
thanks Tina. its really nice to know that i have friends that care bout me, that means alot...you really liked me?
if u asked me to come to prom i would have come, i actually kinda liked you.. hmm. thanks again for the support no 1 really knows whats going on in my life u and amanda are the only people that kinda know :> thanks

What does he mean with the "i actually kinda liked you...hmm"? That part confuzes me the most!

What should i do? I still like this guy (link)
hey well obviously if he has a girl freind you cant do much about furthuring his and your realtionship yet. and i dont suggest trying to break them up because that just leads to drama and no good things in the long run. I would talk to him more and just get to be really good friends, and in the end all you really have to do is wait for the right moment.

oh and as far as the "i actaully kinda liked you..." thing. I think that he might mean something along the lines of...well maybe he liked you when he started dating his gf, but now obviously cant really further that with you.

good luck


i know this is kind of weird but i always over-analyze things so here it goes. i have only been to first base. i know i am going to go to second soon but the thing is, i have 32As. what are guys going to think? or will they not care? (link)
hey if a guy is doing stuff with you, he can see how big your boobs are, so taking clothes off and/or feeling whatever isnt going to change their size.

and if you do come across a jerk who says something....tell him he has a small dick :)


so i'm looking for fun things to do with my boyfriend. no sex or oral because were not ready for that yet. are there any really fun make out positions? i think just stradling would be really fun but does the guy really enjoy that? i dunno if all the grinding on his u kno what would be good for him when clothes are actually on. haha you know?
let me know what you think. the more responses and ideas the better!

thanks (link)
hey.
i dont know about all guys but my bf loves it when i like straddle him. like when hes sitting on the couch and imjust like over him or whatever. And any grinding you do clothes or not...as long as you dont hurt him...he's going to like a lot.

ohh try making out with an ice cube in your mouth. seriously. its so fun.


what do you need to play volleyball? im thirteen, and im thinking of joining a travel team. is that good? or should i join a rec one.. though theres not alot of them around. like.. what do you need to buy to wear? like i see some like shin pad thing people wear on their feet. and what type of clothing? does it have to be loose like in bball or soccer or can you wear like cute semi-tight things? which is better? or is it just by choice?

can i wear sports tape on my braids? im black, but they look cute. i think its sports tape.. like some people wear them as headbands and they're usually bright colors that are shiny or sparkly. where do you even buy them from?

is there like a volleyball store i can go to get these equipment? also, i have like sneakers.. not the flat kinds, the ones with a little arch. are there like special shoes for vball or i can just wear any sneaker?

THANKYOU THANKYOU THANKYOU!! (link)
ok goood choice. i


My boyfriend and I have been thinking about doing it for the first time soon...you know, sex. I don't know what's safer, birth control pills or a condom, or where to find either...I really need help! I'm too embarrassed to ask any adults I know...please help. (link)
hey well most people use both, but im not sure if birth control pills will help you right away, you might have needed to be taking them more regularly.

and as far as i know you need to go to a doctor for birth control pills and condoms...you can find basically at any grocery store or drug store.


okay so your making out with a guy and what not.. how do you let him know you want him to go under your shirt.. without actually saying it? cuz i mean come on that'd sound kind of stupid. the more answers the better!

thanks much. (link)
hey when you're making out its normal for hands to wander
so just put your hand on his and kinda move it up under your shirt...so you're getting the point across


Well my boyfriend tried to finger me, but it hurt it was kind of a discomfortable hurt. I asked him to stop and he did, then we tried it another time and it hurt but not as bad. Is it normal for it to hurt? One of my friends asked me if I bled but I told my friend that I told him to stop before he went in to far because it hurt. Are u suppose to bleed? thanks!! (link)
hey dont even worry about it. its because you vaginal area is really tight. probabley because you've never done anything before? but the 2nd time it probabley didnt hurt as much cuz you're loosening up. dont worry about it, just relax, and if it really hurts to the point that you are in pain, tell him to stop

he'll understnad, he won't want to hurt you


Okay, so I'm 16 (female) and my boyfriend is 22. We've known each other since this last summer and we started talking more once he gave me his screen name.
We've liked each other for about 2 months and hung out a few times. We just started actually dating a week ago.
We make each other really happy. We argue about who likes and misses each other more. We have these deep conversations that end up confusing the hell out of us.
When I told my best friend that I was dating him, she flipped out and said "Ewww, that's disgusting." I guess she doesn't approve over the whole age thing. In my eyes, age is nothing but a number. I just wanted some opinion's.. whether it be good or bad. What do you think of the age gap? (link)
I think that our age (i'm 16 too) age is made out to be a huge deal, but if you look at many happily married couples they are several years apart. I think that 22 is fine, you might get some people thinking that it is wrong, but seriously, as you get older age isnt that much of a big deal.



whats the diff of higlightsh and lowlights? (link)
highlights are when you put a lighter color in your hair, normally blonde. lowligts are darker than your hair, normally dark brown or i guess darker blonde if you are blonde




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