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Q: theres this guy i like who i made out with when me n him werent even goin out but now he likes this other girl and they made out(but there not going out) like a day after he made out with me ...is there any way to win back his attention
Have sex with him. He'll definatly like you better that way.

Q: Well for about 2 weeks so far I've been skipping breakfast and lunch and only eating a snack and dinner.My wrists are really skinny but my moms are 2.And my friends are really worried about me.They're always trying to shove food down my throat.What could happen to me if I keep eating this way?
Actually, you have a better chance of getting skinnier if you eat breakfast and lunch. Not eating it can slow down you're metabolism. You'll also deprive yourself of some nutrients. I recommend eating healthy breakfasts and lunches. That way you'll still be eating.

Q: hey!
well i still like my ex a ton. & tonight he IMed me & was like "you coming to my game tomorrow?" so i guess he wants me to go to his football game. We had to break up because it would be hard because hes in high school (9th) & im still in middle school (8th) what does this mean? I give 5's! thanks!
It means he probably still likes you. I mean you broke up because of different schools not because he didnt like you. So are you going to his game?

Q: ok i want to dye my hair dark brown but everytime i get a dye it seams to fade out. sometimes it doesnt even last a week. i was a dye that is permanant and doesnt fade that much at all. my hair is med/dark brown naturally with natural blonde and really light brown on top. everytime i dye it first all the golden blond shows through then it all fades out. my hair is usually very dark with no brown in the winter but i can wait that long for it to get dark. does anyone no any brands that wont fade. i dont have any money to get it profesionally done. i have a sallys beauty supplies place by me if that helps.

if its a brand they dont have at like giant eagle please tell me where to get it


rate 5s for GOOD answers!
Get it professionally done. It may cost more but they will do a great job and since it is done professional it will probably last.

Q: i can't seem to find a deoderant that keeps me dry enough i know this is disgusting but can anyone help me???
Try mitchum for girls (or guys if you are a guy)

Q: I've had a cast on my wrist for almost three weeks, and I'm thinking about cutting it off. It's really soft, so it doesn't help that much, and basically just gets in the way. Would take it off really be very bad for it? I only fractured it, and they expect me to wear it for six weeks. I'm ready to go back to football and not have to worry about the stupid thing. Is three weeks long enough for a fractured wrist to heal enough?
No!! Keep it on until they say or it might heal funky and be weird for the rest of you're life or something!! Just put up with the next three weeks and then everything will be normal again.

Q: Okay so theres this guy in my p.e class...he stares at me alot like ill notice him starin and he'll turn around...well today i kept walking back and forth from the doors because i was helping someone with something. Well he watched me the whole time, after awhile we all went outside to play soccer n stuff, well on the way back in he was talkin to these guys and then they all turned around n looked at me...do you think he may like me? he tells ppl he doesnt like any1 but everyone does that..so what do you think??
YES! OMG I WISH I WAS YOU THAT SOUNDS SO SWEET! I've always wanted a guy to look at me that would be great. Here's a way to flirt-when you catch him looking at you, try to hold eye contact with him. Or if you see him looking at you and you walk by, just kind of give him a flirty glance and a smile. Good luck, unless you dont like him, in that case tell him to back off!

Q: Im 13/f

There's this guy I really like. Last year, we were really good friends, especially since we had all our classes together. Now we're in the 8th grade, we have NO classes together (grrrr)! I barely see him during the day. Now we've kind of spread apart. What can I do? Do you think Instant Messaging could help in any way?
Yeah, you could IM him or call him,email him, just hang out with him out of school some on the weekends (if it is uncomfortable to do it one-on-one get a group of your friends and a group of his friends to hang out) and you guys will soon be friends again (I hope!) lol so good luck with this I hope you guys become good friends again!

Q: okay so my boyfriend goes to a different school than i do and hes a grade older than me .. but im going to his homecoming but idunno whut to wear .. obviously ik a dress but i dont wanna be liek too dressed up but not dressed up enough. because if hes wearing liek a tux and im just wearing a skirt or im wearing liek this gown and him to wear liek normal clothes. idunno iwould feel gayy. =) thnxz i rate high
At homecoming girls always dress up in dresses. It doesnt matter if you dress up or dress down because everybody else is wearing dresses. If you are really worried, just get a shorter dress. It can still be pretty and elegant, but not as much of a gown, its more like just a dress. That way it would match with either of the options your guy wears. If you have a Deb Shop near you or in a mall, I recommend their dresses. I hope you have a fun time!

Q: Kay well like im a cheerleader and every cheer leader has a big sis/ little sis. Every game we get eachother a little cute gift that has to do with like who we are playing sooo we are playing the Panthers...and i have no clue what to do!! HELP please!! thanks much babes : )
Get a panther stuffed animal. Or something panther related.

Q: my cramps have been so bad all day its horrible i cant focus on my homework. what can i do/take. i dont rlly have ne special stuff like midol. but like advil nd tylonal type of stuff ;).

thank you. i rate. bye
if you do some stretches, also take a warm bath, then just lay down and try to get rid of it. I know exercising is good for the cramps.

Q: me and my best friend (amy) were wondering
if was to marry her cousin (jack) would me and amy be related? like sister in law or what ever?
its kinda weird lol
thanx
Cousin-in-law I suppose.

Q: okay well i heard my boyfriend dosn't have very good past relationships. i heard he cheated on a lot of his girlfriends. he is such a sweet boyfriend though, and he told me he would never do that and that he would change. But my fiend saw him flirting with this one girl and said she 'grabbed him there' and said if you take off your pants, ill take off mine. Also, my boyfriend's twin was said to be flirting with her too and he has a girlfriend. Me and his girlfriend wanna beat her up soo bad. What should i doo!?
Beat her up, both of you two! You guys should definatly fight a bit. Or at least tell her to back away from you're boyfriends because they are taken! I wouldn't put up with that! Then lecture you're boyfriend about staying true to you and not flirting with that girl.

Q: How do you know when you really love someone? Is there an age limit on love? How do you tell the differance between love and infatuation? Please help me, I really need to know answers and please don't say "you just know" because that really is no help. I'll rate good answers. Thank you so much.
You just know.

Q: I am 13 years old, about 5'8", and I weigh 156. Am I fat? My mom and friends say it's muscle because I ride my bike 5-7 miles a day and I play soccer. But I'm not sure if they are just saying that..

Thanks ahead of time.
You are very tall, so the size of weight does match with the weight. And if you are active, than it probably is muscle. If you aren't active, than you might be a bit overweight. You can pinch the fat away from you're skin to see if it is fat, that is a way to test, so try it! And if it is, then a little exercise wouldn't kill you. :)

Q: This is really embarassing but almost everyday ii wear a tight shirt i get sweat marks. I have tried many amounts of different deoderent but it just doesnt work. its really hard to deal with... right after i broke up with my boyfrined i had really big sweat marks that day and he saw... he told everyone!! someone please help.... i just started a new school and ii guess you could say i am in the popular group. if ii dont get this fixed ii dont n0 how the school year will end!! PLEASE HELP!!
thnx
Lol, I have the SAME EXACT PROBLEM!!! I've tried almost anything, and I've had nothing work!! I'm sorry, I just think its cool that I'm not the only one who goes through it as it makes me feel dumb! I have four remedies:

I use Mitchum (for girls) it's a very strong deoderant and it has minimized my sweat marks but not all the way. You could also try using guy deodorant, as it is stronger (since men sweat more than girls). My one friend wears spray on Axe deodorant and guy deodorant (she applies the guy deodorant, then the Axe spray deodorant) and she said it works wonders for her, although I've never tried it.

One thing you need to understand is that you sweat more when you are nervous. I know because whenever I am nervous my sweat circles go down VERY far, but when it's just hot, they only go a little bit. So if you try to avoid all stressful situations, you're sweating will go down. I mean think of it, you're boyfriend broke up with you, you were upset, nervous, stressed, and you sweat alot! Also, I know when I see the huge sweats I freak out and then I just sweat more! So if you don't let it bother you too much they will go away sooner.

Another way I deal with the problem is by passing it off as a joke. Whenever I sweat alot I laugh about and go "ohp, my genetic disorders messing up again!" And everybody just thinks its funny. If you get upset about it, others will get nasty, but if it doesnt bother you too much, you're coolness about the situation will make it less embaressing and more of a joke.

If you are willing to pay money and have injections in you, getting Botox injections can also stop sweat circles. I don't recommend this, but if you are willing to go to this extreme, feel free.

I hope any of these four remedies work, and good luck with your problem!

Q: ok my school is doing a tabacco awareness and we have to make posters and the winner gets their poster on a road sign...i have to slogans in mind

They're Rich and Your Dead
or
Don't let them take you life to

which one do u guys like better!?!
They're Rich and You're Dead. It's a good idea, better than anything I ever thought of!

Q: Okay my boyfriend and I had sex a couple of times. I was a virgin when we first had sex. Okay, it hurt when it first went in then after awhile it stopped. The next day there wasn't any blood. None of the times we had sex there was no blood, so what does this mean my cherry didn't pop, or if he does it harder will I bleed?
Some people don't bleed, it's just the way it goes. Some people pop it if they are very active (if you are in sports that'd explain it) but if it hasnt happened now I doubt it ever well. Sorry. And if you're boyfriend doesnt believe you are his one and only than you've got the wrong guy.

Q: ok so we are gonna be swimming in gym kind of soon and i wanna have a nice body to show off so i was wondering if anyone knows how i can get a six pack...and about how long it'll take? thanks! i rate~
Exercise.

Q: What is an approiate age to have sex? I'm 15/F but I want to wait until I'm married. Is that the best time?
It depends. Some people like to wait to have sex until they are married and because of their values, they want to save something special for that right man and ect. Other people have fun having sex, or would want to test out to see if they are sexually compatible with a man before they marry them. If you don't wait until marriage, then wait until you are over 18 there are definatly benefits to it you are more mature, developed more, are more ready for it...so there are pros and cons, it depends on the kind of person you are.

Remember, you aren't a terrible person if you have sex before you're married, many people do it. Especially if you aren't a teen, because you are older, it's much more respectable then. Having sex before you want to can be emotionally crippling, so do it when you are ready, not to other peoples standerds.

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jenymca
Hi, I'm Jen. I'm a 15 yr. old sophmore at my highschool. I'm just an all-around-average girl (okay, I'm not THAT average) I enjoy giving advice and asking it lol. I play the trombone in my school band and jazz lab, I sing in the chorus and in my church choir, I have a few friends but not a crapload...and I'm always there for my friends with advice! Sometimes its not always what they want to hear, but I always mean the best. So, ask me a question and I'd be glad to answer!
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