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Im 14 and ive never kissed a boy?! is that bad!? will people not date me because of that!? i mean boys have attempted to but i didnt let them because they were jerks and they just wanted sex! so help me! i need to know if thats a bad thing! and you'll probably say just to wait....he'll come to me but i cant wait any longer!! :*(

~Help me~

There are two options.
1. If you cant wait, do it.
2. Wait for the right guy.

No, it is not bad if you have never kissed a guy, youve got your entire life ahead of ya. Good luck.

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After being on the computer for only a little while, every page instantly reads "Page cannot be displayed", everything is as though I was offline. I think someone sent me a virus, or something to that affect. It gets in the way of everything. I can't send people my bands songs, download much off the internet, and most importantly school work (In college, a lot of assignments are online). I can't even give or ask for advice, this is the second time I tried. My family isn't extremely poor, but we are in debt. We can't afford to buy another computer, this one is new anyway. I have downloaded ad-aware, but it can't seem to find the problem. I also downloaded something with the word "spy" in it, and that froze everything. I can't buy anything to help, my mother refuses to let my buy anything through the internet. It gets worse all the time, now it freezes every once in a while, preventing me from even getting online. I clean it often, and defrag it every onece in a while. Any solution to this problem would be much appreciated.

Update Ad-aware, that could be a problem. Download AVG Virus scanner at a freinds house and burn it to disc and install it on your computer. I had a similar problem, and all of those things helped.

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Hi Im Jenipher and Im 15, how can I get my friends to stop fighting????
Jenipher

Sit your friends down, make sure there are no sharp objects around, and then you act as the 'mediator'. Ask friend #1 what she has against friend #2. And vice versa. Then you ask them how do they think they can solve the problems and continue to be friends. If they are too wild to sit down, then just knock them senseless and duct tape them to chairs and then repeat steps one and two.

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hey okay well mai boyfriend constantly sends me these pics of these celebrities practically porn pics sometymes and it bothers me and hes lyke oh yeah shes hott and shes hott and sumtymes makes jokes about'em which I think arnt that funny esp when it deals with something sexual ... i meen i knoe he doesnt have a chance w/'em er n e thing but it styll bothers me... when he did it tha 1st tyme i thought he was gonna stop then i realized that hes not stopping! should i act pissed a bit jus ta make him knoe that thats not ryte or should i jus let it happen...cuz it wont matter he doesnt have a chance and thats how he is...??

I bet I know why he is doing that. He is probally showing you those pictures to get more intamite with him. He is using the pictures as material to talk about sex and whatever relates to it and he is hoping that you will be turned on by it.

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everytime I get a boyfriend and my dad hars about it he gose off , what should I do???!!!! he torments me!!!!!!

Your father is just being protective. Fathers are very protective of their daughters. How old are you? That could be a factor in his going-off-ness.

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i am a pessimess...or how ever u spell that...how do i become optimistic? i have always been a pessimess. when it comes to sports,skool,friends, family and everything else. i kinda started to become more confident to cuz i dont have any in myself. but idk how exactly.if u think u can help me please answer.....i rate everyone who answers any of my questions...Me...thanx

In order to be optimistic, you have to look at the bright side of things. Dont get mad if you do something bad, get glad if you do something right.

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Hey, guys! I'm supposed to call this guy I like back in ten minutes. We're not dating, but we can both tell it will happen soon. He asked to see me again, and we couldn't come up with things to do. He said we could go swimming, but I'm not the most confident person, and I wouldn't feel comfortable swimming infront of him. I don't want to tell him this, because it's highly embarrassing and something I just wish to keep to myself. I know you could tell me that if I can't tell him something like this a relationship wouldn't be good, I just don't feel like it's his business. Can someone please tell me what to say to him, or suggest another outing? Please help me!!

Being uncomfortable is a normal part of being in a relationship. Both sides have to be step out of their comfort zone every once in a while. I know its hard, but be confident in yourself and go swimming with him. Whats the worst that could happen?

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I met this guy last summer at a resort, and I fell in love with him! Both of us had fun all week. We had a bond fire played basketball and alot more.At the end of the week we both had to go home, ( and he lives in a different state)so I figured I would see him again next year. I've talked to him all year on the internet and the phone and ect. When ever I talk to him it always sounds like he likes me and when we say good bye on the internet he types " Bye bye kiss kiss" Now I have had my friends ask him if he likes me and he wont answer them. I even asked him if he liked me. He did not answer me back. What does it meen when he didnt answer me back? Should I talk to him about it and tell him how I feel? and Do you think that he likes me?

I think you should get a hold of him on the phone because it does not allow him to sort of flake the subject off as easily as the internet. Talk to him about how you feel and tell him that you need to know how he feels if you are to continue to feel the way you do about him. He then should give a strait up answer.

When he didnt answer you back, there are two possiblilites.

1. He is shy and is thinking of a way to tell you.
2. He does not feel the same way or has a girlfriend and does not want to tell you.

If he flirts with you on the phone and on the net, then I believe that he is interested in you and you should make sure that the way you feel is mutual.

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I just wanted to let everyone know that I had been asking lots of questions about what I should do since I had broken up with my boyfriend and I wanted him back. Well, we are back together!! =) =) YaY!! Anyways, my mom doesnt understand anything about me and why I still love my boyfriend but you just cant stop loving someone so fast. She's making me go out of town for a WHOLE week and I wont be able to see or talk to him and she says its for the best when its definitly NOT! My boyfriend is so good to me and is a very nice person, why doesnt my mom like him? How can I get her to accept us and let me do what I want to do?! Thank you for answering! Sorry its so long!

Your parents may not know him very well, and that can be one reason for them being sort of uncomfortable about it.

Confront your mother about this and ask her what she has against him, and reassure her that he (your boyfriend) treats you well.

What you want to do and what your parents want you to do can be (and often are) entirely opposite things. Parents love molding children, and when the child gets in his/her teens, they start being incapable of being molded by their parents, so the parents try to reaffirm this 'power' by not allowing you to do certain things. Now if she doesnt let you go to a party that she knows nothing about, thats very understandeable as she is thinking about your safety. But something as judging a boyfreind before she gets to know him is a little strict.

So my advice is to sit your mother down and talk to her about your boyfriend. Hope I helped.

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Do you think my new boots go with my relatively not quite as new pants? Because I think they do but I just want to check with an expert.

You seem like the type to know a lot about this - so, what do you think? The boots are green and tan prada and the pants are that style with the side pull and wrap around.

I need some fashion advice from an expert!

I am the wronnngg guy to answer this kind of question. I have no idea what matches what or what looks good with what. Sorry I couldnt help.

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I can talk to my best guy friend Matt on the phone for hours... and still find things to talk about. We talk on the phone a lot, but it's always me that calls.. or him calling me back. So I thought well I'll wait and see how long it takes for him to call me..

A week goes by, nothing.

Finally I have to call him, and we have like a two hour conversation and he even complained that we hardly talked the last week. (In my mind I was thinking yes and it tore me apart.) I mean it seems like he likes talking to me, but he never EVER calls..

What's the deal? Is that a sign he just doesn't really want to talk? Or am I reading into this to much. I know how it feels to be called my someone who you REALLY don't want to talk to, but talk to anyways.. maybe it's like that?

I'm so confused..

Heres a little tidbit about us guys. We are LAZY and FORGETFUL. We would forget our arms if they werent screwed onto us. I think you may be overanalyzing this a little bit. Women over-analyze and men under-analyze, its a simple fact of life.

If you had a two hour conversation when you called him two weeks later and he didnt sound distant or weird on the phone, then all is normal.

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hey..i'm 15 girl, well..i like a guy..and i wana be couple with him...i'm sure he like me too..
its juz that i got a bf and he got a gf..this month i'm sure that i'm gona break up wit my bf becoz he got another gf..but the thing is the guy that i like is famous,and lots of gurl like him..its juz that he dunno how to pick one..what should i do to be couple wit him.

If it is meant to be, it will happen within due time. Dont make too many extra measures to try to meet this famous person as maybe he will interpret this as stalking.

And also, it may not be love, it may be an infatuation, which is like a 'healthy obsession' and is completely normal. Many people are infatuated with Britney Spears, but few actaully truly love her.

Just go with the flow, thats the best possible course you can follow.

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I NEED Help i love my ex but she dont like me what should i do im a 13 m

Love is not a one sided feeling, in order to have love, it must be shared by two beings about eachother. What you may be thinking of is infatuation which is much different than love.

Infatuation is more of a 'healthy obsession', it is very natural. Just like many people are infatuated with Britney Spears, not many people really have true love for her.

Hope I helped.

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there is this guy thats been my friend since like, kindergarten. he keeps asking me out but i dont like him like that and i dont wanna hurt his feelings!! i have told him this a million times that i dont want to hurt his feelings and taht i dont like him like that but he just wants to kno why!! and its making me mad!! what do i do? --Chels

Sit him down, tell him you think of him more as a friend than as a significant other. Tell him you still want to be friends and that you dont want to jepordize your bond together.

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hey i need some advice from the guyz in here!! wat do ya look for in a gurl?!?!

thanx!!

I'm lucky. I found the perfect girl for me. Here is my list of important things to look for in a girl.

1. Personality
2. Physical attraction (Bust size/ass doesnt really affect this too much its more about the face and eyes.)
3. Intellect (Because I have none. :D)
4. Voice (Gotta have an attractive voice)

Hope I helped!

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Hey,
I was wondering if anyone could help me out here obviously lol. Well anyway, im 13 and ive been with my boy friend for almost 2 years(( yeah i know i know a long time to be tied down for my age)). We have done everything but have sex. Ive been thinking about having sex but i know that im not physically and mentally ready, and im for sure not old enough to have sex or even do what im doing. I was just wondeirng if its normal to think what im thinking, what it would be like to have sex and all. Thanks!:)

Yes, it is normal to be thinking what you are thinking. If you have any doubts at all, its best not to have sex. If you know you are not physically and mentally ready, you should wait until you are sure you are.

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I just bought rugby 2004 by ea sports, every time i attempt to play it crashes on me, i get a malicious script error on my screen, and the game closes, this happens every single time i open the game... how do i get rid of this error?

It could be that your computer is too slow to handle the game, or it had a faulty install. Post your system specs up so I can give you a more exact answer.

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I have some thing to commit on and I quote
"I'm in the 5th grade and going to be in 6th next year and I like someone whp is going to be in 1st uh help


Go get Michael Jacksons advice, he seems to do very well at dealing with 1st Graders."

EXCUSE ME? I'm not the gurl that wrote that Question and I have to say that you have a seriosly TWISTED MIND to say that to a 10-11 year old.
I am a another advicenator i also answered that question but you had NO excuse to say that to someone who really NEEDED advice. she was asking a question and you just gave a disgusting answer. I personaly don't care one bit what Michael jackson does or did thats not a way to answer a question.

Hope I made my point clear.

There has been alot of bullshit latley in the advice collum. I misinterpreted this as one of those bullshit requests. My apologies. Later

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Whats a shlong?

According to www.urbandictionary.com ,

Schlong - A penis which is a fairly good length. As opposed to a schlort, or a schledium.

Stop fiddling with your schlong Jimmy, put it back in ur pants.

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What does it mean if you and your boyfriend are talking and you tell him you feel you dont meet up to his standards and he goes in otherwords you feel you arent good enough for me? so you say yeah your correct and he says if anything your to good for me... is that a bad or good thing? or does it just mean like dont let it get to you its not bad its not good its just a whatever thing.

I responded

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