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Q: Well My ex-boyfriend (Jake) and I dated for about 7 months off and on last year (2003) well...He use to say he loved me but never meant it...He hurt me alot but I'm madly in love with him and the other day he said I love you and says he means it and I really think he does...Im just not sure what to think or do....i need help...what should i do???? should i ask him out should i believe him what????

well, since i know you i can help a little more. Since Jenny is no where near gettin back with him, you dont have to worry about her. i say probably wait till he asks you out. if he doesnt do it in like, 2 weeks to a month...then ask him out. Jake is a very nice guy.

Q: okay, Me and this guy have been together 9 months tommorow..nd I love him more then anything it is a long distance relationship which sucks, and i never thought this would work out, but it has been..I see him 2 or more times a month because my gramother lives down there and soon he ll be able to drive, but anywho I really feel like he loves me, when im with him we lay together and he holds me soo tight and tells me how much he loves me and its like perfect..soo anyway about 4 months ago he dumped me or we *took a break* and he went out with this girl that lived down there named kirsten..and i was very upset but then 2 days later he called me back and at that point i didn't even wanna talk to him but anyway he said that he dumped her because he loved me and it took him this to see that he really does and i was completly understandable about that and we were only togethr for 5 months..okay that is along time but ?..so neway we got back to gether and everything was going great then 2 weeks ago he seemed weird like he was alway s like ill cal you back and never would but then it ended soo i thought u no he was busy..well he just admitted that he liked this taylor girl and she is very pretty but shes a flrt who gets guys to like her then doesnt go out wit then but then i found out she liked him soo i told him and he like said ill call you back soo he got online he didnt talk to me but taylor was on soo i figured he was asking her if it was true so then he called me saying he wants me to think about are relationship and maybe we should take a break i cried and stuff and he said ill call you back well he called me back and said he was an idiot he doesnt want lose me then that nite i foudn out that he called her nad was tallkign to her and her friend for awile so i asked him abotu it and he tod me that he had feelings for her again but there all gone and i said you know you shouldnt even be thinking about other girls and he said im sorry and then i went to see him 3 days lata and everything was perfect and he kept telling me he was soo stupid and im soo beautiful and everything too make you feel good about yourself and everything seems fine but im afraid he mite do it again..soo anyway sorry this story goes on long there is this other guy named nick who this past fall i hung out with alot at these dances thats where i met him adn we got rele close and i almost dumped my bf for him bc hes soo sweet to me nd well we ve kept in touch and stuff i mean he lives here lol soo i can see him whenever but mi bf doesn tlike him bc he knows that he lieks me alot this nick kid he always tells me how much he wants to be wit me and that he loves me and im alway slike im sorry..u no and everyone tells me that mi boyfriends treats mme like shit and i dont deserve it but he doesnt he jus has in the past..so am i being stupid should i dump him and move on? or stay wit the guy that im rele in love with but mite hurt me in the past?

ok hun, lets look at the facts. your boyfriend almost left you for some girl that flirts with everyone and he knew she wasnt good for him. and now you like a guy that really sweet and wants to be with you and you obviously like him. your boyfriend...and taylor...with them, she probably turned him down and thats why he called you all sucking up and stuff. i say if he does it again then dump him, nick is right. you dont deserve that. but make sure you keep in touch with nick becuase he is a potential boyfriend. he could be very good for you. just dont break up with ur boyfriend on a holiday or very close to it. thats not nice lol. good luck and keep me posted.

*~Carrie~*

Q: my boyfriend is always pressuring me to have sex. i'm not a virgin, which i told him, but i dont think i am ready to have sex with him. i mean we have been going out for 4 months, but i really dont think i am ready for that kind of commitment. the last and first guy i had sex with was my first love we had known each other since we were 3. me and him are still friends and my boyfriend always gets jealous of me talkin to him. he also cussed me out various times in person and on the phone. i really dont know what to do about this and i KNOW i cant ask my mom cuz she would go and cuss him out. 17/f/ga

break up with the jerk off.....hes pressuring you into something you dont wanna do, he cusses u out all the time. he gets jealous over something really stupid.....you deserve better

Q: well..i really like this kid..and he asked me out one time and i said no because i didn't really know him and everything. but now i know him and i REALLY like him. he knows i like him and he tells me he still likes me..but he hasn't asked me out again and he flirts with EVERYONE..and he know it makes me upset but he still does it. what should i do?

well i say that yea he likes u and either hes a jerk 4 flirting with everyone...or...hes trying to make u jealous

Q: omg! i can't stand my retarded little sister! she whined becuase i was doing a dance with my friend and wouldnt put her in it so i tried to put her in it and let her help me practice. I was already in kinda a bad mood and she knew it. then when i tried to teach her the moves i had and get some new ones from her she wouldnt be serious for 2 freakin seconds!!! she KNOWS when i want to make a dance im serious about it and dont like to play around. its just how i am. i mean, when im hyper playing around is great. but i am tired and in a p-o'd mood and she knew it. yet she still couldnt be serious. I know it wasnt trying to make me laugh because i have known her all of her pathetic life and I can tell when its trying to make me laugh and when its not...and it wasnt. sry this is long. plz and thank you 4 any advice on how to get her to be more serious and actually help me with this.

by the way....im not even talking to her right now, im so mad at her.

Q: Ok there's this guy that im friends with..not GREAT friends but we talk in the halls @ school almost every day (we dont have any classes together) and ive known him since elementary school (he even asked me out once a little while ago but i rejected him cuz i was stupid) now i kinda like him....if i ask him for his sn do u think he will know/think that i like him? How do i ask him without it sounding like i like him? Like how do i ask him for his sn but just as a friends kinda thing (yea i know this sounds like really junior high but i really need help lol) plz i rate high

just be like, do u have aim, yahoo, msn? (whatever u have) and if he says yea then ask if he wants ur sn for it. if he says yea then give it to him and ask if u can have his so u will know its him.

Q: I am Vietnamese to and I'm scared to ask my parents bout this cuz it could mean something bad...I know I should know my language pretty well but I don't I do wanna learn...I am full-american born and raise...I know how to say some words in vietnamese...but this is giving me the weirds...It's from a guy I like but he won't tell me what it means...I know this is long and I may sound stupid for not knowing my language but I do this is just giving me mixed feelings...What dies this mean
anh chi muon em toi em von cong yeu anh khong?
I know anh means...boy also your older brother
and chi means...big sis...
Em...also means...little...girl or boy
muon is want...
toi...is to
yeu...means like
khong means...would or could
I sound dumb don't I...but I'm just asking

go to www.worldlingo.com or www.wordlingo.com but i think its the world one and go to translators...give me a second and i'll tell u exactly what it means

Q: hi i really liek this guy.he is 2 years older than me.he said that he woudl go out with me its just the age difference. how can i get him to change his mind? i rate high.

umm how old are u? if hes 18 or over then its illegal and thats why. if hes not then i dont know, just...the more he likes u the less he will care about the age. so work on getting him to like u a LOT and....make sure u act mature so he will think that ur mature enough to make a good gf

Q: ok well im going to lucnh with a boy today idont kno wut to talk to him about plz give me alotta ideas i dont wanna bore him!! hes sweet cute and popular!! plz help ill rate a 5!

signed- confused

um just talk about friends and school and stuff like that, music...life. umm clubs or parties if u go to them...ya know, just anything u can think of. but let him talk 2 lol dont do all the talking. but if u guys get quiet then just say something. try to make some jokes...but not really stupid ones lol

Q: now lori and alex are going out( if u readed my other questions you know that i like alex) well anyways alex is still flirting with me and omg he stares right into my eyes forever and i stare back and its like he can read my mind. our eyes justlock with each others. he is always hitting me like just playing around and i hit him back and lori gets all mad. anyways he treats lori like shit like if he doesn't care about her and he lies to her. but thats only when i'm there with them or near them. what does this mean?

it means that yea he likes you...a lot. and he treats her like that around you to show off for you. how does he treat her when you arnt around? maybe when they break up you guys can go out. that would be cool. but think about it. if he treats her like that he might end up treating you the same way

Q: K well anyways I have had this b/f for 2 months and Its internet, thoug I've knew him almost a year... anyways My Friend, her b/f and myself are planning to drive down to where he lives, which is about 30 minutes to an hour away from me... but I know my rents would not go for it if they knew I was going to meet him... so Should I go on and go and just tell them Im going shopping with my best friend for a party or something or tell them the truth and try and convince them o let me go? If I should tell them Im going shopping with My buddy... I need a good excuse to go out of town...
Thankz
l8rZ

ok i say tell them ur going shopping cuz my rents would freak 2. but make sure u stay safe there cuz u dont know...this guy could be lying and he could like, be a freak. dont go ANYWHERE alone with him at all because who knows what he could/would do. anyways, to get out of town..tell her that the store u usually go to doesnt have anything you want but you heard about this awsome sale in (where ever your going) and that you just HAVE to get this outfit/dress for the party. but make sure you BRING SOMETHING BACK lol

Q: 13/f

okay i really like this guy i've liked him for such a long time gosh like 3 years almost i'd say and his birthday is coming up in 20 days i want to buy him something cuz he's my best guy friend.. but i dont know what to buy i dont wanna buy him somethin that also gives clues of me liking him or anything because i dont want him to no .. i told him the 1st time i liked him which made 1 year of our friendship like hell n its our 2nd year of our friendship and i rather be friends w. him than nuttin at all but yet i rather be his gf than his friend but anyways wut can i buy him??
oo btw he's turning 14

tnxss

((i rate high))

Well, maybe a gameboy SP or a game for it. or maybe something simpler like, a movie he has been wanting or thats like, his fav. out of the ones he doesn't have.

Q: hey please help! im really upset now! okay well ive had 7 boyfriends and one of them im going out with right now. well.. i love him the most out of all of the boys ive went out with! and today after school he came up to me and was like so your not gonna say ( just playin around ) i was like hi ! lol and he was like so ur not gonna give me a hug? i gave him a hug then we said our byes and then we went to our busses. well i was waiten for my bus and i looked and he was walken with 2 other girls and he hugged one of them and ive seen him with her at the ymca before with her and im really upset! what do i do??!!

talk to him about it. maybe it was nothing, i hug my friends...but then again i dont have a boyfriend. but yea, you could also try asking the girl...just dont tell her you guys are going out at first. just ask her like, if they are going out (when hes not around) and if she says yes then get rid of him hes just a playa. if she says no then clue her in to the fact that you are his girlfriend.

hope i helped,
*~Carrie~*

Q: Okay...I feel really stupid for asking but most of my friends have kissed someone before. I havent. I havent even held hands with a boy. Im really really shy tho. I could hold hands and kiss boys because lots of boys like me...but Im waaay too shy and i dont know how to kiss!! and most of the guys i like kno i havent kissed no 1 before. ive had offers lol and i can anytime..but im too shy and i think i will do something wrong. i mean how do u know if they just want 2 kiss for like a sec or make out for like 15 secs? help me plz..

i personally think that you shouldnt kiss someone just because all your friends have done it and becuase you can. wait for the right time. and dont go kissing someone just to do it. get into a relationship first so it will mean something. and i wouldnt kiss like, on the first date. that doesnt mean shit. (sorry for the launguage) I have been in this situation before. my first kiss and my first boyfriend was just plain nasty. he was a druggie and a cheater and all kinds of stuff and i could do SO much better but i didnt care. i just wanted a boyfriend. that was a BAD mistake. all he wanted me for was sex. but yea, off subject lol. Well, just wait. your time will come. just don't go kissing someone just so you can have a first kiss. you want it to be good and romantic don't you?

Hope I helped at all....
*~Carrie~*

Q: You still haven't answered my question, will you suck it????

i will answer you.....NO!!!!!!!!!!!

Q: Hey, i'm hoping someone can give me some advice. I'm an 18 year old female, and for 18 of those years, me and my mum were really close - like best friends. But since around the time of my eighteenth birthday, she's been like a rollercoaster ride of emotions. I wont bore you with the details of our arguments, but one day she'll be screaming in my face, and the next she'll be suffocating me and being all lovey dovey with me. I'm thinking that because i'm 18 now she's struggling to find a balance between letting me have my independence and still acting like we're family.
Right now she's not speaking to me, and when she does speak to be she'll snipe at me so there's no talking to her. I don't want to be her emotional doormat, so she can just throw any old emotion at me that she likes when she likes - I'm still a person too. I just don't know what to do right now, please, if you have any ideas, let me know. Thanks x

sit down and try talking to her when shes in one of her good moods.

Q: what does kinky mean

kinky is like sluty i believe.

Q: I dont have any friends that hang out with me out of school.. I moved so my old frineds and I barely keep in touch and I barely jave friends in my new school and I dont have her phone number.. so Im all locked up in my room staying up late listening to music blocking out all the thoughts of my mom..

i kinda have the same problem. but im homeschooled. try joining some groups that theres alot of nice people in. most likley not the popular prissy people. unless thats the crowd your going 4. then go ahead.

Q: I am a 18 yr old male and i have a girlfriend that i just am not interested in anymore. How do I break up with her?

just tell her how you feel. if u dont like her anymore dont lead her on. it will just hurt her more in the end if u do.

Q: One of my best friend in the whole word really needs help. lets call her 'Katy'

Ill start from the beggining:

He mother commited suicide when she was a baby and she now lives with her stepmum and dad. Her stepmum is so horrible she doesnt let Katy out of the house she throws away all her make up, mobile and other stuff, she beats her up and everything. ( the dad stays out of it and if he has to takes the stepmothers side.)Katy is so lovely but shes getting into drugs and shes tryed to kill herself loadz of times - she came into school with big slits on her wrists on Friday. She has social workers, councilers and the school are involved (but none of them no about the drugs and the suicid attemps) but they dont seem to do ANYTHING to help her.

What should i do i treally worries about her!?

Maybe you should take the next step and do something. Go to the police. If you let this go on you could lose her forever. Or go to your parents and tell them whats going on but get help fast because she needs to and you might lose her.
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