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I'm Jaz. I'm 17. I love photography and writing. and I've gone through a lot with self-injury, depression, and guys. I hope I can help you ask much as possible. I will give the most honest answer.

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14/ f
first of all i think your advice is incredible! second, well last night i snuck out of my house and went to this guys house, and we did it and everything. and i know im young and if you say im too young to have sex i understand, but other than that.. so i was at his house and we did it and it ws so nice. and i dont know if we should keep doing it, i dont think i like him, and he doesnt like me. its just for fun kind of, and for a good "first time". cause before, we did it and it was the first time and it washorrible and he broke my heart and ive gone threw alot of crap wth him, but this is like "redoing" our first time (if that makes sense). but i dont know if i should keep doing it. i love it and all, but i dont know? sorry if its confusing. and i think im over him, cause i liked him for like 2 years and he hurt me so badly. also, i dont know whether to tell my best friends. i want to tell them badly but im suppost to keep quite? thanks a bunch.

I don't think you're too young. People are able to handle sex at different ages.

Well, if you really don't like him yet you're having sex with him, then you're kind 'teasing' him to make him think you really like him. But, if you like having sex with him, and he'd be okay with it, maybe just be friends with benifits? No feelings attached. Just explain to him that you don't have any real feelings for him and such.

If you can really, really trust your best friends, then sure, but if you're not sure if they will tell someone, then don't tell them.

Don't forget, always use protection! =]

good luck!

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13/Female

Im a young girl surronded by tons of couples. I need flirting tips cause theres this guy whos really tall and cute that I want to catch his eye. flirting tips needed!

be yourself
and tease a slight bit.
although, you're 13, so i would watch how much teasing you do.

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i want to start babysitting for money bc i need money haha but my parents said i need to take a class to learn how to do cpr and all that before i babysit. is this true?

You have better chances if you take the classes and are certified.
but it's not required.
your parents just want you to know what to do incase of an emergency, and what to do the correct way.

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Im 13, and im a Chathlioc [sp?] Cristian. Well, in school, we went to Confessing. I told the preist all my sins, but one. I masturbate. I did'nt wanna just be flat out, I maturbate, because the priest is friends with my family. Is this wrong. As much as I love God and Jesus, I just can't say I maturbate. Is it a sin anyway?

Yes and no..
it's confusing and it really depends on how you interpert it.

Yes, because from what I've heard, anything that is self-pleasure is selfish. Is this what it says in the bible? Don't entirely take my word for it, but no.

No, because in the bible, one of the males 'spills' his sperm before sex which means he can not reproduce a child with his wife and somehow that is a sin.

if you're really interested, here's a site: http://www.religioustolerance.org/masturba3.htm

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hey i always hear men and stuff always talking about hott girls they had sex with and stuff and how they were shaven and everything...well do junior high boys and around that age really care if a girl shaves down there? because i know people my age are having sex now.

guys have preferences of what they like. and so do girls. most juniorhigh/highschool guys won't really make a big deal about it as long as things are at least trimmed down there. they mainly just want laid and they don't want to mess that up.

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well it was my first time using a tampon and i read the directions over and over again. and i didntput it in far enough. and when i was pulling it out it hurt reallly bad. and it got some blood on my underwear. and now it still hurts. btw im 13/f

you needed to let it absorb some blood to be able to pull it out. it does hurt really bad if the tampon is dry.

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okay see theres this band called " straightlight run", i don't know if you people have heard of them or not. you probably have. but i want to listen to them but i can't find a website that has them. any suggestions ? i already checked myspace, and yahoo.. nothing.

it's straylight run
*sighs*
now google them.

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i just found mary is cutting again after she promised her bf and i that she wouldnt do that anymore i think she is cutting because of me my family is screwed up right now and i just moved away and she really misses me we talk like once a day but we barely ever get to see eachother cuz i live and hour or so away should i tell her bf?i dont think she is doing to deep tho also if you tell me to tell her pearents it is a wate of time because it is not serious enough at this point

You need to talk to her. Cutting is not the answer. I did it for about 2 years. It does nothing but tear your life apart. Cutting is a very serious thing. deep or not, it's serious. Convince her to talk to somebody (a therapist or counselor). Or, convince her to tell her parents. Or, tell her parents. You can tell her boyfriend, that is fine. But you need to make sure he understands and doesn't get mad at her for it. No one should be mad at her for cutting, but she needs to get help.

good luck
if you need anymore advice with self-injury, send one to my inbox or something.

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If a gurl is 17 in her boyfriend is in his 30s is it still rape! Dont answer if you are not sure!!

statutory rape, yes.
although it depends where you live.

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so i broke up with my bf lastnight because when we first started dating he had these magazines and i told him i didnt like him having them so he "threw them away" he said he did that to prove he would do anything for me and that he doesnt like looking at anyone but me. well lastnight we went to his room and the pile of magazines were back again. so 1. he lied to me 2.im not the only one he likes to look at and 3. i cant trust him. was this a good reason for dumping him or was i just being stupid?

oh let the poor boy have his magazines!
yes he lied to you, but you told him to throw out his magazines. you're both at fault.
my boyfriend has magazines i'm sure other girls wouldn't approve of, but he's a guy.
be understanding. and it was a terrible reason to dump him.

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I am 13/F

I am 5'3 and weigh about 156 pounds.
I am a cheerleader and I take dance class.
Is there any other way i can lose weight besides sports?

you need to eat healthy. drink 8 glasses of water a day. cut portions of food in half. ALWAYS eat breakfast.

good luck!

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hey im 13/f
my mom says if i ever get a boyfriend and she knows about it, shell be really pissed cuz im not aloud to be dating yet. i really like this guy and theres a rumor going around that hes gonna ask me out. well my best friend said and these are her words.."ill make sure your mom knows." i cant not tell my best friend that i have a boyfriend and even if i dont, itll get around. i just dont know what to do.

Your mom will get over it. I started dating when I was 12 and my mom was little nervous about it, but got over it.

good luck

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i am trying to "diversify" my wardrobe...most of my clothes are from abercrombie and holister. what are some random teen clothing stores/ boutiques

Delias

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so today about 20 minutes ago
my left eye started to go all blury
like how when you look at a light for too long and it goes all werid
and i dont know how to stop it or anything!!!
but its fine when im in the dark its just goes like that when i enter light or lighter places
someone help!
im scared im going blind
or that something will happen
i need help!

I'm pretty sure that's a mirgrane. I got one of those during school last year and I went to nurses' office and i thought i was going blind.
Just go take some advil or something and go lie down, if it happens again.
That only really happens to me when I'm really really stressed out, so you may have been stressed.

If it continues, see a doctor.

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Im pretty skinny. but i want abs. so i was wondering is there any way i can get abds before the middle of september?

Do crunches.
and look in magazines and online for exercises.

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im not sure where this really belongs... i was told that i was anorexic... by a doc. so now i think it is time to face the facts... but i dont know what to do... people tell me that i should just eat .. but its so much harder than that... people keep telling me its all in my head... but idk... they are scaring me.. i dont know if im ready to get over this yet... or even where to start... and the worst thing is... i have no suport... family and friends... i already tryed... my nutricionist... all aginst me... and my counsolor.. she just acts like its a one step process... i really dont know what to do... can some one help me??
thanks bunches!
xoxoxoxo

I completely know where you're coming from, but it's my friends telling me to just eat, not a doctor. And it's not all in your head, and you may not be ready to get over it yet but it will be for the best to try, before it gets worse.

It's really hard to get through this and start eating like a normal person again. I suggest maybe finding a new counselor that specializes with eating disorders.
And try eating large breakfast, and then eat some lunch, eat something between lunch and dinner, and then eat dinner.

good luck! i hope you can beat this :)

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alright so me and my boyfriend have been going out for several months now and i love him alot, and he says he loves me and he said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and so do i, but when he talks to like any girl even my best friend i get really paranoid and he gets even more paranoid if i talk to a guy. how can we both stop getting paranoid with each other when we talk to the opposite sex?

You need to trust each other.
that's really about it.

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Okay, I've got something wrong with me... I'm scared to eat. I'm only 14 and love to eat, but recently (3 weeks ago today) I scratched my throat or something and it's really weird and hard to eat. Here are some details:
1. I've dropped 15 lbs.
2. I've thrown up twice.
3. I've gone through a lot of stress lately. Maybe that has something to do with it?
4. My mom's letting me get out of school to go to the doctor tomorrow.
5. My grandpa, stepmom, mom, and dad think I'm anorexic (yeah right, a fat anorexic girl! lol no joke)

So if you can recommend anything to help me, if there is anything you can possibly do, I'd appreciate it!

Just go to the doctor. Get treated for it. That's all you can do.


And you don't have to be thin to be anorexic. There are many people who are 190lbs that starve themselves.

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Where did you read about this masturbation thing ...may I get the site please ??

Because my christiaan friends thinks it's a sin, although they are doing it (I think)
hahaha

thanks

http://www.religioustolerance.org/masturba3.htm
^i found that.

but really, from what i remember when i looked it up about a year ago, in the Bible a man (i don't know who) "spills" his sperm before having sex with his wife so they cannot reproduce, and that is supposively a sin.

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i would like to know what guys look 4 in a girl.be truthfull!!!
thanxxx

be yourself.
that's about it.
don't change to get guys, it doesn't work.

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