I am a Christian, and I love giving advice, so you can be anonymous or not, I would just love to hear from you! My friends tell me that I am a great person to come to for advice. I seem to know just what to say. I don't know. =) I love listening to people and problems. I just don't like being in the middle of them; I do choose sides if I absolutely have to. I want to be a Social worker or a counseling Psychologist someday. I am a senior in high school, and I start college in August of '06. I'm in band, and choir. I play French horn and sing alto. I have been through a lot with friends/family and even though I haven't, I feel like I've seen it all, so I hope I can help!
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Ok....first he broke up with me but he also told me he wanted me to find someone better then him.....but....he told me he still wanted me.And that he still loves me.He only told me to go and find someone better because he smokes pot so yea. So i dont know what to do or say to get him back.
can anyone help and not tell me that he doesnt want me when he keeps on telling me he does!??????!?!?!?!!
ill rate high! (link)
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He probably does want a relationship w/ you, but can't because you DO deserve someone that doesn't do something like that. This guy's heart is in the right place. I can see why he would do that, you can still love him, but he needs help. He's looking out for what's best for you. I have a friend that was like this. Good luck and I hope I helped a little.
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sorry this is long, last night i dumped my bf, john, after 9 months of going out and i said that i didnt want to go out with anyone for a while, later that night i was with my friends and they called the hottest guy in school and he said he wanted to go out with me so now im going out with a hottie but i love john so much i dont know what to do i want to go out with john but im already going out with the hottest guy in school, i think im having a problem with letting go
please tell me what i should do i rate 5s for any answer (link)
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You should go out w/ John. If you love someone THAT much...looks shouldn't matter. Looks aren't everything, and if John loves you...that's better than any hot guy. Good luck and I hope I helped.
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I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for over a year. Its a pretty special relationship to me. But, theres always these never ending problems that I can't fix anymore. There are times when he'll know that I need him, and he'll leave, not like I'll be crying and say, "I need you" I mean like, we'll have plans to meet online or something, and he'll go to his friends house. I'm usually always ok with him leaving to go to a friends house. But, we hardly got to talk last weekend and now this weekend we never talked, and now next weekend he'll be gone and he knew that he would be. We always have problems where he'll be gone, or just a silly issue will happen. I'd hate to sound like one of those desperate girls, but hes different. He isn't the type to just leave me like that, he feels really bad when he forgets something or did something wrong, yet it keeps happening, and I'm the only one to always think of a solution to fix us, well, this time I decided to make him think, and hes saying we should break up for now. We have recently taken a lot of breaks to help us, we started with taking the whole weekend away, and then we moved on to a week and a half, and here we are stuck again. I have never been so terrified in my life about this relationship failing. I guess I need to know if breaking up for now was the right thing, or if we should be doing something we havn't already done. I think there is something inside of him wanting to work this out, but something else forgets. I'm really open to any answers, I just need help, I'm really depressed. What would be the best solution to you?
I'll be sure to rate, but I hope I get true answers. (link)
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I know what you are feeling. I was in a long distance relationship last year for a while and it was also my longest relationship. Our only form of communication for a while was AIM, then he was able to use his cell cause of his plan, and then I got a cell. He became really busy and didn't call ( I couldn't call him cause I didn't have a cell phone yet), and once we didn't talk for a month and it was rough for me. I didn't think he liked me anymore and when I finally got ahold of a cell and called him, we were fine. Eventually however, we broke up, but he's still one of those people I can come to if I have a problem. It was really rough on me for a while after we broke up b/c he was my first love, but it gradually got easier and now I am in another relationship, and the first guy is still a great friend to me. Maybe things will turn out different for you, and you two will get back together. Keep a friendship though, that's important. Don't worry about the little things, you can't change a guy. I really hope things work out for you, don't let a guy get you down, b/c friendship generally lasts longer than relationships anyway. Be okay w/ the break up for now...this is for the best at this moment and maybe you will miss each other too much and get back together. Good luck, and I hope I helped.
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I was with this kid Brendan about a year ago for about six or seven months and even though after we broke up I went out wtih other people... I'm definetly still in love with him. He has not been with anyone since but with him it's just different. Even if I wanted to just talk to him I get scared and don't know what to say. Everyone can tell and I hate it! Last night I was talking on the phone wtih his best friend and he just came up on the topic and said you and Brendan were the best couple and I think you should go out again... I don't know if that's just his opinion or if Brendan has been talking to him about me or if his friend is just trying to hook us up for the fun of it or something. Yeah so I don't know...
xo elise (link)
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I think it could be possible for you two to try it again. I think Brendan will def. send you some kind of signals like looking you in the eye when he talks to you, or trying to hold your hand or something if he does. Good luck, it's sounds like it's possible!
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I have this friend...like a BFF friend....hes really nice but i only like him as a friend....i keep having dreams that him and i are like real close like married like and it kinda scares me....(scare as in freaky) do i love him without knowing it or what? can anyone explain this? thanx
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I tend to dream about someone that I fall asleep thinking about, maybe not intentionally, just like a random thought like, what I'm doing the next day or something someone did. It's probably not that big of a deal. It's probably not something you should be worried about. Good luck and I hope I helped.
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well see i got a boyfriend and i care bout him so much and it will be our 7 month anniversary on the 16th but there a problem...he's been put away in a boys home for almost most of ur relationship..and it kill knowing i cant see or talk 2 him at all...i saw him twice this whole summer and it sux....but i really care about him and i've known him since the 2nd grade but i dont know if i shuld break it off or just stick it out until he cumz home...which is in like 2 or 3 months...well im 16 and im a female....WHAT SHOULD I DO??? (link)
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As long as you still have feelings for him and if you still talk to him, then that should be fine. My b/f and I just started dating and it's sad for me the be away from him cause in my last relationship, we were long distance. I say if you still feel strong for him, stay w/ him and stick it out, if you think YOU are strong enough. Good luck and I hope I helped.
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i had dreams about this guy jacob and we are still friends and im over him but now i like his friend and i want to .........well go out with him but i think ill but a ocward pozition on josh but jacob didnt date me cause im ugly fat short but josh is diffrent and well he doesnt have a a good rep. he dumped my friend on the annivarsary and i also think that i think kaylyn will not be to happy with me should i ask josh out 4 him to say no becuze of jacob and kaylyn being mad at me do i ask to be hurt again of take a chance and lose my friends 4 a guy help me (link)
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Boys tend to like girls that are confident in themselves. They don't like to be around girls that put ppl down from what I hear. I wouldn't go out w/ the guy w/ a bad rep. I say look for someone new and exciting! It may take a while...kinda interesting, two of my best guy friends are josh and jacob...lol...good luck and I hope i helped a little. :-/
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ok this is for guys mainly, unless girls have any idea
what would you want as an anniversary present?i have no clue what to get my b/f. any opinions? (link)
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Well...my friend for her one year anniversary for her boyfriend, she made him a collage of pictures for him and she's gonna give it to him next month. If you don't have pictures...maybe you can make him a cd of songs that remind you of him or the relationship if you haven't made him one already. I hope I helped!
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16/f. I'm really into a guy at my school, and we're friends and we chat all the time, talk on the phone and online, and whatever. He likes me too, and we've considered dating. The only problem is, he's pretty overweight. Now, I wouldn't care, I don't just look for visual appeal in a person. But I'm really active, I love to play tennis and swim, and I do a lot of biking and jogging. It would be really nice if a guy that I dated would be able to do all of those things with me, and since he's not an active person, I don't know if we'd be able to. We're both really into European history, and we love to read and do those Cryptoquips in the newspaper, and I have a really good time hanging out with him. But are we compatible enough to build a relationship on? (link)
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It sounds like you have a great heart. It sounds like this guy is really lucky to have found you if you don't look really at his outward appearance. I mean, you wouldn't date someone you weren't attracted to, but it sounds like this guy has a winning personality. I think you should go for it if you really like him. I mean, there's always a possibility that it may not last, but life is about risks and requires you to jump. Give him a chance is my advice. Good luck and I hope I helped.
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All right, I need help... I went out with this guy for 3 months... But we were friends 2 months before we started going out... He had a crush on me, and I ended up liking him and we went out (like I said) so our relationship was more like 5 months it's just, for the first 2 months we didn't do anything, and everything was going great, or, so I thought... He broke up with me ON our 3 month anniversary, and yesterday WOULD HAVE been our 6 month anniversary and, it made me really sad... The thing is, is that he verbally abused me... He would say something and I wouldn't understand how he meant it, so I'd get upset, and he would call me stupid and tell me it was all my fault. After he broke up with me he got drunk and messed around with this that liked him, but, he didn't really like her because, he never talks to her anymore... Well, we still talked after he made out with that girl but, about a month ago we got into quite a few arguments and he told me I am not worth it, I can't handle anything, I don't deserve him talking to me, and a lot of other things that really hurt. He's friends, that I am also friends with, tell me he doesn't care about me AT ALL... But yet I still care about him, and everything that happened still REALLY hurts... Oh, and now he likes the school slut and thinks she is "amazingly hot" and wants to do stuff with her... But, my question is, why? Why does it still hurt when I know he is a really mean person, and it's been 3 months since we broke up, so why can't I shake this? Please help... (Yes, I will rate high for serious and helpful answers. Thanks in advance and, sorry for making this so long.) (link)
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I can't imagine how you are feeling about this guy. It's hard to fall out of love w/ someone even if he is a jerk. There were times for me when me and my b/f broke up that I knew there was someone out there better for me, but I couldn't imagine who...and how that was possible. My ex is one of my best friends now however. You know the saying "there are plenty of fish in the sea" and you know that is soo true. I believe there is someone out there for everybody. No doubt it may take a long time for your heart to heal. I mean he REALLY hurt you...not just crushed cause he broke up w/ you. You deserve better. No girl or guy deserves to go through verbal or physical abuse. If he does it to you, he may do that to any girl he may end up dating. I hope that doesn't happen no matter who the girl is. Good luck... I hope I helped a little.
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One of my best guy friend wants to go out with me. But I'm scared it my ruin our friendship after we might break up. Should I risk my friendship and go out with him or don't take the risk and save our friendship? (link)
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Well, the good thing about going out w/ a guy that is your best friend is the fact that you already know a lot about him and know him really well, so there are no secrets. I've gone out w/ 3 guys and i've been able to keep a friendship w/ each of them. If the feeling isn't mutual, don't be afraid to let him down...easy! Good luck w/ that one.
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would it be considered taboo.. or incest for me to date my brothers fiances sister? i mean there is no blood connection.. hmm please help.. i dont knwo what to do (link)
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I think that'd be pretty cool! No, that isn't incest at all. That'd be pretty awesome! good luck!
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Alright, there's this kid that I've known for like more than a year. I met him when I went over one of my best friends house. He lives like next to her. So we would always go over and chill with him and his sister. We have sooo much fun. But the other night I decided to sleep over his house. So we stayed up all night and we kinda cuddled and he knows I like him a lot, but he won't tell me how he feels. Like from the other night I have a feeling he likes me, but I wanna know for sure. What should I do? I like really like him and I see him and talk to him a lot. Also I can be myself around him.
Please help, I rate high for good answers. (link)
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It sounds to me like he does like you, w/ out the words. I mean, if you have cuddled w/ him, then more than likely he has the feelings in return. Good luck ! Keep doing what you are doing, and you'll probably end up being official. Good luck!
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Well, this question is only for those who have serious answers. My hair really doesn't curl or scrunch. It just doesn't. What are some other non-boring hairdo's or things to do with hair besides straightening it all the time? Any other ideas that ACTUALLY work for most hair? (link)
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you could use a curling iron and hairspray and spiral it, that would be cute. I know how you feel, my hair is naturally straight and won't do that either.
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well is it wrong to go out with your friends ex but what if you went out with him before she did
I will rate a 5! (link)
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It depends on if you talked to her about it before you start any relationships. It would probably be fine, since you did date him first, but who's more important, the boy, though you really like him, or your friend who will be your friend no matter what happens w/ that boy? Good luck!
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okay first off im sorry this is long... okay im 13 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years.. i know thats long lol.. anyways .. this year we're going to be going to dif. schools.. he'll be in middle school and ill be in highschool.. hes in 6th im in 7th...well .. i love him more then i could explain. but my boyfriend.. eric thinks ill find someone else at the highschool... i know it could happen.. but it wont because i love him.. and hey who knows he might meet someone else.. and im just so worried things wont work out for us.. what do u think i should do..? i rate all 5's !!! THANKS! (link)
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You're only 13 years old. But I know how it feels to be completely taken by a guy at 13. I had the biggest crush on a guy off and on for 2 years. But, if you are supposed to be his g/f then you will continue to be his g/f. If not, it might hurt for a while after you break up, but it will be okay. I know I definitely have moved on. Have fun in jr. high. You are young. Good luck.
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I think I'm scaring my crush... she's not showing any signs, but that's just so far. I mean, first, I told her how much I love her. Then, I asked her to the fair. Then, I wrote a song about her, and anyone who knows me knows that I can't write songs for my life! I think maybe soon she'll get scared off, but these things are just bugging me, and I feel like I'll keep thinking about her until I do something for her. Please help! (link)
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Okay...well...doing a bunch of stuff for a girl at once could potentially scare her off unless she has mutual feelings. If she had mutual feelings, she probably would have told you how she feels. If you've done all this stuff for her, find out who her friends are and see if she has said anything about you. I know that if I like a guy, my friends are the first to know. Good luck.
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my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationshiip i love him and he says he loves me neither one of us wanted to fall in love with the each other but we are the thing is though sometimes i have doubts about our relationship and wanna call it off but he said he'd be dissapointed and hurt if i did i don't wanna hurt him nor do i wanna lose him i just want everything to be right between us, he is a great guy so what should i do when i start to doubts about our relationshipsor his love (link)
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Oh man, I know how you feel. I just got out of a long distance relationship of 8 months. I loved him too, very much. I still do, but differently now b/c he broke up w/ me b/c of distance. I only wanted us to break up if it was what he wanted b/c i was sure of how I felt. I was afraid of falling hard for him b/c of it being long distance and I told myself that Lord willing I would only fall in love w/ the man I'm going to marry. Well, I don't know if that's the case in his and I's situation, but things didn't go according to plan. I know what you mean by that...he'll let you know when things are getting more tough or more worth it. You'll be able to tell, I was. Trust how you feel, and believe me, he'll let you know somehow someway how he feels about your relationship. I hope I helped. Good luck.
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okay i have this guy friend that i'm really close to. were always playing w/each other but is it flirting? like today on IM he said "omg you looked so HOT today! j/p" and i said "yeah you too ;-)" but i mean is he flirting w/me??? were pretty open w/each other and everything. but he asked my bff out and she turned him down and i don't think he's quite over her... is this flirting? thanks (link)
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it is flirting it sounds like, but that doesn't always mean that a guy has feelings for you like that. I have a really awesome "big bro" that I flirt w/ online and stuff all the time but i KNOW he doesn't have feelings for me that way, it's just fun. If he was really interested, he'd probably ask you to hang out and look you in the eye and stuff. I hope I helped.
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Fellow atheists: I have a friend who is a militant Christian, meaning, she thinks it's her job to convert everyone who isn't Christian into one, including me. She knows I'm atheist, but it really bothers me when she tells me that I'm going to hell for not believing in Christian ways. I've told her many times that I don't believe in a god, afterlife, or book of worship. Yet, she still has the nerve to constantly bring up "god" and how I NEED to be a Christian. Other than that, she's cool. Are there any ideas on how to get through to her that I really don't want her help when it comes to religion? I'm going to snap if she comments to me one more time. (link)
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I am a Christian, so I can see where your friend is coming from. Her beliefs in God and wanting to see you become a Christian, she has the best for you at heart. I don't know why you don't believe in God or details or anything. Just realize your friend just cares about you a lot. Keep reminding yourself of that. And who knows maybe one day, you'll change your mind, as of right now you may say no...that will NEVER in a life time happen, but just think, many ppl say that and then it happens. Good luck w/ your friend. That's a tough one.
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