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Torn
I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for over a year. Its a pretty special relationship to me. But, theres always these never ending problems that I can't fix anymore. There are times when he'll know that I need him, and he'll leave, not like I'll be crying and say, "I need you" I mean like, we'll have plans to meet online or something, and he'll go to his friends house. I'm usually always ok with him leaving to go to a friends house. But, we hardly got to talk last weekend and now this weekend we never talked, and now next weekend he'll be gone and he knew that he would be. We always have problems where he'll be gone, or just a silly issue will happen. I'd hate to sound like one of those desperate girls, but hes different. He isn't the type to just leave me like that, he feels really bad when he forgets something or did something wrong, yet it keeps happening, and I'm the only one to always think of a solution to fix us, well, this time I decided to make him think, and hes saying we should break up for now. We have recently taken a lot of breaks to help us, we started with taking the whole weekend away, and then we moved on to a week and a half, and here we are stuck again. I have never been so terrified in my life about this relationship failing. I guess I need to know if breaking up for now was the right thing, or if we should be doing something we havn't already done. I think there is something inside of him wanting to work this out, but something else forgets. I'm really open to any answers, I just need help, I'm really depressed. What would be the best solution to you?
I'll be sure to rate, but I hope I get true answers.
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Well obviously if he's alwayz leaving and you guyz never talk or something like that there is something wrong. I don't think you guyz breaking up would be the right thing because normally when couples break up they start not talking to eachother for a long time because u just broke up! So no it was not the right thing and you should have or should call him and talk to him about you and his relationship and try to solve the problems that you and he are having. I know how long distance relationships are im in one right now. Get back to me
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From my experience, it sounds like things are very slowly fading away, but hes too nice a guy to just come out and tell you.
Long distance relationships are hard, and being 15 suggests that you both have a few good years ahead of you for meeting new people.
Why dont you wait and see if he makes any moves, as far as trying to contact you, and see if "absense does make the heart grow fonder".
If his calls get less and less, then youll know what youve probably been sensing since the break up.
When guys are the ones that want the so-called "break", it means they cant tell you the real reason, for fear of hurting the 1 they loved for so long. (If they still love you)
Things are happening for a reason, and its something that can be helped, but he chooses not to.
All you need to do is take a look at your relationship and how it was in the beginning to how it is now. The signs are all there.
Talk to him about it and tell him how youre really feeling. Try and get him to open up to you.
Good Luck!
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Dear Torn,
What you have to do is give him a second chance becuase he may have a lot going on in his life. So you need to be there so support him with all that is going on. Take my advice and give him another chance set up a special date or something go hang out at the movies or at the mall. But make sure that it is just you and him and ask him why he hasn't been talking to you that much. Make sure you give him a reason to why you want to know whats been going on. Tell him you are concerned and want your relationship to last.
Sencerely,
Volleyball
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To me the best solution would be that you too give each other some time to see if you too really want to continue with the relationship,get your ideas straight,clear to avoid confusion on how you too feel about each other.If you too see that you too can't live apart of each other then one of you might as well tell the other that you care,want to keep the relationship.A year of boyfriend,girlfriend is a long time,I like that you are always doing what you can to save your relationship,you have nothing to regret,and if he is the one for you go after him, and tell him everything that you feel about him.Teens go through depression but most of us know how to deal with it on our own or find someone close for support,comfort,and help so you might as well do the same.
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I know what you are feeling. I was in a long distance relationship last year for a while and it was also my longest relationship. Our only form of communication for a while was AIM, then he was able to use his cell cause of his plan, and then I got a cell. He became really busy and didn't call ( I couldn't call him cause I didn't have a cell phone yet), and once we didn't talk for a month and it was rough for me. I didn't think he liked me anymore and when I finally got ahold of a cell and called him, we were fine. Eventually however, we broke up, but he's still one of those people I can come to if I have a problem. It was really rough on me for a while after we broke up b/c he was my first love, but it gradually got easier and now I am in another relationship, and the first guy is still a great friend to me. Maybe things will turn out different for you, and you two will get back together. Keep a friendship though, that's important. Don't worry about the little things, you can't change a guy. I really hope things work out for you, don't let a guy get you down, b/c friendship generally lasts longer than relationships anyway. Be okay w/ the break up for now...this is for the best at this moment and maybe you will miss each other too much and get back together. Good luck, and I hope I helped.
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well i think that he is seeing someone else and he's trying to stay with you ,this way he would feel better about himself
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