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Im 17 f. So theres this guy, lets call him joe. joe and i was having sex since november. we both are in a relationship with some one else. Even though i know that joe is a dog and is only using me for sex i cant leave him alone. I hate that i keep having sex with him, i really want to stop. I know im not insecure so what could be the reason why i allow this boy to treat me like im nothing? (link)
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Because maybe your not getting good enough sex for your own relationship. You should talk to you boyfriend and maybe if he realises how you feel you could talk about it. then you wouldn't have to put up with this gut treating you like crap. Tell this guy your not going to see him again, talk to your boyfriend, if he refuses to talk about it or things just don't work even if he tries, maybe you'll both need to see someone , break up, or even try and spice up your sex life with different things.
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Iss it possible for your Mind not to listen to what your hearts says. I go out with this boy currently and im in love. && Here is another boy i used to go out with my mind wants to be with my ex. But my heart wants to be with current boyfriend. It gets so confusing at times. So is this possible ? I wonder !
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no, but you just miss your ex. In your heart you love your boyfriend, but just miss your ex's company. you tricked yourself into loving your ex maybee. Spend more time with your ex as a friend good luck xx
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After 12 years, I finally want to tell my doctor that I'm depressed and that I REALLY need some help.
BUT, I don't want to play the blame game here, But here are I few things that ran across my mind:
SHouldn't he have had a BIT of a hint? I mean, I see him like 6 times a year! But maybe that's not enough? Maybe it's MY responsibility to let him know. But is it my fault that I can't because he makes me wait in the sitting room for 2 hours (and I'm angry by that time) and then when I'm in there he tries to let me out in 1 minute and doens't ask me anything?
What do you think? And I live in Canada so I don't think I can "go see a different doctor" because there's some very complicated stuff going on like I'm not allowed to see other doctors if I already have one (or maybe it's something THEY made up! Well, probably nto because if I see another doctor, my doctor gets some of his pay docked off by the government. But that's his fault because he isn't doing his job thoroughly, which is why some patients MIGHT be seeing other doctors). (link)
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I live in england and my doctor is exactly the same and dentist. I had a wonky bottom set of teeth and my dentist didn't reccomend me to anything, just ignored it. Until I mentitoned that I didn't like it she reffered me to a brace person. thats what you need to do tell your doctor you really think your depresed and need something to get you out of your slump. If you only see him 1 minute six times a year make it count and say how you really feel don't hold back. Lay it on thick,tell him how dpressing and upset your life can get and your a bit annoyed no one acted to deal with it sooner. Good luck x let me know how it goes.
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I know most people might say no, men shouldn't hit a woman back. But I think that if a woman thinks shes big enough to hit a man she should be hit back. I think that a man should only hit a woman in self defense. There are women out there that hit men when they get mad over something stupid and expect not to get hit back and sometimes they try to fight the man, while they expect him to do nothing but walk away. Im a woman and I think that if a woman hits a man she should be hit back. Just like if a man hits a woman for no reason she should hit him back. Im not saying that a woman should be beaten by a man though. Ive seen women hit men, bite scratch,threaten with a knife and chunk stuff at them. The man is supposed to sit there and take that? Most women arent as weak as people think they are.
Just wondering to see people's opinions...
If a man doesnt hit a woman back after she hits him, the next time they argue, she will try to fight and hit him, some women are vicious catty fighters..Im not saying she she get beaten
If a woman doesnt want to get hit by a man like Mike tyson, then she shouldnt hit him because shes mad, or over something stupid.
I'm a woman lol, just asking.
My cousin used to hit her ex. and he would never hit her back. the one time he did though, she never hit him again after that. Shes Grown up since then. If I was a man, I would treat her the same way as I would treat a man who comes up to me and hits me, I do not practice gender discrimination. but the point is everyone deserves to learn that lesson if theyre askin for it. Im not saying men should beat women, Im just saying she should get hit back.everyone who believes in genuine equality and responsibility should agree..
Men: if she comes up to you and hits you multiple times are you going to hit her back? cause that would be self-defense right? for someone strong like her
Women: Do you think if that woman attacked a man he has the right to hit her back? (link)
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ok, thinking it may be a man who wrote this, I agree men can do things in self defence, not hit. Men have bigger hands and are phyically usually stronger, so it can do worse damage. A gentle push or grab shouldn't hurt a woman, but do the job. However, very few women are violent, most only on drink, this shouldn't be a big problem for anyone.
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My period ended 3 days before schedual. I have stomach pains. Light headed every time I walk around. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex two weeks ago. Saying all this, could i possibly be pregnant? How would I tell my mom? I'm only 16. (link)
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ASAP get a pregnancy test, check it. don't let on to your mom until you know it for definate and tell your boyfriend as soon as you've taken the test the result. If you are don't worry tell your mom and see what she says, but tell her your sorry for not being careful enough and even though you know shes mad its up to you to think things through for a bit. Then leave the room, avoid her for the night and let her cool off. Then talk to her the next day and think things thorugh with her suppourt hoping your not so all will be ok x good luck
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The thing is ive been trying to set him and my best friend up. Shes like inlove with him. Well i ended up falling for him and he fell for me. i feel awful for doing this to her. Its not like i ment to i was seriously telling him all about her and how much she likes him. Then one day he told me he has something to tell me, i gave him my number. Te texted me and told me he likes me. Thats when i realized i liked him. So somehow my best friend found out and shes too nice. I really like him but im afriad to go any further with him because what happend. He told me he loves me, i havent said it back yet. I know i love him. He has come to my house and i haven't told my friend anything cause i dont want to make her sad. I kneed to know if my happyness and lovelife is worth it. She said she was okay and shes happy for us, but i dont know.. (link)
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I had this exact problem, so when i dated her crush she got revenge and dated mine. We were never the same after. Be careful, date this boy if you like but don't fall out over him its better neither of you had him then you not be friends. Tell your best mate you think he's falling for you too and make a pact to let him decide by himself in his own time and neither one of your is to be mean or get jelous towards the other.
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what does it mean if a boy who is a friend or an ex bf finds exuses to be around u like to come over and hang out? and if he always stares at your breast and likes to pick u up all the time and play with you hands. (link)
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if your sure that swhat hes doing she's right he has a crush on you ask him out trust me he won't say no :)
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I have a boyfriend and I have a guy friend. I have been friends with this guy since we were in second grade and we talk about everything. I talk to my boyfriend about things too, but I talk to my friend about a lot and I feel more comfortable talking to him. My boyfriend said that its cheating because I talk to my guy friend when Im having problems with my bf or something else, I also hang out with him, but we have never done anything. I have never dated my friend and we have never liked eachother. We are like brother and sister and I love hanging out with him, but people say thats cheating. We talk, go out and play fight. We have never kissed or anything. One time my boyfriend got mad because I said I was worried about my friend and I kinda took care of him when he got into a fight, he got hit in the face with something and he had broken bones in his face and the doctors couldnt do anything for free, he was in pain so I stayed with him for a few days, to take care of him and then my bf accuses me of cheating. Is this cheating? (link)
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no, of course not. Everyone thinks cheating is different. some think spending time with people is cheating, some think kissing or having sex is cheating. It all depends. It sounds to me like you boy friend is turning into a bit of a jelous person. He probably wants you to be more open with him and gets upset when your open with your best friend. Tell him you and your friend have only a sister brother relationship, Say I don't like having to say this buy it's up to me who I tell what to. If you have friend who is a girl to confide in I wouldn't get jealous. Explain to him in your mind its ok to have friends of the opposite sex. Just think if he tells you not to speak to your best friend it could just be the beginning of a possesive and controlling relationship. He thinks if he tells you to do something and you do it, how many more things can he contradict on. Tell him to be more open with you and get him to accept that he is jealous, but that is not going to stop you being friends with this guy. Try to tell him more things about your life then he won't feel as jelous and left out. Try spending a little more time with him and that should stop him being jelous, but don't jump to his commands. Be who you are and speak and see who you like when you like
good luck xxx
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I Need Extra Cash &&& I Was Thinking About Babysitting. Where Do I Start Or Is Thier Any Websites For Babysitters. Help Me. Any Ideas ! (link)
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My boyfriend and I were going through a rough period. He started talking to my best friend on msn and they had a very very flirtatious conversation including them discussing having sex, him telling her her naked body would turn him on, her dancing naked would be hot etc. He asked her intimate and leading questions. He hid this from me and she told me, I confronted him and he'd deleted the chat log, but I made him recover it and it's disgusting. Is this cheating? (link)
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well, yeah of course it is. Not physically, but if he was there with her think would he have actually acted on his words. You can mentally cheat and hurt people too. This guy is not to be trusted, love. You need to think about what could happen later on in life, the next time you are going through a rough patch what will happen then? I'm all for second chances but he even hid it from you. If it weren't for your friend telling you would he have made it into an affair? trust me you wouldn't want to grow old, or have kids someday with a guy who cheats at every chance, just because your relationships a bit rocky. He'd keep it from you and hurt you even more. Uslally I would say give him another chance, but because he didn't come to you straight away it seems like he's the guy to cheat again. Its your choice but if it urt you so much this time, think about how it could destroy you next time. x Good luck.
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Okay well, i have a boyfriend, Name is John. And im loosing feelings for him, and im starting to get feelings for this guy Chance. I know, break up with John.
Yeah, well its not that simple. Me and john are VERY close, AND weve spent a year and two months on each other. And i just dont wanna hurt him.
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god that must be hard to deal with. Are you entirely sure your not just getting bored of john in a romatic way and loking elsewhere? Maybe you should try and explain to john that unless you two spice up your relationship it will have to come to an end. theres no point in trying to love someone you have little or no feeling for. Make sure you know his feelings for you too and that he knows you would still be very close friends even if it did come to an end. If he still does love you try not to force him into friendship it could confuse him and make it hard for him to talk to you about things. Maybe you both just need a clean break, yknow see other people for a while, even try a date with chance. If you can't stop thinking about him during the break you know it was a mistake and you do love him. then its up to you to tell him and explain good luck x
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I just turned 18 and i've never had a boyfriend.. i've had casual hook ups/kissed guys but its so pointless unless you actually like the person. even though i try to go out with a positive attitude/smile on my face in clubs my friends seem to get approached more by guys and have more opportunities to meet them than i do.. this starts to fuck with your self esteem after a while and u lose confidence around boys, and ive questioned if there's something wrong with me.. alot my friends have said they don't understand why i don't get any guys because they say i'm attractive and outgoing/genuine person.. (just so you know im not a dropkick and thats not the reason why im still single). im also a bit of an 'all or nothing' person.. there seems to be so many dropkick guys out there... and not enough of the good ones.. and when the good ones do come along.. they dont seem to be interested.. or i just act really awkward around the ones i like.. its like a lose lose situation with me gaaah.. any advice.. or do you know why i don't seem to attract many of the RIGHT guys, while alot of my friends do ? (link)
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I am exactly the same I know what you mean. you start to think am I unattractive, how come they get all the guys and I get none. None of them pay much attention to me unless theyre flirting. trust me is dosen't last forever when you start to be happy with who you are and not fishing for guys just having a good time thats when they notice your smile and good look on life and ask you out trust me it'll all work out for you in the end.
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Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom? (link)
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Okay first, tell your ex that Alyssa is at a cross roads and feels like shes choosing between her mom and her dad. Thats not fair. Ask her to give Alyssa a year or two to thik about it properly, or at least get her bearings and then she cna have her. Explain your not necessarily against it and wuld love for alyssa to be able to see her mom more if it made her happy but say moving in is a big step and she needs more time to think. If Alyssa is truly adamant she wnats to live her mom suppourt her, and she'll love you no matter what. If things go pear shaped with her mom she knows where to find you, shes a big girl, reassure her your there for her if she needs someone ot talk to and a bed will always be open at your home for her. you have no real reason to think alyssas mom is unable to be a good mom now, just warn alyssa not to listen to too much rubbish and try and put it all behind her. tell alyssas mom, you'll be happy to let her stya just din't fill her head wiht false detail and ensure she will allow you to see alysaa whenever you like. Good luck. Its the kids choice but make sure your there for her no matter what and give her a year or two to think about it fully. Even a few months or weeks will do. It s abig step. good luck x
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I feel like all my friends are boys...because they basically are. I do have some girl friends, but 90% of the time I'm just texting a bunch of guys, and I'll hang with only guys alot. I'm a girl, and I am pretty and blonde and guys tend to like me alot. I've been told guys just want to get in my pants, but alot of them seem to be great friends to me.
My problem is that at social events, guys seem to HAVE to be with guys, and girls seems to HAVE to be with girls in one big clump. I feel left out there because I'm not friends with too many girls, and i can't be with my guys because they are with all the other guys.
All the girls like me, were friendly and all, but i really dont have anything to talk to them about. but i just hate feeling left out.
I'm not really sure what to do, because girls are tough to become friends with.
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Maybe you could try and make friends with maybe 2 or 3 girls and leave the rest. It sounds to me like you just dnt feel like you want or need to make girl friends. Make some, just tp hang around with. Talk to your guys as you do and just go with the girls when the splitting happens. Yo0ur fine to be mates with guys don't let anyone put you down for it. Go with the guys if you'd rather, its where your comfortable and clearly your not a tomboy just a very pretty and comfortable girl.
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im 14 female and i liked this guy who was 16. the whole story is really complicated but we were flirting a lot and i liked him but i was deciding whether to date him or not. i vented my problems to my friend and she talked to him and told him it might be best if me and him stay friends. i was really pissed of at her and then he called me and said we should be friends. i was sort of ok with that but now i feel like half depressed. i only smile when i talk on the phone with my friends. i feel like crying but i've already cried too much and i don't want to. i feel really tired too but i don't know what to do? am i depressed? (link)
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Okay for all you know your friend may have said to him, for you to be mates trying to help you, thinking its whats best for you, even though its not what you want. Talk to the guy say its a shame yknow that we can't be together I was kinda falling for you. See what he says back i kow it can be scary to say something so out there but maybe he think you want to be friends and is really gutted inside too, but too scared to say, or do anything about it. your not depressed love, just heartbroken. It will happen many times. If he says no or you don't text him its okay. kepp venting to friends and family and you'll get over him soon x
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So I joined 'twitter' about a year ago. I joined a thing called "Fake Life." Its where you make an account as a "fake celeb" and roleplayed with others. I started to talk to this boy,Forest, and we became best friends then started to date(fake life boyfriend.) Six months later and we are still talking and getting to know eachother in Real Life. I know where he lives, what he looks like, what his family look like, his dogs name, where he goes to school and he knows the same about me. One of his friends who also have a "fake life" account told me Forest loves me. When Forest got on, I confessed that I loved him too and we were happy. But he said we could never date in real life because of the distance.I live in Iowa and hes in California. I was hurt but it was true. But after that he confessed he hated every single boy in Iowa cause they have more of a chance to be with me then him. I told him thats not true. We want to meet in real life so badly but I cant afford a trip. I really want to tell my parents about it cause they could help but they could also get angry and keep us apart. I really want to know how I should tell them.
I know this may seem wrong but I dont care.
Please help me and Im sorry if this is confusing, its just been bugging me.
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okay firstly tell them its a close friendship. Bring them along with you because he could be anyone and have him meet you at the airport. tell them you like him a lot, and would like to see him even if its just as friends. I know you like him and probably want to go alone or with a friend, but he truly could be anyone and your mom and dad knowing this would never let you go alone or with a mate. Take them and then spend time with him alone for a while. Good luck. P>S If it helps let them see you chatting to him over this website your using it will reassure them your being careful about what you say and that you have a close bond with this guy. It could help them see, if this guy is who he says he is, that your friends and know each other well.
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20F. I'm going to come out and say this, if you're just going to criticize me for wanting to have fun with a guy, don't even bother I just need advice on how to make this situation happen!
So a few weekends ago I hooked up with this guy Nick, we didn't have sex he basically only fingered me and we made out ..for a long time. Anyways the time we were texting he forgot to save my number because he had been drinking but I still have his.
I had a good time last time we hooked up, pleased me like no other haha but thats not the point. My parents are leaving this coming week, and I'm going to have some people over and I definitely want him to come. I never usually text guys first, I'm too scared of rejection, who isn't? But would it be weird to say something like: Hey Nick it's Linds i'm having people over you should come!
But what if he can't? I want him to know that I wanna have fun with him again, if you know what I mean. I just feel stupid texting him first, and he doesn't have my number since he forgot to save it which is even worse. Last night he texted my friend telling her to come to a party and to bring me but we couldn't! :( so I'm sure he would wanna see me but whats a good way to go about this situation?? (link)
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Shound like he wants to see you too hes proably being beating himslef up for not saving your number. You should text him ans ay come and hang out, but make it sound like he should and not you asking him too much. If he wnats to see you too, its because he likes you and will not just reject you without a real reason. Just say he should copme not will he. nad if he says yeah i should say do then good luck x
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Okay so i just started a new job this is my second week and well long story but this lady told me this guy at work thought i was cute which i thought he was cute also so he found out i said he was cute and well weve been talking at work and he asked for my number and he said he called my phone well i work with him tomorrow and that was 3 days ago when we last worked that he asked for my number and we havent text/call each other since,so i was wondering did he want me to text or call him first since he called my phone to send me his number or was he supposed to call or text me first? im so confused what does this mean? lol so confused thanks! (link)
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Just don't worry too much about it. He probably won't! Just etxt him sometimes saying hey you ok wuu2, trust me maybe he expected a text back but he won't feel so hurt if its just because you didn't think to.
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This girl I met this year in school seemed really cool abd funny. So we started talking and hung out a few tines. She said she wasn't friends with any girls because she doesn't like drama & she doesn't go many places because of drama.
I had like ten friends over and she was one of them and she could not get into group conversation. Someone would be telling a story and she'd interrupt Abd try to have a seperate conversation. She was kind of awkward at this get together. Then the things she says are kind of rude. She wanted to go to this concert and asked ne to go, it was a band I did not like and it was also on my 18th birthday. I was like I can't go it's on my birthday and were going away for the entire day. She said something like "I can't believe your not fucking going with ne I can't find anyone else to go with me I can't believe your not going thanks a lot" I was like geez calm down. I just found that really rude. And then I just got a puppy and I texted " hey what are you doing tomorrow let's hang out you can see mally" she responded back "lol ummmm idk..come over see mally and then leave" like what the heck. And I sent that to two other people and they understood what i said any everything. So what should I do? Say something? Stop talking to her? What would I say? (link)
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okay i'm gunna explain things to you so you can decide for yourself what to do, then i'll tell you what I'd do.
She felt awkward at your party because she probably isn't used to being around lots of people, like you said she only has a few friends. She probably interrupts because she dosen't like people talking about stories she wasn't there for, because she feels left out and trust me no girl likes that. you said shes kinda rude, maybe she's just trying to flirt but isn't very good at it yet, try telling her shes a bit full on sometimes. she was being funny with texts because she probably has a problem with the amount of time she stays at your house. Maybe she feels you don't see her enough or don't have her around enough. Maybe she wnated to make a day out with you and your puppy. I think she likes to feel even though she has no friends she still gets asked out places, shes trying to force you into asking her to go places. She was upset about the concert probz because you didn't invite he ron your birthday day out so she organised this concert thing hoping you'd cancel everything to go with her, pushed the boat out by asking you for once which sounds like she never does ask other to do things with her and then when you cancelled on her she got mad and felt insecure.
your choice either deicde its okay she canet upset if I turn her down as long as I ask her to places as well we'll be ok.
Or think, shes too insecure for me do I really want her abusive texts everytime I turn her down and I don't really want to fee like I have to ask her everywhere just so she feels included.
Try and include her more, if you keep her, but if I were you think carefully cuz something defo needs saying. Explain to her that you don't have to ask her to go places and do things with her just to prove that you love/like her. Say you like her because she is different not the other way around and say you'd like it if she could just try and be calmer with you and explain things when she gets mad wiht you good luck .
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i got something in the mail a few weeks ago from american eagle, adn it was a card that said i could get 15 dollars off a 30 dollar purchase, and i also got a coupon in my serventeen magazine for a 20 percent off. would american eagle take both of those at once? or would i have to come back for a second turn? (link)
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look on the back it should probably say not to be used in connection with other cupons. I would probably say not. Look at all the money they'd lose out on. Take it as not but ask in store just incase. If its on the internet ask in the help box.
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