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there really isn't much you can say to shock me. i've seen and heard a lot, so if you need help, don't be afraid to ask anything. i'm amazing at answering anything to do with sex.. so ask away =)

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ok well one of my boobs is bigger than the other and i herd thats normal when your developing but in one of my boobs i have like a lump its kinda big and like not too bit but like hard and soft in some spots, my friend says its just because im developing, is that true?

yes one of your breasts can be larger than the other. if it's a huge difference, you might not grow out of it. if it's only a slight difference then they will even out by your 20's. the lump is most likely not cancerous but go see a doctor to make sure. you can do a self breast exam for the meantime :)

site for the self exam:
http://www.breastcancer.org/dia_detec_exam_5step.html

site for information:
http://www.breastcancer.org/dia_detec_exam_idx.html

are you a girl?? cuz this sortof a girl question..im just wonderin?

if you'd simply check my column you'd see that i am indeed a girl. i shouldn't even justify this stupid question with an answer though.

Okay so this December everything was fine. My friends and I were set for prom:
Alan and Alex are dating
Alan and Seth and Jake are best friends
Alex and Aly and Lara and I are best friends
Seth and Jake had dates but Lara, Aly and I didn't and that was fine because there are ten of us in a limo and a table and we made up 9 people.
In December, Alex and Lara had a falling out and we backed up Alex because Lara was clearly lying and being a bitch. So she was out of our group. Now we were worried cuz we had to find dates.
Now Alex is acting weird, apparently she's having "family problems" that she won't tell us about and she's becoming distant from us (we barely talk) and she's taking Alan with her (we hang out with him more than her)
Now Alan and Jake had a fight so Jake doesn't know if he wants to go to Prom with Alan.
Today I found out (from someone else) that Seth has booked his limo with another group!
What the hell are we going to do? Aly and I are messed up, we're afraid to ask Alan and Alex if they're coming with us in case they change their minds.
The way this is going, it'll be me and Aly in a limo for ten and sitting at our Prom table alone. Everyone we know is already into their table/limo arrangments and we're leaving on a month-long school trip to Peru on Friday so when we get back in April, there will only be a month till Prom and everyone will be sorted already.
Aly is sick of it and she's calling the limo company right now to book a limo because she said that they all said they were coming with us and if she books the limo, they'll have to stick to their word.
Now they only talked about the limo, not the prom. So even if we book the limo, we'll still be at a table of ten with four people. What are we supposed to do? This is humiliating!

i'm really wondering why the heck you typed all of that. only one other person has answered, and i feel bad for you. plans change, friendships change, everything changes. i'm extremely particular about having plans as well, but it seems like you and your friend just need to drive or get a ride with a parent. that may sound lame, but so does having a limo for yourselves. there's no sense in trying to fix everything and making people friends again, people have falling outs and that's just high school drama. change the seating arrangements to four people, and then stop worrying about it.

i was going to the bathroom and i looked at my underwear and there was bright yellow & light yellow stuff on it .. i know what discharge is and i usally have that but this is different .. what is it?

13/f

yellow discharge is a sign of a yeast infection, so talk to one of your parents about seeing a doctor about it. don't worry. here's a site that should help you out! http://www.msu.edu/~eisthen/yeast/symptom.html

14/f. My boyfriend just turned 17. I am a virgin, he isn't. He's had sex with 2 people. We have been together for probably about 4 months. He respects me and I know he loves me and always wants to spend time with me. I know that he wants to have sex but tries his best to repect what I want. I sort of want to have sex, I know he loves me and cares about me. But there is another guy who I talked to before I knew him and he was in love with me. For some reason I stopped talking to him. And I'm just confused about what I want. Please give me advice, and when you have sex, do you immediately start to bleed your first time? and how much? I will rate.

i was in your situation. after 4 months, i decided to have sex with my boyfriend that had just turned 17 (i was also 14- a month before 15). we've been together for over a year, so i don't see it as a mistake, but you seem to be a little unsure about it. and once you have sex, yes, you immediately start to bleed. it depends on the girl if it's a lot, but usually it's not an overwhelming amount. barely a trickle. :) if you want sex advice, or anything else on the matter since i was once in your situation, don't be afraid to ask me! i love helping people especially when i know quite a bit about the subject!

I have this not-so-close friend who usually makes up lies to defend herself. She comes from a really protective family... So one example would be "No...I don't really wanna watch that movie" when it's obvious that she's not allowed. Anyway, one day she was talking about how she got her period when she was supposed to go swimming so everyone was like "tampon...duh" & she said it's some kind of "genetic" thing where she can't put one in. Her family is religious (strong catholics...so is everyone else that was sitting there) so I want to know if such a thing exists or if she's just covering up for her not being allowed to use them. thanks!

yes, there is such a thing that can prevent her from using tampons. but why are you so involved with this, if you say she's a "not-so-close" friend? it's really her business, and i don't think you should be mean about it. she could have a deformity. look at this site and maybe you'll be a bit nicer!!! http://www.healthystrokes.com/hymengallery.html

if "it's not like you really want to know what's going on with her.." you just want to know if she's lying again..? why? so you can embarass her and catch her in a lie? if she doesn't have anything preventing her from using tampons, she could just be scared. and if her parents won't let her watch a movie, maybe she'd just rather say she doesn't want to watch it so she doesn't have to explain it.

I want to get my teeth whitened at Brite Smile but I can't find any websites that tell me how much it costs. I guess it's the "If you have to ask, then you can't afford it." thing, but anyways, anyone who can tell me how much it'll cost tell me please!!!

all you have to do is go to this website: http://www.britesmile.com/learn/price.asp?tf=0&pc=

then go to "book an appointment" (yes even if you aren't going to) to find out the price.
enter your zipcode and a random date, then pick one of the appointments they give you. after that, they'll show you how much it will cost. they only reason they give you a number to call is because it's more expensive in different locations.

we had sex on sat. we didnt use a condom, my seaman did not go into her. can she still be pregnant??? help asap thanx

it's semen, NOT seaman, and even if it didn't get into her, your pre-ejaculate ("pre-cum") did. yes, she can still be pregnant. i'd suggest taking a home pregnancy test, but those are only good for after you missed your period.

okay so im a girl. 16 years old. and ive had my period for quite a few years. but i was just wondering if..
1) my breasts have stopped growing already and 2) lately i have had the constant urge to pee and even after i go i feel like i have to again...i was just wondering what it meant or what i can do about it.
3)if it is normal for a girl to day dream about having sex with her crush?

Thanks for all your help!

1) your breasts don't stop growing until you are around 22. (a girl just asked this question in the 'sex' topic so go check out the answers)

2) i have this too, my mom is a nurse and she doesn't want to say that it's overactive bladder, because i don't have accidents or anything. she's not really sure what it is, and i was going to go to a doctor about it but then i went to the overactive bladder website and i don't want to go through all of that just to find out.
http://www.urologychannel.com/bladdercontrol/index.shtml

3) it's extremely normal for a girl to day dream about having sex with her crush. blame your hormones. it's okay to masturbate too.

if you have anymore questions, don't be afraid to ask me. :)

my body has been itching like alot... first it will start on one of my arms and ill scratch!!i just got my nails done so it helps alot!! first off let me say i dont have poison ivy or anything else from outside or anything.... so anyways ill scratch it and it will burn a little for like a couple seconds and then ill have to scratch it again!! now thats just on my arm and then ill scratch my thigh and it will do the same then it was on my face,hands,legs! its like the same feeling every time!! i dont know what this is or what is causing it.... most importantly you have to know im not elergic to ANYTHING! and i dont do drugs! none what do ever!

does anyone know what this could be and how i make it stop its not all the time but its most the time!!

thanx i rate 5's for good answers

http://www.skincarephysicians.com/eczemanet/whatis.html

sounds like eczema. try putting lotion on it as much as possible. especially right after a hot shower or bath, so it locks in the moisture and stays that way for longer.

talk to your parents about seeing a doctor, because they'll have better suggestions than us!

My sore throat is really bothering me and can anyone tell me what type of remedy works really well for a sore throat?

i know this sounds really really weird, but you have to try it. my mom is a nurse and every time i get sick she makes me do it. it's called 'the lion'. you just stick your tongue out as far as it can possibly go, to the point of you almost gagging, because it increases the blood flow to your throat. that means that it can heal itself faster. also, if your parents will let you, gargle with blackberry brandy. it burns a whole lot and doesn't taste awesome, but it kills the bacteria in your throat and makes it go away faster. it's like.. the better version of gargling with salt water.

I was at this dance last night and all of a sudden there were like five guys staring at my ass, and trying to look up my skirt. They were also touching my butt. What does this mean? What do they want? Do they like me?

they want sex. they want to see up your skirt. that's simply all it means. they are guys, guys do things like that, especially if they're horny.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We were eachothers' firsts. We have only had sex a handful of times, and its not anything amazing. Neither of us can 'get it'. He either gets too exhausted or we just give up. We've tried different positions and places, but it doesn't seem to work. When we fool around, its great. Its better than intercourse at this point, but I want having sex to be good. We love eachother and this isnt going to break us up, but it breaks my heart knowing that we aren't enjoying something that is suppose to be so sacred and passionate. I have no idea how long to wait or what to do, neither of us do. So if you have any suggestions on what to do, I'd really appreciate it. Even some kind words to make me feel better. I just don't know what to think. Please help us.

cheer up! it's your first experience with sex, it's not going to be amazing!! it's usually only that way in movies. first times are awkward, you don't know where to put your hands, what to say, if you should say anything, if you should make noises, if you should fake anything, it's so confusing. really, don't feel bad. with two unexperienced people, it's going to be kind of sucky until you figure it out!
one of the main problems people have in bed is letting go of your inhibitions. you just have to please yourself. if you make a noise, that's fine. it'll probably turn him on! just don't worry about how technical it is and what positions to try, just DO IT. why do you think fooling around is better at this point? is it more passionate, is there mystery to it? try to apply whatever it is to sex.
you need to find out what you like. do you like it hard and rough, or do you like it slow? experiment with the "doggy" position, because it allows the guy to go deeper at different tempos. tell him how you like it! put some pillows under your belly if you need it, or have your elbows down like you're praying. usually at this angle, it triggers the g-spot, and if you hit that, your orgasm will be awesome. and chances are if he feels that warmth of being so deep, he'll finish too. orgasming at the same time isn't any more special, it's just convenient.
if you've ever experiemented with yourself, then you know where to put your hands, etc. show him this!! and also while in missionary, if you have a free hand, stimulate your clitoris. he'll be amazed that you are so comfortable with him to touch yourself. and lastly, just because i have to, use a condom and be safe. but have FUN :) if you need any more advice, i don't care how weird or embarrassing it is, ask me!

Guys and girls if you can answer this. What is your favorite kind of underwear on a girl and why?

http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=UK-190039&page=1&cgname=OSPTYTGSZZZ&rfnbr=2633

the pink ones are the ones i'm talking about.
but.. don't get anything that's super hard to take off, because usually if the guy is seeing you in your underwear, they are coming off eventually. i have this pair in black and my boyfriend loves them, and they are stretchy and comfortable. :)

female 16

Im barely a size B and am not very happy with that.

How do I know if my boobs have stopped growing and will stay this size forever?
How do I know if they are still growing?
Any way to get implants at this age?
Any way to make them appear bigger (No stuffing please :)
Please and Thank You.

first off, be happy that you have smaller breasts. i'm almost a D, and i'm just 15 and i really hate it.

1) your boobs don't stop growing until you're around 22.
2) read above. they are. you just can't see the difference overnight.
3) it depends on what state you live in, and you must have your parents consent. my friend's mom got implants, and now that she's older, they are hard. that's the problem with fake breasts. they get hard, and they can leak into your body and cause MAJOR problems..
4) try a wonderbra. they have water-filled bras that feel exactly like real breasts. that's not going to help you when you have your shirt off, or are in a bikini though, so you might want to get used to them and love them!

Is it true that guys don't really like hand jobs? And that everytime they get a girl to give them a handjob, they are really just looking for a way to convince the girl to give him a blow job? (if that makes sense)

blowjobs are so much better for guys, because with handjobs, they know exactly how they like it. (thanks to masturbation) you won't be able to do it as well as they can.

I'm 17 and a junior in highschool. I'm 5'8", and I weigh 95 pounds. My doctor thinks I'm becoming anorexic, but I disgaree. I eat everything, and I certainly don't starve myself. I play soccer, lacrosse, hockey, and track, so that's the main reason I weigh so little. What can I do to convince everyone that I'm not anorexic? What should I do about my weight?

Wow, you are seriously skinny! Your BMI is 14.4 which means you are extremely underweight. Do you have a menstrual cycle at all? Usually girls with low body mass indexes don't have a period. Since you are so active, you burn off all of your calories. After you work out, try drinking a protein shake (Shaklee has great ones). This will help you build muscle mass, but you should really just talk to your doctor about things you should try to gain weight. I used to have eating disorders, and i know many girls that are still struggling with them never get down to your size.
Try writing down everything you eat between doctor visits, and show him what you've eaten. Get one of your parents to sign it or something, and hopefully he'll believe you. As for the teenagers, there isn't really a way to prove you're not anorexic. People spread rumors all the time, you just have to ignore them.
This site may help you with gaining weight.. or you could go to google or another search engine and tpye in "start gaining weight"

http://www.musclesurf.com/howtogainwei.html

15/m ....i am about to go a little further with my girlfriend ....and i was wondering if most guys shave their pubic hair or not...?

most guys i know do shave, but some guys just trim it. talk to your girlfriend about what she prefers. =) have fun!

if you have sex when you are on your period will the guy's penis be bloody? and can i still get pregnant?

Yes, and yes. Most guys prefer not to have sex with a girl when she's on her period.

im 13 and i got my period a week before my 12th birthday. my boobs didnt grow at all before that and they are supposed to grow dramatically and then still havent grown much at all im like a 32A and its been a year and 2 months since ive gotten my period..is somethign wrong or are my boobs just enver going to grow?

every girl's breasts grow at different rates. they usually don't stop growing until you are 22. i'm 15 and a D cup, and my friend (15 also) is an A cup so that just goes to show that every girl is different and you should learn to be happy with what you have :)

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