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When will it feel good?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We were eachothers' firsts. We have only had sex a handful of times, and its not anything amazing. Neither of us can 'get it'. He either gets too exhausted or we just give up. We've tried different positions and places, but it doesn't seem to work. When we fool around, its great. Its better than intercourse at this point, but I want having sex to be good. We love eachother and this isnt going to break us up, but it breaks my heart knowing that we aren't enjoying something that is suppose to be so sacred and passionate. I have no idea how long to wait or what to do, neither of us do. So if you have any suggestions on what to do, I'd really appreciate it. Even some kind words to make me feel better. I just don't know what to think. Please help us.
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hi there i read your question and wow it sounds so much like me, my boyfriend and i have been together for about 4 years now and our sex life is wonderful i have an orgasm just about all the time we do it, and how, this is how a few tips for you k... well i like being on top not on the bed or anything cuz thats hard but if he lays straight on the floor with a pillow on his head and you sit on top of his penis you have full advantage on how fast and how deep it goes and that rocks!! and i love going fast to get a great pace due to the movement and position my clit gets very much attention and next thing i know i'm orgasming.
also another one in the missionary position put a few pillows under your bottom and i like to rub myself while he's doing his thing and last week i found that my hands were a bit chilly but the nice cold pressure on my g-spot was great i've never orgasmed like that and wow am i glad i tried that!! try these techniques some day you'll be glad you did. i know i am
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this sounds realllly gay.
but maybe you should look around on
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sounds really lame but the site is almost all about sex. so just read up!
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cheer up! it's your first experience with sex, it's not going to be amazing!! it's usually only that way in movies. first times are awkward, you don't know where to put your hands, what to say, if you should say anything, if you should make noises, if you should fake anything, it's so confusing. really, don't feel bad. with two unexperienced people, it's going to be kind of sucky until you figure it out!
one of the main problems people have in bed is letting go of your inhibitions. you just have to please yourself. if you make a noise, that's fine. it'll probably turn him on! just don't worry about how technical it is and what positions to try, just DO IT. why do you think fooling around is better at this point? is it more passionate, is there mystery to it? try to apply whatever it is to sex.
you need to find out what you like. do you like it hard and rough, or do you like it slow? experiment with the "doggy" position, because it allows the guy to go deeper at different tempos. tell him how you like it! put some pillows under your belly if you need it, or have your elbows down like you're praying. usually at this angle, it triggers the g-spot, and if you hit that, your orgasm will be awesome. and chances are if he feels that warmth of being so deep, he'll finish too. orgasming at the same time isn't any more special, it's just convenient.
if you've ever experiemented with yourself, then you know where to put your hands, etc. show him this!! and also while in missionary, if you have a free hand, stimulate your clitoris. he'll be amazed that you are so comfortable with him to touch yourself. and lastly, just because i have to, use a condom and be safe. but have FUN :) if you need any more advice, i don't care how weird or embarrassing it is, ask me!
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