I showed my friend how to use this website and how to become a columnist, b/c i thot that she'd be awful at it. But now ppl are asking her direct questions and not me. And i dont want to be jealous, but i'm the first one who was here and now she's taking my place. What should i do?
tell your friend how you feel. it was kind of mean of you to do that because your motive was that you thought she would suck... ur kind of being just as bad a friend as her, so the best thing is to ignore it and get over it and get a life outside of advicenators.com.
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Hey guys,
I was sleeping over my friends house the other day and we snuck out around 12 to hang with these guys. The next day one of them asked my friend on the phone if I would hook-up with someone just for the hell of it without going out with them. (assuming he wanted to hook up with me) I told my friend that it all depends, like if we hooked up and then went out. Because I believe strongly in hooking up with someone you like and then go out with them instead of hook-up and forget it ever happened. And now he thinks I am just a little prude. And the night before he was all sweet and everything and respected my point of views.
How do I handle this??
xo0x HoW xo0x
tell him he's a two-faced jackass and he can fuck himself if he doesn't respect your decision.
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does anyone know some cool places to shop for jeans? i've been looking for some but everywhere i go they're either too expensive or not my taste.
well JC Penny has good jeans/pants.
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Ok hi my name is ashlee and im 13 years old. Anyways I really would like to wear makeup and stuff like that but i have a little acne. Its going away now because I just started using my acne medication right. Bad on my part I know. Wouldnt it look bad if there was like little bumps in the makeup though? What is the best foundation or powder that wont cause you to break out? Also, I've noticed alot of people having Coach bags and Gucci bags and dont they cost alot of money? Is there like some place where they dont cost alot that I dont know about? Thanks. Also I would like an honest opinion. I will rate high if I feel that you have tried.
Okay, trust me... you will look a whole lot better with foundation and concealer... I went through the same thing when I was 12.
okay... a good cheap foundation that doesn't cause oil/breaking out is:
Cover Girl oil-free "Clean Make-up"
if you don't buy that brand, I suggest a liquid foundation and make sure that it says somewhere on it that it is non-polygenic? or oil-free or clean.
- don't forget to test out your foundation to make sure it is the right shade and that you aren't allergic to it. I suggest taking your mother with you to help you pick out the right one, - mothers know best.
- as for concealer, that helps to hide redness/discoloring and bumps.
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okay...all my friends tell me that i'm turning punk little by little...and most of my friends are punk. i listen to punk and am starting to dress punk too. if i totally change my style over christmas break do u think that the people in my school will call me a poser? i'm 13/f in 8th grade. thx...*changing*
I went through the same thing. They might. But, most likely... you should just do it little by little over the year to avoid it. Then over the summer, buy a whole bunch of stuff from Hot Topic and Spencers. It's better to do it over the summer because everyone goes through major changes in that time and when you are in high school you'll meet new people who will think you always dressed 'punk'. If you really like punk so much, just try acting more weird/punk and that way people will just think your clothes match your attitude/personality.
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I want to get rid of the hair on my upper lip. I don't want to get it professionally done, I want to do it myself. What should I try to remove it (I don't want to use a razor).
you can pluck it with tweezers, but that hurts.
or you can buy a "wax" or "no-razor hair removal" thingy... those work. Other than that razors work fine and if you use them gently, you won't leave red marks or bumps.
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what are some good eyeshadow colors for someone with green eyes?
purple and black oh and if you have dark eyes... light blue, if you have light eyes-- dark blue.
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k, i'm 5'4", 116 pounds, long brown hair to the bottom of my back, greenish eyes, long legs, and i'm wondering what would be some make up/fashion styles be for me. i have really fair skin if that helps any, i'd just like some tips to look cuter/hotter/whatever
please and thank you
Cut your hair to a little bit past shoulder length. wear some eyeliner. wear tight jeans. if you have light green eyes... wear dark purple eyeshadow, if you have dark green... wear light purple. Red might work too... but it would look christmas-y. Black, blue, and green clothes will probably look best on you. And don't forget jewlery/accesories... Hot Topic, Spencers, and Claires have the best ones. good luck! :)
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ok..this question is kinda stupid but i was wondering if anybody knew how to make holes in jeans that look like they were made like that thnx!..i rate
just cut random slashes across! jeans with holes come in every style, so no matter how you do it it will look like it came that way.
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Hey guys. I'm 14 and I am dying to see the movie Thirteen. I've read the script and I've seen almost every clip there is to see on the internet! The movie is rated R though. I'm pretty sure I can convince my mom to let me see it, but she'd want to see it too.. and the movie has parts where Tracey cuts herself. I cut myself also, and I do not want her to catch on about my self injuries until I'm ready to tell her. Any ideas on what I should do?
maybe watch it at a friends house or get a 17-year-old friend to get it for you or... wear a long sleeve shirt while your watching it with your mom. or maybe tell your mom its a stupid teen movie and she probably won't like it.
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I am a 13 year old girl. I have a really good guy friend who is also 13. i am starting to develop stronger feelings for him everyday. I drop hints alot, but he just acts like nothing happened most of time. Other times he will flirt back. A few days ago he put his arm around my waist but I don't know if it was a friendly gesture, or if its because he likes me. We have a really close friendship and don't want to ruin that. Should I keep on flirting, or just be firends? If he does like me, what are the hints I should be looking for?
sounds like he likes you.
when he puts his arm arounds you... wants to hug you more often, you find him looking in your eyes more often or catch him staring at you... if he even seems a little awkward toward you... if he compliments you even the slightest...
Just keep being his friend... a good friend, but at the same time flirt harder! :) He'll trust you as a friend and like you as a girlfriend and probably ask you out. If your a good girlfriend and he breaks up with you, you'll probably end up being friends again afterwards... so go for it.
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ok... our school is one of 2 high schools in the district... and srry if this is long.. but.. the other one had a "silently loud" protest the other day b/c the principle said they couldn't wear white, black, or pink t-shirts anymore... and the guys had to cut their hair... and the no one can wear black makeup....... like eyeshadow, lipstick, etc..... and now they wanna do that to our school... we are havin a protest on monday and everyone.. well.. mostly everyone.. is wearin black... everything black...... is there any other way to get them to realize that we mean buisness.???? thnx much.... i rate.. InsaneSanityBabi
Take it to f***ing court! They can't do that!
You have the right to protest, you have the right to freedom of speech. You have the right to wear whatever clothes you want.
They are taking dress code way too far!
If you have to, go to the extremes.
Get people to sign petitions.
Hold "sit ins" and "walk outs". Get as many adults in your community involved as you can. Go to school every day dressed in full black, with extreme black eyeliner and eyeshadow and lipstick! IF they tell you not to, get a large group of friends to do it to.
Make picket signs and hold protests. Go to the mayor, go to the governor, go to court! Get your local news paper and/or tv news to put you on air... and maybe get a group of people to go streaking! Fight for your rights! And please... tell me your location... I'd love to help out any way I can. I happen to be a goth/punk and though I"m rebellious... they are breaking the law and violating your rights!
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If I start exercising almost every morning for 30-60 minutes by walking and I start doing Pilates and also start eating healthy, how long do you think it will take to lose some weight and get skinnier? Thanks!! :)
Oh not very long at all. But you do have to be patient... don't give up after two weeks, results can be slow. But definitely have vigorous excecise daily until you "feel the burn" and cut out fatty/sugary foods, greasy foods, and "junk food" and you will lose wait and tone up nicely. :)
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When you are a new mom, but are used to having tons of friends back in the high school days which aren't so long ago, and all your friends have all been gone for a year since the baby, and you have no way of locating old friends, how do you find new ones? My life consists of like the grociery store, and Wal-Mart, will I ever have a life again? I'm so confused, I used to have SO MANY friends, guys and girls, and they've all just fallen into the black hole in the earth. Can other moms relate, and even though I love time with my child, I can't help but remember and long for those days of talking to people my age, besides family. How can I befriend other moms my age without looking weird?
OH hun don't feel bad. So many moms go through that.
You have to search... there are groups for moms.
Try church, even if you aren't religious, they have special groups for women and mothers that are very fun and insightful and really bring something new to lives.
Try doing community service or volunteering... you'll meet new people and feel better.
The gym/recreational center is often a place to meet other people. If you think that I could help you, email me your interests, age, location, and some other similar information and I could possibly find the right place for you to make friends. Good luck :)
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I joined the army to make a life for my then girlfriend, now fiance. She has always resented the fact that I made the decision to enlist and leave home. It's now been almost a year and I have only seen her a few times since leaving. I miss her and I think it could have been a mistake joining even though it has created a way for us to get married. I am not happy without her and the long distance is wearing on me. How do i make myself happy without her?
I understand your situation - my sister is going through the same thing. Write her letters daily. Get out of the army after your service is finished. Definitely listen to music... (rock)music can sometime block out depressing thoughts. And write a journal... it gets your feelings out. Other than that just pray. Pray that God will watch over you and your girlfriend and that all will go well. :) Good luck in your relationship.
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How old do you have to be to give up on finding a girl friend. The reason I ask is that im 24 ill be 25 next may and ive never had a girlfriend or been in a serious relationship, I Know im not ugly and I can send you a pic to prove it, and most of the time i can talk to girls just fine, but it always ends up the same for me, they always say that im a real nice guy and that one day ill find the right girl for me and then the dreaded "LETS JUST BE FRIENDS".
I just dont understand what im doing wrong. and when i think about it it makes me real mad, that
there's girls out there with boyfriends that beat them, abuse them both phisicaly and mentaly,
they cheat on them and treat them like crap, but when asked why the girl stays whith him the anwser is always "cause I love Him". Life is just so f*cked up, how can guys that treat their girl like shes lower than crap get so much love, but a guy like me that alwas treats women with respect and is always nice and honest and caring
have to feel like hes going to be alone forever?
Ive had sex, but it was always one night satands and its not about sex. its about love, I want to love some one, life is just so empty and meaningless when you dont have anyone to sahre it with.
Now im getting to the point where the girls i meet are close to my age and want someone with experiance, witch i dont have.
So i figured if by the time i turn 25 i dont have a girlfriend i should just give up and not waste anybodys time.
what do you think?
I really understand your situation.
You know what you need?
Change! You'll never be happy doing the same thing.
Try moving out of your area. Or try visiting other towns. Go on dating websites and fill out a profile. And maybe learn to play guitar/drums... girls dig musicians. Ask your "hooked up friends" how it happened, what turns them on, etc.
Try getting a piercing/tatoo, changing your hairstyle or clothes, etc. And maybe go out all over town... go to every club, bar, mall, movies... you're bound to meet someone. And go somewhere you're likely to find someone like you. If you love music... try to meet someone at a concert. And if you think you might be lacking in conversation, just invite a girl to something she's interested in... like the movies or the beach.
hope i helped any. good luck! oh and never give up on love...
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okay there is this girl named Tessie and she is supposedly one of my best friends! well everytime I try to plan something with tessie she always says that she can't do and always seems to have an excuse! what should i do? is she really my friend? she seems to think we are but i don't believe that she is telling me the truth!! i think she is using me What is ur opinion on this??
sounds like she's using you or messing with you. Just ask her straight up. If she is... beat her up. lol jp. if she isn't but she treats you like that, she might have a real reason/a secret that she can't tell you. so ask her to be honest and tell u what's going on.
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I have dating issues to start off and am very picky about who I go out with. My most recent boyfriend and I broke up about 9 months ago. It was difficult to deal with. Now he's engaged, this is a trend for my ex's. All of them are either engaged or married by now. I'm 22, but I tend to date guys at least 5 years older than me. SO...one of the reasons why I broke up with him before was that I fell in love with my best friend. I've told my best friend and he's said he likes me too, however, we are incredibly close and risking our friendship is a horrible thing. I've moved on more or less and have dated quite a few guys since. None interest me as much as my best friend, but that's life. Now I'm dating two guys, both are nice and intelligent and have good stable jobs, one is a stock broker, the other an engineer. However, the engineer, who is my age, is probably one of the most boring guys I've ever met. His idea of a "wild" night was going to a party at a friends house and then some woman danced on the table. That was the craziest night of his life. That same night, I had been partying and dancing on tables at one bar (It was Halloween, so there were parties everywhere) and then I drove to another city and continued the partying there, where I ended up meeting up with the other guy, the stock broker and we ended up doing some pretty bad things on the hood of his car in a parking lot that just so happened to have security cameras. The next day I spoke to the engineer boy about his wild night and I couldn't help but be annoyed with him. I know he's a great guy and he said he's crazy about me and knows I'm a bit wild, but hopes it'll rub off on him a bit. THe other guy, obviously is wild like me, but that's not necessarily a good thing. He's assured me he's trustworthy and isn't dating anyone else, and I have told him about the other guy. So do I go for the safe, yet boring guy or the wild one??? Ideally I'd rather lose the two of them and get with my best friend, but that isn't happening. :) Sorry this is so long. I babble a lot. I think maybe I'm just totally insane.
The wild guy. He's more like you. He's more interesting and overall you'll be happier with him. IF you end up really liking him, he'll like you too and he won't date someone else. But I still think you should sit down with your friend tell him how you feel and ask him if he wants to date... cuz it sure as hell sounds like you belong with him... *ah love*
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is it alright to date a guy that is 3 to 4 year younger than you?
if you are 15 or younger... not really. I mean no one can stop you but if you are 14 and up, dating older guys is normal. They are more mature in many ways and understand more. If you really think you like the guy... just "try him out". No harm done, right?
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I've already asked this but didn't know how to ask everyone. I'm male, 25. I've been going through a very stressful time with my job and family recently - I got laid off despite excellent qualifications, because they have outsourced to Canada, and was quite severely depressed. I am introspective, and don't have many friends, but value the ones I do very deeply. Anyway, I rather stupidly decided that I would be jealous of my friends' families, and their lives generally, being so much better than my own. In a moment of despair I told some of my very best friends (some of who I fancy majorly, but that's another matter!! LOL) that I never wanted to see them again. I swallowed my pride a few days later and apologized, but I don't know if they'll ever truly forgive me. I don't even know what I'm asking advice for... Maybe how do I broaden my friendship circle so I'm not so dependent on these few, given how shy and reticent I am? Or how do I stop myself reacting angrily under extreme stress? I just feel so lonely sometimes, I don't know what to do. I know I need a more positive outlook but what possible reason do I have?
I understand... I've gone throught the same thing. There are so many things you can do.
1. Ignore the shitty advice some people here will give you... they don't understand your situation.
2. You probably need Zoloft or other medication. Talk to your doctor about your problems with social interactions and depression. It can help you be happy and be yourself and make more friends.
3. Start writing a journal... you can get out your feelings and learn from your mistakes.
4. Get a punching bag, join a karate class, join a kickboxing class, etc... that relieves stress.
5. Join a yoga class or go to a spa and get a massage. You definitely need to relax and go on a mini vacation.
6. Look at your options. Plan out a couple things. Try something new. And maybe look for a different job.
7. Go to a club - plenty of people to meet there.
or try a bar - a couple of drinks in you system can loosen you up.
8. Tell your friends the straight up truth and apologize. But then forget it and act normal, because if you make it a big deal, so will they.
9. Get a hobby! Learn an instrument, play a sport, go to the beach, start painting/drawing, join a club, or start volunteering. This will help you get your mind off of your problems and not feel like a loser.
10. Compliment someone else... help someone else out, help the environment, volunteer, do community service... do something for some one... This will help you feel good about yourself and raise your self esteem.
11. Try something new. Get a new hair cut, wear a different style of clothes, get a piercing. Trust me, this will attract attention and help you to get over your low self esteem and shyness.
Well... if you have any questions or comments just hit me back! :) Good luck to you!
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