I have dating issues to start off and am very picky about who I go out with. My most recent boyfriend and I broke up about 9 months ago. It was difficult to deal with. Now he's engaged, this is a trend for my ex's. All of them are either engaged or married by now. I'm 22, but I tend to date guys at least 5 years older than me. SO...one of the reasons why I broke up with him before was that I fell in love with my best friend. I've told my best friend and he's said he likes me too, however, we are incredibly close and risking our friendship is a horrible thing. I've moved on more or less and have dated quite a few guys since. None interest me as much as my best friend, but that's life. Now I'm dating two guys, both are nice and intelligent and have good stable jobs, one is a stock broker, the other an engineer. However, the engineer, who is my age, is probably one of the most boring guys I've ever met. His idea of a "wild" night was going to a party at a friends house and then some woman danced on the table. That was the craziest night of his life. That same night, I had been partying and dancing on tables at one bar (It was Halloween, so there were parties everywhere) and then I drove to another city and continued the partying there, where I ended up meeting up with the other guy, the stock broker and we ended up doing some pretty bad things on the hood of his car in a parking lot that just so happened to have security cameras. The next day I spoke to the engineer boy about his wild night and I couldn't help but be annoyed with him. I know he's a great guy and he said he's crazy about me and knows I'm a bit wild, but hopes it'll rub off on him a bit. THe other guy, obviously is wild like me, but that's not necessarily a good thing. He's assured me he's trustworthy and isn't dating anyone else, and I have told him about the other guy. So do I go for the safe, yet boring guy or the wild one??? Ideally I'd rather lose the two of them and get with my best friend, but that isn't happening. :) Sorry this is so long. I babble a lot. I think maybe I'm just totally insane.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? eycandy answered Monday February 7 2005, 4:25 pm: Hi this story was my life 3 months ago right down to the engineer, actually he goes to school for it now, but my best friend and I really like eachother alot and we took that chance and made love it confused things for a while and we eventually broke up cause he still had feelings for his ex. But after a month or so he called me and we started talking again we are just as close as ever. I think we will be together eventually sorry wondered off. but seriously dump the nerd he cand't give you what you want and need your still young and man our own ages don't get it i to date 5-10 years older than me i'm 22. goolluck [ eycandy's advice column | Ask eycandy A Question ]
MedicatedSanity answered Friday November 12 2004, 8:24 pm: The wild guy. He's more like you. He's more interesting and overall you'll be happier with him. IF you end up really liking him, he'll like you too and he won't date someone else. But I still think you should sit down with your friend tell him how you feel and ask him if he wants to date... cuz it sure as hell sounds like you belong with him... *ah love* [ MedicatedSanity's advice column | Ask MedicatedSanity A Question ]
xokaylanicoleox answered Monday November 8 2004, 5:35 pm: Wow, that is a lot, but I'll still give you my opinion. I think you should go for the party guy. You will always have time to go for boring guys, but your still young and full of life. Definitely go for the party guy that's like you. You will most likely have a lot more fun with him! -Kayla [ xokaylanicoleox's advice column | Ask xokaylanicoleox A Question ]
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