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Hi, My name is Bailey. I am 15, and I know that is young, but I think I can offer good advice, or at least try my hardest.


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Yesarday my ex bf went to a basketball game at my school.
And everyone was was saying,that i was talking shit about him.
The preps and stuff.
But i dont talk to them!
So now he wont talk to me at all,and he got a new gf.
I started to cry,because i never did that and i never would.
I like him to much.
So yesarday i told his friend,his friend likes me.
And i was kinda starting to like him.
And then last night,he started to hold me and touch me.
And now he wants to screw me.
But now,im like confused.
Whats wrong with me?
help

Ummmm wow...so I hope I understand this ok enough to answer the question...

So your ex...forget about him, if he is going to believe what they say then just forget about him..he is not even worth it...

And about his friend...that is good you like him, I think you should try and get with him...but I don't recommend "screwing" so maybe if that is what he wants you should just stay away from him...

But I don't see how you would think there is anything wrong with you from all of this...

Well I hope I gave you the answer that you were looking for...if you need anything drop it in my inbox...

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There's this guy who goes to my school, and over Christmas break he started messaging me on MySpace saying he thought I was pretty and asking who I liked and that kind of thing. I told him my friend liked him, so I couldn't like him, and said it would be better to be friends. He agreed, and we haven't really talked since. Now, I think I'm beginning to like him, and I don't know what to do since I declined him better. What do I do?

I think you should start talking to him again, start up with good communication and go from there.

Then eventually just start hinting that you like him, and hopefully everything will work out!/

Good Luck!

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Hey, does anyone know where I can get a totally free ringtone? Is it possible to get a free ringtone? Haha, thanks.

I got a free ringtone once for winning a game...

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i met this girl on a school trip to another city. well we hung out a bit n danced a little n i think shes cute. well when i got back to my city all i knew about her was her name and that she went to a school near where i went to, cuz i forgot to ask for a number. well i asked a friend that goes to that school about her and turns out she lives down the street from him, so iono should i go visit? would that be stalkin? cuz i didnt mean to find out where she lived, i juss asked about her. would it be weird?


if it is weird wat else could i try, she dont have mysapce n other stuff

I think that would be fine to go and visit her...in fact I am sure she will feel flattered...it will not be stalking at all.

Well good luck with her!

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My boyfriend zach just broke up with me, and i really love him, and i need help to get over him!

-get rid of anything he has given to you
-get some friends together and do something to get your mind off of him
-do not try to contact him
-do not let him see that he has affected you at all
-talk to people you are close to about it
-try to find other guys to have crushes on just to get your mind off of Zach
-just keep yourself as busy as possible

Well I hope everything works out ok for you...if you need anything drop it in my inbox.

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So I don't waste up all of your time, I'll make it short. I went out with this guy in 6th grade. 6TH GRADE!! And I still like him. It was over a whole year ago!! And the sad thing is, i dumped him. I don't know if i want to still move on or not. Him and i dont talk or look at eachother in the halls. We had a random relationship for umm.....2 WEEKS! and that's it!! Why cant i move on? I need to like someone else! But how do i let go?

Hun, you're in seventh grade?...You have your whole entire life ahead of you, you have a million other boys you will meet and be able to go out with...

Stop stressing over this one boy...I mean you are just so young...just realize that you have so much opportunity out there for you and so you need to just forget about this boy.

I just can't stress enough that you are just yound and you have a bunch of guys ahead of you and there is not need to hang on to one boy...trust me I do know what I am talking about...

Well good luck with anything...if you ever need anything drop it in my inbox.

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i gave a guy my number a couple days ago, and he called that night, and the next two days. we have had a really good time talking. he said we should hang out today, and said he'd call around noon. he didnt call until 5'o clock and i didnt pick it up because i was kinda mad that he didnt call when he said he would. but really, i do want to talk to him. should i call him back or wait for him to call again?

Hey, I think that you should deffinately just give him a call back, because I am sure there was a good reason why he did not call you back...

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ok im in 8th grade and 13 years old...and ive had my eye on this girl since 5th grade...i gave her starbursts so she would get the point but she thought i was just being nice...shes falling out of a good relation ship thats dieing hard...and i was wondering...how long do you typically wait to ask out a girl, who's just getting out of a relationship...and she doesnt really care much for me annnnd to top it all off we dont go to the same school...but she's an amazing girl...13/m and i would prefer girls answering this Question

Well, it is good of you to consider that a girl actually needs time to get over a relationhip.

But I think that you need to get to know her more before you do anything.

Just talk to her, and connect with her befor you ask her out or anything.

Be there for her all of the time, and just be a good friend.

Once you guys get close you will just know when to ask her out....like it will just feel right.

Well best of luck with her, and if you need anything drop it in my inbox.

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K, i broke up with my girlfriend because i was confused, i had a lot going on at home (parents getting divorced, brother and sister fighting constantly) and im the oldest... so all the pressure falls on me... and so i couldnt handle it, i was confused, and for some reason my confusion went to my feelings for her.. and now (2 weeks later) i miss her tremendously.. one of my football coaches asked me if someone in my family has died because of how i have been acting... The truth is, ive been down cause of her, and i called her the other day to try to get her back, but she said she doesnt trust me, and i made a stupid promise to her that said "i will never hurt you" when in fact i did.. and right now it is killing me, when i talked to her she siad no... what can i do to get her back??

Sorry for the long question...thanks!

Awwww hunn, that must be really rough for you...I am sorry that is going on...

It sounds like what you need to do is maybe inviter her over and like go for a walk or go out and get some coffee, or just go someplace where you two can be alone and talk.

Just call her and tell her that there are a lot of things that you need to talk to her about, and that you are sincere.

When you two are together explain everything to her, don't leave anything out...girls like it when you tell them everything.

Tell her the only reason you hurt her was because you did not know how to handle your emotions with everything going on...and that you miss her a lot, and you care about her, and you are sorry you hurt her..

I realy hope she will agree to meet up with you and that she goes back with you....so good luck with everything..if you need anything drop it in my inbox.

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Well, I have a friend who has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend is a really good friend of mine, and she's a close friend of mine as well. I love them both, but I feel like I can't talk to him without her thinking that I like him. I've talked to her about it, and she says she's okay, but I can read her, and I can tell it's NOT okay.

And another thing is that when me and this boy talk online and she's on at the same time, I have the strangest feeling that he sends her our convos. I mean, they're nothing to get mad over, but it has a lot of ... provocative things in it.

Am I just being paranoid, or should I continue to talk to the boy as if nothing is wrong?

If you think that it is wrong, then stop talking to him.

I mean what do you mean by provocative things...? To me that does sound like something that she would get mad over..

You should try talking to this boy about it and see how he feels, and go from there...

Just use your best judgement on this..

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MY boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year, but for the last couple months we've been going out in secret while he rebuilds the friendships he lost. Innocent right? Not really.

Now, all he does is joke around about liking these other girls and then will be like "jk, i love you". He hurts me all the time. His myspace doesnt have one mention of me, his 'girlfriend' and 'best friend' but at least 5 things for this other girl. He wrote this poem to my other friend and now he's entering into a contest. He's always in a bad mood around me but act likes the perfect guy around everyone else. I understand he's trying to get his friends back, but I really want to be treated like I mean something to him. Online, he hardly talks to me! Sometimes 10 minutes will elapse before he'll say "ok" or "cool". I don't know what to do! The only time he acts like a real boyfriend is when we're hanging out just the two of us. He always sends me parts of conversations with other girls that I don't want to see and I tell him not to send it but he does anyways.
Am i just overreacting, or reading too much into it? I'm pretty sure he loves me, but all his 'jokes' about liking other girls is starting to make me question our relationship. I feel forgotten and talking to him about it makes everything worse. He just says I complain too much or im 'abusive'. I love him so much and I'm so confused! All the stuff he used to do to me he does for other people while i just stand on the sidelines being jealous.
Help!!

Reading this over i sound ridiculous but I'm really hurt and this whole this is both emotionally and physically draining.

Awww hun, sorry that you are dealing with that.

I really hate to tell you this but I think it will be best for you to just end the relationship.

It sounds like he has no idea what he wants, and that he is just not looking for a relationship right now.

So just end it with him, find a guy who will make you feel good, and you will be happy.

I know that made it sound pretty easy, and I know it won't be, but really I think you need to just end the relationship, and if after a while you still cannot get over him then maybe give him some time and then try going with him again.

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Ok, this may sound wierd but...I don't love my family. Yea...it's true. I find it so hard to realate and connect with them. We rarely communicate outside of yelling and complaining. I do want a family that I can come home to every day and feel comfortable with but...I don't think they're going to change. How do I make us closer? (13/f)

I am sorry that you feel that way but it is a thing most teenagers go through.

It sucks, I know...but really all you can do is just realize that they are your family and you cannot get a new one so you have to live with it.
Unless they are abusing you, but it doesn't sound like they are.

So really all you can do is just know that a lot of teenagers go through that, and you just need to know that really you do love your family, you are just going through a time of tryig to find yourself, and so you and your parents are going to run into some conflict.

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I know that when a girl first has sex, it [usually] hurts. So, are there any cons for the boys when they first have sex? Do any disadvantages come with it (pain, etc.)


thnx

Just awkwardness...but there is not any pain or anything for boys...lucky them...

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I have liked a boy in my maths set for ages, but he doesnt even know I am alive. Me and a good mate joke around he calls me his little goth even though I am not one...this boy aloneg with some of the others in the class have started calling me thier little baby goth as well...at first I thought he realised how I felt by the sweet way he acts with me but he doesnt. He just says hey baby G and leaves me alone. My friend asked me if I wanted to go shopping with him tomorrow and that the guy I liked was going to be there...I havent answered yet, should I go and get to know him better or go like him even more and face rejection? (I know he likes someone else) PLEASE HELP I AM SO STUCK!!!

I think that you should deffinatley just go... you wil probably feel a lot better if you do go, then if you don't.

Because if you don't go you will probably end up thinking a lot of "what if's" and why do that when you could have just gone...

So I hope you go and have a good time!

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Theres this guy that I really like and my best friend just dumped him, and now she has a new boyfriend and I really want to go out with her ex. I know she wouldnt care if I did she knows that I like him but I don't know if he likes me, my friends ex really loved her too but i dont know if he likes me, he said that I was pretty but I don't know how he feels about me. I'm so confused, does he like me?

You should probably just try to talk to him more, and flirt with him to see how he reacts.

Just don't go up to him and be like oh my god I like you lets go out...just start out by talking to him and try to get closer to him.

Then eventually you should be able to tell if he likes you or not...

Good Luck.

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okay so its been a over a year and a half and im still having flashbacks about when i was raped at a party and they dont seem to be getting any better. i think in the past week i've had all my teachers come up to me and ask whats wrong and some even went as far as to tell the guidance department. my friends have also been telling me that i have been "zoning out" and i dont hear a word that they say to me. i mean im not trying to look upset (in fact im trying to look happy) but its just so hard with the rape like repeating over and over again in my head. i cant sleep anymore and im even starting to fail some subjects in school. i thought that it was supossed to get better since its been so long but it seems like its getting worse. maybe im just over reacting and should just try somehow to get over it already but its just so hard to forget. i dunno?

whats should i do to try t get rid of these especially during school
thanks

ps. im already in counseling.

Hey,
I am sorry that happened to you...but I know how you feel...I was raped over the summer and I have extremely horrible flashbacks...and they are horrible, and you probably know what I am talking about.

I am also seeing a councelor,and we are trying to work through it...and she told me that really the only way that I could get the flashbacks to go away is to work through it..through couceling and just talking about it.

The main thing really is to just talk about it, because I had never told anyone until about 2 months ago, and before I told anyone I was having more intense and more numerous flashbacks, but when I started talking and thinking about what happened things really started to cool down a bit.

Really I think the only thing that you can do is just give it time and talk...just don't hold anything inside, just get it all out.

I know you probably know all of that, but I just figured maybe it would help to hear it from someone who is going through the same thing.

Well, I really hope things go better for you, and if you ever need anything just drop it in my inbox.

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I don't know what to do. my boyfriend is deeply in love with me, obsesses over me, gets jealous really easy, annoys me, talks about beating up guys that I talk to, and cries when we get in the littlest fights. I'm going through so much right now and i just want to break it off with him because my families going through problems and I don't need his problems and commitment on top of it. I just don't know what to do. HELP MEE!

Ok hun, first of all I am so sorry you are going through that....I went through that before for a year and a half...the worst times of my life...

You NEED to get out of that relationship. I didn't for the longest time and it has effected my life so negatively...please hun do yourself a favor and get out.

It is good that you realize that you need to get out of it...that is a really good thing to know...so yes, just break it off and things will be a lot easier for you...

I really hope everything goes well...and that you make the right decision..if you ever need anything drop it in my inbox.

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Im 13..i was rapped and i guess it put me into a totally different path. I got depression (it was a surprise to people) and then i got into a huge fight and broke this girls arm and got sent to juvey..i got out like a month ago and my parents hate me. my dad relates me to my cracked-out brother who is in jail. he thinks im nothing..im thinking about leaving.like perminatly..

Ok, well I happen to be in a similar situation.

I was in an abusive relationship for a year and a half and finally broke it off over the summer.

A week after I broke it off I was raped.

In November I tried to kill myself, and got sent to a pyschiatric hospital.

Found an amazing boyfriend.

Ran away from home with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago.

He is in a hospital almost got sent to juvy, and I am at home miserable and my mom told me she wanted me dead and that she would never consider me her daughter again.


Ok there is a brief summmary of what has been going on with me.

I happened to have gotten depression about 2 years ago, so it was not caused by my rape, but my depression caught everyone completlty off guard. I was always the smiling happy girl who everyone went to when they needed to be cheered up.

Well that all changed...I was depressed, and I was cutting and I was in an extrememly abusive relationship.

So they took me to a shitty councelor and put me on antidepressants,and that worked for a little bit.

Then over the summer many many bad things happen that I will just let you imagine what they were and I was raped, well that just completely fucked me up.

In November I tried to kill myself and was put into a hospital for 2 and a half weeks. But found myself an amazing boyfriend when I got out.

Well I have been dating him since then but his mom does not want him dating so we ran away two weeks ago.

Well we just got caught by the cops 3 days ago, and I was almost sent to juvey and so was he, but they decided that we were more mentally disabled so they decided not to send us to juvey.

So my whole point is with all of this is I know what I am talking about when I tell you what I am about to...

Suicide is not even close to being worth it, I have come close to death many times but not on purpose, but when I actually tried to kill myself it made me see in a whole different perspective.

When I got out of the hospital I was just going to try and kill myself again, but somehow I got lucky and met the most amazing person ever, my boyfriend.

I am not telling you that is going to happen to you, but when I thought the world was too horrible to even live for I came across something wonderful...I think you just need to give it time before you even think about suicide.

Now about running away, since I just did that I am going to tell you that it is not a good idea at all..

First of all they will find you, and then you will just get your ass put back in juvy and I am guessing you do not want that. Then your parents will treat you even worse than they probably do now.

My advice to you is to go to someone you can trust, and you need to get some professional help. And trust me it HELPS!!

I told you all about the shit in my life so maybe you will see that I understand and that I know what is going on with you.

About your parents, I am willing to bet that they don't hate you, they just are pretty pissed off. And I really really really am hoping that you are able to get some professional help...I think that will be the best thing you can do...

I am sooo sorry for how long this answer was, but if you ever need anything please drop it in my inbox...

Oh and by the way I am 15, so it is not like I am far from your age and don't know what you are going through...

I really hope everything goes well for you, and you make the right decisions.

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How do I get a boy to like me without really telling him I like him?

-flirt with him
-be nice to him
-be his friend
-act yourself aroundhim
-talk to him

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first of all is age 14 alright to be making out? but that's not as big a question as this...how far can you go before it is considered sex? like can the tops be off...but it still be making out?
i'll rate high thank you for anyone who answers!

Technically sex is defined as when a male's penis enters the female vagina, but many people interpret it differantly/

And about making out there is not age limit or certain time you should start, just when you feel like you are ready.

Like I said sex is different for anyone, so if you don't think that taking tops off is sex, then no it is not sex. And you can go to however far you want, until you feel like you are uncomfortable, or going too far, or you feel like whatever you are doing is considered sex to you.

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