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Q: What is something i can do to calm down. I am so worked up about everything all i can do is cry. Is there something else i can do besides cry?
please help me

Hey hun..

If you wana talk im here for you! sometimes thats the best thing someone can do..

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Q: ok i am not one of those girls who cares about there wieght but i was just wondering is 127 over wieght even if i am really really muscular and i am 5ft and 8in o and i am 13/f
i rate really high

ofcoarse not you are perfect for your hight

Q: just died. She was 23. Should I go to the funeral, or will it be too depressing?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I think you s hould go to the funeral. Its a way to tell yourself its ok she is moving on to a better place and you are saying its OK for her to be at peace.

Q: this is going to be my first valentines day with my very special boyfriend. he's not a romantic type of guy. he's in to rock music. This one band he likes released a new cd and i was wondering if that was a good gift for valentines day besides a valentines day card and rose?

I think thats a great gift! I think you should put a sticker heart on the plastic rapping on the cd.

Q: On friday there will be an all day party at my school *kind of like a pep rally day where all we do is relax n have fun* well at this party theres a dj n dancing, everyone gets verry into it with like freak dancing and stuff like that. also after school im going to another party at a friends house where the same thing will be taking place. my problem is im scared to dance with guys like i dunno if i can dance the right way or any of that and im scared to just for the fact of getting laughed or something. Any suggestions on how i culd go about dancing and havin fun? any other tips? THANKS A BUNCH!!

It's pretty simple. its all about your legs nd hips but sometimes running your fingers through your hair looks good to while your dancing.. its more sensual if you softly play witrh your hair.

Bend your legs a little and just move around with your hips (dont keep your legs locked in one place) and also dont move your hips to much.

Watch the other females around you dance and just try to learn what they are doing..

GOod luck nd have fun

Q: me and this guy friend of mine kinda had this fling going on recently, where we werent quite going out but we both liked eachother and knew it and acted like we went out it just wasnt offical. He lives like 30 minutes away, so thats why we werent official, we hadnt gotten a chance to go on a date yet. Anyways, last night i told him that i didnt want my firt real boyfriend to be someone i barely see. And i do like him and he told me he loved me, but when i told him he said he was thinking the same thing and thought it wasnt the right timing. So i guess what im asking is how can two people love eachother and just leave the relationship? And well he said everything will be fine and that we could always go out when the timing was better, but i cant help feeling really depressed and guilty and i dont know like im making a mistake. how am i sopposed act with him now? please help i rate high and im really confused!

hun think about it 30 minutes is not that far at all.. Ive had relationships with guys 45 mins to an hour away.. Just ask your parents for rides down there And him the same..

Tell him what you think.. it may just set off a lightswitch in his mind or he may be wondering the same thing..

if you really like him enough, distance nore time should get in the way

good luck

Q: I've been really good friends with this kid...Andy...for 5 years. We started having feelings for each other, and during the summer 2 years ago, we started dating. But at the end of the summer, I found out that we were moving, and so I moved to Ohio and he stayed in Michigan. We have really strong feelings for each other...we can't stop thinking about each other and we talk at least once a week on the phone. Whenenver I visit Michigan, we always hook up but of course, it can never last since I live out of state. Last year, he tried dating other people, but it never really worked cause I was the one he wanted. I also tried dating other people, and again, it wasn't the same. Our feelings for each other were just too strong. Lately, I've grown an interest in two guys...and I want to try dating them, but I don't want to hurt Andy. I could start dating other people...but the thing is--and i know how selfish this sounds--that would give Andy permission to date, and i don't want Andy to date other girls because there's a chance that he could feel just as strongly for them as he feels for me.

Things are so complicated--yet they could be so easy--but I'm not willing to let myself lose him. I could just stay with him...but what if we have to keep our relationshiop the way it is now? On the phone and on my few trips to Michigan?

Or if I do date, I could lose him to another girl.

I just love him too much to let him go.

Please help.

Well I honestly think you love him to death. Nd if I were you I wouldnt date because I wouldnt want to lose him. If I had any money I would give you money just so you could go down there to see him right now! I feel very badly for you

Q: I have two younger siblings. Some might say that I shoulk babysit them fir free, but I also cook, clean, and chase them around. I think I should get a little something. What do you think?

Even though you are there older sibling you are still in your teen years right? So you should be able to have free time with your friends. Which you cant when you are watching your siblings.

I deff. think you should aproach your parents about this and explain that you watch them clean cook etc. And that you would like to get some money doing this.

hope I helped

Q: how do you burn a CD off of limewire??? i really need help because i want to make a cd and i only have limewire soo help please thanks bunches

on most computors there is a program called record now. Just go to start then all programs and look for it.

Once you open it you can just drag the songs you want from limewire into the song list part of the program and make a wonderful cd!

it will all make sense once you open the program..

hope this helps a little..

Q: Hey does anyone know any good cookie recipies???

I know this is kinda a cheap answer ..

But on the back of most chocolete chip packeges there are a BUNCH of cookie recepies..

go to your grocery store and just take a look.. it might help..

(p.s I cant spell at all)

have a good one

Q: I feel really moronic asking this because it's stupid and one of those annoying Valentine's Day questions, but it would be really nice if someone could try to help. I'm 13 in the 7th grade and I've really liked this guy named Will for a long time. He's not quite a best friend, but a friend nevertheless. I was wondering whether on Valentine's Day it would be stodgy to send him a carnation (the school is selling carnations on Valentine's Day to donate money to child prostitutes in India) anonymously? I don't think he would laugh because he's a pretty romantic and sensitive guy himself. What do you think?

I deff think you should send it to him!!

but if you like him more then a friend i have an idea!

You should send him the carnation signed.. "your secret admirer.. If you are interested in knowing who i am email me at _____" and your email...

Then chat with him on the email slowllllly letting him know who you are.. nd seee if he is interested..

GOod luck and deff send the flower

Q: Im a christian.
But i feel like, i need to do something to make my prayers heard. Or something its really hard to explain, i almost feel like i have no connect with god.
How do i become a "better" christian?
i suppose thats what im asking.

This may not be the answer you are looking for but its the best i got..

for me sometimes it takes a really big cry for me to get out everything I want to say to god. and I have conversations some what even though I know I cant hear him that is how I feel he can hear me. I talk to my angels my gardians my loved ones that have passed and to god etc.

Just open your self up. Tell him what you want him to hear and make him hear it.

good luck hun..
I know I might not of helped..
but i tryd

Q: In your opinion (meaning that if you tell me what you think you'll get a 5), do you think that people should miss out on church in order to do yardwork, study for an exam, play in a soccer tournament, etc? I just want to know what qualifies as an acceptable excuse for not going to church. What other good reasons are there for missing church? -no I'm not trying to avoid going to church-

Thanks!

i think as long as you are staying intact with god or what ever morals you have and are going atleast every other week then its ok..

have fun doing what ever you chose to do.. just live life

Q: I know that 13-year-olds shouldn't be wearing a lot of makeup. Is colored lip gloss ok? (mine is dark purple)

ofcoarse its ok..

But i think you should try a light pink

or maybe even just a clear one

Q: does anyone know of a website that you can post your poems on and get feedback?

www.poetry.com is a pretty good sight

Umn no one else gave you that site so yeah w/e

Q: Ok.
So I have a best guy friend.
And we have always liked each other on and off, but lately we have been hanging out much more than usual. I think he is starting to like me again, I dont' want him to because things are going so well as best friends, and I like this other guy who likes me too. I don't know what to do. I am going over to his house tonight to watch a movie and I wish we could just be friends. I still want to hang out with him, and I don't really want to stop just because he likes me more than a friend. What should I do?

i think you should tell him straight out that you like another guy and you just want to be friends right now. That you could really use a good friend but you dont want him getting mad at you if you end up having a relationship with this other guy..

I know this doesnt seem like the easiest thing or right thing to do.. But it really is the best way to make sure he understands and be able to save your friendship with him..

I hope I helped

Q: alright it always seems that when my brother has friends over that im always home, because all my friends are busy and there is no one to talk to on the phone. Now his friends are really hot so i dont want them to think im a loser its just a cowinsdense (sp) that im home when he has his friends over, and no i dont do it on purpose. I try calling people to talk so i dont look like a dork but of course no one is home when i need them . What do around the house so they dont think im a loser? and i know like watching t.v or something but last time i did that one of his friends went " why is she sitting there watching tv"
ill rate high for ANYTHING.

AWw I wish I new you so I could help you more!

If worst comes to worst I think you should go for a walk and stay out for a while so it seems like your hangin out with someone =p.. I know that sounds boring but its better then looking stupid..

Or try making new friends especialy guyyys so that you can invite a guy over and your brothers friends will be like damnnn she popular with the guys..

its not much but i hope i helped

Q: you sound like nicole and i miss her since thats all rae talks about is how nicole and still have hope we can still be friends and memories jesus thats all she talks about nicole has this nicole did that JESE!!!!!!!!!!

Im sorry im not nicole hun

Q: Okay so I've had a cat for quite a while now and lately he has just been bugging me like crazy! He wont eat! No matter what kind of food we place in front of him he just leaves it and then complains some more...I just can't get my head around it and then my parents bug me for not taking good enough care of him. Any ideas on a kind of food he'll really like, and ways to make sure he eats it? (and shuts up?!)

Have you ever thought that maybe your cat is depressed? Im not trying to be silly but do you play with it... Maybe if you start playing with it and then start making up games for your cat to eat while playing with it it will eat..

It may sound strange but Im a big animal lover and i just want your cat to be healthy

Q: My mom has been smoking for a long time now. She smokes a pack a day and i want her to stop so she wont get cancer or anything. She says its really hard to stop and she already tried one of those stop smoking programs. How do i make her stop?

I dont think its impossible to make her stop smoking..

I think you should go up to her and tell her you really need to talk to her..

Tell her you are very worried and that you only get one mother

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I'm 17 years old and in the few years i've lived upon this earth I have been throug many and most things that are possible to happen. I wish to ilve my life helping others, this truly brings me happiness. Feel free to ask whatever you wish and ill do my best to satisfy yu with a decent answer.