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Q: waiting for change?

sitting waiting wishing - jack johnson
and
waiting - the red jumpsuit apparatus.

Q: 13/F Okay well I am with this AMAZING guy named "Stuart". He is sooo sweet and before we got together, we were best friends for about 9 months. Pretty much since I met him, we have had an instant connection like no other. I am closer to him than any other guy I have ever been with. He is just different, he makes me feel great. When I think about him or when im with him, I get goosebumps and butterflies and like this heartache runs from my neck all the way down to my feet. We can talk about ANYTHING and we are not afraid to be ourselves, we are practically best friends but just more flirty and stuff =P. Well that's enough talking about him. I am seriously always thinking about him, pretty much 24/7. Every time I think about him, I smile, everytime my phone goes off...I am wishing it's him. I am starting to think I am in love for the first time. But I have never been before so I am not sure what it feels like. Can any one try to explain what it feels like and if maybe I am?

And he already told me he is in love with me, I told him I might be too and kissed him (that was our first kiss together). What would be a cool way to tell him with out verbally saying it? Haha sorry, I have a probably with actually saying that kind of stuff =P

Thanks in advance!!
:D

if youre asking i your in love, that means your not. when youre in love with someone, you dont question it, you dont think twice.
its a natural feeling and cannot be forced and has to be recognized by oneself.
it could just be puppy love. you two sound really cute together, and you sound like you do love him, but you dont know if your in love with him.

the fact that you dont know, makes me think that you dont.
so, if you guys went out, maybe your love for him will blossom into something farther that just loving.

also, its perfectly natural to have little crushes on other people, as long as the feelings for them arent, and dont have to potential to be more than you have for "stuart" then theres nothing to worry about.

i think you should tell him that you love him, and you want to go out. plain and simple. dont say your in love. because your obviously not sure yet. but once your possitive, then you can tell him.

Q: does airsoft hurt?

only a bit, but in the rush of playing, you cant really feel it because of the adrenaline.

Q: I'm so sad to say that my boyfriend of six months and I are probably coming to an end. We fight so often now and things are just getting tough with us. But I have a big problem, he's a huge part of my life. He spends almost everyday with me, my mom is the one who takes him shopping when he needs new clothes, we even buy foods that only he likes to keep in our pantry for him. We're so close, I could never imagine having another relationship with a guy like the relationship him and I have.

I don't know how I could ever let go when the time comes. How should I deal with it?

you should try to talk to him about it, and stay friends after you breakup. try to make it mutual, and not end it in a fight.
just recently, my boyfriend of 3 months broke up with me, and he did it in a nice way, so we're still good friends. we talk on teh phone still, hang out. its like we're dating, but without the sexual stuff.

try and see if you can do something like that.
=]

Q: If leaving a tampon in for too long can cause TSS, then why cant pulling one tampon out, and then imediately putting another one in not cause TSS? It's essentially the same thing, isnt it?

no, tss is an infection.
if you leave on in, then the blood/ urine on it will get old. and will sstart to grow bacteria and stuff.
but if you put a new one in, then its clean.

Q: what is beer pong?

there are different styles, but its when you have a ping pong table, and you have glasses/ cups of beer somewhere on teh table, both sides matching.

if you hit the oposing teams glass, they have to drink half of it. if you get the ball in the glass, they have to drink the whole thing.

when one sides beer is all gone, then the other side wins.

Q: if i were to purchase an anti-nazi t-shirt, and wore it out, would i get dirty looks off people? like in the street, from ordinary people, not nazi's?

probably not..i dont think people who werent nazis would be affended that you dont like nazis.

Q: Okay so my 2 friends *girls* told me that theyve kissed before.. and then one of them was like trying to get me to kiss her.. but without me noticing.. and a while ago i asked the other one about it and she said yah she like wanted to kiss you.. Its been 4 months since they told me and im really curious what itd be like to kiss a girl.. I like really want to all of a suddon..:S

please help me:)
Thank you

its just like kissing a guy basically.
its not really different, everyone kisses differently, same with girls.
its not really a big deal. if you want to know really know whats its like for yourself, then do it.
but its just the same whether its a girl or a boy or whatever else you might end up kissing. lol

Q: 16/f
last night me and my boyfriend we're messing around..
then we starting to have sex.. after i was putting my panties on and i noticed blood, not a lot, but some..
so I had a pad on over night and there was nothing on it, at all(i dont like tampons)
and if it is my period its about 5 days early..
any advice on whats going on?

if its your first time, he might have popped your cherry / hymen.
same if its your second or third time.

or your skin down there is just really sensitive.

but i doubt its your period. so dont worry. but if you want to, take a pregnancy test just in case, cause if it was your period, then you could be pregnant.

id say about a 5.
but probably not really...
i really dont know. lol
ive never been pregnant.

Q: In guy lingo, what do the following words mean?

Blue balls
Chill (like when they say, i like how yur such a chill girl)
Juicy (as related to breasts or other body parts?)
Renob

blue balls is when you give a guy and handjob/ blowjob and dont finish, it makes there balls hurt and feel heavy, and why they call that blue balls, i dont know why.

chill is like your cool and fun to be around, and you dont cause them stress and stuff.

and juicy is basically like voluptuous. but guys are too stupid to say that whole word, so they say juicy.

renob is when a guy is extremely repulsed by the smell, look, touch, or taste of something. it makes the penis feel smaller and shrinkage and stuff.
basically the opposite of a boner. its also boner spelled backwards.

Q: Me and my guy friend were talking about turn offs in the other sex and he said fire crotch.

What does that mean?

I've heard it before but I'm confused. Thanks.

that means pubes that are like red-ish orange colored.
like a red head, except on a vagina lol

Q: I want to do something. Crazyish
Like get my bellybutton pierced or get a tattoo….except not.
Something like that (my ears are already pierced…and I don’t want a double.)
Ummm..any ideas at all??

you could dye your hair a crazy color or something.
put purple streaks in it, make it fun =]
or get it cut in some cool way.

you could also get a henna tattoo, they arent perminate, but they stay on for a long time.
and if you dont like it, you can get rid of it, but if you do like it, you could get the same thing in a real tattoo.

if your thinking about piercings, itd be cool to get a little stud on your nose, like a little silver one. or get your eyebrow pierced or something along those lines.

hope i helped

Q: 13/f so i keep seeing all these question on here some of them about dildo's wat is that and i've seen there is an age you have to be to get one thanks in advance

a dildo is a vibrater girls use to masterbate with.

Q: hey, i want a new AIM screen name. the name is rae or rachel and i do want my name in it. i was thinking of something like

woah x its rae

but idk if i really like it.

anything but xoo raeee or raeee xoo (anything like that)
and xO0 Rachel x3

thanks !

is hey rae good?
i think its cool cause its rhymes.
also rae bay bay
cause its like that song aye bay bay.

lol

Q: I was on a plane coming home and this girl was in front of me and she had her Mac laptop. I looked at it and she had some kind of software up where there's a video camera and it takes pictures, and then you can edit it and make it cool. Like 3-d, or warp it. I can't really explain it but It was cool. anyone know what this is called and if It works on PC?

thats photobooth. its a mac program and it only works on macs.
but you can use a web cam to attach to a pc and do mostly the same thing except youd have to buy a different prgram, like photoshop to use effects.

Q: So i'm 17/f and I have a friend with benefits who's 20/m. He and I are almost like best friends, and we've had sex 3 times. He's also the one I lost my virginity to. But he's usually the one to ask for sex. The problem is, I need it SOON, and I'm not about to go sleeping around with someone else. I'm a little nervous that if I flat out tell him I want to fool around with him, that I'll creep him out or make him think i'm too clingy, which isn't the case.
So how do I tell him I want to have sex without just saying it?? Thnx!

hes a boy..boys like sex.
just ask him.
itll be easier, and itll make him feel more important that hes teh one your going to for it. cause hell assume that he must be really really good if youd ask straight up.
bottom line is:
boys are all about egos.
so just go for it and im sure itll work out.

Q: 15/f [it only looks long because i put spaces.] BUT STILL, PLEASEEEE answer. please. i need your opinionin. even if its just a yes or a no. ill ratee.

so, me and this boy were like best friends,and then, he liked me or something, and i dont know, i basically rejected him. it was realllyyy bad. so we didnt talk anymore, and each passing day, makes me miss him more and more. and whenever i see him, hes always staring at me. always. like sometimes he'll try to sneak looks [this is what all my friends say] his friends are always looking at me. [but there not like laughing or anything, there just staring.] and sometimes he'll look me straight in the eye. and we'll be staring into eachothers eyes, which seems like forever. my one guy friend, said he thinks that he misses me, and he wants to talk to me, but hes embarrassed that i rejected him.

DO YOU AGREE? yes or no.
and should i talk to him? yes or no.

by rejecting him, you really hurt his ego. i think that you should talk to him again, but make the first move to say something. cause if you show interest in him again, he might feel better.

on the other hand, he may be afraid to talk to you because he likes you so much and doesnt wanna like you more. so he might shut you down if you try talking to him.

so i say yes, talk to him just give it a shot.

Q: does anyone know any "hippy" or just like "chill" artists or songs?

bob dylan - tamborine man
is a good song.
anything by any of these guys is good too.
james blunt
jack johnson
gary jules

and most songs by sumblime are awsome.

Q: Okay... well I'm not trying to get any religious views, or have anyone change my mind or anything like that... but I've always had a hard time figuring out what to believe in. I went to a Catholic school when I was younger [only cause it was right down my street though, haha] and neither of my parents are very religious... infact, they hardly are at all. But I never know what to believe. Like, I don't want to not believe in God... cause if there even is a "Hell" I don't want to go there and burn for all of eternity haha. Now, I don't really think there is [well I'm not even sure what to believe... there's so much I can learn about] but what if there is? I'll never know for sure. So basically, I'm just always worrying about things like that and I never know what to think =/ now don't like, try to call me stupid and naiive or anything, cause it's not my fault that there's 9857285 religons. Usually I just try to live my life being a good person... cause there's really no religon that looks donw upon that... That's what my mom always says anyway. "If there is a God or a whatever, as long as I spend my life being a good person, I'll be fine" So that's what I try to live by. [religon-wise]. What do you think?

alot of people wonder the same thing. i did for a really long time too. until i started talking to my boyfriend about it. he really made me realize alot. i made up my mind about wha ti belive, and i think it might be something you should hear.
::
the reason i didnt believe in God before, is because chirches and such misconstrew what religion is suppose to be about. Its suppose to be a series of beliefs and morals. values and practices set by a supernatural creator. not worshipping and giving money. (or molesting children, naught naught catholic priests XD) what i was told about religion, was totally different then what it really is. i was misinformed, not only by my parents and teachers but also by my friends. everyone kinda made it mandatory to believe in something. and thought of it as a personal attack on themselves if i didnt believe what they did. -cough you cough- and that turned me off of believing in God completly.
while reading books about different faiths, i came to the realization that different groups of people believe different thing ( i knew that already, but i came to a deeper understanding)
and i also talked to josh alot about the topic. he provided good evidence that there has to be a creator, like that if the big bang DID occur, where did teh matter that was banged together come from. also, how did it happen so perfectly that it formed life. stuff like that, he let me believe in my science and still be christian at teh same time basically.
i strongly believe in science, and i always will. but for those holes in my scientific theory, there are fillings in christianity, and for the holes in christianity, there are fillings from science.
so, all in all, i have decided that i DO believe in God. but i ALSO believe in science. i belive that God created teh elements and let them do the rest, and that God created organic material, and let it make life. so, i do believe in God. but i also believe in science. it was a comprimise to make. but it just makes more sense to me to believe in both.

thats what i think anyways. i guess it could make some sense to you.
cause i know that if you fear going to hell, then you do believe in some kind of divine power, but your just not sure.
so hope i helped

*to answer the other question*
no i havent really understood most of those stories. i just dont think they could actually happen. bushes dont burn and talk and stuff..
its more like god created everything, but he doesnt alter the way life will turn out.

Q: I was playing volleyball and when i jumped to spike, i came back down on my ankle and it gave out. I fell to the ground and i could barely walk. That was last night, and today it still hurts and i was walking on it a lot. Which i know i shouldnt be. But, I have vacation in excatly 7 days. Will it be better by then?

not if you keep walking on it.
what you need to do, is keep teh swelling down.
keep it high up, like above your heart, lay on a couch or something and put it up on pillows or an arm rest.
then put ice on it, keep it cold, making it cold will make it become more compact. its just the laws of physics.
so do that, and it MIGHT be better.
but it may not be. you never know.