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I hurt all the time
I'm so sad to say that my boyfriend of six months and I are probably coming to an end. We fight so often now and things are just getting tough with us. But I have a big problem, he's a huge part of my life. He spends almost everyday with me, my mom is the one who takes him shopping when he needs new clothes, we even buy foods that only he likes to keep in our pantry for him. We're so close, I could never imagine having another relationship with a guy like the relationship him and I have.
I don't know how I could ever let go when the time comes. How should I deal with it?
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You should sit him down and talk to him and work on the relationship.
In EVERY relationship, the magical feelings and passion eventually fade, you start seeing each other as people, and you start pissing each other off.
Six months sounds like just about the right time for that.
Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him that you dont want to fight with him constantly and break up, and that you need to figure out together why you are fighting so much. Tell him you dont WANT the relationship to end and you want to try to save it with him, because you think hes worth fighting for.
If you are incapable of fighting FOR a relationship and only manage to fight IN a relationship, youre going to be asking this question a few years down the road 6 months into a new relationship with a new guy whom you adore but are fighting with alot.
From the details youve given, it doesnt sound like its time to be mourning this relationship yet. It sounds like its time to sit him down and talk about both of you trying to be a little more mature and trying not to push each others buttons.
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Relationships sometimes go through rough patches and you just grit your teeth because you know that you care so much.
Even if it comes down to you guys breaking up that doesnt mean he still cant be a big part of your life. When relationships are that close its really hard to let go, but if its causing you more pain then happiness you need to do whats right for you.
Maybe being friends is exactley what you need from each other. In all and all sit down and talk to him about how you guys are fighting all the time...he might feel the same way. You'll never know till you do something about it.
Best of luck
Brookey =]
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There really isn't any advice to give. You simply will manange when you must. We all do.
Think of a married couples who get divorced after ten years. They are a part of eachother's everyday lives, plus shared bank accounts, furnature and maybe even pets and children.
The divorce hurts. It destroys them inside. For a while. Then they pick and start to build thier new inviduals lives. They laugh, go to work, maybe even date and get married agian!
They survive. Even thrive.
We all do. We have all lost someone somehow, be it a relationship, a family member, a pet even. We cry it out, we feel awful, we don't eat, don't laugh, and basically give up on life. Then, slowly but surely, the pain goes away.
It is more difficult when the person you loose is so involved in your life. After my boyfriend of two years and I broke up I kept finding his damn magazines and socks all over my room. It took my months to get rid of everything, but that's alright, it took me months to get over too. Frankly, I don't think I'm all the way there yet either.
Just do what feels right for you.
Eat ice cream, sob, what awful chick flicks, shop or don't shop.
Trust the opinions of others and accept the help they offer.
Give yourself time, but always remind yourself, this too shall pass.
You've learned how love developes. Now you learn how it dies. Soon you get to learn how you let it go.
You'll be just fine.
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you should try to talk to him about it, and stay friends after you breakup. try to make it mutual, and not end it in a fight.
just recently, my boyfriend of 3 months broke up with me, and he did it in a nice way, so we're still good friends. we talk on teh phone still, hang out. its like we're dating, but without the sexual stuff.
try and see if you can do something like that.
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