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Ok we are always moving and we never Get ANY THING planed I just want to get my mom to understand how hard it is to get attatched to people and then move.
And How do I let myself go out with some one when Im scared a move is going to be around the corner?
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I'm sure your mother understands how hard it is, I would be surprised if she was that clueless. Problem is, I imagine she has a good reason(s) to be moving like this, so relationships have to take a back seat. You can talk to her, and she'll probably feel sad that you are going through this. But, is there anything she can do other than simply stopping moving? Usually a reason that makes you move very often is a pretty good reason; for example, if she moves because of a job, it isn't easy to tell her "Mom, you need to quit your job, I'm tired of moving".
Rather than thinking "How do I let myself go out with some one when Im scared a move is going to be around the corner", try thinking something else. Like:
"How can I NOT let myself take a chance on someone, even if I might move soon? Don't I owe it to myself to keep dating, and look for someone to be happy with?"
IMO, you shouldn't let the moving stop you from dating. Just date as best you can, if you meet someone that you want to be with long-term, deal with it when you move. Don't worry about it now. If that person likes you enough for things to be serious, he/she should be willing to work something out long-distance.
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Ok well.... let's say that all of my frieds agree that i should become a doctor when i grow up. It runs in the family, so I know alot about health and such. another reason why I think I should become a doctor, is that in science class in school today, we dissected a Sheeps Brain, and a Cow's eyeball!!! and I was really good, even some of the guys asked me to help them!
what's the problem right??????????
welllll... I'm good at dissecting, and good at health BUUUT.. I CAN'T HANDLE BLOOD!!!!!!!
whenever i look at blood, i get all grossed out!
so how can i become a doctor if i cant even look at blood???
soo my question is... does anybody have any ways to be able to handle blood??? I look at the tv show ER sometimes.. but I just get all pale! HELP ME PLEASE!!!
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PS: dont tell me to choose another job, or that i'm too young to even start thinking about choosing jobs.... i've made up my mind about this! (link)
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Most people can get used to just about anything. I've done some things in my life that weren't all that pleasant, but the more you do it, or are exposed ot it, usually the more comfortable you get.
I cant stand dissecting and I get ill looking at viscera. I almost backed out of biology in High School; I only did it when I was told I would be failed if I didn't. Ahhh, I can still smell the fetal-pig-in-a-bag. Blech.
If this fear of blood isn't on the level of a phobia, you can get used to it, usually, through repeated exposure. You'll get to the point that you might not even notice it. Garbage men get used to a lot thats pretty gross, coroners get used to some pretty foul stuff, and butchers or people who work at slaughterhouses, they get over it. My bet is, that if you are really, really determined, that you can beat the whole blood thing.
If it is a phobia, you'll have to get a professional opinion from a mental health expert. Even then, though, there are jobs in the healthcare industry that you could probably find that wont involve a plethora of blood...though you'll still have to go through school, residency, etc etc.
I doubt that a fear of blood is a definite ixnay on being a doctor.
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Well, I am 13/f.This might sound stupid but I found a guy on the computer and I was wondering how I could find out if he is cheating on me or not?Also wondering should i still go out with him even tho he is off the computer? Thanks. (link)
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At 13, you should be careful, even with people face-to-face. Most adult men will at least be twice your weight and strength, if not more, and being careful RL is hard enough. And meeting 'boys' online increases the chances of meeting some guy, some possible pervert or rapist. Once you trust them they'll try to find out where you live, and, well...even with the smallest bit of information, you can find someone. Its surprisingly easy, sad to say.
Add into the fact that anyone you meet on the internet - anyone - can lie about who they are, and their intentions. Anyone can link you a picture of someone else, so you'll never be 100% certain of what they look like, or who they really are, unless you meet them RL. And that, honestly, is pretty damned dangerous. This 'guy' could be a 75 year old man with a peg-leg, an eyepatch, and no teeth (lets call him The Pirate Pervert, lol) - and you wouldn't know. He could have severed heads in his refrigerator next to the 2-liter of Pepsi, you would have no clue.
Could this 'boy' be what he says he is? Sure, but why take the chance? I'm sure there are tons of boys about your age where you live, you shouldn't have to meet someone online. In fact, I'd advise against it. Not to mention if I was your father I'd have to have a talk with you, at the very least, if not restrict your online access in some fashion (some would take away your internet access, period, out of sheer paranoia - or concern). People have said that this was over-reacting on the part of parents for years, but have you seen those exposes on TV where they catch tons of guys looking to molest someone about your age?
IMO the possibility of him 'cheating' on you (which is humorous in and of itself, considering the situation) is the last of your worries. I'd advise you to stick to people you can bring home to meet your parents, so they can check them out and put the fear of God into them. Its a LOT safer.
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alright i was with my girlfriend and she was on top yah know..and she orgasmed before i did...and well frankly she pulled off too soon and i was about ready to ejaculate...now that i have blue balls and it hurts like a bitch. how do i rid myself of blue balls.
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LOL @ the 1st 2 answers.
But seriously, they pretty much sums it up, or at least the most obvious answer. Its either that, or get used to it. Its pretty much up to you, but I can tell you from experience that its not all that hard to endure, its more annoying than anything else.
I've known women who think this is a myth, along with thinking that men 'make up' being hurt when they get their testicles crushed ("Why is your face that shade of purple? Oh c'mon, that couldn't have hurt, I didn't put all my weight down...").
But I'd try to tell her anyways, she at least owes you some gratification, or imo she isn't much of a sexual partner.
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I'm engaged and my wife to be is still friends with her ex-boyfriend. She even expects me to have dinner with them both if we move to the same city. He still wants to be with her, and she says that I don't understand that it is the mature thing to do. I think it is pretty straightforward: we should stay away from exes. No talking, no dinner. Am I crazy? (link)
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Well...marriage isn't a competition between ones spouse, and all the previous contenders to that position. I dont blame you, I myself would be uncomfortable and would question the necessity of this. But at least she is coming to you and making the friendship public, rather than being so afraid of your reaction that she hides it from you and meets him behind your back. Thats one possible reason to go along for now and not over-react, she could be doing you a favor.
IMO she is being somewhat naive if she is thinking that this is purely innocent and has shouldn't be an issue, especially given that not only is he an ex, but also that he still has feelings for her. And, even though she might not admit it, she probably has some feelings for him (if the relationship lasted for anything longer than a few months). She probably isnt seeing it from your perspective either...do you think she would be happy if you started inviting ex-GF's out for dinner with the 2 of you? (she might say she wouldnt mind, for sake of her argument, but feel entirely different if she were in your position.)
It ~MIGHT~ only be friendship now with no vestigal feelings, but I would doubt it...I still have feelings for people that I was once with; they may have diminished, but they are still there.
Of course, you probably don't want to make a huge production out of this; that could be a good way to create some bad feelings with her. I think you are justified in your concern, but outright refusing to go along could plant you on the proverbial couch, if you know what I mean. And of course, that could be a bad thing considering this guy is waiting in the wings, you dont want to cause a break-up and hand him your fiance on a silver platter. I'd simply tell her how I felt, while at the same time letting her know that although I dont like it, that I would go along for her. Then, once you meet this guy and see how he acts, you can see how well-founded you think your concern is, and act accordingly. If things go bad, or he is creepy/touchy-feely/an ass, then you can tell her you arent going to play that game anymore, tell her why and remind her you had been willing to give it a try at least once.
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I masturbate wayyy to much!
I wish i could stop or atleast masturbate a little, less because I know its wrong according to what I believe, which is the bible.
I masturbate 1-5 times a day!
any ideas how to stop?
I know this question sounds, silly but I'm serious its become almost an addiction. (link)
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Masturbation isn't, never was , and never will be a sin. A lot of people will tell you it is, and there are those that will try to twist scripture to define it as a sin...but it isn't. This is simply something that many people find personally distasteful, and they twist scripture to back their own personal stance.
The closest that even the hard-core, maniacal Bible-thumpers can get to calling masturbation a sin, is:
Declaring that Masturbation is immoral and foul (which, btw, is opinion), then they bring up 1 Corinthians 6:18...but the problem is that it doesnt define what 'sexual immorality' entails, or what qualifies as a 'sexual sin'. I could tell you that massages are sinful, because it causes some people to lust after others, and thats a sin...I mean, seriously...
There is of course other text to twist, but most Christians forget 1 Corinthians 3:10 and 1 Corinthians 4:6, while they butcher biblical passages.
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can you go into more detail (link)
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What is this in reference to? Sorry, but I dont know what this is about, otherwise I'd love to. =[
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-- I'm currently 32 years of age.
-- Obviously, a female.
-- I have a cup size of AA.
-- I am very embarrassed.
-- And this is where you fall into place.
-- I need an IN-HOME REMEDY or MAKE YOURSELF
CREAM or something to increase my cup size.
-- Buying something is not an option.
-- Thanks in advance.
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As far as I know, there isn't ANYTHING thats been proven to increase breast size.
I dont think you should feel emberassed either, tons of women have small breasts so its not uncommon, and believe it or not, a lot of men find small breasts attractive (or they find specific women attractive, and small breasts dont detract from that). I myself think huge breasts are somewhat unattractive, but then again I end up attracted to a lot of tomboy types /shrug. Its disappointing that so many women see the standards that Holloywood and the Fashion industry has set, and feel self-conscious.
Implants, and certain bras, are about the only realistic answers to change the size of your breasts. But I wouldnt even think that implants would be necessary, unless this is such an issue for you that you just cannot stand it and in that case its as much, if not more, about mental health than anything else. Some women I've met swear that implants changed their lives though, so I dunno. Personally I'd tell you to try to find a man who likes you the way you are, I'm sure they are out there. IMO many women look VERY attractive with small breasts, it fits who they are, so I wouldnt worry about this that much at all.
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15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering. (link)
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Yes girls/women like cologne. However, as its been said, be aware of the age of the women you are dealing with - most 15 y.o. girls arent going to like something like Old Spice.
Also realize that different people like different scents, different cologne. I'll tell you that from my own experience, if you are actively seeing someone, wear whatever she wants you to. It shouldnt matter that much to you, anyways. If your single, pick 2 or 3 colognes (or whatever Axe is) and try them out. IMO dont just buy one, and wear it all the time - I wear several and I mix it up. Also dont overdo it, you'll smell like a male hooker (women make this mistake as well lol). I usually only wear cologne when I go out, as I do construction - I dont try to smell good for co-workers.
Age has a lot to do with what you wear, or rather, the age of the women you associate with. I'm 32, and I never wear the Curve I have, mostly because many of the women I hang with don't like it - plus, to many, its overdone. I've had to tell my family to stop buying Curve for me, I've recieved 2 gift sets in the last 4 years, and I'll never use it all.
As you get older, more than likely you'll branch out into higher-end colognes. I still use a Jil Sander cologne that I love but they dont even make anymore, occasionally some Fahrenheit (I dont like it myself, smells too 'spicy' to me), some Armani, and I still wouldnt mind picking up a few more.
Take a GF, or even just a good female friend, out shopping for cologne with you. Listen to the saleswomen too, they are women as well and know what they like (and often, cute too). I never just get something I think would smell good to me, alone. I dont get it so I can enjoy the scent on myself, lol.
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is it true that if you run away and leave a note saying that you went with some1 that the police cant come looking for you?
-tks-
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First off, the police simply cant take the note at face value. They cant be sure you were the one that wrote it or that you didnt write it under duress.
Even if you were the author and wrote it without being under pressure, it still doesnt mean the police would care. Being that you are underage, more than likely they would still discount it since many children do...well...stupid things. You might mean well, but for all the police know, you left the house and ran away with a sexual predator or a serial killer, and they'll come after you if they can find you. Even if you are running away from a bad family situation, the police wiull want to find you before anything else...afterwards they will want to worry about specifics.
A note wouldn't even mean much for an adult, either. Being that, if everything was on the up and up, no adult would bother to leave a note in the first place - nm the fact that notes can be forged, or written under duress, as I said earlier. Often, the presence of a note itself will make the police supiscious that something is going on, when normally they might just shrug it off.
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Female/sophomore in highschool
Guys just don't see me in "that way"
I'm overweight and I feel ugly all the time
It's really bringing down my confidence.
I try to brush it off, but it still hurts.
What can I do to give my confidence a boost?
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The hard thing here is that often, the way we see ourselves is directly affected by how others see us. Many will tell you "just be yourself", "dont listen to what others say", etc etc. Bad thing is, though, that others will STILL do and say the same things they do and say now. IMO its easier to take on the weight issue and lose weight, than it is to convince yourself to ignore what others say and think, and to convince yourself that your weight isn't a problem. 10 years from now, do you want to be alone because of your weight, yet think to yourself that it doesnt matter because you have spent years telling yourself just that? I know people like this, and its a sad thing...they spend a lot of time and energy convincing themselves that the weight is ok, and they get to the point where it seriously hurts their health as well.
I could tell you those things, tell you that your fine the way you are, but my honest fear would be that you would try to be confident for a while, try to be optimistic, only to have your hopes dashed when someone says one of the typical comments that get said, or some guy you like treats you badly because of your weight. Then, you would have even less faith in being self-confident, and might feel worse than before. I'm NOT saying that you arent a good person on the inside, dont misunderstand me, but as long as you have the weight, you will be treated accordingly. Its just the truth of the matter.
So instead, I'll tell you straight-up, that being happy with yourself isn't likely going to be enough alone. By itself, you will remain somewhat unhappy that guys look at you in the way they do, because of your weight. I'd recommend finding a daily exercise you can do easily and enjoy; bicycling is a good one, swimming is awesome (burns a lot of calories, is good if you can find one inside that is year-round and go early before others show up if you are shy), even walking.
Honestly, if your weight is causing you problems now, it most likely always will. I dont want to do you, or anyone else, the disservice of telling you that it doesnt matter, because it does. Parents are bad about this, they tell you things that arent quite true because they dont want to hurt your feelings...but the world isn't all hugs and kisses, it can be a nasty place. And I know you might feel somewhat angry that you would have to change yourself in order to be treated how you would like...but, thats the truth of the matter, unfortunately.
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How can I get rid of the fat on my stomach and my lovehandles? I do crunches, but it only seems to work on my upper abs, and I still have the lower belly fat. Is there any way I can get rid of this and get flat abs and no lovehandles? (link)
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You might try doing things that target lower on your abs, like leg lifts, butterflies, reverse crunches, etc. Crunches and sit-ups have a tendecy to only affect your upper abs, as you are finding out. Also, I'll tell you now that if you are trying to have visible abs, abdominal exercise alone wont cut it (except in exceptional cases). More than likely you will have to do some serious cardio in order to burn enough calories that you reduce the layer of fat over your abs enough to make them visible. Basically there are 3 general types of ab exercises that I know of: upper, lower, and oblique. I'd recommend doing some of all 3.
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will taking lexapro get you high? or kill you?
a friend told me he gets rly fucked up on lexapro.
how many do you have to take?
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Of course it can kill you, imo just about any drg can. I would actually say that doing this can be more dangerous than taking your standard 'illegal drugs'. One, this drug isn't distibuted with the intent of making people high, so you have to take more than the standard dose to get that effect. That alone makes ODing likely, if you have to keep taking more than recommended just to get high. Note that ODing doesnt mean you'll die, or even come close. With this drug, its more likely you will have trouble when you take it along with other drugs than simply taking too much of this alone. But I would still avoid it.
And btw, there is quite a few drugs that shouldn't be taken at the same time as Lexapro. And I doubt your friend is aware of this, or even cares. Some of these are also misused and abused like narcotic painkillers, other antidepressants, and sedatives. Some are even fairly common, like cimetidine (tagamet), lithium, and Imitrex. So if your friend is apt to abuse just about anything, he might want to at least do a little bit of homework before he starts overlapping medication that he shouldn't even be on in the first place.
I am reluctant to say however, that it is rare to have a fatality due to overdoes of this. Of course, you might not want to make that known to your friend, he might feel invincible and end up proving everyone wrong and being one of the few who die.
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im 17 and i am very close with my 19 year old cousin. i hang out with her and her friends close to every weekend.we do drink and party etc..when she was a sr in high school i was a freshman, so i met her friend mike. a few months ago we were all at a party and mike tends to show interest in me. but he always felt bad because hes 20. i started to have feelings for mike so one day i IMed him online. he actually wanted to talk, and that made me feel good like he didnt push me away, he actually wanted to ) we talked alot every few days because hes usually busy at school. i saw him a few weeks ago and it was weird, he was acting pretty shy.so this weekend when my cousin had a party, he was all over me and we ended up making out and then we dropped him off and we kissed, he called me late night and wanted to pick me up but i said it was a bad idea because he was too drunk to drive, and he aggreed. the next day he IMed me right when he came on and wanted to hangout so i went to this other kid, tom. my cousin and her friends went to a college so i was the only girl besides two other girls and like 6 boys. he was very shy at first and it was a little awkward but then we grew to be more touchy, snuggled on the couch, madeout and he was tellin me we should go out to eat sometime. him and his friend dropped me off late night and i texted him thinking hed text back but he called to make sure i was okay and i told him id talk to him monday since he was going to the patriots football game all day/ all night and he said hed call me. like i dont want to get my hopes up but i think he might like me, even tom said he thinks he does. so what do you think? thanks and also what should i do so it doesnt seem like im like obsessed or like him this early (link)
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I'm not sure why you, or he, should feel bad...there isnt all that large of a difference in your ages. Trust me, a 2-3 year age difference is TINY when you get older. And IMO if he has anything to worry about, its that your 17...but then again I dont know the law where you live. At worst, you can date and keep it PG-13 until you turn 18 /shrug.
I'd say go for it, dont obsess but be open to the possibilty at least. IMO I would try to avoid going out too often or coming on too strong, maybe date once or twice a week tops. And you might let him make the next move, which seems like that might happen soonish since it seems he likes you. Really though, I'd suggest treating him like any other guy, and being just as careful.
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see, theres this boy that i used to hookup with and i was friends with for the longest time, and see we got into a fight over nuthin really but now we haven't talked in a LONG time, but i know for a FACT that he's cheating on his girlfriend.. and i sometimes (on/off) get along with her, but idk wether to tell her or not.. i kno it would be right to.. but i dont want to hurt he & my friednship even if we aren't talking at the moment.. you know?? what should i do? (link)
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Well, I draw the line at friendship and family...I'll get involved if it includes either, but thats it. And when I say 'friendship' I don't mean acquaintances, I mean friends...close friends. Otherwise, I dont feel its worth it to even get involved...I'm not the police of the dating world. If its not either friends or family, I just dont want to get drawn in to some serious drama...which can happen if you do stick your nose in. I'm not saying I think its ok to cheat, I dont, but is it worth getting involved with?
Given what I said above, I wouldn't get involved with this if I were you, and I would stay away. You aren't friends with the boy, you 'used' to hook up with him, and you havent talked in some time. The girl...you say you sometimes get along with her, but that seems to me to mean that sometimes you dont get along with her, either.
If in the end you are determined to get involved, well thats your decision...but in that case I would advise either writing her an anonymous letter or something else along those lines, unless you want your name coming up and having people angry at you for getting involved.
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okay well my EX is trying to get with one of my CLOSEST friends and i dont know what to do,i mean i know that seh likes him and i dont want to ruin that for her, but there are 3 things:
1. he still is tryin to get back with his EX
2. he treated me like shit so i kno hell do the same with her
3. hes MY EX!!!
how do i tell her how i feel and that i disagree with them getting together???
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The most you can do without crossing the line is advise your friend of whats up, and hope that she listens. But, dont be surprised if after you tell her his history, if she goes ahead and dates him anyways. It might seem to her that you have a biased hatred of him, and she might want to 'see for herself' how he is. That, and people generally think they can do different/better than others have done in the past, or that they can 'change' people. Especially, when it comes to women thinking they can tame 'bad boys', a lot of guys get 90% of their play by being bad and capitalizing on that, lol.
Just be honest with your friend and hope for the best, thats all you can really do. But in the end its her choice, so be prepared for her dating him. At least if you tell her and she ignores you, you can say "I told you so" later...for what little that means.
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how long do you think a perfect sex should last,and please don't answer "as long as it should",i mean some girls say 30 min some say 20 min at lesat.and what is your ideal sex time?or what was the shortest sex period you had?
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I'm going to go out on a limb here, and assume you are asking this from a womans perspective. =]
Men in general don't struggle to go 30-90 minutes for their OWN pleasure, many would just assume 10-15 minutes (if THAT), smoke a cig and wait a bit, then go again. I'd hazard to say though that with experience (and some measure of caring for their partner if you are a lucky woman) men can (and do) go much longer though. Though for me prolonging the experience is actually harder the MORE attracted I am to the woman, the sexier she is, and the more turned on I am. Strange I know, but I've had some frustrating moments with the very women I have valued the most, that I have wanted the most.
Perfect sex for me (as a man) isn't about time at all. Its about fulfilling my partner as well as myself; and trust me, as a man, men take far less for fulfillment. I'm willing to put forth a good deal of effort, all I ask is for some feedback.
Perfect sex = woman who is vocal and open, and helps me, help her.
EDIT: In a sense, men dont care how long the race is, they want to cross the finish line - they tend to see it as a goal. Woman want the journey to be enjoyable, and its not just the end result. But thats not to say that men cant see it any other way; experience helps, as does actually loving your partner.
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Okay. So I'm in 8th Grade, and it's soo hard. And ontop of that I'm directing a show and I just finished doing Into the Woods Jr. Now, with the same company that did Into the Woods they're doing Hansel and Gretel and they seem to really like me there finally, I've been doing that company for years and I always got ensemble roles there. Now, the musical director wants me to audition for Hansel and Gretel, yet my Mom thinks I shouldn't and I don't know if I should. Auditions are in 5 days soo...yeh. Anyone who solves my problem gets a cookie. (link)
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It sounds to me less about the 8th grade being hard, and more about you taking on too many extracurricular activities until you are spread too thin. I'd stick to one after-school activity at a time myself. If you are doing so much now that you are thinking the 8th grade is hard, continuing do this much on the side isn't going to make things any better. School doesnt get any easier as time goes by.
Why are you directing anything, when you are a student - and only in the 8th grade? I'm not saying you cannot do it, but usually I would think a teacher or parent with some experience would actually direct, and run things; IMO students should either stick to acting, set, or something similar. This wasn't even an option when I was in school, it was a teacher or parent, and that was it. Even if this is something that has no association with the school you go to, I'm still perplexed why you would be directing rather than an Adult. This might just be too much for you at your age...I'd either find something else to do besides directing and not audition for the singing part, or drop the company you are directing with altogether and do the singing part instead. As far as I know, when I was in college, none of my drama friends directed there either, not even then, it was an instructor at one time or another if memory serves.
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last saturday i fell and hit my head and i got a cut on my eyebrow. they put this glue stuff on it instead of stitches because it wasnt that bad where i needed stitches. well last night i pulled off the glue and im scared its not healed properly now and i dont even think the glue was on the cut anymore it was like more stuck on my eyebrow. but im really afraid that i might have screwed it up. so i really dont know what to do! im at my dad's house right now and my stepmom and him dont really know and i dont wanna ask them should i like put a butterfly on it??? someone help me!!!
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YoungGrandma is right, butterfly band-aids are perfect for that sort of thing. Or, if you dont have those band-aids, you can use tape and cut it crosswise into small strips (the plasticy bandage-tape works the best, though I've even used Duct tape and electricians tape). You can then use the strips to pull the edges together, and do a row of them, the same way that sutures, staples or stitches would be done. Make them small enough, and then you can even cover them with a large band-aid, or some of that bandage linen, and no one will even know.
I doubt its all that messed up after 1 night of being glued. If, when you go to bandage it, it is lined up wrong or has knitted in a bad position - you can probably pull the cut back open if you aren't squeamish, or bad with that kind of thing. Just line it back up, tape it carefully, and cover it.
I've done this many times, I'm pretty good at closing cuts nowadays. A lot of people go in for stitches when they really could just do this themselves IMO. But it seems like you dont want your parents to know...why? Just tell 'em you fell, surely they wont get angry over this - most parents I know enjoy patching their kids up.
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Am I the only one alive who thinks it's terrible that kids (13-16) are having sex? I'm only 18, but when I was 13, I was riding my bike and doing karate, not giving blowjobs on the school bus. But thats the norm now, and if you haven't had sex by the time you're 17, you must be ugly or way religeous. What on earth!? Am I the only one disgusted by this trend? (link)
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Well I've been out of High School for almost 15 years now, and we had this. Albeit, perhaps not as often, but we had it. We too had the 'sex' pressure, and if you didn't want to be some sort of pariah, then you had to get laid. But this was more a high-school thing, not the middle school and junior high crowd. Yes, there were exceptions, but that was pretty rare.
Occasionally I see a group of girls this age at a distance, and I find myself thinking something to the effect of "Oh, wonder how cute these chicks are?". Then, when I get close enough to actually SEE how young they really are, I end up feeling ill. Some of these girls strut around in clothes only a whore would wear (in public), and I cant imagine what parents would allow them out of the house dressed like that - perhaps they are fairly adept at sneaking out, or their parents are trash. I'm no prude mind you, and my friends who are about my age (even the risque, crazy ones) wouldn't wear clothing like that. If they are wanting attention then they get it, but even if they were old enough for me to have any interest in, dressed the way many do I wouldn't touch them for fear of what diseases they may be passing around. I wish I could get across to these young girls just how bad they look, but I would doubt they care; they want to flaunt their budding sexuality, its a new thing, and a lot of them end up looking like they'll be pregnant before they even hit high school.
I've heard a lot of crazy stories about all the growth hormones in livestock causing early puberty in children, and though I dont buy it, there has to be SOME reason that puberty is starting earlier - or, that it SEEMS to be. Though the youngest mother on record is believed to be a 5-year old who had begun menstruation at 3 years of age (http://www.snopes.com/pregnant/medina.asp), that was exceptional and I imagine not really representative of that era. And even if you accept the argument that young girls are hitting puberty earlier and earlier, that doesnt mean they need to start bumping uglies before they can even drive a car. For my classmates, getting your license was kind of the 'sex enabler', before that it was kissing/holding hands etc. And that was a high-school rite of passage, you werent doing this at 10-14 or so.
I partially blame our media, television and movie industry for giving these young girls an image to strive for, which really is far too mature for them.
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