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A Guy that might be cheating
Well, I am 13/f.This might sound stupid but I found a guy on the computer and I was wondering how I could find out if he is cheating on me or not?Also wondering should i still go out with him even tho he is off the computer? Thanks.
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There is nothing wrong with a bit of harmless flirting on the computer (unless you give out any of your details or arange to meet up with anyone you met off there)Im afraid there is no way to tell for definate if he is cheating on you . For all you know he might be having a 'relationship' with every girl he meets on the internet. I dont think you should think this as a proper relationship but more of just simple flirting. I dont think there is anything wrong with continuing flirting with him as long as you just keep it as flirting.
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not unless hes the same age as you ,and unless he lives somewhere near you.the biggest isue is that hes really who he says he is .i dont like realationships on the computer because more then likely hes gona cheat on you,i mean how will you know if he does right?well its up o you if you really like him,but you sound to me like you deserve better.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love
lizzie
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internet dating is not safe. you dont even know if this person is who they are they could of put a photo of their next door neighbor and guess what youd never know the diffrence.hmmmmmmmmmm look up all the murders and rapes that have happened from people meeting others off the computer then ask yourself that question again....there is nothing wrong with feeling lonely or being single but there are plenty of guys in the real world to meet and you have plenty of time to meet them in the real world i mean youve just hit your teens and havent fully developed. so forget about internet dating. its really not worth losing your life or getting raped.
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The chances are he is cheating because if he met you in a chatroom then how many other girls has he gone out with?
He could be lying to you saying that he's 13 when he's 21 or something.
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At 13, you should be careful, even with people face-to-face. Most adult men will at least be twice your weight and strength, if not more, and being careful RL is hard enough. And meeting 'boys' online increases the chances of meeting some guy, some possible pervert or rapist. Once you trust them they'll try to find out where you live, and, well...even with the smallest bit of information, you can find someone. Its surprisingly easy, sad to say.
Add into the fact that anyone you meet on the internet - anyone - can lie about who they are, and their intentions. Anyone can link you a picture of someone else, so you'll never be 100% certain of what they look like, or who they really are, unless you meet them RL. And that, honestly, is pretty damned dangerous. This 'guy' could be a 75 year old man with a peg-leg, an eyepatch, and no teeth (lets call him The Pirate Pervert, lol) - and you wouldn't know. He could have severed heads in his refrigerator next to the 2-liter of Pepsi, you would have no clue.
Could this 'boy' be what he says he is? Sure, but why take the chance? I'm sure there are tons of boys about your age where you live, you shouldn't have to meet someone online. In fact, I'd advise against it. Not to mention if I was your father I'd have to have a talk with you, at the very least, if not restrict your online access in some fashion (some would take away your internet access, period, out of sheer paranoia - or concern). People have said that this was over-reacting on the part of parents for years, but have you seen those exposes on TV where they catch tons of guys looking to molest someone about your age?
IMO the possibility of him 'cheating' on you (which is humorous in and of itself, considering the situation) is the last of your worries. I'd advise you to stick to people you can bring home to meet your parents, so they can check them out and put the fear of God into them. Its a LOT safer.
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no no no. no computer boyfriends that you have never met. its pointless; trust me. i did it in like 5th grade. i know i lied like all the time, so uh other people probably lie about all that crap too.
hope i helped =]
Jess
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