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My EX
okay well my EX is trying to get with one of my CLOSEST friends and i dont know what to do,i mean i know that seh likes him and i dont want to ruin that for her, but there are 3 things:
1. he still is tryin to get back with his EX
2. he treated me like shit so i kno hell do the same with her
3. hes MY EX!!!
how do i tell her how i feel and that i disagree with them getting together???
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well ill tell you what i did because surprisingly enogh i was in the same situation.
-if she is one of your closest friends dont you think she should know how you would feel with the situation?
-tell her that even though you guys broke up it would really hurt you if they went out or got together or anything.
-make it personal and have feeling, let her know your emotions about the situation and dont hide anything
-if she is a true best friend she wont go with him or she will at least wait until your ready.
i wish you the best of luck!
-Bri
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The most you can do without crossing the line is advise your friend of whats up, and hope that she listens. But, dont be surprised if after you tell her his history, if she goes ahead and dates him anyways. It might seem to her that you have a biased hatred of him, and she might want to 'see for herself' how he is. That, and people generally think they can do different/better than others have done in the past, or that they can 'change' people. Especially, when it comes to women thinking they can tame 'bad boys', a lot of guys get 90% of their play by being bad and capitalizing on that, lol.
Just be honest with your friend and hope for the best, thats all you can really do. But in the end its her choice, so be prepared for her dating him. At least if you tell her and she ignores you, you can say "I told you so" later...for what little that means.
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It's best that you come forward with your feelings and tell her that if her and your Ex start dating at all, then you will be very hurt and your friendship with her may not be as good or even be there at all.
However, you have to keep remembering that it's ok for her to have a crush on your Ex, feelings cannot be controlled and so what'll matter is that she doesn't go for him or try to. But, you don't really have to tell her that she'll get treated badly, listing off reasons like those won't change her mind about it. Every girl thinks that they are different than the girl before and they have to learn that they aren't.
-TheTeenGirl
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