So I started dating a boy who is 20 years old and i'm 19 years old and today on 10/28/15 he decided to tell me in a text I can't talk right now but we have talked everyday since September so is he needing a cool of break or is he just busy with his life.
Maybe he is just busy with his life and really couldn't talk. Don't trip and turn it into something its not. Also, guys like some space. So if you're smothering with messages or phone calls, maybe that's it. Some girls like to talk A LOT, so be mindful that maybe he said that cause you were talking his ear off. Give him a little time. the audiobook "men are from mars, women are from venus." Has some good and amazingly accurate info about how the sexes are different and behave differently. Highly recommend it for both of you. You can find it on youtube probably.
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I am from Australia. A boy I know recently asked me "how much makeup do you wear!?" in a "you wear so much makeup" sort of way. I wear tinted moisturizer, concealer for under my eyes, I curl my top eyelashes and put a bit of mascara on, put black eyeliner on my tightline and some face powder and sometimes a bit of bronzer and that's about it. It might sound like a lot but it's pretty light makeup. I don't pack on the tinted moisturizer either. Not many girls in my grade wear makeup. I would like my makeup to look natural, as if I'm not wearing any, and I don't know how!! Are there any tips or drugstore makeup products which are good for that? Thanks!
Some girls don't really need makeup and IMO make up or too much just makes it worse or that they are trying too hard. Try experimenting just using a little. I'm sure you can find make up guides for people who want a more natural look.
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thus is about the manifestation question....... I read about how to get rid of resistance. And they said that to get rid of it you have to stop making imaginations and fantasys about it..... Do you have any tips on how to stop daydreaming of it.....???
You gotta be fantasizing about already having it. Not "how great it will be." but rather "Its great!" Maybe you should just move onto something else you want and leaving the current thing you want completely ignored. Like you forgot about it. While you focus on another thing. From my experience its rare to get something, while you still hold it in your mind. You gotta let it go. Then it might take a few months. But it might be sooner. Another big reason to not have it in your head all the time, is that eventually you will tire of pretending, then you will feel the vibration of not seeing it and that you've just been pretending and the thing you want is not there. SO that will be your setpoint. So forget about it and allow it. But also keep in your mind that it won't even matter if you get it or not. Because if you hold that IT DOES matter, then you will be disappointed when you don't see it, day after day.
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
As a man, I don't think there needs to be any kind of smooth transition. That's more of a woman thing. After a few drinks, it'll be easy. So if you're asking this for her, then ask yourself what would YOU like personally. Maybe you and your man can kinda start making out and groping and whatnot, then ask her to join you. I think you're overthinking this and its causing some degree of anxiety for you. Trying too hard or overthinking may just make things worse. The other woman already agreed to this. The drinks will help ease tensions or awkwardness once you're there. Don't trip, have fun.
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21/f
I feel like I am 100% straight in "real life". Women don't turn me on and I never have fantasies about them.
But whenever I watch porn, women turn me on more than men do. It really depends on my mood, sometimes I like watching a guy masturbate but whenever I watch porn with a Women in it, I get way more turned on by her.
Is this normal? I wouldn't call myself bisexual because other than in porn, I am not interested in Women at all, and even when I fantasize without watching anything, I only think about men.
Its not uncommon for straight women to be attracted to other women, especially in porn. They most likely will not act on it, but there's some attraction thing going on. Its been documented, look it up if you want. So you're normal.
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so i realy really believe in you can manifest your hearts desire with the universe like a lot of other ppl. i have this one thing that i used to have all the emotion in the world for but for the last few months its gotten a bit hard to stay with. but i did this meditation to manifest a "replacement". and i feel so much more emotion towards this than the original one. does this mean i should move on from that one thing????
and also does reading and watching more about manifestation bring mroe enegry to your desire???? and what are some other ways to bring more enegry????
plz no negative comments.....
From what I understand, yeah you should focus on the thing that makes you the most excited. However, you have to feel that you already have "it". Wanting or wishing for just puts you in a place of wanting. Not having. After you "ask" for what you want with the feeling of already having it, then you have to let go and allow it to come. If you are just wanting and wanting, you're actually separating yourself from it because you're in a "want" vibration and not a "feel good cause I have it" vibration.
Watching more stuff about manifestation might just reinforce your belief that it works but I think that's about it.
Remember that if you want a material thing, its not just gonna fall out of the sky. You do have to act. But I guess if its a person, you might just happen to meet them somewhere.
An attitude of gratitude is probably an all around good way to attract the things you want.
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This probably sound very common to you but I have to accentuate the VERY in this situation because it's true; I can't even choose which colour to paint my fingernails. Currently I'm in a sticky situation in which my music teacher has ordered a viola for me because I wanted to try it out but now I'm having some doubts. Here's the whole story:
1. My friend decided to play the viola and I found it might be fun to try out a new instrument along with a friend. I asked my parents and they were a little hesitant but said yes.
2. We told our music teacher we wanted to play viola and he ordered two since we don't have any violas at our school.
3. My friend decided she had two much on her plate already and decided not to play viola.
4. I started thinking about it and noticed quite a few flaws in my plan: I didn't have a friend to play with which was one of the reasons I had wanted to do this in the first place, I had a very tight schedule as well and had to focus way more on my academics, I did some research onlin and found out that viola wasn't the most agreeable instrument.
5. Now, I am very confused and this is where my indecisive nature comes in and messes everything up even more.
I don't know if I should play viola or not. I know you will tell me to follow what my heart tells me or something along those lines but the thing is, I am completely in the middle right now. I'm not even SLIGHTLY leaning towards one side. Help is greatly appreciated, thanks!
If you only joined to hang out with your friend, then she ended up not being in that class with you. And you're not interested in really playing the instrument, then quit. Find something else. There's really no point in trying to learn an instrument unless you want to learn it. Otherwise its just another tedious chore. So if you're gonna join music or other creative practices, Focus on one that you LIKE doing.
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Basically there's always been some type of distinction in my family. I've noticed my parents and my cousins parents make sure to slow down the growth process for all of us. If one of us gets a job or job interview they make us late on purpose so we lose the chance of ever being successful and it really hurts to deal with knowing my parents and grandparents don't want me or my cousins to succeed. Most of us are over the age of 18 and still don't have our licenses. It was also like that for my aunts and uncles. They had such a hard time with it and I know about the whole narcissistic family thing and that's definitely my family's problem but I'm so new to finding this out and I just don't understand why if my aunts uncles n mom we're treated like that why would they do that to their own children? Like today I had a big interview that was so important to me and I had to have my mom take me and she made me late on purpose and that didn't look good for my chances of getting the job. I remember when I was 18 I wanted to move in with my friends and my mom drug my by the hair of my head across the kitchen for telling her I planned on moving out. Does anyone else have this problem? I feel so alone. I'm 25 n living with my boyfriend and I've noticed since I have I'm basically excluded from family gatherings all for wanting to have my own life. My other cousin who lives with her husband gets treated the same way. Any advice on how to handle this would be nice and does anyone else go through this also?
They are toxic people and they're doing you a favor by keeping you away from them. Like the saying goes: the brighter you shine, the darker the shadows (as in your family's lack of success). They are jealous and obviously controlling. Its good to stay away from them. At least you have your cousin and your boyfriend.
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So I am 13 and I have a friend in my class. She tries to be cool by saying things like "bruh" and "dawg" and once she giggled at the way that my tongue was slightly sticking out of my mouth and I was like "So what?" because it was really rude. She judges people just by one look at them. and she is rude to people just for one little thing. She always tries to make excuses for gym. She is so lazy and she doesn't do ANY work in school. I feel like she copies my work and sometimes when we are in groups together, I feel like I'm doing all the work. I also don't want to sit with her sometimes but she sits beside me anyway. I also don't want to be in her group at all because she distracts me and is a really bad educational influence on me. But if I don't be her partner in class, then she won't have anyone at all. Please help?
Seems like you're judging her as you say she judges others. You could tell her to stop being the way she has been and that its getting on your nerves. If maybe she'll take it down a notch, but if she doesn't. There's really no point in having a friend you can't stand.
If you don't want her as your friend, just tell her that you don't wanna be her friend anymore and to leave you alone. Its harsh, but if you're really that sick of her and you want to get rid of her, that's what you gotta do.
You could also tell the teacher to not pair you up.
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I fucked my girlfriend from back side is there any chance to pregnant
If you did it in the V yes. If not, no.
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Note: I will not tell you my steam username but I will tell you this. I got haters on steam and they manage to have 2 hate groups and sometimes i will haters coming by posting a mean comment. One day they had the guts to hack into my account and reveal my real name. What should I do? I'm a 15 year old boy and I desperately need an advice.
Get another steam account. Report them?
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Hi, he's star sign is cancer and mine's scorpio. he jokes and flirts with everyone but not in a gross way but in a playful way. stares at me a lot. caught him tons of times looking at me. everyone likes him. he wanted me to for a drinks few times together including others but i didn't as i was working the next day. so, guys is that the way of asking me out or is he just being friendly?
thank you all
I'm guessing you've asked this more than once. But now what happened to your boyfriend? LOL. I guess you are indeed thinking about going out with this guy. Well, make sure that that's what you wanna do. Including leaving your bf and realize that if it doesn't work out. You still gotta see him at work every day.
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Hi, we work together and he jokes around a lot but lately i've been noticing that he stares at me tons. i mean everytime i see him, i've caught him tons of time looking at me and he wouldn't look anywhere but holds the eye contact. he's few years younger than me and we're from a totally different country and background. he has asked me to go for a drinks when we're out with other colleagues but i keep ditching. recently, he has started to say to others pointing at me,''she is in love me and she has ask me out or she can't go coz she's got a boyfriend'' and i say shut up, smiled and just walk off coz he kid around a lot. i just think it's a joke. he knows that i have a boyfriend but he has said twice,''she's in love with me'' he's in his mid 20's and i'm in my early 30's. he's cancer and i'm scorpio. we've known for 6 months now. help guys? what does he mean? many thanks
If you have a boyfriend what does it matter unless you're thinking about leaving him for this guy? I dunno about the whole telling people "she's in love with me" thing. Personally, I don't think that's cool, even if its a joke. I think he's being kind of a douche by saying that.
He clearly likes you. If you don't like him back. Then you should probably tell him to stop saying those things before he takes it up another notch. If you do decide to go out with him. Heed my warning: If it doesn't work out, you still have to see them every day and trust me THAT REALLY SUCKS! Until one of you works somewhere else. So choose wisely.
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Im seeing my ex boyfriend for the last time tomorrow and i want to give hIm the best sex of his life,the best his ever had in his whole entire life..i want him to daydream,fantazise bout me nd the sex and have him come back begging for more..any tips,ideas,anything?
Never underestimate the power of a great bj.
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F/19
Hi. I'm an English major in second year in Puerto Rico. The thing is that I used to be in Geology but changed majors because the mathematical side overwhelmed me barely starting out. Lately I've been so out of it, so unmotivated to do anything, that I decided English just wasn't making me as happy as I thought it would. I'm thinking about going to the US to do a double major in Geology, Psychology, or Studio Art. I love those three. Geology is really cool - yes, there's the math factor I have to work out, but I promised myself that I wouldn't give up so easily - and I'm particularly interested in Mineralogy, being a person who loves rocks and identifying them, I think its a good place to start. Plus everything always looks so big, yet we fail to notice this smaller things these are made of. The reason why I want to do a double is not out of pure whim, but because there are more things I love than just Geology. I realize I can't do EVERYTHING I want, but that doesn't mean I have to be content with just one of those.
I wanted Studio Art because... I love art. I love looking for the beauty in things and places where others might not see it. Studio Art is good, because it is a more general major than say, Painting, or Drawing. They're specific and I want abundance in what I learn.
Psychology is simply such an interesting area. I took one course in Psych. Intro and while I got a B, I really enjoyed the class. I know it sounds like filler, because it does to me, but Psychology is also a rather broad area that I could look into, particularly Behaviorism or Criminology.
I'm also working on learning more languages to expand my options: currently I'm starting with Japanese and German, plus taking a course in Latin. I will probably try to learn ASL and Braille as well because I have the dream of being able to help deaf/mute and blind people.
I feel like I'm organized yet scattered all over the place at the same time. With Geology and Psychology I might end up in the Criminal Justice sector by using my Geol. major to do a Forensics MS and if I have the time and money, Criminology MS as well.
If I went for Psych. and Studio Art I was planning on going for Art Therapy, perhaps entertaining that with being an ASL teacher as well.
I like too many things and am having trouble narrowing down my options; plus the real problem here is money. I can't afford college in the US and have nobody there either to help me, Financial Aid probably won't cover even half of it. Part of me doesn't really care because I just want to do what I love and travel, get out of here for a change. At the same time I'm a little scared. These are many changes I'm considering right now, so, any ideas as to how I should handle this? If I wait too long it might be too late, so I have to make the decision before my third year. What should I do? Stay here where I am? Or go and try to make the best out of myself?
I think you gotta look at things in the long run and imagine how your life would be as a geologist or psychologist or whatever career you see yourself in, in the areas that you like. Do that.
Which one(s) gives your life a sense a feeling of meaning and purpose? Which one would be the most fulfilling for you? Would you consider that you are passionate about it? Don't get fooled by how much money you're gonna make. Meaning, purpose, fulfillment and passion for what you are doing is paramount. So find that one or 2 things. Imagine yourself having reached and are living that life as a [fill in the blank]. Whichever excites the most would probably be it. Whatever you decide, remember that you're gonna be doing it day after day, year after year. So be sure that it excites you, fulfills you and you are passionate about it. Otherwise eventually you'll get bored and will just become routine.
On youtube, there's a channel called "the journey of purpose". Its basically videos of snippets of inspirational speakers who talk about pretty much what you're asking. I'm sure it'll help you figure it out.
I admire your ambition and zest for life. You've inspired me. Keep it up, I'm sure you'll go far.
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When I met my husband 3 years ago he was obsessed with fitness and his body. Well now he is not at all and he has lost all his definition and has put on 20 pounds. He hates the way he looks and won't even take pictures because he knows he isn't in shape. But he doesn't even try to lose weight. He ordered 2 large pizzas yesterday and said one was for me. Well that was yesterday at 9:30 pm and today at 10pm (25 hours) he ate both pizzas. He gets up atleast twice at night just to eat and normally it is peanut butter on some sort of chip or cracker. So I have been calling him out on it because I want my sexy husband back and he told me to mind my own business. What do I do? I love my husband but I don't want him to be fat. So lost?
It doesn't really work for a woman to tell her man that he needs to get in shape. Especially if he hates the way he looks. Dunno, imo they feel shitty for not being good enough or feel emasculated and depressed. So you telling them he's fat and needs to step it up probably just makes him feel worse and feels less motivated to work out.
Its hard to be motivated to go to the gym or work out if the sole reason is "cause I'm fat". I've been motivated to go to the gym to get muscle, not to not be fat. Especially hard when you have low self esteem cause your wife thinks you're fat and gross.
It may help to just encourage him to just do some curls and maybe some shoulder. Something easy with a dumbbell he can keep around and pick up once in a while. Say you want some "guns" or something. Curls are the easiest thing and you don't even have to stand up to do em. Don't even mention or lead on to the whole fat thing. Encourage him but don't nag him. He will start lifting it and once he starts feeling a little stronger he will do more and challenge himself more. Worked for me at least. I felt guilty sitting around doing nothing with the weight right by me. So I did curls, then after a while, added shoulders and kept adding until I was doing a whole body workout.
Besides the dumbbell/kettlebell and encouragement (and no nagging), I also suggest not buying junk food. If you're the one doing the shopping, don't buy junkfood. Sometimes you wanna eat just cause its there and its good. I also suggest that you yourself get in better shape. It will be hard for him to see you start looking better and he stay the same. That'll motivate him, probably.
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I am a 17 year old girl and is having 23 year old friend with benefit.We had done almost evrything like liplock ..boob suck he made to me and even he has done fingering to me and I trust him totally so allow to do him whatevver he likes and now he says me that he wants to fuck me and I said him that I cant loose my virginity as after marriage my husband would know so he said that he wolud just fuck harmlessly and wont let my vagina bleed and that too he says that he wont do anything that would affect my future...and I know we are just besties and not lovers to have sex ...what does he mean ...would his fucking really wont be harmful?? What should I do ???
If you really really wanna save your virginity till you get married, you shouldn't do it. There's no guarantee that what he does will not break your hymen if he's penetrating you. I wouldn't trust a horny guy to stop himself like he says he will. The urge is too great. Besides, how can he really know how far to stick it in without touching your hymen? and he's supposed to do this in the heat of the moment all horny and stuff? Yeeaah, don't think so. So if you want your hymen intact for your husband to break. Letting him penetrate you is not a smart move.
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I started wetting the bed at college, its been a few times a week recently and Im worried my roommate will find out with the constant wet sheets. I don’t drink alcohol andI’m healthy. What can I do to avoid any embarrassment? Ive been to the doctor and they don’t know what the cause is.
Since you already went to the doctor and I assume you looked online. I would suggest doing kegel exercises. Basically, its the muscles that control/hold your urine when you gotta go but gotta hold it. If you strengthen these muscles, maybe it'll help with your incontinence. Not sure if it'll help, but its certainly worth a shot, don't you think? Look up kegel exercises. Good luck.
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Hi, there. I'm a high school student, and I guess I'm seeking advice. I always liked school in elementary and middle school; I hated the weekends and I'd stay after school for all sorts of clubs. But now, I hate it. Everyone's always lecturing to me about how 'these are the best years of my life' or telling me that 'this is as easy as it gets', but dear God, I can't imagine it getting any worse than this. I'm miserable in school? and out of school, all I do is dread and dwell on how I have to go back in a couple days. I have no motivation to do homework or practice my flute or do anything productive. I feel like this is all for nothing, like my life isn't going anywhere and I'm going to end up a stay-at-home mom with unfulfilled dreams or working at some mediocre job I don't even like. I think that I don't even belong in my honors classes because I don't feel smart anymore. I feel so physically and mentally exhausted.
Sounds like you're just burned out. Happens to everyone. Even people who like their jobs get burned out at one point or another. Personally, I hated school. High school in particular. I don't believe high school is "the best years of your life." You are forced to be somewhere you don't want to be and there's pretty much nothing you can do about it. At least you can quit your job and find a new one. If anything, I'd say life starts and gets better after high school. Because before then, you have very little control.
I wouldn't worry about getting a mediocre job or being a stay at home mom. Even if you do great in school and get an extravagant job, you can still get burned out if you don't have a passion for what you are doing. There's lots of people who worked hard at school and college and just ended up with mediocre jobs anyway. Also, there's people who didn't work hard at school but became a great success in whatever line of work they got after high school because they had a passion for it. AND there's also people who don't have extravagant jobs but they love what they do and they are happy people, sometimes more happy than people who make more money or have more important jobs. Money isn't everything. Sure you'll need it to live. But it really doesn't buy happiness and fulfillment.
All I can say is "this too shall pass." School is just a shitty part of our lives we have to live with until we graduate. Hate to say it, but unless you drop out, its true. As far as dealing with being burned out. Perhaps taking on something new that you WANT to do to break out of the every day monotony. Maybe there's some group or activity you can join outside of school that you will enjoy and help you forget about or help cope with school. I think preferably something physical, like dance or martial arts or sports. Maybe But only you know what you like. Or maybe something fulfilling that makes you feel good about yourself. Don't worry, life gets better.
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Okay I'm a 16 year old girl and me and my mo get into fights fairly often. They are about the stupidest things that I don't even know what the cause was sometimes. So, when we do get into fights she starts yelling all these different things at me like "you have no friends", "nobody likes you", "you are terrible to be around", "you are never going to get anywhere in life", "bitch", "snot" etc...
There are more but I don't know what to do. Like I try to not let it get to me but it's hard not to. I mean like what if she is right about all of this. I just don't know what to do.
But like when we aren't fighting she is like the best mom ever but as soon as she gets mad she starts yelling the worst possible things she can think of at me. I just really don't know what to do and any advice at all would be extremely helpful!!
Welcome to the horrible world of arguing with women. A common trait of how women argue is to say the most horrible, most hurtful things they can think so as to "not be outdone" or to "win". A common "theme" of being in a relationship with a woman is that the man cannot win an argument. Women will just taking it to the next level and saying or doing terrible things just so that they feel like they won. I know it sounds sexist, but guys complain about this all the time. There's even comedians that will bring up this issue of how women can be brutal when you argue with them and that its impossible to win, even if the man is right, she'll say some hurtful things just to mess with your head at least. Of course this is not ALL women. I'm guessing this is how your mom fights in an argument and that's how she's done it all her life. That, combined with a short fuse can be pretty terrible to have to deal with. My ex was like that. Which is why she's my ex.
Doesn't seem like she means what she says since you say she's a great mom at times. Its just that that's how she argues. Its all she knows and I'm sure its just an involuntary rage reaction. Perhaps that's how her mom treated her.
There's also the subconscious Oedipus complex or electra complex which may or may not be in play here. Its kinda gross, but its subconscious. It turns mother and daughter into rivals, basically.
So I would say to not engage her in arguments. If she tries to instigate one, try and diffuse it immediately. By apologizing or whatever you can think of. Don't fight back because that's what she is looking for. Deprive her of an enemy and it'll fizzle out hopefully. A good phrase that works sometimes is "sorry, nobody is perfect."
When you two are hanging out and in good terms, maybe you should tell her you want to tell her something. Maybe she will be receptive to listen. Maybe you can disguise it at first, telling her that some girl is calling you these things on a regular basis. See if she realizes its her. Or see how she reacts. Then tell her its her and it really hurts your feelings especially coming from her. Alternatively, hand her a note when she's in a good mood explaining that you love her and it really hurts when she tells you those horrible things. Good luck.
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