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What am I?
21/f
I feel like I am 100% straight in "real life". Women don't turn me on and I never have fantasies about them.
But whenever I watch porn, women turn me on more than men do. It really depends on my mood, sometimes I like watching a guy masturbate but whenever I watch porn with a Women in it, I get way more turned on by her.
Is this normal? I wouldn't call myself bisexual because other than in porn, I am not interested in Women at all, and even when I fantasize without watching anything, I only think about men.
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Relax your normal. Fantasy and reality are two different worlds. You are not a latent Lesbian or bisexual.
There are two reasons you may be turns on more by the women then the men.
1. You simply identify with the women and what they are doing and is being done to them.
2. at some point in our sexual identifying years, which you may still be in. We experience or fantasize having sex with a same sex partner. Her again nothing unusual as it is part of identifying our sexuality.
Porn is designed to titillate. It appears it is doing just that for you. So relax and enjoy what ever it is you are watching.
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Here's a fine example of the (often overlooked but very significant) difference between porn and our real-world/real-life values and aspirations etc. You consider yourself 100 percent straight in terms of real connections and relationships but find the women in porn movies/pictures arousing and stimulating. I'd say in most heterosexual porn the female gets 'top billing' as we might say. She's made-up and presented well, attractive, and gets most of the camera for most of the time. The male actor quite often just providing a penis! The allure of porn is the fantasy aspect, or as you say if you only liked watchings male cocks, you'd only ever watch the male masturbation scenes you mention. It's all a complex psycho-visual package. So, watching, and finding the woman/women the centre of your interest and arousal is absolutely nothing to worry about, and doesn't signify or suggest and lesbian or bi-sexual desires bubbling away below the surface. That will be encouraged or 'fed' by what you're doing. Another attraction towards porn is that basically, all of us are 'interested' in sex, at least to some degree. And I really DO mean all of us. As a general rule, few people get the opportunity to physically (in real life) watch couples having sex. And certainly not on a regular basis! And probably a lot wouldn't actually want to realise this act should the opportunity arise. Porn provides this opportunity, which we 'live out' in a perfectly controlled and safe environment via our fantasy. Really, it's no different from engaging with an action/sci-fi/romantic/horror/war/ movie. Or any other gentre you care to mention, basically. On a fundamental level, lets say a guy watching would, in fantasy, like to be the guy in the porn movie, and it's arousing. You might project yourself into being the girl (in fantasy, remember!) and find it arousing. In the same way as a guy might like the idea of being Captain Kirk of the starship, shooting-up the bad guys and saving the earth? I've kind of run-on a bit here in discussing your query, hope you haven't fallen asleep reading it!! Bottom line? Stop worrying. View if you enjoy it, like any brand of visual arts/media. And if you find yourself responding to the female actress/model, it's nothing to worry about either.
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Its not uncommon for straight women to be attracted to other women, especially in porn. They most likely will not act on it, but there's some attraction thing going on. Its been documented, look it up if you want. So you're normal.
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You are totally fine, no need to worry.
Turn on's are mostly different for different people and at times people get turned on by really sick things. Your case is quite common in which when you see women it turns you on more as compared to seeing a guy.
This happens when you see those women having sex or simply masturbating, you unknowingly in your sub conciuos, start to compare yourself with them and imagine your ownself in them. It all happens in the sub conscious so you might be seeing those women and thinking that they turned you on but at the back of your head your brain makes you see your own self in that woman. So basically, you are turned on by your ownself. Its the same when guy watches porn in which there is both genders it turn him more cuz he thinks he himself is performing the act rather than simply watching a gal maturbating.
Hard to explain it but your brain is playing smart here. Next time try to monitor closely if possible if not just enjoy the moment. Nothing alarming here.
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