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My friend won't speak to me.
For 2 years, I have always had 2 best friends by my side. This last August, one of my friends tried to commit suicide. Me and my other friend were really worried and were wondering if we should tell someone. This school year, we had a suicide and depression screening. My friend who tried to commit suicide earlier, answered her screening test truthfully. Now she is getting help with her counselors and a psychologist. Recently, she has had trouble with her family, and me and my other friend were getting worried again. We decided to tell our counselor. When she found out we went behind her back and told the counselor, she got mad and said she could handle it on her own. Now she is currently not speaking to us. Our counselor pulled me out of class and told me that we did the right thing, and that she was grateful that we did it, but I'm still confused, because she still won't talk to either of us. Please help.
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I would suggest unless you see her doing something to hurt herself that you not contact her counselor again for it will only widen the rift between you. I'm almost positive she will say something about what occurred between you in a therapy session which will give the counselor reason to work with her on this. Just continue to watch out for her and be there for her when she is ready.
You two are very good friends and you did the right thing. She is very luck to have you two for friends. Even though she may not be speaking to you right now continue to watch out for her. Working with her counselor she will eventually come around and you all will be friends again.
One thing about depression most people do not understand is that people who suffer with it see things or perceive things not as they actually are. The depression distorts a lot of what they see. Part of this is because depression cause a form of pain that is hard to describe. It is not just mental anguish it can also be physical pain. The mental anguish and the physical pain can cause the depression to deepen which is why she most likely tried suicide.
Just because she may not be talking to you at the moment is no reason to not try and include her in what the two of you are doing. Continue to try and be her friend. Offer to include her in things you are doing. She will probably refuse for now but at least you are letting her know you are their for her if she needs you.
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You did the right thing, you was just being a good friend. Just understand she is in a very hard position right now, and she is going too need her friends but she is also going too need her time too herself. Never be too distant though, give her a week or so too calm down if she still hasn't spoke too you, just try and speak too her and try too explain you was just worried about her, and you thought it was the right thing too do. She will understand, don't feel bad for what you did. That was the mature thing too do. Imagine how you would've felt if you didn't say anything and she ended up harming herself? A lot worse than you do now believe me! By telling it means you care. Good luck.
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