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This guy and I have a great connection. I feel very strongly for him, just as he does for me. But, he is conflicted about us being together, or even feeling this way for that matter. He is unsure if it is the right thing.
We do not have a choice but to see eachother everyday because he is the Asst. Manager at my job. (The twist)
I feel like this could be an excellent opportunity to take up and in the end, it could be very beneficial.
He decided to retreat for the night to collect his thoughts. I do not know how I should take this. Tomorrow, if his decision is to back off, I would not get mad, but what could I do to keep my heart from being torn...? I really, really feel for this man.
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Let me tell you...I was involed with someone who was 16 and he was 23. I am also not going to just say, "hes too old". But like the person before me said, you REALLY need to ask yourself, "why can't he find someone his own age." This is important because this same guy was with for about 3 years always assured me it was nothing to do with age. But, a year or two into our relationship, he cheated on me with a girl who was 15 (at the time i was 17 and he was 24). We aren't together now, and he is with a 18 year old and he is going to be 28. Now I realize that something isn't right with him.
So really think that there MAY be underlying issues with this man. It is also dangerous because you work together, and if something happens, work will be more than awkward. Be careful. Think it through and I think you will make the right decision.
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ok ; i toLd my boyfriend about me cheating yesterday [ monday ] & he was upset , didnt taLk to me aLL yesterday or today . i just kept assuring him i was sorry and i Love him with everything & everything i couLd think of . weLl today i caLLed and was Like do you want me to come voer and he said yea . i went & it was hard at first he was crying & everything i said i know i fucked up . but my Love for you is reaL & so on ..... & then i started cryin because he was Like well i dont know how i can trust you again & forgive you i dont think i can .. then he Looked at me , saw the sorrow in my eyes and grabed me and hugged em adn said iLL give you one more chance but if you ever do anything like that ever aagain kiss me good bye & i just started crying and everyinth . we made up with kisses and other thigns ya know & he toLd me straight up its gonna take time to see how he feeLs so i hope everygi works out . thanks (link)
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I am so happy for you!! That is almost EXACTLY how my bf and I made up. Things will be okay after some time. I can't express how glad I am. You two sound like you have something good...something real...keep it up! Be strong :)
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ok im in tears .... idk why its just getting to me now ; but me and my boyfriend have been dating aLmost 7 months now . im in Love with that boy & hes my everything . over the summer i cheated on him with the boy he hates most ''/ i feeL so bad , i HATE my seLf so much for it - the one thing i have in Life that means so much to me i fuck it up with my stupidity . im so scared to teLL him because he toLd me he wouLd break up with me if i cheated on him ''/ id literaLy be crushed i dont know wat to do
i cant keep this inside anymore ... N0 one knows & i wana teLL him so bad but nothing good can come out of it ''/
pLease heLp & this is serious . (link)
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Let me tell you, I was in a similar situation not too long ago. My bf and I had been going out for about 6 months when I ended up making out with my ex. I felt really bad and kept if from my bf for a long time. He told me the only way he would leave me was if i cheated on him. Well one day we were talking about this subject and I told him I had something I needed to tell him. I told him what I did, and I was crying and apologizing a million times. He got very upset, and hardly wanted to talk to me. We did talk it out, and although he was upset for some time after that, we moved on.
Now, i don't exactly know your situation, but this is the best advice I can give you. If you are in a serious relationship with your bf, and you two truely love each other, you need to tell him. In the end you will feel a lot better, and you won't be walking around with this guilt. Explain to him how bad you feel, and that you feel that telling him is the right thing to do because you DO love him. Explain that it was a stupid mistake, and let him know how much it would kill you for you two to break up over this, but tell him that you respect him enough to tell him the truth, because you don't want any secrets between you two.
I think by doing this, he will see your true feelings, and that you feel really bad about it that you just want to tell him because of how it's been eating at you. If he feels the same way, he will see past it eventually. Understand that he may or may not be upset with you for a while after this, but you know in your heart it's the best thing to do. You don't want that cloud hanging over you and your relationship.
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yeah im one of those skinny chics who think they're fat, andive always been that way. one time in eighth grade i was just sooo sure that i was fat, even though people told me i wasnt, i guess i thought they were just lying to make me feel better, but eventually i stopped eating so i could lose weight.
i didnt eat for a whole week i went from 135 pounds to 105 andi still thought i was fat! my parents were sooo freaked out that they almost hospitalized me but i gave up the anorexic diet because i thought it was doing no good cauze no matter how much weight i lost i still thought i was fat.
right now im eating at least 2 meals a day and ive gained a little weight back but i still think im fat and i was just wondering what this disease is called.... i know when u stop eating your anorexic and when u force yourself to throw up thats belimic, but all of us have the same problem we think we're fat so what is that disease called? (link)
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You are correct in classifying those eating disorders. Most likely though, the whole idea behind you thinking you are fat even though you are not, is more of a mental/psychological disorder. There is something in your head that distorts the view of yourself. When you look in the mirror, you see a fat girl, when others look at you, they see a skinny girl. It doesn't mean you are crazy or anything because of how I worded it, you just simply have a distorted view of yourself. The best way to get to the root of the problem is to see your doctor and explain everything you just explained here, to them. They may recommend you go see a specialty physician.
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So yesterday, pretty much this morning, around 12:30-1:00 I had sex with my boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him and I don't regret it. We had a little to drink and then just ended up making out...and one thing lead to another and we had sex. It wasn't to painful and didn't realize that I had bled until I took a shower this morning and noticed my clothes. So yeah, we didn't use any protection but he said not to worry he didn't cum. I'm kind of nervous but not too worried about it, I just really don't want to get pregnant. We had sex for about 5 mins only; maybe evben less. Do you think I should get the morning after pill or am i ok? (link)
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Take it, pre-cum has a large amount of sperm in it, and pre-cum is secreted very early in sex because it acts as a natural lubracant. Just because he didn't cum doesn't mean you can't get pregnent. Take the pill.
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Hi me again thanks for your advice i would like to know some things i can do to help him any advice woulp help thanks.
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You have to be sure you are building his confidence at all times, not just when you two are alone. In front of friends show that you are proud to have him as your man, that will, in turn, make him feel better about himself. And help his confidence. Then, when it comes to you two being alone and you want to make him feel more comfortable with himself, start with touching him and don't go any further until you see he is comforatble with you just touching him. Then, for the next step, you can try giving him oral, and seeing if he is comfortable with that. Then of course, we all know what the next step would be lol. But make sure you try all of these things slowly, checking to see how comfortable he is before you move on to the next step.
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my bf and i have bben together for about 6 months
were 16 and well his penis is quite small and hes embarrassed about it and when it come sexual stuff he doesnt so anything we make out and that but he wont do much else im not going to force into anything but i would like to take things further i think hes still hung up about his size
what can i do? (link)
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What you need to do is take things very slowly. Slowly make him more and more confident about it. I would suggest you making moves on him slowly, don't jump too far into things. As his confidence builds, he will open up more and be open to doing more sexual things with you. Then you can make that big step. If you need more specific ideas of what to do let me know!
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i was wondering, r u supposed to shave .. down there? 4 girls i mean (link)
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You are not "supposed" to. It's whatever you feel like doing.
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well i have braces and i relly want to give my bf a blow job but will the braces get in the way?if i do give him on will they hurt him? (link)
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Uhmm...well if you do it right your teeth should not come in contact with his penis at all..but there is always the chance that it might rub against your braces...and that would be extremely painful for him. Plus, you'd have to really brush your braces good after that. But um..i'd say hold off on that. Basically if you know what you are doing, and thats really what you want to do...go for it...if you aren't sure...hold off. Don't gamble.
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my bf and i are 16 were both virgins and when we went to have sex the first time he couldnt his penis in it went soft weve tried again and he couldnt get it up he got really embarrassed not sure if its nerves but why would this happen?
i want to help him what can i do? (link)
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He might have Erectile Dysfunction which is an erection problem where the man has the inability to get or maintain an erection that is firm enough for a man to have intercourse. You may be unable to get an erection at all, or you may lose the erection during intercourse before you are ready. If the condition persists, the medical term is erectile dysfunction.
In many cases, it is a temporary condition that will go away with little or no treatment. In other cases, it can be an ongoing problem that can damage a man's self esteem and harm his relationship with his partner, and thus requires treatment.
If you have difficulty having or keeping an erection more than 25% of the time, it is considered a problem.
In the past, erection problems were thought to be "all in the man's mind." Men often were given unhelpful advice such as "don't worry" or "just relax and it will take care of itself." Today, doctors believe that when the problem is not temporary or does not go away on its own, physical factors are often the cause.
An erection requires the interaction of your brain, nerves, hormones, and blood vessels. Anything that interferes with the normal process can become a problem. Common causes include:
Diseases and conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, heart or thyroid conditions, poor circulation, low testosterone, depression, spinal cord injury, nerve damage (for example, from prostate surgery), or neurologic disorders (such as multiple sclerosis or Parkinson's disease)
Medications such as blood pressure medications (especially beta-blockers), heart medications (such as digoxin), some peptic ulcer medications, sleeping pills, and antidepressants
Nicotine, alcohol, or cocaine
Poor communication with your partner
Stress, fear, anxiety, or anger
Unrealistic sexual expectations, which make sex a task rather than a pleasure
"Vicious cycle" of doubt, failure, or negative communication that reinforces the erection problems
Erection problems tend to become more common as you age, but it can affect men at any age and at any time in their lives. Physical causes are more common in older men, while psychological causes are more common in younger men.
Couples who cannot talk to each other are not likely to be able to make love to each other. Men who have trouble communicating their feelings may find it difficult to share with their partner any anxieties about their sexual performance. If you keep worries to yourself, you are more likely to lose erections. Men who cannot express and resolve feelings of anger or frustration towards their partner may hold back their erection as a weapon in the conflict. In these circumstances, counseling can be very helpful for both you and your partner.
It may just be nerves...try to tell him to relax, and see if it gets any better!
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Hey, you answered my question before and told me that what i might have is a UTI. I was wondering if it makes the place where you pee from kind of swollen too? And if I go to see a gyno, will they tell my mom ive had sex, i turn 16 in a few weeks. (link)
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Possibly, the infection reacts different with every woman. Other symptoms include...
Symptoms of UTI or bladder infection are not easy to miss and include a strong urge to urinate that cannot be delayed which is followed by a sharp pain or burning sensation in the urethra when the urine is released. Most often very little urine is released and the urine that is released may be tinged with blood. The urge to urinate recurs quickly and soreness may occur in the lower abdomen, back, or sides.
This cycle may repeat itself frequently during the day or night--most people urinate about six times a day, when the need to urinate occurs more often a bladder infection should be suspected.
When bacteria enters the ureters and spread to the kidneys, symptoms such as back pain, chills, fever, nausea, and vomiting may occur, as well as the previous symptoms of lower urinary tract infection.
Proper diagnosis is vital since these symptoms can also be caused by other problems such as infections of the vagina or vulva. Only your physician can make the distinction and make a correct diagnosis.
If you go see a gyno, or just a regular doctor (like i did)...legally the doctor cannot tell your parents that you have been having sex because of they legally have to keep what is said between patient and doctor confidential. But you should NOT lie to your doctor about having sex, they need the truth of what has been happening to you in order to treat you correctly.
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I had sex about 3 weeks ago and I should be getting my period in a week and I usually have to pee a lot before i get it, but lately its been really itchy down there and sometimes it hurts to pee, i dont know if its because i have to go so much and im irritating it or what, cude this be an std? help! thanks (link)
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If you really do have pain when you urinate, it is probably a urinary tract infection. I have gotten it before, and if you do then you need to go to a doctor asap!
I took this from a medical website...
A mild case of cystitis may go away on its own without treatment. Because of the risk of the infection spreading to the kidneys, however, antibiotics are usually recommended. It is important that you finish the entire course of prescribed antibiotics.
Prevention Return to top
Do NOT douche or use similar feminine hygiene products.
Do NOT drink fluids that irritate the bladder, like alcohol and caffeine.
Drink cranberry juice or use cranberry tablets, but NOT if you have a personal or family history of kidney stones.
Drink plenty of fluids.
Keep your genital area clean.
Urinate after sexual intercourse.
Wear cloth undergarments.
Wipe from front to back.
You can try AZO Urinary Tract Relief...but if it has been untreated for sometime, go to a doctor.
If you really don't want to tell your mom. Try going to a free clinic. Other than that, I don't know what else you can do!
I was in the exact situation not too long ago. My best advice is to go to a doctor ASAP! Because I waited so long to tell my mom (because she didn't know I was having sex) and because it went untreated the infection spread to my kidney's and i ended up with a very painful kidney infection and had to be in the hospital for treatment. If I would've waited longer, it could've spread to my blood, and POSSIBLY could've died. I ended up having to tell her i've been having sex. of course she was upset, but glad to know i told her what was happening before the infection got worse.
It is not an STD, and it is curable. But, only if you act right away. Also, they may be reoccuring...that varies from woman to woman. Not tryin to scare you, just want you to be okay.
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I've seen this cat around my yard. I can garentee that it's not owned because I live in a small neighborhood, and everyone in it has atleast 2 dogs. The cat lives in a trash pile basicly that me and my family has colected over the year, and it's gotten bigger. Well I want to save this cat before winter comes, it will freze to death! My dogs, one I got was from a family that was broken up and the little dog had no where to go and my family took her in and we now call her Keylii. The other one is a lot bigger then Keylii who is a Tea-cup Pamerian, and his names Bear. Well they've bothc ome from familys that has had cats in the house so my dogs will get along with the cat, but how am I going to get it to come to me? I wana feed it, it's been getting into out garbadge and that can't be filling, But ive never had a cat before. I was thinking about louring it out by like canned tuna, I also have babyfood.. if cats eat that and dog food for little dogs if cats eat that too. But i need to think of the good of the animal. I dont wanna call Animal Services so don't give me that option because what if they put it down??? Then there'd be no point in saving it.. but what if it has a deseice and it bites me? I know im up-dated in my shots so Im not worried about that but if it bites me, and my Mom finds out she wont let if around the baby. I wanna save this cat. I know its homeless and letting it live where it is isnt an option. Neither is calling animal services. Im willing to take the chance of being biten out scratched, I just need some help on how to get the cat out of the pile of nothing.. please anyting is helpful and im sorry for giving u resrtictions but im not going to happy knowing its out there, or that its in the hands of other people who might hurt it.
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Well I would have said to call animal services, that is because the same thing happened to me. They said it would go to a shelter. But, I only say this because you don't want to take a chance that the cat has a disease that could spread to you, your family, especially with a baby around. Unless you get the cat to a vet, but I doubt you could pay for shots, etc because you said you didn't want your mom to find out. Plus, the cat is probably so used to living "free" that it will not like to be domesticated, (living in a house). Cats have a great instinct and will know what to do in the winter. Because of your circumstances, if you can not get it to a vet to get checked, etc, then do not try to capture it yourself. Your only other option would be to call animal services and tell them you want them to insure you that the cat will be put in a shelter. There are some animal services you can call that will not put down the cat. Examine all of these options fully before making a decision.
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so ive never really been in a proper relationship and i would really like to be with a guy
im a little fat but i think i am pretty
i cant really find a guy that likes me
i also wish to have sex very soon
everybody else seems to in my year except me
i really want to have sex to see what its like (link)
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I completely agree with the first person who wrote on here. It is not all it's cracked up to be. Also, it is soo true that AT LEAST half of the people who said they have sex...haven't. They are just saying it so they "fit in". Very stupid, I know. I think you are too young also, though I know how much you don't like to hear it. Trust me...i've had enough problems with sex myself...and it wasn't pregnancy or an STD...I got a urinary tract infection (which is VERY common among women and girls who have sex). I waited too long to tell my mom (because I would have to tell her I was having sex) and it spread to my kidneys. I was hospitalized and in a LOT of pain. I had to tell my mom and it broke her heart because it broke her trust...
So its not just pregnancy and STDS that can scare people away from sex...it's everything...it's life changing...and at your age...it isn't worth the trouble. You have other things to worry about. Trust me.
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Hi, umm Im the girl you answered a question about me having a lot of guys friends and how one of them stuck up for me whne Nick called me butch.. well hasn't even been a week and people are driving me batty.
ahh Stevens still in ISS... and so's Nick.
Well yesturday.. we had cooking and I got stuck wiht becky.. thank good DJ,JJ, and Nathen. Well im friends with Nathen.. and JJ was making jokes about how its a womens job to cook and all this sexist crap.. well then Cole joined and Nathen already hated this kid so they got in a talking arguement and as Nathen walked away he like said to me under his breath..
"Err I wished he'd die.. of cancer."
Well I tweaked on him because ive senn what cancer does to people and after a while there gone. like there bodys still on earth but anything else is gone.. and I screamed at him!
I was like WHAT! I was like noo even I cant stand Cole but never EVER would I wish death on anyone!! Expecially not cancer.." and he was like oo oo i didnt mean it like that.. I was you still said it! what is wrong with you.. have you seen what cancer does to people! and my Uncle passed away November 4th of last year and not a day goes by i dont think of him.. I love him and he lived 9 months after finding out he had cancer but maybe 6 months tops into it he was gone.. and i told him this.he was like ughh oo.. ee..
And i remember in the last question i said all my guy friends were just friends but I knew I did have feelings about Nathen.. and I never expected this from him he didnt know.. about my Uncle but he still said it..
Well i started crying and actually ran to the ISS room to talk to Steven
Mrs Berry it was cool aslong as we were quite. Well I hugged him.. and basicly cried on his shoulder.. I told him everything about me liking him and how he said it and Stevens attitude changed completely.. first he was like ohh come here.. are you okay like completely friend.. next minete he stil cared but i could tell i hurt his feelings. And now im not sure about anything like does Steven like me??? I love Steven as a brother as a best friend as someone i can count on.. not a boyfriend. Well i had to leave and as I hugged Steven he was stiff..
I had PE afterwards and I have that class with Nathen and he just looked at me..
I dont want to be the person who cries alot of but at the moment that doesnt madder.. im gunna lose two of my good friends over something thats Nathens fault.. but i like Nathen i think because when he sai it i wanted to claw at him..
Explain to me why im feeling like ahhhhhhhhh
Stevens my friend, if i knew he liked me never would i explain it in such a good detail, i thought he loved me as a sister.. not girlfriend Ive never look at Steven in that way but this whole week has sucked NOW i feel acward around my friends because what if they like me, and i hurt there feelings??? I love them and would never wanna see any of them hurt. But Steven wont return phone calls, ive asked about him but everyones like no hes fune BLAHH BLAHH when i know there lieing they didnt see him face.. i shouldve listened to people when they said it was a possibilty that he liked me, but like thgey dont know him,but i just feel akward around the guys.. what if there loking down my shirt (something ive never worried about) just dumb things jeez im paranoid..
Please help again..=D..=\
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It seems as though Steven will not come out and admit that his feelings were hurt for some reason. My personal opinion says he likes you. You should really sit him down and talk to him about it. Explain where you stand with him (how you said you like him as a brother...not a bf...) and say you are sorry if his feelings got hurt.
I'm sure Nathen wasn't thinking when he made the comment about cancer. People don't think. It's like when people say..."oh, that's gay..." and there might be a homosexual man standing around, or whatever. People say things and don't think about what it actually means. So I don't think he meant it that way. But still, it's good that you made him know that he should think next time, because people really do go through Cancer, and it is nothing to wish upon anyone. I do think Nathen likes you, I also think you need to have a conversation with him about this too, though it may be hard, it's the only thing you can do to clear things up, and not walk around to awkward and confused all the time! That's the only way you will know things for sure.
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Hey.. we are two average 15 year old girls. We really want to have more guy friends and eventually a boyfriend. We have a few guy friends but we def. want more. We have a lot of friends in general but we need more guys friends. We are trying to plan something to hang out with them but if that doesnt work than we need more help. We dont have their sn's or phone #s either. Please help us get some more guys friends! thanks sooooo much!!!! (link)
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The main thing you have to work on is being bold! Don't be shy! I know its easier said than done, but sometimes guys are shy too, and being bold just helps. Get friendly, maybe a bit flirty, and then just ask for their sns or phone numbers. Tell them they are cool and you wanna chat some other time other than just being there in person. Also, if you want more guy friends, bring up something random about them happening at the time, (for example, if a guy is wearing a cute shirt tell them you like it...then ask where they got it...) and keep going and introduce yourself in the middle of the conversation, and just become friends that way. It always works for me! Then continue to get closer to them, talking with them, seeing what you have in common, plan some days to hang out or whatever...and you might just get yourself a boyfriend!
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ok so today me and my boyfriend had sex and we didnt have proctection but we cant get it because none of our friends know and we arent going to go and buy them ourselves so he just takes it out before he feels like he is going to finnish, well today he said he didnt feel it until 10 seconds before he finnished and he pulled out and about 8 second after he finnished. i freaked out of course but he said he could feel when he pre cums so i dont know if i should believe him or what. ALso, what are the first signs of being pregnant ? (link)
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The pull out method doesn't work. Most men cannot feel most, if any of their pre-cum..which gets realeased usually very soon after he becomes aroused and sexual things start happning. It acts as a natural lubricant...just like when a girl is "wet". Same idea. The thing is that pre-cum can contain millons of sperm, which can get you pregnant. I don't understand why it is so hard to go get condoms? Also, even though you may not think you are at risk of getting an STD, you can get HPV and be at risk for cervical cancer. Look it up if you don't know much about HPV, by the age of 50, 80% of women would've been exposed to it.
Just a bad idea all around. The first signs of being pregnant are headaches, nausea, soreness of the breats, among others.
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i don't know if this is in the right category but here it goes. lately i've noticed i have all the symptoms of a urine infection and i'm worried it's because i've been sexually active. normally i'd just tell my mom and go to the doctor but if my mom were to find out i'm having sex i'd probably be disowned. is there any way a doctor can find out that i have been having sex? or is there anything i can do to try to get rid of the infection without getting my mom involved, like any items from CVS or anything? thanks in advance! (link)
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I was in the exact situation not too long ago. My best advice is to go to a doctor ASAP! Because I waited so long to tell my mom (because she didn't know I was having sex) and because it went untreated the infection spread to my kidney's and i ended up with a very painful kidney infection and had to be in the hospital for treatment. If I would've waited longer, it could've spread to my blood, and POSSIBLY could've died. I ended up having to tell her i've been having sex. of course she was upset, but glad to know i told her what was happening before the infection got worse.
I took this from a medical website...
A mild case of cystitis may go away on its own without treatment. Because of the risk of the infection spreading to the kidneys, however, antibiotics are usually recommended. It is important that you finish the entire course of prescribed antibiotics.
Prevention Return to top
Do NOT douche or use similar feminine hygiene products.
Do NOT drink fluids that irritate the bladder, like alcohol and caffeine.
Drink cranberry juice or use cranberry tablets, but NOT if you have a personal or family history of kidney stones.
Drink plenty of fluids.
Keep your genital area clean.
Urinate after sexual intercourse.
Wear cloth undergarments.
Wipe from front to back.
You can try AZO Urinary Tract Relief...but if it has been untreated for sometime, go to a doctor.
If you really don't want to tell your mom. Try going to a free clinic. Other than that, I don't know what else you can do!
Let me know if you are okay!
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does anyone know how to like lose 10-15 pounds in a month??????
I need answers!!!!!!
\thanks sondra (link)
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Honestly, cut out all junk food. Cut out foods high in sodium, sugar and carbs. exercise at least 3-4 hrs a week. Walking, running, cycling, whatever you like to do. You will be fine!
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