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27 year old man and 16 Year old young woman
This guy and I have a great connection. I feel very strongly for him, just as he does for me. But, he is conflicted about us being together, or even feeling this way for that matter. He is unsure if it is the right thing.
We do not have a choice but to see eachother everyday because he is the Asst. Manager at my job. (The twist)
I feel like this could be an excellent opportunity to take up and in the end, it could be very beneficial.
He decided to retreat for the night to collect his thoughts. I do not know how I should take this. Tomorrow, if his decision is to back off, I would not get mad, but what could I do to keep my heart from being torn...? I really, really feel for this man.
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First, doesn't the age difference bother you? My cousin was in the same position. She was 17 and her boyfriend was 27. If he decides to back off, I think you should back off. I understand you have feelings for him, and I bet you do. However, a relationship like this never turns out beneficial. The advice I could give you is to take walk a different path than he is. To keep your hear not being torn is slowly forget about it.
Good Luck!
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Let me tell you...I was involed with someone who was 16 and he was 23. I am also not going to just say, "hes too old". But like the person before me said, you REALLY need to ask yourself, "why can't he find someone his own age." This is important because this same guy was with for about 3 years always assured me it was nothing to do with age. But, a year or two into our relationship, he cheated on me with a girl who was 15 (at the time i was 17 and he was 24). We aren't together now, and he is with a 18 year old and he is going to be 28. Now I realize that something isn't right with him.
So really think that there MAY be underlying issues with this man. It is also dangerous because you work together, and if something happens, work will be more than awkward. Be careful. Think it through and I think you will make the right decision.
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Okay, first of all, a lot of people are going to say he's too old. Please don't listen. I've had a similar experience and trust me, age is only a number.
The real question is why can't he find someone his own age? No offense intended, but older men tend to like more mature women. 16 is pretty young but I'm not trying to judge you. You just need to think about this for a while.
All you can do is wait. If he decides to have a relationship with you, it will not be easy. People will judge you- and are you legally allowed to date a manager? (I only ask because at my work, you aren't.) If he decides not to, you just have to move on. Heartbreak is a part of life and it's okay to feel sad. Distract yourself with friends and going out and eventually you will be able to see him without it hurting.
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