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Alright so i was wondering, in order for some one to get mono, the person you are kissing has to have it right?
And also would the person you are kissing know that he has it?
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Actually, kissing isn't the only way to get mono. It's one way, but the other 2 are sharing drinks and getting really run-down and worn out.
What you're asking: 1) no, he wouldn't necessairly know. Just because you have the bacteria doesn't mean you're sick; you can just be a carrier. 2) he doesn't have to be sick, just have it in his system.
Sorry, those 2 answers are backwards of the order you asked them in...
Anyway, hope that made sense.
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What happens when you get braces taken off? (link)
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It really doesn't hurt, and nothing bleeds. your teeth feel a little weird, kind of like they moved backwards in your mouth, but it's 'cause the braces always pressed into the inside of your lips. It takes a little bit of work on the orthodontist's part of get rid of the glue they used, but it's still painless.
The best part is the feeling that they're finally gone.
Oh, they'll probably give you a retainer too...but that's as painless as the rest of it.
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I just found out that a distant relative who passed away has left me an 800 dollar inheritance. It may not sound like a lot but to me it is. I should be getting the money within the next month.
I would like to purchase something with the money. I don't want to blow it on clothing or CD's or DVD's. What would be something that I could buy that would be a wise purchase? I already have a DVD player and a computer. (link)
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You could save it for educational stuff, textbooks etc for school...I know, terrible, but trust me, parents don't like paying for it either.
Also there's stuff like cell phones, a prom dress...or just save it for like senior prom and make it a huge night, you could redecorate your room...
Personally I'd say save it for when you find something you really want.
by the way, since I don't know what age you are, some of the suggestions may not apply to you. sorry about that.
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My doctor told me i have depression. And i dont doubt it becuase im always crying and stuff. I dont know why. Like is their something that makes you depressed? Or do you just randomly feel sad about stuff?. And i really need someone to talk to. like i want to go to a physcologist but my Mom doesnt think i need to. i tell her i do and she says i could but we never get to it. idk what to do . (link)
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Not that it will change her mind, but if your doctor diagnosed you with depression, I'd think your mom would be more open to getting you help. But since she doesn't seem to be, here's my first vote: go to the school psychologist/counsler. They're there for a reason.
Also maybe it'd help convince your mom if you did some looking online and stuff for info about what depression can lead to.
I know from personal experience that it can get pretty nasty, and if you're under stress from school or other things that amplifies the depression and makes you feel like things are way out of control. Feeling like that can lead to things like self-injury and other similar things. Trust me, parents do NOT like living through that. Apparently it's just not pleasant to see their child upset and crying over everything all the time.
To answer the "is there something" question; kind of. Genetics can play a factor, like if one of your immedite family members has/had it you're a little more likely to have it as well. However, it can be from things like close friends/family dying or trying to commit suicide, parents going through a divorce can set it off. It's a lot to do with stress and the amout of stress ends up throwing the chemicals in your brain out of balance. To help that get back in balance there's a couple things you can do. One is get meds, but that's not always necessary. On your own you can keep track of the things that bother you like in a journal or something, and/or you can talk to someone (probably an adult) that you trust and can help you.
Good luck getting your mom to let you see someone.
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Im really sorry if this is to long. if you dont want to read it i understand.
I used to want to kill myself. ive never tried but those thoughts came to my mind often i just never took it into action. I have/Had this one friend named katie. Honestly ive always thought she was twofaced but i always thought to give her more chances... just because i thought she could get over her ways... well i was wrong. Before i met katie i had this best friend that ive known for 8 yrs. Her name is cortnie. Recently me and her have been in this big arguments and we have said hateful things. i highly doubt me and her will ever be friends again. Well anyways.... Katie has been cortnies friend for 2 yrs now and they have been hanging out and me and cortnie have been torn apart and we hardly ever hung out during her and katies friend ship. 5 days ago katie and cortnie got in this big argument because cortnie told some one somthing that katie said that she shouldnt of. so katie got mad at her. Katie betted this girl jessica that she wouldnt be friends with cortnie again. Well yesterday katie called me and she still wasnt friends with cortnie and now she is at her house with jessica. Cortnie has one of my hoodies and she hasnt gavin it back. i just asked her where it was and she said that she let some one borrow it. i yelled at her and told her that she wont get hers back unless she gets mine and i told her not to let anyone borrow my stuff. And then jessica got on the phone and said that if i beat up cortnie then she would fight me and i told her i wasnt scared of her. or anyone that was gunna fight me over cortnie... and so on. we got in a big argument. and then in the back ground i heard katie saying stuff. She was supposed to be my friend. and not take anyones side. Sometimes my heart accually hurts. i can feel it. No one ever believes me when i say that. Jessica got on the phone and was calling me fat. and seriously im not fat. i just need some one to talk to. does anyone have any ideas on what can take my mind off all this drama/stress/ and saddness.??
Anything will help me in this situation..
LoVE =`'( (link)
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I can't promise any of what I say will help, but I'll do my best.
Unfortunately, we'd all love all our friends to be loyal to only us, but it never seems to work out that way.
Maybe the best thing for you to do is sit down and ask yourself "are these people really worth keeping as true friends?" and really think about it. There's no rule that says you have to be actual friends with everyone you know, they can just be girls you hang out with sometimes. Make a list of the pros and cons about each girl involved and decide if you should keep giving them chances.
Also it might not hurt to talk to your parents about this, or another trusted adult. Just to get a perspective of someone who's older and probably went through something similar when they were in school.
To help with the sadness of feeling like you're losing friends, the best thing you can do is get involved with other stuff. If you attend church, get involved with the youth program. If not, find something that you're interested in and join a group with the same interest. Basically get out and meet new people. If your school's not super clique-y, maybe some new friends at school wouldn't hurt.
Also, the worst thing you can do is let this eat your life. I know it sounds hard, and it is. It's a big thing and you think about it a lot and it hurts. But, even so, do your best to distract yourself.
Just a side note, people who call others fat are often insecure about their own bodies, it's like a wall they can hide behind. I think my mom has some good logic: don't be offended by it, feel bad for them that they're so insecure about themselves.
I hope this helps at least a bit because you sound like you're hurting a lot about this. And know that there is at least one other girl who knows and understands what it's like to to have your heart hurt like that and have no one believe you. But, no matter the pain, you can get through it. Good luck
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i've been really stressed lately and i finally cracked. yesterday night i was working on homework late at night and i just started crying. over all the things that are wrong in my life and it seems like theres nothing left to be happy about and im just not happy with my life right now. i dont know what to do. (link)
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I know how that feeling is. A few suggestions:
a) talk to your parents
b) talk to a trusted teacher/school "psychologist"
c) keep a journal so you can at least get your thoughts out
d) do some online reshearch and get information about natural vitamins that can help with stress (I know vitamin B works well for that, and it gives you natural energy)
e) talk to a friend whose advice you trust.
Those aren't in any order, but I'd suggest writing down everything, looking over it and deciding what's worth really stressing over. Then I'd suggest talking to your parents, if you're comfortable doing that.
I hope you feel better
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you have been a really great boyfriend and a relle sweet guy. im relle thankful ur part of my life. but as for our relationship, i need to be completely honest with you. i dont think its going to work out between us and i dont really see our relationship going anywhere. im really sorry, i just feel like we've reached a plateau and this is it. but we've been good friends much longer than we've been boyfriend and girlfriend and i would really like us to still be friends and i know it will be akward at first but i value our friendship and i really dont want us to stop talking and i hope we can stillbe good friends like before we were going out even though thats hard but i care about you a lot and i cant imagine not having you as a friend (link)
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I think it's a pretty darn nice way of saying 'it's over" and probably a lot nicer than most guys would get. I'd say go for it, but don't forget that it's still going to hurt him that you're breaking up with him.
Good luck with this, I think you have a strong, fair and nice breakup idea and hopefully he'll be understanding and remain your friend.
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i have a problem..i'm usually a pretty good student & we juss started new classes & i have a 73 in geometry!!! its because i had an 100% and failed the first test. on the quiz, i failed it!! idk whats even going on. i know the stuff but sometimes i mess up dumb things & when i take the test/quiz i blank out because the questions are worded differently than the worksheets. idk what to even do. i think a tutor might be pointless because i get the info. any advice??
thanks!! (link)
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Hey, the best thing to do is talk to your teacher about it. Show that you get the material and that it's just testing that does you in. From what it sounds like, you probably have a mild case of test anxiety. It's normal to have anxiety in one area but not others; like you can do awesome on say an English test and then do really badly on a math test.
I had that problem, math tests just didn't agree with me. I talked with my teacher she had me try two things: 1) take one test in class and then take another at home and later that year had me start tests early, take a break for about 15 min and then go back to it and look over what I did and change anything I felt was wrong. Between the two methods, test scores went up. I'm not saying that your teacher will allow either of those, or will use either plan, but it might be worth asking if you could try something like that.
Also, if your teacher won't let you change anything, talk to your parents. Explain what's going on and ask them to talk to your teacher about it.
Good luck.
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i used to be the center of attention with my friends..but ever since i started dating my boyfriend i have fallen out of the spotlight it seems. how can i get back in it? (link)
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Having a party might just do the trick.
Also (a less pleasant option) would be to break up with your boyfriend. Not that I actually suggest that, but he may be part of the reason you feel like you're out of the light. They might feel like you're spending more time with him than you are with them. Regardless of if this is true, it often seems to happen with girls.
If you throw a party, don't invite your boyfriend maybe. An all girls party might not be a bad plan, just to show that you love them.
The biggest thing is to make sure that you balance your girl time and your boyfriend time as evenly as you can.
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i just want to know what this might be...(sorry if this is long) at night or in the dark generally i see things moving like shadows... no one else can see them. i hear them talking... i hear people talking all the time. even if im alone. i talk to myself alot. when i try to sleep at night i hear it and i feel it crawl on my skin. the only way to make the noise go away is to listen to music really loud. its getting hard to be in the dark because the shadows that move scare me alot. wouldnt it scare you if you could see things move and stuff that you know cant really be there. so im getting less and less sleep and its effecting my ability to concentrate on my school work so im falling behind. i just stopped taking my ritlan. ive been getting horrible head aches where sometimes my vision will blur and then re focus. i have a twitch. but only when i get cold ill twitch to the left. always the left. and its just one big jerk of a twitch. ive been crying alot. i never used to cry about anything now im crying everyday. im way stressed out because of all of this. so im not sleeping, seeing, hearing and feeling things that arnt there and did i mention hearing things call my name? yeah i hear things call my name all the time. so what might this be? im really worried... it was like this when i was 7 or 8 but it went away... now its coming back... im not going to a psychologist. so thats out of the question and i talked to my mom about it and she just said that its probably nothing and to pray about it. which i am doing. but i just want some information on what it might be? so any help?
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I don't know for sure what's going on because obviously I'm not a professional with any of this stuff but I have a guess. If you just stopped taking the meds suddenly it might be some sort of aftereffect. I know meds for anxiety, depression and other mental health related meds need to be stopped slowly and with caution. I don't know how you stopped taking the meds so I'm not sure, it's just a guess, but I'd bet it has to do with stopping the medication.
Unfortunately, the only thing I can think of for you to do is try using the medication again for a while and then slowly going off it. Other than that I'm out of ideas.
Hopefully this will go away soon, if not, try talking to your mother about it again, or if possible perhaps (since it sounds like you're religous) you could talk to your minister.
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i was a cutter for a year and i just recently slowlly stopped cus i was put in a hospital and my boyfriend was gonna break up with me if i didnt....well now i am getting in trouble at school because i literally have thousands of scars and it is "frightening" the girls...cus i go to an all girls private school...and they are going to kick me out if i dont get them covered up more...so does anyone know of anythings i can do to make the scars look not so bad? (link)
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Wow...you can get kicked out for being 'frightening' with scars? geez..
Anyway, a good start would be cover up makeup. I know it sounds weird to put makeup on your arms and stuff, but it does help. Also, if you can wear a sweater or something that hides the scars it'd help a lot. The scars will fade a bit in time, unless they're really deep, and when you're 18 you can talk to your parents and have them sergically taken off. Until then, I recommend long sleeves when possible, makeup, and to actually lighten the scars, Arnica Alleve organic flower oil can help. You won't see much lightening at first, but if you apply it once in the morning and once in the evening for a couple weeks, improvement should be seen.
Good luck with those...also, asking why you can get kicked out for something on your body might be an interesting thing to know about your school, especially since it effects you directly.
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if a college says you need to take a course in "Voice" (for an acting/theatre major), does this mean that it is singing, or is it something else? this is a description:
voice 1:
Basic work on freeing the actor’s natural voice. Alignment, relaxation, breathing, production of vibration, exercises in recognizing habits and beginning to free the voice from physical and psychological tension. Exploration of vocal expression and emotion. Fundamentals of voice/text work.
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I don't know for sure if that class would be singing. I would assume some of it is, but I would guess that it would also include things like expressing emotion through your speaking voice, like being able to get different emotions across without having to be seen etc.
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What is something i can do to calm down. I am so worked up about everything all i can do is cry. Is there something else i can do besides cry?
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Unfortunatly when you're that upset that all you can do is cry, the best thing to do is cry. Sure, you can take some deep breaths and try to start there. From there I'd suggest writing down what's bothering you, like in a journal or something. Also talking to someone like your parents or another trusted adult might not hurt.
That's the best plan I can come up with, and it's one that usually works for me so...well, I hope you can calm down and be able to decide which things are worth getting upset over and which aren't.
good luck.
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I'm not quite sure what to do. My "best friend" from last year is changing. We used to tell eachother EVERYTHING!! But this year she cheated on her boyfriend, broke up with him, and went back out with him and didn't even tell me. I had to find out from someone else. And she doesn't know about the guy I REALLY REALLY like. Its because she doens't take the time to find out. Every weekend I invite her to the mall, and EVERY time she says she busy and then calls me telling me how bored she is.. Also when ever I hang out with ehr myy grades drop. I dont know if I should stay "best friends" with her or not? Please help (link)
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From the sounds of it, she's negativly affecting your life a lot. Maybe being "best friends" isn't the best thing to do. If you like her a lot as a friend, then keep her, but don't be 'best friends' anymore, just sometimes hang out with her.
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does anyone know of a website that you can post your poems on and get feedback? (link)
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http://www.deviantart.com
you need to sign up for an account for that one.
There's a lot more out there I'm sure, but that's the one I know best.
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ok i no theres like a zillon ocd posts but i really need help with this.
i think i have ocd i have to count everything and touch everything 5 times until its perfect and i think if i dont touch it i will die. i no this is stupid and yaa and like if my shoes arnt right i have to fix them, but my mom doesnt believe that i had ocd shes like if you did then the teachers or the doctor would of pointed it out. what do i do? (link)
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Hm...I'm not going to try to diagnose you with anything, but I'd recommend looking up more about OCD. It's not uncommon, and it sounds like you might have it, but it could also be that you're a perfectionist, about all or just some things.
As for your mom's statement: teachers are not generally trained to notice that kind of thing. They know signs of suicidal behavior, depression etc, but I don't think as much OCD. Mainly because it's hard to tell it apart from perfectionism, especially for a teacher who doesn't know you well.
As for doctors...when's the last time you went in? And was you condition such at the time that they were like "ok, gotta get this kid healthy right now!"? If it was, then you were sick enough that they wouldn't have had any signs to notice anyway. Depends on the type of doctor you see.
If you're worried about possibly being OCD, I'd suggest talking to a school psychologist person (they don't bite, I swear) only so they could maybe give you an idea of if you might be OCD or not. Tell them about how you have to touch things a certain number of times, and that you can't live with things being incorrect. Ask their opinion. Then ask if they recommend telling your mom about your talk with them, and maybe seeing someone else about it.
Should it turn out that you are OCD, there are ways to help you become less OCD, but I don't know about actually curing it. But, it'll make you feel like you don't have to do things as many times and things won't be quite as bothersome.
Luck!
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i just got the new 30 GB video ipod and i have no idea what i'm doing i've installed the software and it automatically downloaded my itunes songs onto my ipod but how do i delete uwanted songs?
and if you could give me more helpful hints on where to get videos and music or anything else that would be sooo great thank you!!! (link)
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I can't do anything about videos and more music you don't already have, but I can tell you that your itunes uploads everything on it to your ipod. So, if you have music that you don't want on your ipod, delete it off your itunes and then update your ipod. However, I don't think there's a way to upload just the stuff off itunes you want.
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I have to write 5 full page essays on this book. I've read the book but it's way too hard for me to comprehend. Sparknotes doens't help because it just summarizes it. Does anyone know any other websites that will help me out with this book? (link)
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http://www.gradesaver.com
However, both Spaknotes and gradesaver have both summaries and analysis of The Scarlet Letter and any other book they have notes on. The analysis is at the bottom of the page, after it summarizes the chapters.
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what are some exercises that you can do that will help you become more flexible so that you can do the splits? thanks! (link)
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The best thing you can do is to practice. I know that's an annoying answer, but it's true. If you want to be able to do the splits any direction, set aside probably less than 5 min per day and go as far as you can and hold it for about 30 seconds to a minute. Increase the time you hold it slowly, and DO NOT force yourself further down than gives a bit of a stretch, it shouldn't hurt when you're holding it (well, your wrists might get a little sore from your weight on them) but your legs shouldn't hurt.
Another thing you can do is this (you can do it sitting or standing, sitting's a little easier).
Bend your knee so you can grab either your ankle or the arch of your foot and slowly straighten the leg of the foot you're holding. If you can't get it straight, DON'T PUSH IT, hold it as best you can for about 30 sec. With time, you'll reach your goal, the goal being to grab your arch and straighten your leg. (Of course, if you have long legs, this is much harder to do and you're better off just working on the splits the other way).
Also, for center split, when you're at home. Instead of sitting at a desk and doing your homework, slide down as far as you can into center split, and then keep your legs that far apart and fall backwards so you're sitting. Hold that position (shouldn't hurt, just strech!) while you do your homework. Not only will it help your splits, it'll help your flexibility, when you're leaning over to do work, it'll help you become more flexible at the waist so you can (hopefully, at some point) be able to be in center split and rest at least your elbows on the floor.
Good luck!
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how do you saute in ballet dont tell me jump because i dont get that! i went to a couple of sites and all they say is "jump" so that does hot help (link)
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Sautes are jumps. (sorry, I know you said not to say that)
A really basic one with not extra steps or positions should basically start from a clean fifth position, go straight up with as much elevation as possible, and come back down to the same fifth position you started in. Keep your knees locked in the air, your feet together and your upper body still. Land with your kness slightly bent in a demi plie, with your heels down (otherwise you run the risk of injury to your ankles) and don't lean forward or back.
Um..I don't think I can explain it any better, even though I dance.
I hope what I said made some sense...
good luck.
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