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ok I broke up with my bf and from doing that my bf and his friends found me and beat me up pretty badly....i meen no broken bones but still pretty badly....so I was wonderin if he can get in like trouble 4 that because i kno like at school wen kids beat eachother up they dont get in trouble and i was wondering if this is like that...(my ex also did this to his last gf)....and is this my fault because thats how I feel..that its my fault...cuz my ex said that it was and it kind of is because im the one who chose to break up with him in the first place...and thats y he beat me up with his friends...well ya so do u think its my fault 2? (link)
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This is not your fault. Tell your parents and the police immediately. He will keep doing this until someone stops him. Please tell the police.
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i've been looking up different types of birthcontrol pills & it says:
$20–$35 for monthly pill pack at drugstores. Often less at clinics.
$35–$125 for an exam, if needed.
----does that mean they sale the pill pack at a drugstore? such as.. eckerds or walgreens without a prescription?
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Nope, you need a prescription. Sorry to disappoint.
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Okay, I know this might sound weird, but has anyone done the yuko system on their hair, or knows about the actual results? Its a herbal hair straightning thing that is very expensive but is said to leave your hair permanently straight, without burning it. So no, its not like relaxing your hair. My hair is curly, like cork-screw curls, not waves. But its really soft. (link)
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I know all about it. It is great for awhile, until the roots start growing in. Then your roots look odd. If you do this, keep your hair long, it will stay straighter longer that way. Also be prepared for many hours of hair pulling. You scalp might be sore afterwards since it takes so long and many people will be tugging at your hair.
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awhile back i gave my boyfriend head, and i only did it once, but im deathly afraid i have an std. i dont want to tell my parents anything. he told me he didnt cum but im scared. i go to bed crying often because of it. do i have an std?
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I wouldn't worry about it if all he has ever gotten was a hand job. You two should go to planned parenthood and both get tested for stds.
In the future, use a condom even during oral sex. And get some dental dams for when he reciprocates (if you aren't also getting oral sex out of the deal, dump him immediately).
Be safe and have fun.
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is it immature for 11-13 yr olds to have sex?
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Yes. While I am all for premarital sex, there is a time and a place for it. Besides not being emotionally ready, they simply aren't responsible enough to use birth control properly.
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I have a question..
what is better to use when going horseback riding
tampons or pads
thanks
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If you are so concerned about it, just use both.
But if I had to choose one, I'd say tampon.
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my boyfriend cuts and im really scared for him..he just started so i want to stop him, but when i do he gets mad at me. wat should i do? help help help! (link)
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First there are several things you need to understand. Cutting is an addiction. It is a way of coping.Depending on the person, it can be someone's entire coping mechanism. It isn't easy to just stop.
You need to sit down with him and have a serious talk, not so much so you can say what you want to say, but mostly to listen and find out why he is cutting himself. After that it would be easier to find out what you can do to help him stop.
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how long after a break up should you wait before the next chase? I mean like... looking around for new people... if the relationship you've just come out of wasn't that serious... but I don't want to hurt his feelings by jumping straight back in... :S
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One half of how long the relationship was, however in many cases a quarter of how long it was is acceptable. I'm guessing a quarter would be acceptable in your situation since it wasn't serious. As long as you don't pull a Tom Cruise and/or aren't all over this guy guy in front of your ex, he shouldn't be too hurt.
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I'm having a camping party by the sea for my 18th birthday in July but the only campsite available is quite expensive.
The charge is £5 per head for camping and I want to invite 20+ people. My total budget for the party is £100. I'm providing food and drinks, and even tents for some people. Do you think it would be reasonable to ask my friends to help out with their camping fee and if so how much should I ask them for? I thought about asking for at least £2.50 each otherwise I'll have to severely limit the number of people.
Thanks.
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Asking your friends to chip in is quite acceptable. Asking them to pay for their entire fee is also acceptable in this situation. If anyone simply doesn't have the money, you can ask that they bring food instead. Or everyone could bring food and stuff instead of money.
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what are some good foods to take with you to eat in the car when your traveling?
Thanks
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Munchies are only the best snack food ever made. They come in a variety of flavors. I highly recommend the kids kind and the original.
Flaky Flix are good.
Some type of granola bar is good to have around since you can only eat so much crap before you get sick.
If you feel like being classy, French bread with cheese or butter is something you should take. Butter is more portable since you can get the little packets of it just about anywhere.
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how do you use a tampon? i mean, in places it says "insert it in the opening.." but exactly wut opening? i`m confused about that.. =/ (link)
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Go here for an animated tutorial: http://img32.echo.cx/img32/3417/11164596098266ft.gif
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If someone smokes pot for about a week straight and stops 4 or 5 days before they are given a dip test for urine testing, will they pass the drug test? (link)
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No, sorry hun. Before the test drink a bunch of water. This will make your urine too watered down. If you did this alone, they would disregard your test since you watered down the sample.
So a couple hours before the test eat a lot of steak. Steak has some chemical in it that makes it look like your urine isn't watered down. Then continue to drink water as much as possible.
Good luck.
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anyone kno about the day after pill? can u get it over the counter? (link)
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It really depends on where you live. You can get it from Planned Parenthood or most emergency rooms.
Please get it as soon as possible.
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i know the law of the difference of age in dating is but morally what should be the biggest gapin age of a relationship--a serious one (link)
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Let's refer to the older person's age as X. The way to figure out the youngest person they can "morally" be with is:
[X/2]+7=the youngest person they should be with.
Of course this is only a guideline, but it gives you an idea.
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ok..so i've been running track/cross country since i was 7. (i'm 16 now) and i also used to swim year round when i was 11-14 but i ended up quitting to focus more on running. but lately i have just gotten SO sick of running. its just like it lost something, ya know? it seems like i only do it because i have to and i dont really enjoy it like i used to. i also really miss swimming like a lot i loved it and i kinda want to keep swimming, but i know since i haven't swam in so long i wouldn't be very good. and i seriously don't know how to tell my parents i want to stop running thats like unheard of and all of my best friends are on track. i still have 2 more years of high school and i dont want to spend them doing something i dont enjoy, but i do want the letter in that sport to put on college applications. so i really dont know what to do! should i just keep running and stick it out until the end of high school? or start swimming again? (i can't do both) sorry its so long! (link)
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Start swimming again. Your parents might be mad you quit but that is better than the alternative. Even if you aren't very good anymore (which I doubt since you are still involved in athletics) at least you would be happier.
If you are that concerened about getting into college, start volunteering places and joining clubs.
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hi/ i am 16 years old girl and never had a bofriend, is that a bad thing, first there was a boy and he said that he like me, but the very week we met he move out of my school, so we became talking on the phone, and he said that i was his girlfriend, but we never wet on a date or kiss, that very week he ask me out to watch movie, but my dad didnt allowed me to go, i lied to him that i have to babysit my brother, he said ok another time we could go, but he never ask me out again and we were talking, but we never saw eachother. one night he told me that we should be friends that his ex want him back, from then he never called me, he just disappear, since then no boy has ask me out or something like that, i have never been kiss or do anything sexuall in my life, am just asking is that normal or am i gay or maybe i havnt find the right person. Please i need ur help
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The only thing that makes one gay is if they are attracted to the same gender. A gay female could have 1,000 boyfriends and she would still be gay. It isn't something you can change.
It isn't a bad thing that you have never had a boyfriend. Don't worry about it. A lot of people your age and older have not had a boyfriend, just nobody brags about it, and so those who haven't think something is wrong with them.
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when i get older i want to have big money. i want to be able to buy a home for 1,000,000 +
how will i get rich? im 16 now..so should i just get a job and keep saving and live at home with my parents for 10 more years or something? i just dont know how these people with so much money do it
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Get a job and put most of the money in a C.D. (a bank account that gives you more interest). After a year, put that money into a savings bond. Never spend birthday money, just save it. Buy clothes at the thrift store. If you need furniture go to freecycle.org. Consult foodnotbombs.org for ideas on how to save on food costs.
Most importantly, remember that it isn't how much you earn, it is how much you save.
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Usually I get my hair dyed and highlighted blonde professionally. But now I want to dye my hair a medium brown and I was wondering if the hair dye boxes at the store did a fairly good job at it? Is it even that possible to screw up on brown? If you have used anything in particular that you've tried and it works, could you please tell me the brand and price, etc? I've use hair dye kits PLENTY of times before, but i always used blonde (which looked horrible) and was just wondering if brown worked. Thanks. (link)
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Feria! I don't dye my hair brown so I'm not sure what your shade would be, but it works well. Get 2 boxes just to be safe if you are horrible at dying hair, like I am. Feria is about 9 dollars but it actually works.
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my gf Sandy and I are close..in her point of veiw. I dont like Sandy at all. But Sandy REALLY likes me. People want me to kiss her..but i dont want to.I just want to be friends. Besides..my friend Jack likes Sandy i think..so Jack gets mad at me. and if i break up with Sandy people might get mad at me. But i really want to break up with Sandy. Its hard to break up with her to.. because we talk on the phone all day and stuff. I really dont like her. (link)
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Break it off. People may get mad at you but that is their problem. Oscar Wilde once said, "Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live."
Do Sandy a favor. Let her find someone who wants to be with her.
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How do you cure bad breath? I brush my teeth twice a day, but I still have really bad breath!!!
Thx!!! I rate high (link)
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Tongue scraper and mouthwash should do the trick. If they don't go ask your dentist.
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