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Q: ok so i have a problem...im 13 and my parents say im not allowed to date until im 16! this is a HUGE problem for me because every1 i know has been on a date before and i havent.also i really want to ask thiis 1 guy out and im not sure if i should because im not allowed to date. HELP PLEASE!!
(im a girl)
Boys your age are sooo immature. I remember when i was your age dating and the boys(to me) were so childish. Your parents might be doing you a favor. Boys dont start growing up till like 16 anyways. But hey if you like this guy i think you should talk to your mom about it if your close to her. If she still says no then just go out with him. But if she finds out then be ready for the consiquences. i use to date guys behind my moms back for like 2 years. But i could never go on dates with them i would see them at school and thats all.

Q: okay so my boyfriend ended up breaking up with me after everything because he said that he loved one of my best friends at school and that he has ever since the beginning of last year and so basically he dated me three times while being "in love" with her and playing me thinking that he loved me. but nope i got played. and well i dont know what to do. i am fine in a way because well he has his own feelings and i understand... but well me and him are friends and me and my friend is.. but the feeling is still there
If i were you i would of punched him in the face for doing that to you. Thats just heartless and unexceptable. And your bestfriend shouldnt really go out with him. thats just wrong after having that happen to you. You have alot more control that i do because me and him wouldnt be friends if i were you. You dont deserve that at all. Get you a man that treats you good and respects you and likes you for you.

Q: What is that feeling called when you see the person you like and you get that feeling like rushes of energy shooting through your chest? my friend was curious and now I am too
Its called getting butterflys. but most girls get it in there stomach. ive had those before when i think about the guy i like. its completely normal.

Q: ok well ive only been fingered a fwe times now and i just masturbated a few hours ago and well there was some sick brown stuff on my finger ya what is that?? it was never there before could it be from me having my period a few days ago??
yes it most likely is from your period. Your period takes on average a week to end so thats probably what it is.

Q: OK...I will try to make this as short as I can. Basically, for reasons we don't understand, I have fallen out of love with my husband. We have been married for almost 9 years now & have 2 kids together. He doesn't beat me or anything like that. He's a pretty good guy, but, for some reason I always like someone else better. No, I am not acting on anything or going after anyone. I just end up falling for other people. I really want to fall back in love with him! I miss that feeling & I honestly couldn't imagine finding anyone like him. What can we do? Thanks.
Ask your self why you fell out of love and go from there. Take some time off and spend time with just him. Drop the kids of at your mom and dads or something. The first step is actually wanting to fall back in love and your already there. so try and talk to him about it. But the number one thing you should do is just spend a weekend or two just you guys. Be creative about it to, have fun, you cant go wrong there

Q: 14/m/9th grade There is this girl in my grade that always makes me look the other way, because I'm to shy to look at her. I like her and everything she is great but I'm afraid if i ask her out it won't go any where since were both shy. What should i do?
if your not comfortable saying "hey will you go out with me" to her face. then write her a letter or a note. explain everything in it to. Make sure she likes you first before doing it though. And you have to be the one to give it to her too!! you cant get a friend to do it. Just walk up to her and say here this is for you, smile and kind of walk away. and you can stand near by if you want if she reads it right then. so u see her facial expressions and stuff. but if you like her and she likes you then put ur number at the end of the letter. so she might call you or something. good luck!!

Q: if a guy says "good night, beautiful" to you, what's something witty to say back to him if you like him? but you're not going out. like you're friends but he says that quite often to you?
Say goodnight handsome. guy dont hear it that much anymore.

Q: At my school everyone is very big on cliques. Theres the Girly Girls, Emos, Goths, and Spunkys. I am not in a clique, I'm a Tomboy and the boys dont have cliques so I hang with them. All the girls say aleast I have friends that are girls and stuff like that. I want the cliques to stop what should I do. Thanks in advance.
there isnt really anything you can do about cliques. i understand what u mean because i dont really like them either. There will always be cliques. The only thing you can do is try to be friends with everyone. Thats what i do.

Q: everytime when i want pet the puppy they all goes like biting, like want to play is biting people's hand or whatever, why all puppy do that? bite everyone?
Yea puppies bite but thats just their nature. But if the puppy doesnt know you then i suggest you hold out your hand so they get smell you so they can get to know your scent. because they like spaz out if you just try to pet them. and talk real gental to it.

Q: i don't get it.... i put on mascara and it looks good in the morning and then through the day it looks bad. i tried waterproof type and there harder to take off when they smear. too mess. and then i put eyeliner on and it smears as well. i tried putting foundation under my eyes but it doesn't help...

i'm chinese and any advice on preventing smear?
if you take a special kind of brush. i dont really know how to explan it but its kind like a little paint brush but you get some eye shadow and after put eye liner one use the brush in the eyeshadow and dab the eyeshadow under your eye. it helps keep the eyeliner from flakeing off. thats what i do and it works pretty well for me. and makeup isnt perfect but if u invest in some more exspensive products they usually work better. Covergirl to me is the best line of makeup so i suggest that if you get any.

Q: hi.
okay.
im 16.
im 5 months pregnant.
my boyfriends family and mine want us to keep it.
im very scared.
okay my first question is.
1. can i take the baby to school? or should i leave it at home? cause i really dont wanna leave her.
2. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. (hes 18) and he wants to get married as soon as the babys born. Should i do it?
3. Im really strating to "pop" do you guys have nay good stores for me to go get cute prenancy clothes?!


thankss.
for one thing i dont think your aloud to take the baby to school. so your going to have to leave it at home unless u drop out which i do not suggest!!!! stay in school girl! and i know you dont want to leave her but in the future when you have a deploma your kid will thank you because you will be able to get a better job and support your kid better. And 2 you seem to young to get married. you only 16. But if you love the guy and he loves you and he is serious about this then go for it. I dont see any harm in it. But if your parents dont want you to then listen to them because it is true that parents no best and they will be able to help you with the baby and they love you. and 3 target had a maternity section and they have cute tops you can wear, even my sister goes over there and buys tops. and i know your scared because right now my 15 year old bestfriend is pregnant but as long as you have your guy helping and your family helping you out you should make it through all this. its gonna be hard no dought about that but im sure everything will be okay in the end. good luck!

Q: There's this guy who acts like he likes me, a lot, he's always texting me and calling me. And I think he's really sweet and funny and cute- but sometimes I think he is desperate. He has been trying to start a relationship with a few girls for a time, but they haven't worked out... and now that I'm single he's hitting on me. Should I give it a go? Or am I just gonna get taken advantage of because he's desperate to have a gf no matter who it is?
I think this guy is just kind of nervous around girls and doesnt really know whats appropriate and what isnt. and but that i mean trying to start relationship and they dont work out. If you truely think he is desperate then try to help him land a girl. But if you like him then that is an oppertunity to show him what a realy girlfriend is like. Kinda show him how its done and show him what to do and what not to do.

Q: Okay well my ex boyfriend and I broke up about a year ago but lately we have been flirting alot and I have told him I like him but he keeps telling me that he wants to be my..."best friend" (men) anyways so at a party he asked me to dance but I said no because he likes my best friend Taylor and I know she kind of likes him but she is in LOVE with another guy. So anyways I told him that I was over him and that I wanted to be his BFF, well lately we have been flirting even more but so are me and his best friend who is also hot. But I kinda like another guy. Well today he totally put his arm around me and I really liked it so I didn't tell him to stop but I don't know whether to take that as hey best bud or I want you back? Plus there's the problem with his best friend whi I am totally flirting with all the time, and the other other guy who is super hot, tall, but he is sum times really boring to talk to. So anyone who understood a word of that please help because I'm sooooo tired of getting hurt by boys.
If you really like the guy that says he wants to be you "best friend" then flirt with his guy bestfriend and if he gets jealous then you no for sure that he likes you! That what i would do. But if he doesnt get jealous then you know hes for real about the whole bestfriend thing. But sometimes putting an arm over the shoulder is a signal he is sending to the world that this girl is mine. So maybe he is a bit confused. And you seem a bit confused to so yea. Just see if he gets jealous when ur flirting with other guys. Thats the first step you should take. If he confronts you and ask why you are doing it then you know that he is TOTALLY jealous!!

Q: Hi I really want a slide phone. i want it to be small and cute (anything but the Sansung d 600) PLEASE HELP, i have been lokking for a phone for the past year. Small slide Cute those are my requirements please any opinions will be good!
I use to have a Keyocera. i think that is how u spell it but it was a flip phone and had a keyboard on the inside but i think they just came out with a new one that slides and they are cute. i got it from alltel so go to alltel.com and check the phones out. And if you dont like them then just google seach phones i guess

Q: Ok. I have liked my best friend for about 18 months. I had asked her out once and she said she wanted to stay friends. So i let it go. its been about a year since then and whenever we are together, we are either holding hands or hugging or whatever. We had gone on a school field trip and we were together the whole time and we were constantly holding hands or hugging as i mentioned and she gave me kisses on the cheek. She had even fallen asleep on me on the way back. I really don't know if we should stay best friends, or if she likes me and i should ask her out again. please help. any advice is appreciated.
If she is doing all that then she feel comfortable with you which is a good thing. If she likes you try to look into her eyes because eyes are a dead give a way for girls. you can sort of tell what she is thinking by the look in her eyes. But if you cant really tell then sit her down just you and her and tell her how you feel...again. Maybe she does like you or maybe she is just comfortable with you. you never know unless you ask her.

Q: okay my name is michaela nad i am a tough girl usually but when it comes to my boyfriend i feel older yet like i dont have to stand up for some things because he is there..... so a while back i thought my boyfriend was cheating on me because some gurl said she loved my guy!! well i think that she just has a crush on him. but well we have gone out three times. four and a half mounths was the longest but i have know him for a year and a half. well today we were walking and i called him retarded as a joke because he was being stupid. and after that i accidentally said "i love you." it just slipped. i wasnt even ready to tell him that and i dont think he was ready to hear it. but he said it back at least but really really quiet. i am kinda freaked out and i dont know how i am going to react around him. i think i should just act normal but i seriously i dont think i can now. what should i do?!?!?!?!?!
Play it cool. If he starts acting werid the best thing you can do is ask him why and talk about it

Q: Ok now at our school we just got a new sport....volleyball. We have already had try-outs and evidentally i made the team so is there any website or anything that has all the rules and everything...but my one big question is when you are serving (we have to over handed) that if you throw it up and get a bad toss catch it and throw it again...what happens??

Thanks in advance any help is appreciated
-Lesha
Your coach should of told you that your not aloud to catch the ball. If you think it is a bad toss then your suppose to let it drop and pick it up and wait for the reff to blow the whistle again. But if i were you i would google the word volleyball. Just search things you arent sure about because the internet has almost everything so you should be able to find what you are looking for.

Q: since i hate shaving my "down below", would it be okay if i naired it with the stuff i use for my legs? or would that be bad..
Read the bottle. if should say places where you are aloud to use it. But i dont think you should because nair has chemicals in it that can harm your "down below"

Q: should i shave down there? i did and i dont think i did it right. which way do i shave? like towards where the hair grows or against it. you know what i mean? like..can you just explain howww i should shave downt there? thanks SO much, you guys are too cool. =)
You should shave which ever way makes you comfortable. There is no wrong way to shave. If you shave against the hair though it can cause in grown hairs and bleeding so just shave with the hair. Which ever way you decide is fine though. You dont have to though. Its your choice.

Q: So i overheard these guys talking about a girls vagina and they said it was "phat", what does that mean? Is it a good thing?
Most of the time when guys say that word they mean its "cool" or awesome" so id imagine that its a good thing.

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Hey im Charlene! Im 15. In highschool. I mainly just answer relationship questions/friendship questions. but i dable in other topics too. Im a pretty easy person to talk to, ive made tons of mistakes, but ive learned from them. So if u got a question ill probably be able to answer it.

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