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Okay well my ex boyfriend and I broke up about a year ago but lately we have been flirting alot and I have told him I like him but he keeps telling me that he wants to be my..."best friend" (men) anyways so at a party he asked me to dance but I said no because he likes my best friend Taylor and I know she kind of likes him but she is in LOVE with another guy. So anyways I told him that I was over him and that I wanted to be his BFF, well lately we have been flirting even more but so are me and his best friend who is also hot. But I kinda like another guy. Well today he totally put his arm around me and I really liked it so I didn't tell him to stop but I don't know whether to take that as hey best bud or I want you back? Plus there's the problem with his best friend whi I am totally flirting with all the time, and the other other guy who is super hot, tall, but he is sum times really boring to talk to. So anyone who understood a word of that please help because I'm sooooo tired of getting hurt by boys.
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If you really like the guy that says he wants to be you "best friend" then flirt with his guy bestfriend and if he gets jealous then you no for sure that he likes you! That what i would do. But if he doesnt get jealous then you know hes for real about the whole bestfriend thing. But sometimes putting an arm over the shoulder is a signal he is sending to the world that this girl is mine. So maybe he is a bit confused. And you seem a bit confused to so yea. Just see if he gets jealous when ur flirting with other guys. Thats the first step you should take. If he confronts you and ask why you are doing it then you know that he is TOTALLY jealous!!
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I think you should flirt with his best friend. If your ex shows any sign of jealousy, maybe he does want you back. But he's a guy, putting an arm around you is maybe just a friendly gesture. Also, if he liked you that way, wouldn't he have asked you out already? Get a friend to ask him or something.
Meanwhile, just hang out with his friend, I think you have a better chance with him than anyone else, and plus, it also might make your ex jealous and ask you out. You can have two guys hungry for you! Joking, don't be like that!
Anyway, do whatever you want with the other guy. I don't see how he's part of the picture!
-Jenni C ♥
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There probably is a part of your ex that wants you back, seeing as he's flirting with you a lot. If you don't want to get back together with him, and you probably don't if you like other guys, I'd stop flirting back... You don't have to tell him to take his arm off you, but you may want to cut back on some flirty-ness. Like if you are doing anything like sit on his lap or lean on him, you should stop (just an example =]).
It's fine to flirt with lots of people. It's fun, too =]. You won't get hurt by flirting, as long as none of it's too serious. Basically, my relationship 101 on these types of situations, where you're not too sure who likes you/ who you want to be with, is to take it slow. Get to know everyone and become their "best friend" so to speak. As well, the advice on the 101 page would be to not go with guys because they are hot. If you don't like talking to someone, it ain't gonna work, at least not longterm.
That said, don't stress too much, be casual, friendly, flirty, whatever, but don't get too attached unless you are sure at least about how you feel about someone. I can't say anything for the specific problem with the bff and the hot guy, since you haven't specified, but I'd say, if you wanted to, you could go for a few casual dates where other friends may or may not be around, and explain to him that, while you like him, you want a wait a bit until you are sure of everything before being in a "relationship" with him.
Good luck =]
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