Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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I am going to get a phyical in 2 days. I have a few questions.
I got one last year but i didnt have my period then (i got it a month or so after my physical) Do they do anything diffrent now that I have had my period? I had to fill out all that dump info about my period on my sheet. My Period is at a normal rate and i get it evrey month. They NEVER had me take off any clothing and they DIDNT touch anything but does that change? Its not a complete phyical just a sport physical.
They check the following last year-
Joints, Weight,Height, Eyes, Urein Test, ask questions....
Anything new that will happen do to the fact that i now have my period?
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No I don't think so. Only an OB/GYN can give you and internal exam, and YOU have to make the appointment to see an GYnecologist. But if this is the family physician, he/she may want to talk to you alone to give you and opportunity to ask any questions you may have about your period or sex or something. That is what happened to my step-daughter, once she visited the same doctor she always saw, that year he wanted to see her alone, I wasn't allowed in the room, and all he asked her was about the details of her period, to determine if all was normal, and he ask her if she was sexually active, and did she have any questions. She was not sexaully active at the time, had she said yes, I am not sure what the doctor would have said to, most likely he/she would have STRONGLY urged her to see a gynocologist. But in this state, the doctor was not allowed to tell me, if my step daughter, or daughter for that matter, has answer yes, that she was sexually active.
So I think that is about all that will happend that will be different.
Michele
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I'll be swimming everyday now for swim team. I was wondering, what shampoo's can I use to protect my already dry/damaged hair from clhorine? I've tried Garnier Fruites, Treseme, and Pantene and non of them work. I'll rate :) (link)
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I don't think it is the shampoo that is the most important. Try giving yourself weekly hot oil treatements. Olive Oil is find. Warm up some olive oil in the micro wave. Warm NOT HOT. Spread over hair, wrap in a towel, leave on for 1/2 hours then shampoo as usual. YOu need a shampoo that is gentle and does hot have harsh deteregents because the chlorine is a harsh chemical.
Michele
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Does anyone know how I can request a transcript or tape from a 911 call? I've searched online but didn't find anything that was useful. Its really important for family purposes. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!!! (link)
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Well under the Freedom of Information Act, you are entitled to a copy of that tape. But I am not sure how you go about it. You may need a lawyer. Why not look up" Freedom of Information Act, on the internet and maybe it will help you file the papers necessary to get a copy of the tape. Maybe the forms are available on line too.
HOpe this helps.
Michele
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i dont think you've been through everything i bet you i've been through more shit then you have (link)
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Well things were different when I was young, we didn't have crack cocaine, and we didn't have the internet. But anykind of trouble that a kid could get into at that time, I managed to do. I ran away from home, was gone for almost a year. At 16. Came home finished school, moved out and supported myself. Went to school at night. No I did not want to end up homeless, already knew what that was like. So I worked two jobs and supported myself. The smartest thing I ever did was wait to have children. I did not have children until I was married and 31. But the marriage failed and I have raised them on mh own. They are 19 and 15 yrs old. Boys, and they are happy and healthy, and look forward to their futures. I never forgot how bad things got for me when I was young so I worked at being a better parent than I had, so my boys would not have to go through what I went through and what you are going through.
Any time you want to exchange stories, you can write to me at michele@personaladvicecolumn.com
By the way, now that you have gone through all this shit, what are you prepared to do about it?
I hope you are on this site to give advice, because I could use some help here, especially from someone who has been there.
PS, I am not proud of the things that I did when I was young, but I am proud of the person I am now. I hope you are at that point also.
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
Michele
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This is really embarrasing but...
"Down there" i think has a bad odor (i'm a girl)
Is there anything I can do to stop this? I heard certain foods can make it smell bad, is that true and which ones? Also, is there anything i can put on it or in it or something to make it smell better? (link)
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YOu can try doucheing. ONce a week, is good. More often is not good. The sell it in the stores, Eve is one, ad Massengill is another. But actally it is best to only douche one a monthy, after your menstrual cycle. You see if you upset the bacterial and yeast balance in there, you could end up with a yeast infection, which is not picnic.
I would say that food like aspargus and maybe garlic may cause odor, and certainly junk food full of chemicals and artifical flavors and colors. All natural is best. Fresh fruits and veggies.
BUt please don't go overboard a musky odor is normal and preferred, really.
Just make sure you shower or bath each day, that is most important.
Michele
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I feel a bit immature on this web site partly because I got it from my fourteen year old daughter. I was looking aroung for older advice givers and you imarticular caught my eye. You have written to my daughter, Jacey. It is most likely because of you what happened on Saturday. For the first time since my son's death I visited Jacey's softball tourniment. I felt she needed me to be there for her. She didn't need me. Jacey is strong. You probably know that from writing to her. I needed her. I needed to be her mother again. Never have I seen her with so much intesity and heart. We stayed out on those fields until midnight. If it sounds crazy, it is. My daughter is a catcher and she plays with girls who are about a year to two years older than her. It looks like it too. She is deffinetly the smallest one. The firt three games she started catching in the heat, and under all that gear she has to wear I bet she gets hot. The fourth game she wasn't feeling well, but the coach played her anyway after the starting catcher ran out of energy. JAcey told him she couldn't play because she was exhasted, but he didn't listen ansd stuck her in. She started looking really bad. By the seventh inning between every pitch she had to take off her helmet and throw up. Finally I went to speak to the coach. "Take her out." I demanded. "She's the best on the team we can't do that." Then I lost it. I called her over and pulled her out myself. We went to a twenty four hour doctor at about two am and he said she was about thirty minutes away from a heat stroke. While we were waiting she actually fell asleep in my lap. It's not much, but it's a lot to me. I know she has been through a lot. I know she is handling her brother's death surprisingly well. The thing that bothers me is that she seems like she wants to forget him. I just want her to open up to me the way she opened up to you. You're a total stranger and I am her mother. I know it's easier for her to talk to someone she doesn't know. It's easier for me too. One thing Jacey doesn't understand is how much she is like me. But another thing is how she is not. Like myself Jacey knows who she is, but unlike myself she is a total rebel. She listens, I know she does. She can, she just doesn't. Jacey is going to be somebody someday. She's going to change the world. I want her to know this. She is so smart. Everybody loves her. ONe day she'll realize what she was meant to do, but not now. For now I just want her stay the beautiful fourteen year old she is and live life like it's her last day. And she does, she just doesn't know it yet. (link)
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Dear Jacey's Mom,
I am so glad that you wrote. I have been thinking about Jacey a lot. I was glad to connect with her, and it did seem that I helped. ANd like you said, at least she opened up to someone. You had me going there for a minute, I thought something awful had happened to jacey, and it almost did, Thank God that you were there, and thank God for 24 hours emergency doctors. That coach needs to be informed of how ill suited he is to being a coach. Jacey's throwing up should have been the first clue, and it should have ended there.
When Jacey wrote me she told me that she had finally cried, she cried and felt good about it. But she was afraid to cry again. I told her that maybe now is a good time for her to talk with you. Maybe she could sort out her emotions a little better. She told me that she can't talk to you because you will cry and she did not want make you cry. This is not unusual. Many of us are afraid to approach someone who has lost a loved one so tragically for fear that something we might say will remind them of their loss, and then we will have been responsible for reminding them and making them feel bad. But I have spoken with people who have lost someone and while they say nothing can make them feel better....being ostracized by family and friends, makes them feel worse. I guess it is human nature. I, personally, have learned to overcome this. I seek out friends and aquaintences who have lost loved ones, and I get them to talk about the loved one, and before you know it, they are reliving fond memories and we are laughing, a little. I think of it as a gentle nudge on the path of mourning.
Everything you said about Jacey is true. She is going to be someone someday. She does have a lot of heart, and she realizes how special she is. ANd what you said gave me a clue as to why it seems to you, that she wants to forget him.
You have raised Jacey to be the awsome 14 year old that she is. You have told her that she is special, you have told her that she is going to accomplish something. She has seen the proof in her performance, in her school work, and in the way that adults praise her and you all see something special in Jacey. So in her mind, before the tragic death of your son, she knew she was on her way to having this great, awsome, wonderful life and that she has the potential to make a name for herself in whatever avenue she chooses. And her age, being 14, makes that all the more important that
1. she not miss a step.
2. she sees kids around her who are just interested in going to the mall and meeting boys and talking trash, so that makes her goals all the more imporant.
3. And she is a little self-centered.
But every person who is successful in life, from atheletes like Tiger Woods to billionaires like Bill Gates were a little self centered. It is not a deterant. It is a plus. But her young age and immaturity keeps her from realizing that she is going to reach her goals.
With the untimely death of her brother, she is afraid that she will not get to do all of the things she wants to do.
At your age, you can put life on auto pilot and mourn, and once you are ready, you can pick up where you left off, and then your sorrow will be held inside you, the visible signs will be gone.
Jacey doesn't know how to put things on autopilot. She may have the capability, but the reasoning that goes with it, that will put it in a comfort zone for her, has not developed yet. ANd it may be that kind of reasoning comes with age. BOttom line is, Jacey is afraid that she is not going to get to have the life, that was promised to her if she did all that was asked of her, and put her heart into everything.
And damn, that would suck. It happended to her brother, why not her? Why should she get to cheat fate, when he didn't.
What she needs from you, but not until you are ready, is to know that she is still capable of reaching all her goals, and well, can you assure her, or guarantee her that life won't cheat her also? Of course not, but you can tell her the you will do everything in your power to see that she gets to realize her dreams. And you did just that the night of the game. I am so glad that she fell asleep in your lap.
I think you are both on the correct path. I feel much less anxious for jacey now. I know that it is hard for you, and you are not really ready to just turn off that awful pain, but you have another child, and you know that you don't want to loose her. I am glad that you realized it. This has the potential to make the to of your even closer, and when those days come that you want to think about and have conversations about your son, Jacey will be the person you can talk to about him and both share some wonderful memories, you will both understand where the other is coming from.
It is ok to tell jacey that your mad, that this whole things sucks, and that your whole being is consumed with sorrow. She will listen, and some day when she had her own children, she will understand, and then she will need some assurances from you, that all will be alright. Not guarantees, just assurance.
Good luck to both of you. And please write again if you like. ANd Jacey.......you go girl! (mom too!)
Michele
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ok, tell me Honestly if my body sounds perportiond because some one told me i wasnt and i guess I kind of got parinoyed about it, here goes. I weigh 110 pounds im 5'6'' i think around there i have a pretty slim body type and a B cup(if that helps). and i odnt think i look fat but idk if thats a good weight to be at with my height. any help would be apreciated. But please, no rude coments (link)
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Sounds just right.
Michele
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What does it mean if your nipples are inverted?
How does it affect you?
Is it like a deformity?
Thanks i Rate high!
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Wel it means that the nipples don't stick out, they may be very small, and if they stay that way as you get older, then you may not be able to breast feed when you have children, but that is not a problem. A lot of mothers do not breast feed by choice.
Michele
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i need help. every day i have a feeling that gradually wells up like a knot in my chest of hopelessness, desperation and panic. the only thing i can do to get rid of the feeling is to cut and feel as much pain as i can. one day someone will find my scars and it makes me sick that i do this. i have no other way out. i want to die. (link)
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Weill it depends on some things. If the anxiety you feel is just brought on by a chemical imbalance, I think it can be helped with some natural supplements like St. Johns Wort, or L-Theanine, or other herbs and vitamins that you could get at a health food store or naturopathic doctors office. But if you life is desperate and hopeless because of your living situation, then drugs or herbs or vitamins are not going to help. HOw is your home life? Your relationshp with your parents? Are they any outside reasons or you to be anxious?
Michele
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When is the right time, if there is one, for girls to be thinking about and wanting to have sex>? (link)
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There is no right time for thinking about it or wanting to have sex. Those are feelings and they just come upon us. We can control our feelings, but we can control what we do about them. There is a right time to HAVE sex. But in my opinion, there are many factors that have to be in place before it should happen. And this is so you can avoid all of the heart ache that can accompany the act of being intimate with someone.
First you should be mature enough to have taken steps to prevent pregnancies, and sexually transmitted diseases. And you should know what those steps are.
Second you should be in love with the person you are going to be intimate with.
Third you should be in a committeed relationship.
Married would be best, but I don't expect you'll wait for that.
Committed because if there is an accident, and you do get pregnant you won't be left to deal with the consequences all on your own or with your parents.
The person you choose to fall in love with and have sex, should have the same convictions as you do about preventing pregnancy and diseases and also not try to pressure you into having sex before you are ready.
If all of these things are in place, that means that most likely you are responsbile enough and mature enough to handle the responsiblities of haveing sex, and deal with the possibilities of heart ache is things don't work out.
I hope this helps
MIchele
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Ok heres the deal, Yesterday I got really drunk and I didn't know what I was doing and I got on a bus and I saw some people I knew, Well there was this one boy that my friend knew and she told me about..and I sorta told him that I thought he was cute..and He was like who are you and I was like uh *my name* and I was like yeah well i know ur name and he was like how the hell do you know my name and now he prolly thinks im a big stalker! What if he says something on monday about it! ill be so embarrassed I just don't wanna go to school its gonna be horrible! so my question is how can I avoid the terrifying situation? or how can I face him ugghh
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YOu made a fool of yourself by getting drunk. YOu are going to have to deal with it. YOu should pay the consequences. You are not old enough to be drinking. Please stop. BEfore you do something else foolish. You are lucky that all you have to worry about is your drunken behavior. Some young people who thought drinking was a great idea, are dead. Why do young kids think that drinking, smoking and having sex make them adults. Being RESPONSIBLE and dealing with the consequences of our BEHAVIOR makes us adults. Along with paying bills, and buying insurance and raising kids, and keep a roof over their heads and food in the refrigerator and thanks to having kids, we don't have time to drink and make fools of ourselves.
YOu have to go to school and you have to fact it, and I don't care what anyone on this site may tell you. You drank too much, you made a fool of yourself, you have to deal with the consequences.
Michele
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i am 13 years old and this summer, i want to find love. like i seriously need it, i have been waiting for my first kiss forever and i dream about it all the time and this summer i NEED to get kissed or else i will feel like such a failure. but i'm worried, what if i don't meet anyone i like? what if i can't get any crush to like me back? can you please give me some tips please? i desperately need it. thank you!! (link)
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WEll if you let everyone know that you need to get kissed this summer, you'll be successful. Someone will be happy to kiss you. BUt what if that someone is not someone that you want to kiss. YOu know we older girls have a saying......you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince...... But there is ot one of us who would not go back and unkiss everyone of them, if we could just get right to the time in our life where we did meet the most wonderful guy. For some of us, it takes many many years. But don't be discouraged. For many of us, it does not. I think you will get your wish this summer. You may just fall in love. I just want you to know that it happens, when it happens. When we force it, we end up dissapointed. There are PLENTY of assh*les out there who would be very happy to kiss you and be your boyfriend this summer. But that is not what you want. You want someone who is going to be kind and gentle and respectful to you and cherish you. Teenage boys don't even know how to do that. They are so far away from that behavior. They don't start feeling that way until they are intheir 20's. That is why I say it takes time.
The best thing you can do to attact a boy that you think you like and want to get to know better is to
1. be happy
2. be confiden
3. ask them about themselves
4. be a good listener
5. compliment them. boost their egos, they love it.
HOpe this helps.
Michele
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i've always used pads only but i decided i should start using tampons because it's really starting to "flow" if you get what i mean. i know its supposed to hurt at first but then you get used to it, but does it hurt REALLY BADLY at first? how do you use it? and what brands would you suggest that are the most comfortable? (link)
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No, it does not hurt really badly it. If anything it just gets uncomfortable, or you are conscious of it all the time. The most important thing is to get the right size. I know it may mean spending extra money that you don't have, but start with the small sizes first, and don't use them on your first two days. Put a little vaseline on the tip to help it glid in better. And there should be no part of the tampon sticking out once you have inserted it. I guess it does take getting used to...inserting them I mean. ONce you position it, use the applicator to push it in all the way up, until the applicator feels loose. Because the tampon is no longer in it. Maybe you should also try in on a weekend, when you are home, so you can remove it any time you like and not have to wait for a break inbetween class to go to the ladies room.
I guess I would suggest the new pearl applicator brand, I forget who it is made by. Butyou'll find it. Good luck.
Michele
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i have a problem. for awhile my vagina has been very itchy. and i'm only 13. what is it? (link)
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YOu could have a yeast infection. YOu don't have to have had sex to get a yeast infection. All women get them at one time or another in their lives. There is one way that you can be absolutely sure. Yeast infections are caused by an imbalance in the good bacteria and yeast in your system. You can get them in your vagina, your mouth, and even your digestive system, oh yes, I forgot on your skin also.
Of course a yeast infection is VERY VERY VERY Itchy. Not just a little. Very itchy and it gets worse and it won't stop until you treat it.
Anyway the one way to know for sure is if you have some yogurt in the refrigerator. No matter what kind, but plain is best, put some of the yogurt on your vagina. If the itching goes away IMMEDIATELY, then yes dear, you have a yeast infection. Good news though, it is easy to cure, and you no longer have to go to the doctor. No the yogurt won't cure it, but it will make it better until you can get to the pharmacy tomorrow AM, first thing, get some MONISTAT. It is in the health isle. You don't need a subscription. I think it costs about 15 to 2o dollars. It is a suppository. Follow the instructions. And you will be cured.
Good luck
Oh, if the yogurt doesn't not stop the itching then it is something else. Write back with other symptoms if the yogurt doesn't work.
Michele
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i have this one friend who steals guys. first she steals my friend jackies friend who was about to ask her out and she liked him back. then my friend ashlie has a boyfriend and she told him she likes him. now my friend and i like the same guy (and we have no problem about that) and now she said that she`s starting to like him. and she promised she wouldn`t. this guy i like i don`t exactly know and he doesn`t know that i like him and i don`t see him a lot. so what should i do about her?? not in just my situation, but in other things that she does. she`s just that kind of flirt person. any suggestions or thoughts? (link)
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She is not very nice is she? It seems like she wants to beat all of you to the punch and be the one who gets to date the guy that one of you girls like. SHe must have confidence enough in herself, that she is not nervous about going up to a boy and telling him she likes him. Do you read some of the questions on this site, from girls who like someone but are not able to let them know. They are too nervous.
WEll because boys are just as nervous as you girls are, whoever breaks the ice and approaches someone first, has a good chance of getting the attention that they want. Because the young person who makes the first approach, makes it easier for everyone.
But in the long run, your friend who goes through boy friends like the rest of us change undeware, will end up with a bad reputation and no friends at all. Why do you girls put up with her and stay friends with her. When the opportunity presents itself, and you are in the company of boys that you like and she is really working hard at flirting and trying to get attention.....what you can say out loud so that the boy hears it is.......don't pay any attention to her, she changes boyfriends like the rest of us change our underware.
Or does that sound to old? Well I think you get the picture. Don't you change, there is nothing wrong with you. She is the one with the problem. Give it some time, and you will see that her behavior will come back to haunt her. And why don't you all start to move away from her as a friend. She has some serious emotional problems. She doesn't really like these guys, she just wants to get them before one of you girls do. She has to be #1 in your group, so don't include her in the group. Next week she'll be writing to Advicenators and wanting advice on why all of a sudden her friends don't like her any more. And that is what she deserves.
Michele
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I'm basically your everyday thirteen year old, and that includes having crushes on guys.
My mom still thinks of me as her little girl who thinks guys are gross and who loves to hang out with her, and I do. I'm not like most thirteen year olds- I love to hang out with my mom.
I'm sort of afraid to tell her about the guy I like, because she thinks that I'm such a responsible girl and a girl who is perfect and good. I'm afraid it will change her opinion of me, the perfect little Indian girl who wouldn't like a guy ever into some convoluted "American teen" as she says. I'm confiding only in my friends, because they understand me and they treat me just like any other girl, but I want my mom to be the same way. What should I do? (link)
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Hi honey, thanks for leaving me a question. I understand how you feel. You don't want to dissapoint your mom. I can understand that. Some day she will be comfortable that you like boys, and you said you were Indian.....most likely she will want you to like an Indian boy, am I right? Can you talk to her about boys in general, or maybe talk about a friend when you really mean you. Is there something special about this boy that makes you like him? Do you think under different circumstances your mom would like him? Can you just say you want to ask her some questions about love, about feelings and then just ask general questions? Just to feel out her reaction.
Here is the most important question. Does this boy like you? Has he asked to go "out" with you, go "steady" or whatever you call it? If not, then I would guess it is not worth it to have an argument with your mom over a boy who you just have a secret crush on, and it hasn't gone any further. You know, many many years ago, this was easy. Any boy interested in a girl would have to go to the parents and ask permission to come and visit her. That saved us girls the anxiety of asking. Things have certainly changed. I'll bet that your mom's life growing up was much different than your's is. And I don't think you are a typical 13 year old. YOu are articulate and you type well, and you express yourself well, and have a clear understanding of this situation. (Have you read some of the questions on this site!?!?!?!?) I think you do have the right answer. You are correct not to want to dissapoint your mom. It is too soon. Be patient. This boy may turn out to be a dissapointment to you. Then you will have had an argument with your mom over nothing. It is fun to have a secret crush on a boy. Sometimes our imagination is much better than the reality. So give it some time, and start to break your mom in slowly, ask her general questions about boys and just say you are curious and want to know more. Ask her about her relationship with your dad. Ask her about when she was young. Did she ever like a boy, what was it like. Things like that.
I think you will be OK. ONe thing I know for sure, it is nice that you and your mom are close. That may go away for a few years, but later on, when you are a young woman you will be close again. She will become very important to you.
Good luck to you,
Michele
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well one of my really good friends has this notebook that she writes all her feelings in I guess its a way to get rid of her stress..but anywayz i read it last night and it talked about getting raped and why did it have to happen to her and stuff..well i asked her if it was true and she didn't answer me i kept asking her but she said she didn't want to talk she cuts and I can't get her to stop..how can I get her to open up so I can help her? i dont want her to hurt herself more than she already has! Plz help! Sincerely, *Concerned*
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Well you may have to go gentle to get her to open up to you. Why not keep a journal yourself and let her read yours. I know it won't have anything traumtic in it, like hers, but it may make her feel more comfortable. But now she knows that you do know, so she may in time open up to you. Please be patient, and tell you that you are there for her, no matter what happens. You might want to educate yourself more on this crime to you are in a position to be of some help when she does open up. SHe needs to go to the police, but I am sure that she feels responsible. I am sure that the person who raped her, has convinced her that she is at fault. But by LAW it is never never ever the victims fault. At any point in the act, a woman, even a paid prostitute can say NO, and the act has to stop by law. So if it was a boyfriend who forced her, or if it was date rape, or even if it is family, it is against the law. She is truly the victim and needs your sympathy and understanding and patience right now. Even if you told the authorities, and they question her, she is not obligated to tell them anything. Since you are her friend, she may open up to you. And i agree with you she needs to get through this. Keeping it inside will set her up for many more problems for the rest of her life. Cutting would be the least of her problems. Good luck to you both. You are a good friend.
Michele
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Umm when the health teacher said that kids should never do oral sex wut does that mean? Plzz tell me!! (link)
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What do you mean, by "what does that mean"? Oral Sex, or never do oral sex
Well I think what she meant is that many people think that they are preventing pregnancies with oral sex, and YES they are, but it does not prevent sexually transmitted diseases. You can still get, AID, Gonoreah, syphilis, herpes, and a host of other diseases from oral sex. And it is very hard to use protection with ORAL sex, but not impossible.
Michele
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I'm 16...I recently applied for a part time job at tescos, my local store is recruiting because they're extending the store. It would be handy to work there because it's fairly close to where I live and it's a big store and the kind of working environment I'd prefer... anyway my friend also applied there at the same time as me and her application got accepted and she now has a place there. I got rejected :( I know she had very open hours written on my form whereas I cut off weekend evenings and some weekday evenings (which when I applied I couldn't actually work because I had other commitments) but now my weekend evenings are free and I was wondering if it would be wise to reapply? Or should I just find somewhere else? I would really like to get a part time job here but do you think they might have my name listed somewhere and... boot me off or something lol... I reckon my hours are the reason my application was rejected. There was also some questionaire thing that could have been the problem but I'm confussed, should I go back to the recruitment office and explain to them my hours are better would it be possible for me to reapply or just reapply or leave it?
Any help would be greatly appreciated =)! (link)
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Yes, of course, re-apply. As long as you are available and willing to work weekends and evening. That is exactly why they did not choose your ap. Those are the worst hours, and no one wants them, and the people who have been there the longest always get the best hours, but eventually they hope to move up to better hours The only way they can do that is when the company hires replacements for the weekend hours. That is the way it goes at your age and in that kind of business. It is a catch-22. You want money to be able to go out on weekends, but the majority of jobs available to young people are weekend jobs. It sucks.
When you re-apply just say that there has been a change in your schedule, and you are now available on weekends.
Michele
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okay so yesterday i got highlights [bleached] and i wanna go underwater in the pool.. would they turn green or sum,thing go worong if i did? (link)
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Not the first time, blond hair can turn green from the chlorine in the pool, but that is when it has been dyed an dyed and dyed over and over again.
You should be OK< but the sooner you wash the clorine out of your hair the better. So if the have a shower for you to rinse off in, use it ASAP,
Michele
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