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i cant believe her!!
i have this one friend who steals guys. first she steals my friend jackies friend who was about to ask her out and she liked him back. then my friend ashlie has a boyfriend and she told him she likes him. now my friend and i like the same guy (and we have no problem about that) and now she said that she`s starting to like him. and she promised she wouldn`t. this guy i like i don`t exactly know and he doesn`t know that i like him and i don`t see him a lot. so what should i do about her?? not in just my situation, but in other things that she does. she`s just that kind of flirt person. any suggestions or thoughts?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Well.. i suggest that you talk to her and tell her your true feelings.. dont hold back because then she will contine you doing it.
♥ Michelle
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Honestly, in Jackie's case.. it doesn't seem like she had heR heaRt set on a Real winneR anyhow. What kind of man likes TWO giRls?? Why would anyone even *WANT* someone like that?? If you ask me... if someone's inteRested in TWO people at once, they obviously don't feel enough foR EITHER of them. If they *DID*.. they wouldn't *WANT* anyone else... because no one else in the woRld would be able to *COMPARE* to who they'Re with, ya know??? Love [whetheR the teRm is used lightly oR not] is RecipRocal; meaning it's DEFINITELY *NOT* one-sided.
HoweveR, butting into Ashlie's Relationship is *completely unacceptable; she has no business being theRe. Hopefully Ashlie's and heR boyfRiend had enough sense to tell heR to step OUT of THEIR Relationship.
On the otheR hand, NO ONE has the Right to tell heR [the guy stealing giRl] who she CAN and CAN not like and/oR associate with. If she likes Ashlie's boyfRiend... then so be it; she's 100% allowed. WhetheR oR not she ACTS on it is wheRe the line should be dRawn.
And this guy that you and youR fRiend like... she likes him too? Well, no haRm done theRe. Like I said; she can like whoeveR it is she pleases; and chances aRe not too much can Really be done to change that. But you'Re not dating him, neitheR is youR [good] fRiend, so I don't see the Real pRoblem theRe. I suppose I COULD see how it could get annoying, but just tell heR to shut heR tRap, because you don't wanna heaR about it.
And I *definitely know what you mean by "fliRt peRson", many people aRe that way. They just fall in "love" with whoeveR will give them attention; half of the time they'Re not even seRious about it and could honestly caRe less about the peRson... I think that if she eveR does something to tRuly huRt you, you should definitely confRont heR on it. You'Re a human being with youR fReedom of speech, and voicing youR opinion is NOT a cRime.
I wish you the best of luck - hopefully I've been of some assistance! Know that I am *ALWAYS, ALWAYS* heRe if you eveR need a second opinion. :)
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This will be hard to admit to yourself, but your friend isn't really "stealing" these guys. She can't help liking somebody any more than you can, so promising that she wouldn't like someone isn't going to prevent it from happening. We get crushes all the time, they come and go, but they are just crushes and usually not very serious. As for the "stealing"...guys are not items that we can take and bring home. They have their own feelings and their own brains, and they are the ones who choose who they go out with. Though she flirts with these guys, it is not entirely her fault that she "steals" them. Best advice is to just let it go and never let boys come between you and your friends. However...if it continues to get worse and you feel that you don't want to be her friend anymore, trust your gut and end the friendship. Don't sink so low as to spread rumors about her and her slutty ways, you are better than that.
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She is not very nice is she? It seems like she wants to beat all of you to the punch and be the one who gets to date the guy that one of you girls like. SHe must have confidence enough in herself, that she is not nervous about going up to a boy and telling him she likes him. Do you read some of the questions on this site, from girls who like someone but are not able to let them know. They are too nervous.
WEll because boys are just as nervous as you girls are, whoever breaks the ice and approaches someone first, has a good chance of getting the attention that they want. Because the young person who makes the first approach, makes it easier for everyone.
But in the long run, your friend who goes through boy friends like the rest of us change undeware, will end up with a bad reputation and no friends at all. Why do you girls put up with her and stay friends with her. When the opportunity presents itself, and you are in the company of boys that you like and she is really working hard at flirting and trying to get attention.....what you can say out loud so that the boy hears it is.......don't pay any attention to her, she changes boyfriends like the rest of us change our underware.
Or does that sound to old? Well I think you get the picture. Don't you change, there is nothing wrong with you. She is the one with the problem. Give it some time, and you will see that her behavior will come back to haunt her. And why don't you all start to move away from her as a friend. She has some serious emotional problems. She doesn't really like these guys, she just wants to get them before one of you girls do. She has to be #1 in your group, so don't include her in the group. Next week she'll be writing to Advicenators and wanting advice on why all of a sudden her friends don't like her any more. And that is what she deserves.
Michele
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Well, I think this just sounds like a lot of teenage bickering and girls doing what they do. It also sounds like your friend is kind of clueless as to what the right protocol as in what's wrong or right to do in the friendship department. It all sounds like a bunch of unneeded drama. I mean, even if she gave you her word, you know that she always does this kind of stuff so you have to be cautious and aware. You should never let a guy come between girl friends. Because whether you think they are going to, guys at this age don't last forever. But a good, true friend can. What I would do if I were you, is you and all your friends should sit down with your flirty friend and tell her how y'all are feeling. And how you don't like how she "steals" these guys and puts them before you. Don't yell at her, and don't team up on her. Talk maturely and civil and just make sure to get the point across. I would give her some time after this to start changing. See if she does. If she moves in on the guy you like, then you know she obviously isn't understanding how you are feeling. But remember, it's just one boy, there are tons out there. And as far as you liking the guy, try to hang out with him more. Be slightly flirty, but also be yourself. Be careful of this whole situation though because it could go good or bad. Just be warned and ready. If it doesn't turn out how you wanted, it was for a reason. Best of luck, if anything else changes in the situation and you need more help, let me know! :)
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