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Theres this boy I've known like 6 years.. me and him just started messin around and he knows I care deeply for him ... aka like him. I love him.. but he doesnt know it, i guess. But we just had sex, and I sleep over his house sometimes and we cuddle kiss... and he kisses my forehead and tells me 'Goodnight beautiful' .. but when everyone else is around hes rude to me and he ignores me. He doesnt call me anymore, he doesnt even IM me much. But his friends all tell me he likes me, and right now I'm trying to ask him how he feels - and he wont friggen answer me! I'm 17 years old, I know I can find someone older than me that wont play games (hes only 15).. but I cant help the way I feel about him. He recently got arrested, and I was the first person that he wanted to be with. I slept over his house that night and we just cuddled. Then the next time I slept at his house he upset me and made me cry for two hours. Ever since that night we haven't quite been the same and I'm not sure what to do. I really care about him more deeply then I have about anyone else. He's one of my best friends and I don't want to lose the friendship ... but if he keeps up the childish immature little games, theres not going to be a friendship there to keep..

I agree 100 % that the childiish games need to stop. Ive heard of guys doing this before - - the whole sweet to you..but mean when friends are around - type deal. I honestly think you dont desserve that crap..you can find some other guy who can treat you right when your with his friends AND by yourself.
this guy is only treating you nicely when hes getting some it seems. He sounds like he has some problems going on in his life..i would stop messing around with him and wait for the gentleman to come into your life.Keep him as a friend, but stop messing around.
I've had a couple 'hookups' im a virgin so it didnt get as far as you did...but ive come to learn that when two people are on different pages (like in your case) it cant and wont work. Hes still being an immature 15 year old who doesnt know how to treat a girl..meanwhile your searching for something more. Lose him as far as romance goes..keep him as a friend

much luv
0-meliisa-

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I've been invited to a party by a girl I don't know that well and I can't decide whether to go. One one hand, I know some people who are going, and it should be fun b/c theres no parents or anything.
On the other hand, she knows some kind of... rough people, and it could turn nasty. She is always going on about how many people they beat up etc. Also she is telling everyone to bring someone, and in our neighbourhood if the local chavs (hooligans, yobs, call them what you want) might well gatecrash and beat people up.
So what do you think?

hmm..there are going to be lots more parties in the future, so i would do something else. it def wouldnt be cool if they decide to pick on you or one of your buddies..things could turn ugly..cops and parents get involved..not worth it.
i would do something else that night..just my thoughts i hope i helped
-meliss

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hi melissa i just put an advice in about the school, stress boys n stuff and i just read it. thank you so much you made me feel better. yes i have the vest freiends evverrr and mayeb i should talk tot hem more. we have had soo much fun this summer. thanks.um i dont know you but i love you you are a great adice giver
love the male from maine. xoxox

no problem..anytime!
:)
much luv,
melissa

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hi melisa you seem good at giving advice. i want you to comment back please and help me. im very sorry for this being so long but maybe you can help me out. i feel like im having a little trouble in my liife. my father is overseas right now trying to make some money, and i dont knwo what is going to happen when he comes back, if we will move or what because there is no jobs here. i dont get along with my mother here, or my siblings they are really mean to me and fake nobody knows but me and they are younger. they make me feel bad about myself becuase i am a girl with very low self-esteem i dont know why. they call me stupid and ugly and things like that and it puts me down.most ppl think i am a bitch but i really am not. theres these boy problems i need to stop with boys are trouble but when you really like soemone you cant help it but i decided i need to foget about those boys and put them in the past. i have wonderful friends and i tell them everything but i dont think they know how i really feel. i know this sounds dramatic but sometimes i feel left out i dont know why either. i am very nevous of how my school year is going to be this year, between sports, extracurricualr activites and no space in my schedule beauce of harder courses i need to take. i am not suicidal i thought about it ofetn it is not something i would do. i just feel alone at times, i try to keep my thoughts in a journal but i have no privacy here.so ive been thinking about taking pils maybe i need a change. and i want to lose weight also..but i have no energy to run or anything. i do not need a counselour they do not help because i went to one and talked to them but that was for another thing they just said i have a slower reading level.they said i am not depressed alos. my mother will act fake also in front on them. i mean she is a good mom but idk. i just dont know what to do, i feel my life is too hard and stressful i do not know what to do. do you have any suggestions...please and thank you sooo much.
by the way i am a male 16 years old from maine.

aw sweetie, first of all counselors are not supposed to tell you your not depressed.. im sorry but those are some pretty crappy counselors. right now things are kind of low for you..please understand things get down in life for EVERYONE sometimes..there are times when i feel nothing is going right..trust me i have had my share of family problems,boy problems, self esteem...all that. its all part of being a teenager.
just go to your friends for support..hang out with them..have good times..i think they do know how you feel, dont second guess that because im sure they love you to death!
ah school can be such a bitch\! trust me we all know how it can be..i remember stressing soooo much over math..especially for the janruary regents..but somehow i always pull through..i have my friedns to thank for pulling through..they have really been there for me and i hope you have wonderful friends like i do.
as far as privacy..try writing your thoughts down and maybe throw it away after ..tear it up so nobody finds it. i know it sounds dumb to write down your thoughts and just throw it away..but writing does help. hangin with friends and talking to them helps. im sure you have a couple good friends who you can have these deep convos with, right? talk to them..it helps! they can give you a shoulder to cry on.
when your feeling so mad and streseed..get away from it all and
- go for a walk
- hang with friends
-talk
-writee a poem...you can write a poem with deeper meaning..like not writing out how your feeling like "ugh my mom is so mean" instead..write a poem
-im sure your not ugly..im positive youR NOT UGLY
do NOT take pills..thats serious stuff..not cool ..definately not cool..my suggestions will help yuo feel better and pull through..pills wil only land you into further trouble and problems
- dont care what people say or think about you..whats important is you have great friends who love and care about you
-im sure your a great beautiful caring person..dont change who you are!

you can go online and look up activities to do ..and little excersises to do when your feeling like you cant take it anymore. i know how it is with moms..me and my mom fight a little..but there is always someone you can talk to..a friend..someonoe.

yeah boys can suck at times but you never know when the rightr one will walk in

keep positive, stay close with friends..and you will pull through..even if yuou move 10191091 miles away..the people you love will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS be there for you


LOVE,
melissa

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I`m at home right now, and i really dont have anything to do. I cant leave the house or anything. Does anyone know anything fun i can do inside ( websites, arts & crafts, etc.) thanks ♥ i will rate

when im bored i go to ask.com and search for teen freebies..its amazing the cool samples you find! i got tons of perfumes in the mail all for freee with no catches.

http://www.teenfreeway.com/

http://www.teenfreebie.com/

collegehumor.com

jokes.com

http://www.coolfreebielinks.com/


i also enter these contests and sweepstakes..go to mtv.com and makeup websites to enter cool contests

i hope this helped
-melissa-

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I'm 17, and I have my first job interview ever at ShopKo on Friday. The only problem is that I don't know what appropriate attire for an interview is. What am I supposed to wear?

Just look presentable. I wouldnt wear jeans..dont wear a casual t shirt. i would try and dress it up a bit and look presentable. a nice pair of dress pants with a pretty shirt would be nice.. a skirt and a nice blouse..just look clean and professional..it will impress them

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I just crashed my uncle's truck into this stupid stone wall, it got dented and the headlight is cracked. I don't know how to tell him, or my own parents. It's a really old truck, but that doesn't mean I can go breaking it. I'm really scared, I don't want to be punished for it. It was an accident after all. I know if it were my car, my parents would be more understanding but I know they're going to flip, atleast if my uncle doesn't murder me. How should I tell him what happened?

ok breaathe!
what you do is you tell him the absolute truth without sugarcoating anything..
"uncle (his name) , im really sorry but i accidentally crashed your truck and its dented and the headlight is cracked..im verry sorry and i plan to pay you back for the damage"

he might get mad..but they cant stay mad at you forever sweetie

-melissa-

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ok im going to be having my brithday party at my house this year im gonna have like 12-15 girls. I have a trampoline but thats it... what are some fun cute things to do at a party...

well how old are you?
you can
-have a campfire
- go exploring in woods if you live by woods
- have contests on the trampoline to see who jumps the hiighest or does the best trick
-ask a friend to bring their slip n slide..thats always fun
-ask a frieend to bring twister..thats a fun game
-prank phone calls
-play dress up thats always fun and take crazy pictures

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i had no idea wut category to put this under but o well.....i just want to kno wut is masturbating?? i hear the word all the time and i never kno wut it means...i rate high (unless u give a snotty remark or say something like "i dont kno")

masturbation is something someone does with themselves when they are feeling horny. a guy would give his penis a handjob..in other words he would kind of cup his hands and make a C shape with his hands around his penis and move it up and down the penis for pleasure. a woman would finger herself..this would pleasure her. both women and men have different techniques for masturbating, but i tried to break it up to make it as simple as i could. inbox me with more questions if you have them and i hope i helped!
-melissa-

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okay so tomorow im going to this girls house, we have liked eachother for 3 yrs and are going out, i am gonna get there at like early in the morning while she is still asleep, i was going to make her breakfast in bed but she doesnt realy eat breakfast cuz she has a weak stomach. I really want to do something sweet so she wakes up to a wonderful surprise and realizes how much i care about her, any great suggestions would be nice...thank you!

aw this is really sweet..although breakfast in bed is really sweet..i wouldnt do it because of her stomach..you can do something like:
-bring her flowers
-write her a poem or print one off of a website that reminds you about her (of course tell her you ddidnt write it)
-you can bring her a teddy bear
-an old picture of you two
-a card

i hope these ideas helped

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i have a friend.. well cousin. anyway, she is OBSESSED with this guy.. she is 14 and he is 17 they had sex.. because she thinks that she loves him.. anyway, she wont get over him.. and he treats her like crap! what should she do?

what she really should do..is she should move on from this jerk because he doesnt desserve her. however, what she SHOULD do and what she WOULD do and what she decides to do are two different things. unfortunately shes in charge of if she stays with him or breaks it off with him..and even if you tell her she should brreak it off with him..she might not realize this until its too late and she gets hurt : /

- meliss

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ok so i went to florida with my ex-boyfriend who i'm still crazy in love with! we hooked up down there but we still don't go out. he says he wants to be single because you can do whatever you want. then he says he doesn't like me cuz he wants to be single! i have no clue what to think. what should i do? how do i handle this?
cRazY iN lOve x3

if you want a relationship..and he just wants to mess around..you two arent on the saame page and there is no way things would work between you two. You will feel used and you will keep wanting more from him..and it will kill you to know he doesnt like you back when you kiss him..trust me ive been in this situation and it wasnt fun.
so unless your very comfortable with hooking up with him while he has no feelings for you at all..and with the fact that you know hes messing around with other girls..i would move on (i know it will be tough) but if you two want different things...it would never work out

i hope what i saaid helped..inbox me if you want to talk more or want more advice
-meliss

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hey.. i have been talking to this guy who lives kind of far awaay like 45 minutes away and i am starting to mike himn alot and he told me he liked me he is so cute ytoo but i had a boyfriend when i told him this and now he has a girlfriend and i broke up with my boyfriend cause i liked him and i dont know what to do! help =/

sweetie if he has a gf now, i would lay low until they break up. its not good to try and break someone up because you will get a rep for that..plus it just isnt good. so there is nothing wrong with flirting..but just not too much, ya know? keep being friendly with him...give him compliments and say stuff like "i would totally go out with you..your so nice" lol but that might be pushing it..the last thing you need is his angry gf and all her frieds mad at you
when they break up ..go for him!! until then..keep him close ;)

-melissa-

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theres tis girl who is totally obbsessed with me, shes attractive looking but i dont really think that it would work, and besides i already have a girlfriend. i wanna tell her that i dont like her but she cried cuz i wouldnt tell her if i liked her so i dont want to totally crush her heart so is there a way that i can tell her i dont like her without her getting crushed into amillion tiny peices

well you have a girlfriend so this makes it easier to break the news it wont work..you dont have to tell her your not attracted to her..just tell her you have a gf and you two are verry happy and nothing is going to come between that

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what do you do wen your goin out wif a guy.. and your best guy friend who you really like and have always wanted to go out with him asks you out... i mean i rilly like the guy im going out with and i really like my best friend?? me and my b/f lets call him jon have been goin out for a couple weeks now and my best frind lets call him bob juz asked me out today?! i have always wanted to go out with bob but he never asked and now that im going out with jon , bob decides to ask me out! i dont want answers tht say well its up to you..i need advice..thnx!! i rate high!!!!!

ok think about this: if you go out with your current bf's best friend...all kinds of "drama" will start. your happy with your current bf so i would stick with him..it sux how this other guy made such bad timing, but your with someone else now and your happy. could something happen between you two in the future?sure. but right now.stick with your current bf
thats what i would do
-melissa-

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i just downloaded applesauce. it works fine w| my ims but i was wondering if you can also change the colors in your aim info? if you can, can ya tell/show me how? thanks a bunch! *lacey

hey..i honestly am not very knowledgeable in this subject..i did not want to delete your question because i wanted you to see the explanation of why i cant answer it. im sorry ..try posting this question to everyone and i bet you will find an answer quickly..im sorry i couldnt help
thank you for the inbox question..this is like the only subject i cant help in..feel free to ask me anything anytime!

-melissa

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I was reading the sexuality question that was posted earlier. And one of the answers was by icy or something. I was just going to ask, where do you find a bisexual girl to experiment with? Because I would really like to try this.

ok there is not like a "bisexual bar" for teenagers..so this is where things get tricky. i mean you cant just ask one of your friends to "experiment"..they will more than likely freak out.
do you have a myspace account? if not, i suggest getting one..you can find friends from your school there..i suggest myspace because in the myspace information things is lists your sexuality and i was shocked when i was looking at some and i found out a couple girls i know of is bisexual..so thats a good way to find out WHO is bisexual..when you find out who is bisexual and its someone you want to experiment with..become friends..talk online..hang out..then bring up experimenting and hopfully it will be all good from there

i strongly suggest that..do you know any bisexuals in your school? if you KNOW they are bisexual..get to know her and after a couple times hangin out..go for it

i hope i helped you out..?
good luck!
-melissa-

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ok, well my ex girlfriend and i just got done breaking up with each other cause we aggreed on it and stuff on saturday night, well today i was hangin with this girl and i really like her (ive only known her for 2 days, but theres somthin about her) and i dont know if i should go into a relationship with her, or if i should still think about it, cause really i dunno
14/m

i think you should wait a little bit..hang out with her a few times and stuff then if you still like her then go for it. there is now law saying you have to wait a certain amount of days before getting into another relationship..but i think its best to wait a little bit. i mean after chillin with this girl you might not like the idea of havin a gf at all..maybe you will decide to live up the single life..keep your options open for a week or so (if you want) and if you still like this girl, then i say start another relationship..i kinda think being that you just met this girl and being that you just broke up with your ex..that waiting and hangin out with her first for a week or something is the best way to go

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hey i think i might be starting to question my sexualty...every time i hang around my good friends that i have no my whole life i just want to jump on them and start making out with them. Its a really big urge and i have no idea how to control it. I have always dreamed of being married (to a man!!) and having 3 kids!! i want to be a straight women but whenever i get with girls i get really nervous and just get butterflyies in my stomache....what should i do?

Please help me!

ok how long has this been going on for? i mean give it a little while because teenage hormones can get a little crazy..dont panic and call yourself a lesbian just yet..its natural for hormones to get crazy. after awhile you might discover you arre bisexual but there is nothing wrong with that..you are who you are! it will take some time to sort out your feelings and sexuality...
if it were me i would lay low for awhile..try and sort things out..and if this is a long term thing and months from now im stil feeling this way...consider experimenting with a bisexual girl...it will take a lot of you thinking and waiting it out a little to figure out if your bisexual or if this is all just a phase..

-melissa-

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Okay. I like this boy and everything but he is like my best guy friend that I have! i like him so much. I'm not scared to tell anyone that I like them if I do. But I'm thinking about our relationship together. I don't want to ruin what we have right now. But I want more. I mean, if I told him and he didnt like me, it would be totally awkward!! Does anyone have any advice? I will rate high for GOOD advice!!

ok yes i agree with you that if you came out and told him you like him and he didnt feel the same way..things would get weird. But i doo think that not taking the risk will leave you thinking "what if?" and thats not good. if you dont go for this..it will kill you inside, you will constantly be thinking.."what if we could have had more?"
to go for the hookup AND to avoid weirdness, i would think of a trusted friend of yours (if you have a goood friend who is also a good friend of his ..then even better)
and talk to this good friend..have him/her talk to this guy ..say something like
"what do you think of (your name) as more than just friends?"
and if hes totally like 'no way, too awkward..why does she like me?" tell your friend to tell this guy
"no,i was just wondering because i think you two would make a good couple " or somethin like that

so friends talking to him for you works best if the awkwardness is a big concern..thats what i would do

i hope this helps!

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