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Q: Me and my friends, (L), (S), and (E) are planning to perform in a lipsync. The song (S) picked out is highly innapropriate!! We all agree except her. We still haven't told her. We don't want to hurt her so what do we do?? I rate high!!!

Just tell her you guys dont want to do it and was wondering if all three of you could pick a song you can agree on. She should understand, shes your friend!

Q: for a myspace page, how can u change the font color and make a backround? can someone give me like.. step by step directions?

Go to www.pimpmymyspace.com Fill out the background color, Font, etc. etc. When your done filling out the form. Click "Gimme my pimp code!" There you can copy all the HTML. Then go to your myspace, and edit profile..then edit your "About me" and paste the code. it should work if not, leave one in my inbox and I'll help you out more!

Q: Hi .. I`m kind of confused . See, I used to like this guy in the beggining of the year and no one knew but they could kind of tell. He liked me too but I didnt know and no one else did eather. Well he was going out with one of my best friends on and off for about 6 times and now they are together again. I was going out with my boyfriend for 4 months. Well while we both had a b/f and a g/f we would always flirt! His best friend and my best friend would always say you guys should so go out! Once when we were talking he asked me if I liked him in the beggining of the year and I said yes and then he said he liked me too and that he would of probably asked me out if he knew I liked him. Like 2 weeks later he was like will you go out with me and he wanted me to break up with my boyfriend and I was like I dont know.. I want to but I'm still going out with my boyfriend. He said it's okay take your time. He broke up with his girlfriend and then he was telling me how he was over her and shit and how he would never! go out with her again. That weekend passed I was talking to him and he was like Im not over her I thought I was but Im not. I was like okay. Then they went back out. I never broke up with my boyrfriend tho. I know it was wrong of me to say that I liked him and to flirt back but I couldnt help it. I really do like my boyfriend. Now that guy is acting really weird towards me. He is acting like a jerk sometimes and it might seem like hes joking around but he isnt and it gets on my nerves I even told him. He always use to have my back and be soo nice but now he's not! Im trying to forget about him. But I dont know why hes acting like this!

* Sorry soo long * Thanks! x0

Maybe hes just mad because he thoguht he had a chance with you. If you really like your boyfriend, stay with him! Dont worry about the other guy being a jerk. See if hes a jerk to you now, what will it be like when you two are in a relationship? Just stick with your boyfriend now! So yeah the guy is mad because he broke up with his girlfriend for you...but tell him to get over it =D Good luck!

Q: me an this guy have been good friends since we were little.. here lately things have been gettin pretty intense.. i think hes trying to be with me and i think i wanna be with him too ..

at the same time another one of my best guy friends is telling me about how jealous he is of every other guy i get with. You can be jealous but hes like my best guy friend do you think that his jealousy means he wants to be with me.

Then theres another guy who i have been with before, he wants to be ftf but i want a relationship and i dont think that he wants that. What should i do there..
I also have another guy who i was hanging out with for a while and he and i messed with eachother one night, well ever since he has been real shady but then at times hes real sweet, i really think i like him but then again i have no idea. He doesnt want anyone to find out about us and what we did.
THen theres more.. another guy the one i lost it to is always callin me an checkin up but hes known as a player should i give him wat he wants .. and be with him or not ? I am just so lost and confused too much drama

IF YOU HELP ME* YOUR LIKE NO OTHER - GREAT RATINGS PEOPLE PLEASE HELP ME
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Omg, I dont care if you rate me bad. But your a slut! Omg your like juggling around 5 boys? Well two of them for sure just want to sex you and the others, well..who knows.

Q: i am currently living in africa and i am feeling very very depressed as time goes by. i've been taken from the friends i love and i am slowly going into insainity. we moved cause my mom thought that the rest of the family hated living in texas, which wasnt true at all. i have left the girl i love behind and cant stop thinking about her, and now i am the most lonesome man on earth. i cant make friends here as they are all immature and just plain stupid. every weekend i am cooped up at home because we aren't aloud outside unless we are going to the store, anothre persons house, or skool. i'm am going insain. i need help before this is the last thing anyone hears from me!

I'm sorry. That sucks, but your stuck there. Might as well make the best of it you know? I'm sure not ALL the people in africa are stupid...How come you cant go outside? You cant hang out at the mall, movies, whatever? If you can then find some people to go with. I know you dont live in like an african forest(lol) but shouldent there be some cool, african looking places you could go to...like place tourists go to and all...Just make the best of it okay? Sorry I didnt help much..if you ever wanna talk about it just IM me: ilinerobsession!

Q: Hey, my family might move from here in Wisconsin to Florida. I want to sooo bad for the weather. But I just can't leave all my friends here. i love em all to death. And my best friend and I are really close and it will be so hard for me to leave her, and everyone else. How can I not miss her so much??

My good friend moved in December, and it was hard on everyone especially him because he left his home! There is no way you'll miss her less...you'll miss her like crazy and will probably cry a lot too! But look you shouldent focus so much on the bad things (like not seeing her at all). You can email, IM, talk on the phone, whatever! If you do move for sure...one thing you must do is keep in contact with all friends! Do it for your friends..they miss you! And plus, I'm sure your family will visit once in a while:)

Q: can u get kicked off advicenators w/o notice b/c of a perverted question you asked/

No you wont get kicked off. But most likley the moderators will erase it!

Q: On my advice colum, where it says Welcome and then your username .. well is there any way I can change that? Thanks! I rate !

Nope. Sorry!

Q: ok well i go camping 3 times a year at the same place with my grandparents, brother, and a bunch of friends and some family. well my grandfather recently got into a realy bad accident and he couldnt do anything. it was the day after we got home from 1 camping trip((memorial day)). well he couldnt go the nect 2 times, ((labor day + halloween)) so me and my brother stayed with some family friends. well we have to wait 7 months to go again on memorial day and im having serious withdrawal because i miss it alot. and i dont know what to do.

Well dont focus on it so much. If you think about it everyday it wont come so fast. Just do whatever and before you know it, 7 months will pass by and your ready to go camping. That always happens to me..I forget about trips and think about now..and then I realize the trip is like a week away! Sorry if I didnt help much..

Q: for a talent how i want to sing if i aint got u by alicia keys and i dont have a kareoke tape or cd for it. does anyone know where i could get one?

Okay do you know anyone that has a illegal downloading music program? If so, ask them to search for "Alicia Keys Instramentals" (Its the song without the words). Look for "I aint got you" and then download it. Then burn the song onto a cd. Thats one of your best options!

Q: I'm starting a my space..does anyone know how to update journal entries and change the font and backround of the page? thanks..

Q: im 14 and my sister is 17. she has a boyfriend that shes really close with and a just got a car. shes supposed to come every other weekend but since she got her car she never comes. shes always at her boyfriends and if she does come she just leaves anyways. i really love spending time with her and i miss her a lot cause i never see her anymore. i know that shes older and doesnt want to spend time with her family, but i still do. what should i do? i dont know if i could really talk to her.

You need to talk to her. A little sister loves to spend time with her older sister so its okay. Just call her up and ask if she wants to do something, anything...anytime! Say you really miss her and you feel kinda lonely...just let your feelings all out. She will definatley try to spend more time with you. :) Update me if you can!

Q: 17/m Last weekend a very close friend of mine told me that she liked me. I said that I liked her too and that we should go out sometime. The reason that I said that I liked her is because everything deserves a chance. Well we have been on two dates and it is clear to me that she likes me way more than I like her. How do I let her know that I want to be just friends with out ruining a good friendship? I rate high.

Just tell her straight up and say that you really value your friendship with her! Hopefully she'll understand, and if she likes you a lot..then I'm sure she would rather be friends than have no relationship at all with you! You know? Sorry if I didnt help much!

Q: I was wondering how I could find a job if I`m only 15. Are places willing to hire a 15 year old? I know I need a work permet (which i have) but I now have no clue how to find a job! What are interviews like? Where are some good places to work? How do I find out if places hire 15 year olds or what are some places that ya`ll think would hire me? THANX!

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All depends on where you live but some ideas are: fast food (mcdonalds, burger king, etc.) A grocery store will hire you as a bagger. All you do is bag the grocerys for the people! pretty easy..and with your work permit you'll probably get hired!

Q: Ok well....Me and my boyfriend started going out a couple days ago but the thing is my sister likes him and everytime she sees him and me together at school she gets this look on her face.He is in her grade but he failed last yr. so he would of been in my grade.Well I've been knowing him and now that they him and my sister are in the same grade in some classes I really don't care that they talk or hang out but the way she makes me feel and tells me things that she "loves him" and all this bullshit I know she wouldn't do anything to hurt me but it does hurt me the things she says to make me seem like I don't deserve him.Plz help I don't know what to do!

Well have a serious convo with your sister. Saying that you know she wouldent hurt you but your worried because she seems jealous. And if she is jealous, that a guy will come into her life thats 100 times as better and she'll go for him. So tell her not to focus on your boyfriend so much, and focus on finding new guys to like. Because there is no chance and she is just depressing herself watching you two. You need to express how much you love her and how this relationship with you and this guy..cant drive you two apart!

Q: Ok well here's my problem, my mom is like super christian and I think I wanna follow by the rules of buddah and I want to be boodist! but I still belive in god! I dunno what one to choose. And plus if I do decide to become budist I dont wanna tell my mom! I dont know what to Do! arg! help!

Well you can be a Budist but still believe that there is a higher power (God) than Budah. You can have a mix of both Christianity/Budism if you would like. And about your mom, you dont have to tell her...its your choice!

Q: Does anybody have any rhyming websites? I have to make up a song for science.. using vocabulary words. Well, some need to rhyme. But it isn't too easy thinking of words that rhyme with science vocabulary words. I figured maybe there were some people who wrote poetry that might have a good rhyming website (where you type in the word and search for a rhyming word). Thank so much in advance!

Add more information to this question and put all the science words. Then the advice columnists can think of words that rhyme!

Q: I have a friend that most of the time underestimtes me and pouts me down when I'm in a positive mood. For instance, when I put a different answer on my social studies quiz that wasn't the correct word, but is nother meaning of it, She was like "I don't think that's right, and I don't think she'll accept it" when my other firned said it was right. Also, when my teacher said she was going to round my B+ to an A or A-, and she got an A-, she said to me "I think that it will just show up as a B on your report card". I feel like she tries to put me down just so she can make me believe that she's smarter than I am, which is definitely not true. Most of the time she getson my nerves because she always thinks she the smartest...even my other friends think she gets on their nerves. I haven't confronted her about her being a problem to me because she might just get upset and play childish games like not speaking to me and ignoring me, or she might get an attidtude. I don't know, what do you think is right and that I should do because somebody has got to set her straight!

P.S.: Whenever I ask her a question that I don't get, she says to me "That's so easy" in a voice that she thinks she get everything...I hate it!!!!!

Tell her how you feel. Sure she'll get mad but you cant keep all your feelings inside you! If she plays the childish games just go along with it because pretty soon she'll IM you or call you or whatever because she misses you not being her friend. Just tell her, and say your not trying to be mean but that it gets annoying! See what happens, good luck..

Q: is it normal for guyz to go to a tanning bed or get a spray tan?

I'm sure some guys do it and dont tell anyone..i have seen a few guys come into a tanning salon! soo its normal:)

Q: hi i just recently discovered some suspicious actions coming from my boyfriend. on myspace in his inbox i discovered a lot of letters that he wrote to girls saying stuff like, "wow, you're beautiful". or "i could spend all night gazing in your eyes."

i started crying cuz in a way i think he's cheating on me in a sense by flirting with other girls. i confronted him about it, and he denies all of it saying that he was just bored and on myspace a lot of people ask to rate their picture. i still didn't believe him cuz his answer was unreasonable, and he kept telling me things like he specified that he was in a relationship (which is true) and he was just bored and i shouldn't take it personally. even some of the girls he commented on had boyfriends so he said i was overreacting. he also said that if he were to be cheating on me, why is he not going out to act upon his actions?

right now i really don't know whether to believe him or not.

i never talk to guys let alone look at them because i keep my boyfriend's feelings into consideration. what i told him was that if he was allowed to talk to girls (he talks to guys also, he's outgoing like that), then i should be allowed the same priveliges without having to feel guilty about it. do you think i made the right decision on telling him that?

i really don't know what to think. there's more to this story and i apologize if i made him seem like the evil antagonist here, but we've been together a log time and he's never cheated on me...i want to believe him, i really do. but why would he call other girls beautiful? why the word "beautiful" of all words?

any help is appreciated...

On my space many guys(single or not) comment on a girl's looks. Just because their hott and the guys want to tell them that. I dont think they should though, because what if the girl starts to talk to him and they start an online relationship. But anyway, its the internet..im pretty sure nothing will happen. But yes, if he tells girls their pretty on myspace..you should be able to tell guys too!