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hi i just recently discovered some suspicious actions coming from my boyfriend. on myspace in his inbox i discovered a lot of letters that he wrote to girls saying stuff like, "wow, you're beautiful". or "i could spend all night gazing in your eyes."
i started crying cuz in a way i think he's cheating on me in a sense by flirting with other girls. i confronted him about it, and he denies all of it saying that he was just bored and on myspace a lot of people ask to rate their picture. i still didn't believe him cuz his answer was unreasonable, and he kept telling me things like he specified that he was in a relationship (which is true) and he was just bored and i shouldn't take it personally. even some of the girls he commented on had boyfriends so he said i was overreacting. he also said that if he were to be cheating on me, why is he not going out to act upon his actions?
right now i really don't know whether to believe him or not.
i never talk to guys let alone look at them because i keep my boyfriend's feelings into consideration. what i told him was that if he was allowed to talk to girls (he talks to guys also, he's outgoing like that), then i should be allowed the same priveliges without having to feel guilty about it. do you think i made the right decision on telling him that?
i really don't know what to think. there's more to this story and i apologize if i made him seem like the evil antagonist here, but we've been together a log time and he's never cheated on me...i want to believe him, i really do. but why would he call other girls beautiful? why the word "beautiful" of all words?
any help is appreciated...
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honey dont blame yourself or even feel bad because you have every righ to be angry with your boyfriend and well how do you know hes not cheating so do yoursel a favor an keep a close eye on him and let him know that your not stupid and let him know that you can play hard ball too
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Hey, I've done the same thing on Myspace and have a girlfriend too. Trust me, complimenting another girl's good looks does not equal cheating! If you try to tell him he can't talk to other girls, you'll seem possessive and an overall annoyance. Don't try to control who he talks to or what he says to others; you really can't anyway. My girlfriend will run up and hug guys she knows, and even kiss them on the cheek, but it doesn't bother me. I can do the same with girls I know and she won't give it a second thought. The reason for that, is that we love and trust each other, and know that neither of us would do anything to hurt the other. She can take a shower at her ex-boyfriend's house and I wouldn't even begin to think that she would do something; not because I'm naive, but because I know her that well.
And you DO have the right to talk to other guys. You should never isolate yourself from the opposite sex just because you have a significant other. Do that, and you'll have a lot less friends than you would prefer.
And on another note, he did this OVER THE INTERNET. HAd he gone up in person and said it directly to a girl's face, directly in front of you, you may have a valid argument. But let me repeat, THIS WAS OVER THE INTERNET.
I highly doubt your boyfriend is cheating on you. If he is, this isn't the way he would go about it.
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ok if u found love letters then either he is cheating on u or he might be practicing on what 2 say which reaaly sounds lame of him to do
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hey i had the same problem with my ex. turns out he was cheating on me! not to say yours is or anything. we were together for 6 months and inside i always had a feeling like he was cheating on me. go with your gut reaction. and if you trust your bf alot then just tell him "how would you like it if i talked to guys and told them that stuff" and see what he says. tell him you dont mind if he has GURL friends...but your his girlfriend. and he should think you, and only you are beautiful. just tell him its not cool and if hes cheating on you, u just want to know right now or something. do what you feel inside. if u feel hes cheating on you, you feel that way for a reason.
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ok, i'm sorry about all of this ya know and i'll try to help. personally i think he's "cheating" to the exstent that he doesn't even know the girls. he could just like them for their apperence and nothin else. you should ask him wat he thinks about you and why he doesn't compliment you on your beauty. and if says your beautiful, ask him to use a different word cause he's describing you the same way he did with those other girls. and i think to really push him, do wat he's doin, 'cheat' a little and see how he feels. if he doesn't seem to notice or care dump is sorry ass. he doens't seem to like you that much if he cheats and doesn't seem to care if you do. i hope i helped
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On my space many guys(single or not) comment on a girl's looks. Just because their hott and the guys want to tell them that. I dont think they should though, because what if the girl starts to talk to him and they start an online relationship. But anyway, its the internet..im pretty sure nothing will happen. But yes, if he tells girls their pretty on myspace..you should be able to tell guys too!
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