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"There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother." A lot has changed since I was in High-school and first created my column - almost 8 years ago!!!! I now have two gorgeous Boys who mean the World to me; Brody, who is 3 and a half years old, and Brayden, who will be a year in November. I live my life for these two Boys. They make every second worth it. xxoo ♥ ♥

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why havent you been updating as much?? like your last update was on may 4th && we are now may 27th... where are you??? :( :(

I've been REALLY busy. I'm sorry. But, I'll be checking for inboxes and I'll be answering those, for now. ♥

how do you have sex

Did you parent's not give you 'the talk' yet? This site is for 13+ and usually parents give 'the talk' during those ages. If you don't know this by now, I don't know what to tell you. Maybe you should search it up on google? ♥

hi! i just turn 17 on may 4... and my question is that me and my boyfriend been having sex the last time we had sex was after my birthday... and he said he came inside of me like three time.. i have my period...why im noy pregnant?

Sometimes when he comes inside of you it's not 100% chance that you're going to get pregnant. Usually when people are TRYING to get pregnant, they have sex a couple of times (or many times) before they actually do get pregnant. ♥

ok i want to start downloading songs but i like so much music i dont know what songs to download....can someone plz tel me some good songs.
(p.s. i listen mostly to 104.1 ,and 97.9 if that helps.)

Zebrahead - Everything Falls Apart.
The Presidents Of The USA - Lump.
The Postal Service - Nothing Better.
The Verve Pipe - The Freshman Eagle.
Eye Cherry - Save Tonight.
Bowling For Soup - The Bitch Song.
Taking Back Sunday - You're So Last Summer.
The Postal Service - Such Great Heights.
The Vanished - Favorite Scar.
Unwritten Law - Save Me.
Shinedown - Burning Bright.
Live - Lightning Crashes.
Relient K - Be My Escape.
Bowling For Soup - Always.
The Spill Canvas - The Tide.
Ingram Hill - Almost Perfect.
JTExperience - Party Like A Rockstar.
Social Code - Beautiful.
Sugarcult - Back To California.
Fall Out Boy - Sugar We're Going Down.
311 - Amber.
Offspring - Can't Get My Head Around You.
Bowling For Soup - 1985.
Fenix TX - All My Fault.
The Used - Blue And Yellow.
Social Code - Cats And Dogs.
Everlast - Only Love Can Break Your Heart.
Coldplay - Fix You.
Ben Harper - Walk Away.
Fuel - Falls On Me.
Smile Empty Soul - Finding Myself.
Akon - Mr Lonely.
Everlast - So Long.
My Chemical Romance - The Ghost Of You.
The Verve - Freshmen.
Eagle Eye Cherry - Falling In Love Again.
Nickelback - Photograph.
Dead Poetic - Bliss Tearing Eyes.
Daniel Powter - Had A Bad Day.
Theory Of A Deadman - Santa Monica.
Lyfe Jennings - Must Be Nice.
Live - I Alone.
Criss Angel - Die For Me.
3 Doors Down - Going Down In Flames.
Hinder - Get Stoned.
Carl Henry - Perfect.
Massari - Real Love.
2Pac - Ghetto Gospel.
Thornley - Come Again.
Staind - Right Here.
Chevelle - Panic Prone.
Matt Mays - On The Hood.
Breaking Benjamin - Rain.
Dead Cab For Cutie - When Soul Meets Body.
Dopamine - This January.
The Spill Canvas - Stapplegunned.
Jack's Mannequin - The Mixed Tape.
Breaking Benjamin - Next To Nothing.
Candle Box - Far Behind.
Sweatshop Union - Try.
Classified - No Mistakes.
Nickelback - Far Away.
Twista & Trey Songs - Gotta Make It.
Simple Plan - Crazy.
The Pussycat Dolls - Stickwitu.
Matthew Barber - Soft One.
Sevendust - Beautiful.
The Click Five - Just The Girl.
311 - Don't Tread On Me.
Matthew Barber - Soft One.
The Dandy Warhols - We Used To Be Friends.
Rex Goudie - Run.
Dallas Goudie - Caseys Song.
Hedley - 'A' Song.
Blink 182 - Not Now.
The Rolling Stones - Rain Fall Down.
Hedley - Trip.
Mary J Blige - Be Without You.
Nick Connon - Are You A Dime Piece.
Ashley Parker Angel - Let You Go.
50 Cent - Best Friend.
Bif Naked - I Love Myself Today.
New Ridaz - Special Girl.
Damian Marley - Beautiful.
Panic! At The Disco - It's Time To Dance.
Bif Naked - Let Down.
Teddy Geiger - For You I Will.
Angels And Airwaves - The Adventure.
Mobile - Out Of My Head.
Red Hot Chili Peppers - Dani Californa.
Panic! At The Disco - I Write Sins Not Tragedies.
The All American Rejects - Move Along.
Yeah Yeah Yeahs - Gold Lian.
Incubus, The Perfect Circle & Finger 11 - Falling Behind.
The Dandy Warhols - Sleep.
The Wallflowers & Counting Crows - Heartache.
The Spill Canvas - All Hail The Heartbreak.
Joe Budden & Busta Ryhmes - Fire.
Gorillaz - Dare.
Shaggy & Oliva - Wild 2Night.
Madonna - Hung Up.
Chris Brown - Run It.
Sean Paul - Keeping You Warm.
Chingy - We Clubbin'.
Beenie Man - Kind Of The Dancehall.
Lil Jon, Trick Daddy & Twista - Crazy Train.
D.H.T. - Listen To Your Heart.
Gwen Stefani - What Are You Waiting For.
Joe Budden - Pump It Up.
Pitbull & Lil Jon - Culo.
Sean Paul - Shake That Thing.
Jermaine Dupri - Gotta Getcha.
Royal Gigolos - California Dreamin'.
Lil Jon, Busta Ryhmes & Elephant Man - Get Low.
Mobb Deep, 50 Cent & Nate Dogg - Have A Party.
Daddy Yankee - Rompe.
Red Hot Chilli Peppers - Dani California.
A Perfect Circle - Thinking Of You.
Aqualung - Strange And Beautiful.
3 Doors Down - Landing In London.
Seether - The Gift.
Breaking Benjamin - So Cold.
Default - All She Wrote.
The White Stripes - The Denial Twist.
HIM - Wings Of A Butterfly.
3 Days Grace - Animal I Have Become.
The Tea Party - Stargazer.
Play-N-Skillz & Pitbull - Get Freaky.

I hope you enjoy some of these songs. ♥

hey whats up i haven't been on here for a longg time i've been going through alot right now and how does it feel like to get your first kiss because my boyfriend wants to move up in realtionship and like iam not sure if iam ready for my first kiss because i don't know how...

thanks lauren

I know you're going to think you can't make out with anyone and your going to be a bad kisser (that's what everyone thinks when it comes to their first kiss), but really, that's all in your head.

I know this is probably not much help, but kissing really does come naturally. Just go with the flow, it'll come naturally, I promise.

Here's a site that you might want to look at, if you feel like you need a little more information: http://teenadvice.about.com/od/kissing

Just make sure, you're 100% ready for this kiss and you're comfortable with this person. Your first kiss should always be special. If this is the guy you want to share your first kiss with, then go for it. ♥

my friend recently died, im supposed to chose a song to play at his funeral

any songs?

3 Doors Down - Landing In London.
Jimmy Eat World - Hear You Me.
Dave Matthews - Grave Digger.
Nickelback - Far Away.
Alter Bridge - In Loving Memory.
Kenny Chesney - Who You'd Be Today.
Coolio - I'll See You When You Get There.

Hope these songs help you out some. ♥

one of my bestfriends died and i need a song to put up on myspace to show i miss her and care!

please help

Aw, first of all, I am very sorry for your lost, hun. R.I.P!

3 Doors Down - Landing In London.
Jimmy Eat World - Hear You Me.
Dave Matthews - Grave Digger.
Nickelback - Far Away.
Alter Bridge - In Loving Memory.
Kenny Chesney - Who You'd Be Today.
Coolio - I'll See You When You Get There.

Those are some really great songs. Hope you find one that is good enough to put on your MySpace page. ♥

Do you think it is ok to ask a guy if he likes you. I mean like like you?

It would be totally okay to ask him if he likes you. If you are comfortable in asking him this, then go for it. ♥

what Are some good songs. I like mostly R&B rap and pop. the reason im asking is mostly because I like to listen to music but also because I am an aspiring artist and it helps to have music to practice dancing or singing to.

Joe Budden & Busta Ryhmes - Fire.
Gorillaz - Dare.
Shaggy & Oliva - Wild 2Night.
Madonna - Hung Up.
Chris Brown - Run It.
Sean Paul - Keeping You Warm.
Chingy - We Clubbin'.
Beenie Man - Kind Of The Dancehall.
Lil Jon, Trick Daddy & Twista - Crazy Train.
D.H.T. - Listen To Your Heart.
Gwen Stefani - What Are You Waiting For.
Joe Budden - Pump It Up.
Pitbull & Lil Jon - Culo.
Sean Paul - Shake That Thing.
Jermaine Dupri - Gotta Getcha.
Royal Gigolos - California Dreamin'.
Lil Jon, Busta Ryhmes & Elephant Man - Get Low.
Mobb Deep, 50 Cent & Nate Dogg - Have A Party.
Daddy Yankee - Rompe.
Eminem & Nate Dogg - Shake That
Play N Skillz & Pitbull - Get Freaky.
Bodyrockers - I Like The Way You Move.

Hope you enjoy these songs. ♥

im debating wether i should model soon. my username on this is BlondBritBrit and it has a picture of me in a dress. If not, can you give me things I can improve on?

Thanks.

YOU LOOK GORGEOUS! You had such beautiful eyes and very pretty hair. I think you could totally make it. Follow your dreams and never give up on them. If there's no one stopping you, go for it! By the way, I just adore that dress. ♥

when u make out does it mean you french kiss and use your tongue and everything, or do you just peck and hold it there for a long time??

When people make out, it involves french kissing. ♥

Does Laser Removal work for stretch marks? If yes, how well (like can you still faintly see them, was there only a small difference...etc, etc?)

I don't know if that would remove stretch marks; I'm not 100% sure on that. I just answered a question about stretch marks, so I'm going to leave you with some information on how you can hide those stretch marks.

'Some people find that sunless tanning treatments (both over-the-counter lotions and sprays and in-salon types of treatments) can help cover up stretch marks. This doesn't work for regular tanning or tanning beds, though, because stretch marks themselves are less likely to tan. And as everyone knows, the sun and tanning beds do more harm than good when it comes to the long-term health of your skin. You also can buy body makeup matched to the tone of your skin that can make stretch marks all but invisible. Although some manufacturers make these cover-up products water-resistant, makeup may not be the best solution if you'll be spending a lot of time in the water.

Speaking of pool or beach time, the good news is that current fashion favors many styles of bathing suits that also just happen to hide stretch marks. "Boy short" style suits (popular with many athletes because they don't ride up when a person moves) work well for hiding stretch marks on the buttocks and upper thighs. And because many swimmers prefer high-neck bathing suits, which can hide stretch marks in the chest area, there are usually lots of styles to choose from.

Although there are tons of creams and other skin products on the market that claim to eliminate stretch marks, the truth is that most are ineffective and often costly. You can't make stretch marks go away entirely without the help of a dermatologist (a doctor who specializes in treating skin problems) or plastic surgeon. These doctors may use one of many types of treatments - from actual surgery to techniques such as microdermabrasion and laser treatment - that reduce the appearance of stretch marks. These techniques are expensive and are not usually recommended for people in their teen years because they are not finished growing and their stretch marks will probably diminish over time anyway.' ♥

what are stretch marks

'Stretch marks are a normal part of puberty for most girls and guys. When a person grows or gains weight really quickly (like during puberty), that person may get fine lines on the body called stretch marks. Stretch marks happen when the tissue under the skin is pulled by rapid growth or stretching. Although the skin is usually fairly elastic, when it's overstretched, the normal production of collagen (the major protein that makes up the connective tissue in your skin) is disrupted. As a result, scars called stretch marks may form.'

For more information on stretch marks you should check out the following website: http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/skin_stuff/stretch_marks.html ♥

alright kids, well my teeth are horribly yellow, like, becoming greenish on the top of them. i know this sounds totally sick but what can i do to change this. don't say go to a dentist because my parents keeps forgetting. so what are some things i can do on my own for this?

Fristly, you should brush your teeth everyday; 4 times a day, actually. In the morning when you get up, after lunch, after supper and of course, before you go to bed.

Secondly, you can get your teeth whiter by mixing up some baking soda and salt; You just put 1/4 of salt in a little bottle, then the rest is baking soda. It works really well and your teeth will start to become really white. ♥

For social, I have to research the Halifax Explosion and how it affected Canadian soverignty. I've studied it, but I still don't see how it contributed. Do you know of any sites, or possibly some actual help with this question?

Here are some sites:

-- http://history.cbc.ca/history/?MIval=EpisodeSum2.html&lang=E
-- http://www.csis-scrs.gc.ca/en/publications/annual_report/1996/report1996.asp
-- http://www.edu.gov.on.ca/eng/document/curricul/secondary/canadian/2005/index.html
-- http://cana7blog.blogspot.com
-- http://epguides.com/CanadaAPeoplesHistory/guide.shtml

If you want anymore information just go to http://www.google.com or http://www.yahoo.com and search up 'Halifax Explosion' ♥

I was just wondering, is "Katlyn" pronounced the same way as "Caitlyn" && "Kaitlyn" && all the other ways to spell it?

Yes, it is pronounced the same; just spelt differently. ♥

i've never made out bbefore . go ahead laugh i dont care. but im like gonna be really bad at it and i really wanna make out. so can you tell me exaaaactly. not like oh well you put your lips together and smooch. no i wanna know exactly step by step what you do.
please and thank you
i'll rate high! xo

I know you're going to think you can't make out with anyone and your going to be a bad kisser, but really, that's all in your head. Everyone thinks that when it comes to making out and kissing. They all think they're going to suck at it.

I know this is probably not much help, but kissing really does come naturally. Just go with the flow, it'll come naturally, I promise.

Here's a site that you might want to look at, if you feel like you need a little more information: http://teenadvice.about.com/od/kissing ♥

i know its more than one question - but its all the same topic so i just put it on one.. sorry.

1) if i reject a question - does it go to be public?
2) if i ask a public question [ like this ] - is their like a maximum number of answers?
3) is their a maximum number of favorite columnists you can have?

if you can answer all 3 - automatic 5.

All are a no, hun. ♥

Hey im Jessica ♥ 18/f ... I came upon your site googling sumthin totally different and afta readin a lot of tha advice you've given, i'm glad i came upon it because your absolutely awesome! But yeh, im tryna figure out a way to have great sex n not get pregnant. Me n my fiance definitely love eachother n we want children in the future just not anytime soon, you kno. But theres a really bad history of birth control pills having the worst side effects, especially fatal blood clots to the women in my family. i dunno why it jus does (i found that out from my mom shez always warned me not to go on any birth control pills) n condoms suck so completely ive tried so many different special "his n her extra pleasure" condoms n they rele dont work. i feel nuthin wen compared to doin it raw. so for the last few months he's just been pulling out but i hear that duznt alwyz werk? or duz it? l0l worryin bout if im gunna get pregnant evry time getz scary... iz there nething else i could use besides birth control pills n condoms to prevent unwanted pregnancy? i also heard about this thing called spermicide but i dont rele kno wat it is or how it works or wat the side effects on that might be? i kno its a long question(s), rele sorry, but id appreciate it so much if u could give me the best answer in your opinion,

P.S. no matter what i still think your site (n other sites like it) is great, theres not enough places for young people to turn to these days without gettin sum useless talk about "how we shudve waited n no contact w/ the opposite sex is the key" instead of how to fix the problem, wats normal n abnormal, how to be safe... what yall r doin is REAL LIFE n itz absolutely COMMENDABLE. thankz bunchez on da realz :)

I AM SO SORRY, about getting back to you so late. I didn't even notice that your question was in my inbox. Sorry, again.

Thanks for the compliments. I'm glad you came across my page and came to ask me a question. Hopefully I'll be able to answer it good. And thanks for the PS information; you're far too kind and I totally agree with you :]

As for your question, yes you are correct. Having sex without a condom, but pulling out isn't the best way. There's ALWAYS a chance of him pulling out too late and such, so there's going to be a chance of you getting pregnant. Also, condoms aren't 100% safe either, but they're way better then having sex raw. It's a greater chance of getting pregnant if you don't have a condom.

I haven't heard of spermicide, at least I don't think I have? I suggest going to your doctor and asking him/her about these things (or even looking it up on the internet.) I know your doctor knows way more about these questions then I would, since that is his/her job. Just tell him/her your problem and see if there is a way around this. Ask your doctor about other birth control methods too, such as the patch or the needle. I'm sure something will work out. Good luck. ♥

Who sings that song, that the lyrics are like .. "Oh no darlin, you didn't crush me you completly destroyed me .."

Or is it just a quote?

That's just a quote; it is not a song. You can find that quote and other quotes on this site: http://www.xanga.com/OuTrAgEOuSDiSaSTeR ♥

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