about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

my 2 best friends have been
leaving me out. they dont do
it a lot and they aren't doing
it to be mean, but it still hurts.
they are making this movie for
school and i'm in their class and
they didn't ask me. i asked if
i could be in but they already
filmed it. all 3 of us hang out
alot but if i cant do anything that
day and the 2 of them hang out,
i miss so many inside jokes and then
they put it in their aim profiles and
i feel left out. they feel left out
sometimes too, i guess thats what
happens when 3 people are bffs but
i dont wanna feel left out and i wanna
know all the secrets or inside jokes.

I'm sure that everyone feels left out & I do too but you have to talk to your best friends. They might not even realize that they're leaving you out. You should invite them to hang out or maybe if they make plans, ask if you could join. After all, you're best friends. Just tell what you said in your question and talk them about it.

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ok so i like have dark hair on my arms, and it really pisses me off and like makes me hate my body is there anything i can do about them?and im not hsaving my arms by the way

Use a product called Nair. It will bleach your hair & they will eventually become thiner. You can get it at Walgreens or Walmart. I have tons of friends that shave their arms & it's not gross and it doesn't grow back worse. I also shave mine too but I don't recomend that you do it. Just bleach it & they'll become less noticable.

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My friend and I went to the movies the other day and the whole movie she was making out with her boyfriend.

I found this weird because no one in my grade really does this. But I kept seeing her like rub his private parts over his pants.. and I know this sounds weird but I could hear him like moaning.

But question is, is this normal? Is this just like giving a hand job?

I know this question seems stupid, I'm just really uneducated.

Thanks in advance.

It's normal. They shouldn't of done that in public but every couple makes out infront of people. Your question isn't stupid considering that you have never been in that situation.

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Whenever i try to watch a myspace video it say "Hello, you either have JavaScript turned off or an old version of Macromedia's Flash Player. Click Here to get the latest flash player. "
I've tried turning on my video thingy, but its not working


What do I do to make it work??

I have no idea. I never had that problem because so I don't know. Try downloading the latest flash player.

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Hey. My period just started getting regular. I hate pads and i want to start wearing tampons. i got the ultra thin tampax pearls one because thats what my friend said is easiest to start with. I put it in a little bit, and started pushing it up, but it wasn't going up, it was just getting squished. plus it felt so wierd. is there anything i'm doing wrong?

sorry if this is the wrong category thing. by the way i'm 13/f. thankss!

-sara

You aren't supposed to make it go up.. you know the little handle on the tampon?.. well you have to push that up.


http://www.ehow.com/how_1185_insert-tampon.html

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hey =)
what`s it mean when someone says "shake and bake baby" ?
okay thank you very much!

It's off a movie. "Ricky Bobby"

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Hello

Well it just always seems like when I meet a new boy I have a crush on him and I don't get it I can't really tell if its true or just my stupid slef wanted a boyfriend so I tell myself like him you can get him like him! Err I don't know I'm confused so I don't know if its a real crush or just a "fake crush"?!

A lot of girls think that they like a guy after talking to them for a while. I can't tell you if you have a crush or not because it's for you to figure out, not me. It could be just a fake crush. You might just like their personalities and the attention but it might not be the real deal. When you really like someone, you'll know.

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i just bought new uggs, i paid around 200$ for them from athletes world. (in richmond, b.c.)

im just wondering if i got ripped off.

thanks!!

You could of gotten real Uggs for at least $100 so you did get ripped off. Other stores have them for way cheaper & it's the same thing.

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for the most part, i straighten my hair everyday. in the morning before i go to school it looks fine, but then by like 2nd period[which is like 9:15][i do my hair by 8] its starting to get wavy. it wont stay straight for a few hours. is there any way i can fix this? thanks in advance!

One thing that can prevent that is if you stop playing with it. That way it gets wavier and. You can also use products. Tresemme and Garnier Frutis have straightening products. Just don't play with your hair as much.

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14/f

Everyone tells me this kid likes me, but when it comes to seeing if people like me or not, I can never ever tell!

Here are some signs --
*He calls me twice a day.
*He talks about how he misses what we had.
*He always says we should hang out
*Hes called me pretty 3 times, in the past like.. maybe week tops?
*He asked if I'd ever makeout with him... lol?
*He always tries to help me with things.
*He drops like everything, just to talk to me on the phone type thing..

& alot of other stuff.. I just can't seem to think of it right now. =/ but, trust me theres alot more.. thats just super recent. & some of the other things, I don't know how to put it.

Anyways, what do you think? Does he just want to be my friend? or more...

By the way.. I won't rate you low, if you think he doesn't like me or something.. I want you to be completely honest.


OH..& sorry if we're not allowed to say we rate at all? I thought it was just as long as we don't say we rate high...

kthanks in advance.

The signs that he gives make it obvious that he likes you. Guys usually don`t drop everything just to talk to someone unless they really like you. So, to answer your question.. yeah, I do think that he likes you. Just keep flirting with him like you are you never know where you both could end up.

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So i know a lot of people ask this same stupid question, but I'm kind of new on here and I dont know where to find already answered questions, but anyways on to the question::

Where can I get a FREE DOWNLOADABLE photoshopping program that allows me to create pictures where you can change the colors of certain parts of the picture, and make certain parts of the picture shimmery etc.
also a photoshop that allows me to make animations.

You may send me photoshops for only some of those things, but please specify which one that photoshop can do.

thanks :)

and please no "go look somewhere for it" I want answers.

Go to download.com and type in Photoshop or you can just go to google and it'll be easier.

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What are some good conversations to have with guys (on the phone, in person, or on the computer)? I am always at a loss for words and conversations with them.

I don't really know what to tell you? Usually when I talk to guys I don't think much about what I'm going to talk about next. Just talk about what you're doing over the weekend and bring up some topics that you're both interested in. Just have fun talking to them and don't think so much about what you're going to say next.

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i noticed you just got a question about one tree hill, but if you ever see it, you know peytons hair how its so curly, is that curled or scrunched like that? how can i get mine sort of like that

I think that her hair is natrually curly but then they just tone it down and use a curling iron. I'm sure they use other products and such but her hair is natrually curly.

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where do you buy [THE NORTH FACE] jackets?

You can order them online & you can also buy them at Sports Authoroity. They also have them at some malls.

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hey does anyone know if One Tree Hill's season is over? its not on on wednesday nights anymore and i'm wondering if it ended or what? maybe changed time?

It`ll be on 2 weeks from now. It`s still on a Wednesday nights.

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okay i have this really good friend that we are gonna call jhon.ok me and jhon have gone out before and he cheated on me and we broke up and three days later we started going back out because we couldnt stand being mad at each other.Well once again it didnt work out because we were not as close as we were the last time.well a couple of months went by and we still talked alot and flirted.then he got a girlfriend and the flirting stoped(and i understand that tottaly)but we still talked alot.i never stoped liking him.well him and his girlfriend broke up and the flirting started again.now we both confessed to each other who we liked(over text messaging,LOL)and i told him that i still liked him and he said he still liked me but he told me he also liked anothr girl.i asked what girl he liked more and he said "i dont know".then i asked what girl made him feel right and he said that it was me.so my question is what are the chances that we will go back out?

PS.this other girl that he likes asked him to go to the movies with her and he said no.does that mean anything??13/f and my boyfriends 15/m

I can't really predict the chances of you guys going back out, but if both of you are willing to make the relationship work out, you'll be together. Also, just because you guys started talking and flirting again should not mean that you should go out RIGHT away. Give it a couple weeks and keep flirting and talking and then see what you guys want to do. I think the reason it didn't work out the second time you guys went out was because you rushed into it too soon. Just be patient and remember, he also likes another girl. Don't let him screw you over & hurt your feelings.


Just because he said no to the movies doesn't really mean anything. Maybe he doesn't really want to go or maybe he just doesn't want to spend time with her. Who knows? You should ask him to go somewhere & just hang out.

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alright you see i liked this kid for 7 months and we finally started going out on oct.28 and i was so happy we did some amaazing stuff together and i was thrilled, but we are no broken up and i really dont know why, but now he has a girlfriend and he had tht girlffriend the day after we broke up he asked her out and she said yeah well now they are in a big fight, but they are still going out and i love him soo much i cried for a whole day straight and longer what can i do to get him back or to get me on my feet again ?

I'm sorry about your break up, but you need to move on. Right after you guys broke up, he got a new girl friend. Does that show you anything? I know that you really like him, but he's not worth your tears. Accept the fact that he has a new girl friend and look for someone else or just enjoy being single. Go out with your friends and meet new people. Don't even think about your ex anymore because he did you wrong & you don't need that. Have fun and you'll meet the right guy sooner or later but just don't rush anything.

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Okay so. im in 7th grade and i really like this guy, lets say his name is stew. i have never meet anyone like "stew" before. we talk almost everyday and hes really cool. it seems like hes droping hints that he likes me ALOT. but im way to scared to ask him out because he might say no, then it would ruin our friendship. and then today i found out my 2 best friends like him too! i was okay with it until "stew" thought one of them was really pretty and nice. and he said he was going to ask her out when we go back to school! my friend got all excited and i started crying and told her that no affence but i wasnt comfertable for her to go out with him,then she was like whateverr and got all mad at me but she doesnt understand how much i like this kid. i have no idea what to do i dont wanna lose my bestfriend and i dont want her to go out with "stew" please help me!!
thank you sooo much

I know that it's hard to see your best friend and a guy you like go out, but you can't do anything about that. It wouldn't be fair if they didn't go out just because you like him. Your friend has feelings towards this guy & if you made her chose, it wouldn't be nice. Talk to your friend once more time and explain to her how you had feelings for this guy. If she wants to go out with him still, let her and don't be mad at her for it. You didn't tell her about him earlier and you can't blame him or her. Accept it and try to move on. Fighting over a guy with your friends is NEVER worth it.

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Hey, I'm a 14/f. I'm about 5'10-5'11 and i weigh 170 lbs. I would like to lose 25 pounds any time before the summer, and get flatter abs. I've been a little overweight all my life, everyone said it's just baby fat and it'll go away sooner or later and i just need it to gooo away already. my cousin lost 50 lbs in 6 months and she's been kinda gaining a few lbs back again and then losing them again -- how can i avoid this? i excersize A LOT, but i eat a lot too. please help! i'm very determined to lose weight, but usually my determination is to lose weight to look good and get the guy i like, but the thing is i get over guys quickly and begin eating again. is there another thing i can set my mind on and lock it? like should i keep telling myself how good i'll look in the summer in every bikini? please help!

First off, you have to get motivated. What's the reason that you're trying to lose the weight? Maybe because you want to look better in a bikini, or find cuter dresses for your dances, have your clothes fit better, be healthier. Stuff like that to keep you going and to help you stick to this. Since you eat a lot, you need to eat smaller porportions of food and have it every few hours. Replace the cookies & chips with healthier stuff. If you do want to have some cookies, have 2 or 3, not too many though. Since you exercise a lot, your fat will turn into muscle & that can also cause the weight gain. It's totally normal. The number of your weight might go up, but if you give it time you will see your body get toned down & change. Just be patient with it and keep motivated & you'll do fine.

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first i love your picture, it is veryy bad ass ;)

alright well im in 8th grade (14 as of now) and my mom said i coould get my cartlidge pieced. im not sure what ear is like the one most girls have pierced though? also i really hope to get my lip pierced even though my mom like hates it, but what side is ususally the pierced one? thank you

Haha, thanks. ;]]


If you're going to get your cartlidge pierced, it doesn't really matter what ear you get it on. Guys usually get it on their left ears, but it doesn't really matter for girls. & as for the lip piercing just wait until you're older and for that it also doesn't matter what side.

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