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Q: My sister is 15-years-old. We have had problems with her for years, she doesn't do anything anyone tells her, has screaming tantrums on a daily basis, steals from us and more recently has been kicked out of school.

Today I found out that she is pregnant by her boyfriend of six months. I am absolutely livid. This is my final year of school and I will be taking important exams around the time that the baby is due. It is also my 18th birthday next week, which is a pretty big deal as I live in the UK, and we were planning a big party with family and friends. Obviously this is now being completely overshadowed.

I know I'm being selfish for just thinking about myself but for years I have suffered as a result of her behaviour, baring the brunt of my parents' anger and finding it really difficult to stay at home as the constant noise and arguments are too much. This feels like the last straw. This year is so important for me and instead of fully supporting me, my parents are going to be preoccupied with this.

I know she might not even end up having the baby as it is very early days and she hasn't made any decisions yet, but I am furious with both her and my parents, who I partially blame for this. Ever since she got together with her boyfriend I told my parents I didn't think it was a good idea to let her stay at his house and that she wasn't using protection but no one listened to me. They are now angry with me for being upset. My sister and I had a bad relationship anyway but now I don't want her anywhere near me. As far as I'm concerned she has ruined what is going to be one of the most important years of my life.

What should I do? I honestly don't think I can bare being anywhere near her, let alone live with her, especially if she decides to keep the baby. I can hardly look at my parents because I'm so angry about their attitude and the way they're dealing with it.

you need to show your sister some support. No offence no matter how mad of a relationship the two of you have she needs support or help. I was 15 and pregnant and i keep my son and i wish i had a sister to help me or friends who stuck by my side. It is not your parents fault she would have found any way possible to have sex with her boyfriend weather your parents let her stay the night with him or not. it just shows you will make better choice for your children in the future. being pregnant is a choice your sister needs to deal with. weather she decides to keep the baby or not.

Q: please comment if u hate ur parents. ok so me and my friends nickname EVERYTHING, and so we nicknamed going to utah with her as "getting drunk" as a joke. then my stupid ass mother got on my fb and read our conversation and we were talking about "getting drunk" (going to utah) and then she FREAKED out and i was like wtf? so now she thinks im going down the "wrong rode"

Your mother was just assuming what you wrote. My parents did the same thing growing up. assuming the wrong thing and then sticking to their story and not giving me a chance to talk. I understand where they are coming from but itd make more sense if they had given me the chance to talk. Explain to your mother that you and your friends have nick names for everything. and give some examples. explain to her yes it is stupid to nick name it that but its just something us kids do. explain to her you wouldnt get drunk stuff like that. let her know you wont nick name things that anymore

Q: is there a way to get the law peoples (government)to let me not live with my parents,, because my house is like world war 3 and i cant take this anymore.

To become emancipated you either have to show your house in unfit and you have a job and can support your self you do also have to continue with school or your parents can sign someone else as your legal gardian or sign there rights away.

Q: I have a best friend who always is wanting things from me. My boyfriend told me last night that he thinks she tricks me into it! Last week she said to me, "Can I spend the night at your house this weekend?" and I was really excited and got the OK from my mom. I thought we would have an awesome time, but the entire night she used my computer! The next day I was going job hunting and she said she'd like to tag along for support--but then she started picking up applications for herself and she already has a job! I thought it was kind of messed up.

I don't know though. This week she wanted to spend the night again so we could go dress shopping for the dance coming up. The week before last she wanted to spend the night so we could go to a football game. I feel like all she wants is rides and things bought for her because my mom buys her things if she spends the night (Mom bought her dress AND the football game tickets) and we have plans the next day.

We always give her rides all the time, everywhere, and pay for everything! It's making me really upset. My boyfriend feels that she is tricking me into things by pretending she wants to spend time with me by spending the night at my house but has different reasons by it.

So, last night, I stopped answering my phone when she called. I'm just so sick and tired of hearing how bad she feels about this, that, and the other and her never asking how I am or listening to me when I feel bad. I logged onto my MySpace this morning and she sent me a message saying, "I was so happy it was the weekend...now I can't remember why..." What's that suppose to mean? Is she finally getting the hint that she is spoiled and I can't put up with that crap? What do I do now?

Talk to her about it. I had a best friend who always wanted to borrow money I didnt have many friends I was a teen mom and it seemed her and I just clicked as friends so I always let her. I moved to a diifferent state with my dad and she still continued to ask me for money. So finally i got mad and told her i wasnt bank. she calls only when she wants something or to tell me something when no one else will anwser their phones. you dont need a friend like that first talk to her and tell her how you feel if she gets offensive then forget. you can make plenty of friends.

Q: Before I get lectured about being to young I already know I am but to late. I had sex with this guy, lost my virginity to him. Welll He didnt come and we used a condom that didn't break... WEll I'm supposed to start my period but it won't come ! is there anyway I could be or could I just be stressed HELP OH and I'm not completely regular but...

no one is judging you hun. I got pregnant when i was 14 almost 15. it was hard. trust me. but one you have to reasons that you may not be. you are irregular and you are stressing out. wait a couple more weels if your period doesnt show up then take a home pregnancy test. it it does show up positive go to your doctor to have a pregnancy test done that will confirm or deny the home pregnancy test.

Q: hi
im in high school and you know how this can be frustrating. in high school there is so much to worry about. well anyway theres is this guy that really likes me and i lik him to. however the problem is that sometimes we have nothing to talk about when were on the phone or texting. please help me...... what should we talk about what are good conversation starters???
thanks so much!!

I have been there so many times. I came to relize that if I didnt have anything to talk about I just thought there wasn't a point being together or trying to date. Just be spontanes you wouldn't like this boy if you were on here looking for advice on what to talk about with each other. So find your intrests. What you are looking for in life. What do you want to go to college for. Do you want to go to college. color? sports? music? tv? etc.

Q: what are some good pick up lines to get someone in bed. I am desperately needing to get some. haha

you can find girls every where who just want to have sex. trust me. i mean pick up lines. just dont. you wont "get some" even if you try pick up lines. when someone even trys to use a pick up line on me. i just walk away or tell them good bye. what ever they just dont work ever.

Q: I am 16 female, my bf is 18. So here's the thing, I'm very shy! Not that confident in my "self look," I'm skinny skinny but I'm also not a huge whale, no offense to anyone. I'm a 34C cup, I get embarrassed when he touches me sexually, and very shy too. But I do like it, it's just when he tells me to tell him what I want or like, it makes me get all shy and blah!!! I hate it, on the phone when we talk, he turns me on and says things he'd be doing to me, or wants to do, then when I'm supposed to I get shy or embarrassed and I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO SAY!!!! It really sucks, I've always been more of a pleaser then get pleased, and I like to act not talk about acting. Has anyone lese had this problem? Is it normal? Am I hopeless, will I ever get over this? Him and I have been together for 9 months now, we started fooling around on our 5 month together. What should I do?! :(

just tell him you aren't so confident on the phone its so much easier in person. i mean my husband and I when were dating i wanted to talk dirty to each other on the phone and he just wasn't into it. so we just ended up fooling around more in person.

Q: My parents don't really like me because they think i am mean at times. Like what happened today was:
Mom accidentaly stepped on my foot
Me "why did you step on my foot?"
Mom "It was an accident do you even think i will do something like that? i never saw your foot, after bringing all your stuff near you, you ask me a question like this?"
me "I am sorry i just asked it came out of my mouth"
Mom "I can't take it anymore, there is too much fights going on at home, its so unpeaceful."
Me "Cry..and finds this website which will hopefully help me"

try and help your parents around the house a lot. they will really appreciate it. Offer to help with dinner taking out the trash etc. just be helpful and use polite manners like thank you sir and mam. things like that show them you can change so can they.

Q: Okay so last week at school I was wearing short shorts and mini skirts all week long since it was so hot out. My friends and I usually sit outside on the bleachers for lunch and there was quite a few mosquitos I think or bee's or something. (I'm not sure) and by Friday both of my legs were covered in tiny little red pumps and I'm itching like hell. My mom was freaked when she saw my legs and I was to and I just figured they were mosquito bites or something. Anyways I'm trying to relief the itching and I HAVE no idea how. I'm not sure these are mosquito bites or an allergic reaction or like WHATEVER and it has me freaked. Anyone know how to relief the itching or what it might be?!

i use benadryll on my son. its bendryall itch relive

Q: i feel rly stupid for putting this question in this category but w/e... 16/m ....so on oct. 17th my parents will be out of town and im having a little party after this thing at my school. I only plan on having like 10ppl or so not rly a party but w/e. and i just want some ideas of what i should do to not make it boring, like last year i planned for this huge halloween party so it was easy cuz i just set up the whole house for a party and bought a lot of beer. but this year its basically just to like chill out and stuff, but i dont want to make it boring either... ill accept any suggestions

well is it for halloween. scary movies? music? sorry if i am not much help. its been a while since ive planned a teenage party but my younger brother is around your age and they watch movies and listen to music and talk.

Q: I just ordered my Halloween costume, & it laces up the front & back. You can see it here: http://www.buycostumes.com/Late-Night-Nurse-Adult-Costume/61080/ProductDetail.aspx.

What kind of bra could I wear with this? I don't want anything that will be too noticeable through the laces, & my boobs aren't too big, I'd just like a little bit of support.

they have those bras that you just stick on and you can get it in just clear.. they have them at wal mart. in the lingerie.

Q: im a female and im 15 well i started dating this awesome guy=) and well my friends well some of them are saying i need to dump him he will only break my heart juss bc he hurt another girl last year the whole year but he dumped her bc she cheated on him like 15 times and had sex with like 15 guys while she was dating him!! And she started rumors saying that he did that to her!!! And now he has a horrible repuataion bc of that and my friends r being bitches and making my life hell!! And not only them but megan the girl he dated last year and her best friend samantha both stalk him n like him n they r saying to him that he needs to dump me bc im only using him and im a whore blah blah blah and its driving me crazy!! Bc they tell me that hes bad news n try to get me to dump him!! And megan his x tried to fuck him but he told her to get the fuck away from him and she also is like best friends with his mom so every monday (hes a football player and he isnt on first string so he plays on mondays too) she asks his mom to tk her to the game n after the footballgame n there car she tries to kiss him etc n he hates her but its soooooo crazzy n i dont know wut to do bc sam her bff is saying ily babe to him grrr wut do i do??????

it is not worth going through all that drama. but if you really like this boy stick it out. the two of you just need to ignore what other people say. meghan is jealous because her ex boyfriend is dating someone else. your friends are looking out for so tell them you appreciate your concern but you really like this boy and do not want to break up with him but thank you for your advice. dont complain to your boyfriend about it all the time he will get sick of hearing it. just tell him ah who cares she is just jealous. or dont even talk about it the girl will come to relize he does not like her anymore.

Q: So my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time last night. i've heard that girls are supposed to bleed the first time...i mean, it hurt, and he was in all the way, but i didn't bleed. is it normal for some girls not to bleed? or like, next time we do it, will i bleed? just curious.

some bleed their first time some dont. some bleed the first 4-5 times.

Q: Alright here it goes.
I know that it's only the 27th of September and i usualy get my period around the end of the month but i am worried that i will not have it. But say i didn't have my period this month, does that nessacrely mean that i'm becoming pregnant?

Please help as soon as possible.

have you had irregular periods before? it is absoultly normal to have irregualer periods. i went 4 months with out one then got one and i wasnt pregnant or anything. if sometime during the next month you feel like you have pregnant like symptoms take a test.

Q: My son just turned 12 months and is still not walking. I was hoping he would be for his party, but that has come and gone now. His doctor says this can be normal, but if he isn't walking by 15 months then it is time to worry. He cruises (not a pro at it, but still manages to get around.) and can stand holding on to someone or something, but he just doesn't want to take any steps and absolutely cannot stand alone without holding on. Any ideas on how to get him walking? I'm very concerened, anyone with any advice would be a great help!

when your son is standing holding on to the couch or something like that stand just a little bit away and hold your arms our say come here come on courage him to take that first step or hold his favorite toy in your hand and make him come to you for it. my son was a late walker to. it takes time. dont worry i am sure he will walk soon.

Q: ok. im going to get straight to the piont. me and my boyfriend use protection (birth control)but i didnt realize that the medication i was on causes bc not to work. so we usually use a condom but we ran out. my last period was aug 30 and i ovulated the 10th through 15th of september. we had sex on the 7th 10th and 15th (and he came in me)
i have been feeling sick having cramps headaches my boobs have been hurting ive been gasy and feeling sick. idk if im pregnant because i have felt all of those things before without being pregnant. i am waiting for my period on the 28th of september but i just wanted some advice on the issue. has anyone had an experience like this pregnant or not? thank you for the help :)

pregnancy is crazy lol.
my 1st pregnancy i just knew i was pregnant because i was so tired and i could barley get out of bed and i was very nauses and throwing up.
my 2nd pregnancy which i am going through now i had a feeling i was pregnant. i took two tests and they were negative but i just had this feeling. I had strong head aches which isnt a common symptom. i could get up and the crack of dawn but i had to take a nap during the day no matter what time i got up. i was nauses but didnt through up. so finally i waited two more weeks and took another test it was positive.
you could be getting pregnant like symptoms because you are about to start your period wait it out. ifyou dont get your period dont panic give it another week or two and take a home pregnancy test.

Q: Okay, deep breaths as I type this out.
It's very long, but I felt I needed to give all the facts.

16/f
I'd been best friends with this guy since we were seven. We were crazy close. We'd talk about anything and everything, always be around each other, it got to the point where when I went someplace without him, I felt like I was forgetting something. And people would always ask whenever I got somewhere "Hey, where's John?"

Well, you know how things go. We were so connected to each other on a level much deeper than anything you hear teens talking about, that pretty soon we fell in love and crossed that line. And then we REALLY were inseparable. It was so easy, everything was easy. And I loved him. God I loved him so much.

Last year though, everything changed. One of my friends got into a little bit of trouble, and ended up pulling me down with her, not intentionally. She got wasted at a party and didn't want to call her parents, and so she called me. I went to pick her up even though I was only on my permit which was stupid of me, and we got pulled over by the police because I was driving a little fast. He saw my friend, and he also saw an open bottle of beer in her hand. The final blow was when he went to check my license.

I live in a small town: word gets around. And the rumors twist out of control. John's father heard about this mess, but he heard it as: I had been drinking and driving, and I was totally wasted that night, going for a reckless joyride around town. Which was not the case.

I told John the truth and I told his dad the truth, but his dad wouldn't listen to me. His dad has never really liked me for some reason. I was thinking it was because I always had pulled away his son from him, you know, because John spent so much time with me. =\

His dad is a very religious person, very moral and stuff. He doesn't drink or smoke and since his wife died I don't even think he's had sex. And he doesn't ever want John to drink or smoke or any of that stuff either. So upon hearing about that misunderstanding of mine, he forbade John to see me anymore.

You can imagine how devastated I was. I'm barred from seeing John, the guy I'm in love with, my soulmate. I was in such misery, and when I'd be in misery, I'd talk to John. But he wasn't allowed.

But the real hurt came about a week after his father laid down the law, saying I was a bad influence. I caught John at the grocery store downtown and I walked up to him to give him a hug and just have a moment with him, because there were no parents around. But he just looked at me, blankly and turned and walked away before I could reach him. There was no hurt in his eyes or anything. Just a blank stare, nothing like the way he used to look at me.

Another two weeks passed and he had been on a few dates with this girl from our church, well his church now. I don't go to church anymore.

It's been about a year since I've spoken to him, and the only time I ever see him is glimpses of him around town. And we've drifted so far away that sometimes I can't even remember what it was that made us so close.

Okay, deep breaths.

Saturday when I got home from school I had a message waiting for me. It was a friend of mine telling me know that John had been involved in a really bad car accident. He'd damaged his spinal chord and he probably won't be able to walk anymore.

You know that feeling when the world comes to a stop? Here's this boy, my first love who at one point in my life I couldn't breathe without, and now all of a sudden he's hurt, really hurt. And I just can't wrap my mind around it.

It's been so long since we talked. And I'd finally moved on from him, stopped hating him, but never started loving him again. He hadn't even crossed my mind in a month or so. And the whole 10 months I spent trying to get over him, I was thinking about how much I hated him for killing me inside. How much I wanted him to hurt. How much I just wanted to get even with the way he broke me. Did I do this to him? My first thought.

I haven't been able to concentrate all week. I'm sick with grief and fear about what might happen to him. What did happen to him. I can't wrap my mind around it and I'm feeling so confused.

My mind keeps telling me that this is a person who hurt you and the warning flag goes up and says, "You shouldn't hurt this much. Yes, it's bad that he got hurt, but you don't even know him anymore. So just relax, pray and push through."

Then the other side of it, my heart is telling me that old feelings never go away and it's okay to suddenly know that the connection is still there. There's so much running through my mind right now that I can't sort through. It's too heavy. All of it is just way too heavy.

I'm in shock, and I'm being selfish I know I am because here's John, hurt in a hospital bed, and I'll I can think of his my pain and grief.

My friend is taking me to visit him on Sunday. We haven't seen each other in so long, and all that deep history between us...I don't know what to say to him or what to do.
What do you say to a person in this position who once meant everything to you? I don't know what and I don't know how to process all these feelings.

Please, advice. Of any kind.

okay this is totally going to be late since it is sunday and this was very long but worth typing in every word. I got a full understanding of the situation. you should write him a note and his father. tell them both everything. I honestly dont believe you got over this boy. I dont believe it for the fact you care so much he was in a terrible car accident and weather his father wants to hear it or not his father needs to open his eyes and understand you were not drinking and driving you had a friend who called you asking for help and you helped her. although the right thing to do would have been to contact her parents and have them pick her up. you did what you thought was best tell him this. tell him you love his son. and its been driving you crazy and now he is hurt and you cant totally be there for him because he wont allow you and.. your friend is more and likelt just trying to respect his fathers rules. and dating other girls maybe to try and keep his mind off of you. just tell them everything but get into every single detail about the night of picking up your friend.. i would write.
A friend of mine called me she had been drinking and didnt want to call her parents and asked me to pick her up. Although I know the right thing to do would have been to call her parents and explain the situation but i thought I was doing the right thing by helping a friend. We got pulled over because I had been driving a little bit to fast. But i was not at the party and had not drank anything. I know i only had my temps but i really felt i was doing the right thing although i know it is wrong now. and explain your feelings for his son.

Q: I'm so depressed.I can't bear it anymore. I've donea lot of research but it's not helping me.

What's other ways I can treat/better my depression without anti-depressants or therapy.

the way i got over my depression was just getting out there. im not sure how old you are. but get a job to keep busy and meet new people. or find some things you enjoy to do. stuff like that.

Q: what should i do cuz i just broke up with my bf and he is in every class but two what should i do

ignore him, it maybe hard. you broke up with for a reason think about the reason you broke up with him if you are having trouble. other then that stick to your friends and meet a new guy if you want.. work on your school work.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.