Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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I am 13 and Well i have a bf and he is the best bf i could ever have but we havent kissed yet. I dont care or anything but he said when hes ready he will do it. Im ok with tht but Im really scared when hes going to do it and if im going to be good a it.
I just need to know if i should kiss him 1st or really wait for him????
Another thing is I have a girl best friend and a guy best friend and there dating each other. Thts not it but. They always make out everywhere when Im with my bf and it get annoying. It makes me feel weird becz I havent kissed my bf yet.
And on one field trip we had they were making out on the bus and like touching each other everywhere and me and my bf were just sitting there with his arm around me. They keep on telling him to kiss me and it gets annoying. I just want him to do it on his own and mi girl best friend keeps on telling me that hes a bad bf becz he hasnt kissed me yet. It just gets annoying becz she doesnt support me at all. I just wish they would leave me alone. What should I do on this whole situation.
PLEASE HELP ME. (link)
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Some people in relationships move faster than others. It does not mean one relationship is better than the other. It sounds like your friends are just not nervous about making out and PDA is deffintely not an issue. Your boyfriend wants to wait until he is ready. Thats actually a sign of maturity, because isnt going to rush into anything just to do it, he wants to be comfortable and ready for it. So wait for your guy to be ready, and he'll make a move. He'll appreciate that you dont mind waiting for you, and it will make your first kiss that much better.
Talk to your friend. Ask her to respect your boyfriends decision to wait a while, and that it doesnt mean he's a bad guy. If she won't, just politely tell her that you dont need her advice and you can handle it on your own. Also ask her to let up on so much PDA. Its a bit tacky, actually. Nothing is wrong with making out, but in public it just makes many people around the couple feel uncomfortable.
Good luck!
-Abby
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my friend is being nasty to me and i want to be her friend but she plays with some one i hate (link)
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All relationships are about comprimise. Talk to your friend (calmly) Tell her what she is doing hurts you, and you just want to be good friends. You cant stop her from being friends with a person you hate, though. You just have to share her with the other friend. Maybe you all can be friends.
Good luck!
-Abby
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uhh how long is a guys penis when he's 16? (link)
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Average size of a grown penis is around 6 inches
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I was making out with my boyfriend the other day...and it was my first time and his 2nd...there was a little drool on our chins...is this normal for begginers or everyone ? (link)
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Its deffinitely normal :) Everyone has to learn how to keep whats in their mouth in their mouth. Have a mint, swallow any excess spit, and you should be good to go.
-Abby
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So basically I'm 14/f and I prefer using tampons over pads so much better for obvious reasons. But the thing is, my mom, who is extremely paranoid 24/7, won't let me because of the possibilities of the strings breaking and TSS. I've tried to tell her the string doesn't break easily (my friend tried to pull it off...didn't work and she's really athletic). She still, however, won't let me use tampons for life! How can I convince her? What can I say? Thanks! (link)
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Get information on tampons from legit websites, brochures, and even a doctor. Show your mother that the chances of you getting toxic shock sydrome are VERY RARE and the chances of a string breaking are very rare (demonstrate that by trying to rip the string off a tampon) Tell her you would really appreciate it if you could use tampons because their easier and more comfortable for you. If they werent really that safe, the FDA wouldn't have approved them and they wouldnt have their own wall in every drugstore.
Good luck!
-Abby
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i know alot of people that get drunk on the weekend. for some reason i just really want to try it. is this like bad? i mean i dont think drinking is that bad.. it's not like smoking pot or anything. and i wouldn't get so wasted that i'd endanger myself. what do you think? (link)
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It is normal for people to want to experiment with diffeent substances, but I advice you dont. You may want to try it, but having a little leads to a lot when your not watching yourself (and when your drinking you never are), which leads to you having no control. If you are drunk, ANYTHING can happen. You can do or say things you'll regret, you can hurt or even kill yourself or others, and people can take advantage of you. And chances are the next day, you wont even remember what it was like to be drunk (and have a killer headache and will spend most of the day with your head in the toilet)
You dont need to experiment to know that to much alchohal NEVER leads to anything good.
Always have a responsible friend with you when you know you'll be drinking. Your life my depend on it.
Make good choices.
-Abby
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ok i was watching Sabrina the teenage witch on ABC family today and i was wondering what happened to her aunts?? i know Hilda got married but what about Hilda?? and Sabrina, Roxy, and Morgan are living in her aunt's old house. so whered they go?? i know they probably got other acting jobs and were too busy for that show, but on the show script what happened to them?? (link)
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Their aunts moved back to the other realm.
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My boyfriend always promises me he's going to call and that we're going to hang out. I never get a call and when I do its to late to do anything. Or he will tell me to call him, and I will call, and he doesnt answer and when he does, he always says he'll call me back. Don't get me wrong, sometimes we do, but it seems theres more dont's then do's. Is it wrong for me to get upset ? I'm not mad at him, but I'm not sure, I just.. I feel upset when he doesn't call.. Is it wrong for me to feel this way ? (link)
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Its perfectly fine to feel upset, because he is not being a commited boyfriend. Talk to him in person and tell him how you feel. Tell him you are upset that he isnt paying attention to you and never calls back. Dont sound offensive, just let him know you are hurt. Hopefully he'll understand. If he doesnt, he probably isnt the best boyfriend for you anyway.
-Abby
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I want a really cute bedroom set for my new house
i looked at alloy and didnt see a thing. I also looked at delia*s the stuff was cute but i want to see if there is anything else around does any one have any other good sites? Thanks (link)
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Try PBTeen, or seventeen line, and walmart/target has some cute and cheap stuff. Department stores like JCPenney also has nice things. You can probably find cute room accesories at stores in the mall like Claires, Icing, Limited Two, and Deb.
Good luck!
-Abby
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well since summers getting closer and closer i figures this year id try a little harder to get fitter.
so i just want to lose weight around my stomach.
no were else i like the rest of my body.
so what would be good exsizes for that?
but i dont want to loose my boobs. (link)
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Crunches, Sit ups, running, and some pilates exercises focus a lot on your stomach (like lying on the ground with your legs elevated five inches off the floor and holding it)
Good luck!
-Abby
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My cat accidentally spilled chocolate milk on some parts of my mattress. Using carpet stain remover, I got most of it out, but now it's like orange or a tan look. Is there anything I can try to get it back to white again (or maybe at least to off-white). Don't tell me it's permanent just yet because I would like to try some suggestions. Also, it's new and my parents would kill me if they found out. PLEASE HELP!!!
thanks! (link)
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You can put bleach like washer detergent stuff on a rag and try scrubbing it.
Good luck!
-Abby
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i've been on pointe for about 3 months now- and I have these REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY excruciatingly bad blisters on my toes. And whenever I roll from 3/4 to full pointe they start bleeding more. I always put band-aids and neosporin (sp?) on them, but it doesn't help.
How can I get them to not hurt when i do pointe? (link)
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Ouchhh. Pointe. I quit, lol. Add padding to your shoes (like Dr. Scholls) and wrap your toes in medical tape. Soak your feet in warm water after class and keep using neosporin and bandages. Keep your feel well moisturized as well, and use medicated or skin renewal lotion.
Good luck!
-Abby
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Well this morning at work I was really bored, so I sent an email to my friend then I decided 2 look in my boyfriends emails, were both totally comfortable with doing that other wise we wouldn't have given each other our passwords! We've been together for nearly 2 years! He's 20 and i'm nearly 19!
So I clicked in his inbox and found an email from him to this girl who is a lot younger then him! From what I could tell they were talking to each other before hand then my boyfriend sent this girl an email saying 'hey yeah its me hope everything will be ok i hope you feel better soon, just remember i'm always here 4 you ok? bye bye gorjus xxoo MWAH xoxox talk to you real soon' something along those lines.
Then she replied, oh thank u for your email it was so sweet it means so much to me, yeah i've had a bad day hopefully everything wil be ok soon. well like you said i'll talk to you real soon luv Nic xxoox. (something along those lines)
Now when I found this email I couldn't contact my boyfriend because he works in a factory, so when he finished he came to my work, I totally believed him that he hasn't or wont cheat on me. But I wanted to talk to him about it, i've spoken to him about it and he's apologied and I guess I made him feel a bit guilty but now I feel guilty because I made him feel guilty!!!!
I love him so much and I know that he loves me.. were suppose to be moving in together but I just don't know! I do not want to doubt him at all but I just need your opinion on this!
I keep asking myself why would he want to throw away 2 years..?! He's not like other guys he's sweet and different!
I just don't know what to do.. I don't want to break it off with him! I love him too much! (link)
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Doesnt sound like he was cheating on you, or had the intentions to. Sounds like he was being friendly to a girl he knew. Its not a crime to talk to a girl and have her as a friend, so dont worry about it. Talk to him again. Tell him your sorry for making him feel guilty, but you were just a little scared. Say that you trust him, but it worried you because you could never imagine losing him. Promise to keep a totally honest relationship with him, and he'll do the same.
Good luck!
-Abby
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I was wondering why do guys always like open thier legs really wide when they're singing as if they're trying to like do the splits? (link)
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Probably because they do have a penis, and its more comfortable. Like how a lot of them wear boxers. More room.
lol
-Abby
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So I sort of like this friend of mine.. and we went to see a movie together as friends. Well you know how expensive buying food and drink from the cinema is, so I asked him whether he wanted to share a drink and some popcorn, because I thought it would cut the cost down for both of us and I'm used to sharing when I go out with people to the movies.
And he gives me a strange look and says "Nah I think I'll definitley get my own" I felt really embarassed and taken aback because it was like I had some sort of contagious disease! I don't get what was wrong with what I said.
I know I'm being OVERLY paranoid and looking into things FAR too much but I don't get what I did wrong and I guess it hurt a little bit. Was it wrong to offer to share with him? Or was he out of line? I can't understand his motives! Please help. Thankyou. (link)
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Dont take it to personally, because I bet the guy is either right now:
-feeling really stupid for saying that
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-has totally forgotten
Theres a lot of possibilites. He could be a germ freak and just naturally find sharing things with other people (especially spit) disgusting. Or maybe he thought you were making a move on him by asking that, because its not uncommon for a couple to share a drink. Or maybe he wanted his own food. Or maybe he had a bad experience sharing food that was totally strange (sounds weird, but I've seen it before lol). Or maybe you might have a bad rep. Have you gotten mono? Or have you ever given someone oral sex? Even if you havent, those rumours might be flying around. I knew a girl who asked a guy if he wanted a sip of her soda and hes like "No, I'd rather not get an STD, thanks." (she blew another guy.)
So whatever it is, I dont think its of any offense to you. You could try asking him, but I'd just let it go.
-Abby
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A couple months ago I my friend I liked this guy because she wouldn't stop bugging me about who I liked so I told her him, even though I'v never really talked to him since we don't have the same classes and aren't in the same social group. But we do have a lot of the same friends. Anyways my friend got mad at me because the guy she liked asked me out, and some of the people she knows that hate me said I said yes, so she told the guy I said I liked yo get her off my back (Lets call him John)that I liked him, even though I didn't know him. I kind of liked him, I don't know why because a lot of people say he's a jerk and I'v never talked to him. But anyways he started spreading a bunch of rumors that I was stalking him. Although my friend who is also his friend said that he said he didn't say anything he just made a joke to one of his friends and they spread it around. I had like 10 people come up to me and ask me If I was stalking him which is total bull****. I don't know why I let it bug me but it does, and I still knida like him, he's not even the type I usually go for. He hangs out with the rocker/emo type and even though I have some friends that are i'm not. Why do I like him? I want to hate him after what I did but I can't, and I hate myself for not being able yo hate him. I wan't to talk to him to see If he really did say those things and maybe ven be friends with him but I don't know how. If I just walk up to him it will be awkward and emberassing. Shouls I talk to him? Should I even wan't to talk to him? It's not like he even tried to talk to me....Ever. Whwn all those rumors were going around he just told my friend to tell me he didn't say anything, which I'm still not sure whether to believe or not. I guess I'm just scared to approach him. He's sort of intimidating, not In a scary way but in a holy-shit-im-gonna-start-hypervenalting way if that makes sense at all. I don't know what to do (As you can probably tell) Should I try to talk to him or should I just let him be, the rumors have pretty much subsided because only certain groups heard them. WHen the rumors were going around though I was kind of happy because when my friend came up to me and said "'John' thinks your stocking him" I said "Tell him If he has a problem with me to talk to me and not just spread some asinine rumors" she said okay so I'm going Yay I may get to finaly talk to him but at the same time I'm thinking what a lying son of a b**** I want to kill him (Not literally. I'm not a psychopath) but I guess I just wanted to hear his voice and actually talk to him or even yell at him becaue I guess I was torn between exited and pissed off. What should I do? (link)
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I really cant answer this. I dont understand exactly what your trying to ask, I cant read it. Please ask me again with proper puncation and grammar and wording, and I will do my best to asnwer you.
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im in desperate need of help. i know this isn't very modest but up until now there was nothing noticably wrong with my body but tonite when i was getting n the shower i noticed i had stretch marks on my rear. i cried for about half an hour while i was showering. i dont think there is but is there a way to make stretch-marks disappear or fade. also, what can make more stretch marks appear, is there anything i can do to prevent that. and lastly i've been running for 10 minutes a day every day for about a month. will that cause stretch-marks. please help me. (link)
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Running wont cause strech marks. Weight gain, or just puberty might cause them. You can try something like shea cocoa butter cream that pregnant women use to reduce stretch marks.
Good luck!
-Abby
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I have not had sex but i have been fingered however ive never bled. If i went to the Gynecologist would they think that ive had sex? (link)
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The Gynecologist would not know you had sex unless you told them.
-Abby
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Hey, I'm 15 years old and a female. I have this huge crush on a guy, but I don't know if he likes me or not. Sometimes I can see him trying to stare at me but when I look at him he turns his head real fast. Is this a sign that he likes me? The problem is that we haven't ever talked to each other!!!! He rides my bus and is at my bus stop, he lives on the street right behind me. And I'm just wondering ifhe likes me! Can you help me? Please? (link)
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It sounds like you two dont know each other real well, but if you catch him looking at you and he turns away fast, thats a good sign he is attracted to you. Get to know him a little better. Chat it up, and check out his body langauge. Does he smile when he sees you? Does he make a point to laugh at your jokes? Does he seem very interested in what you say? Does he act differently around you than most other girls?
You wont be able to tell until you get to know him better.
Good luck!
-Abby
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Hey, I just started modeling and I need to lose ten pounds (the healthy way) by April. I already take yoga every other day and I work out every sunday for about an hour. Advice and eating plans? (link)
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Yoga is a great workout for models, because it gives you that long lean look. I also recommend pilates (you can do that on sunday instead of your workout) which is like fast paced yoga, and has faster results. Dont cut your meals, just eat very healthy ones. Eat five small meals a day when you are going to be exercising, so it keeps your energy up. Energy bars, fruit, vegetables, granola, protein and fiber will benefit you greatly.
Good luck and be healthy!
-Abby
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