Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
Website: Ask Michele
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I have always wanted a boyfriend. But my public persona says NO. Even though I've wanted a boyf. really bad, guys (almost every, the only ones who aren't either are gay or have a girlfriend)are really mean to me because my ideas are kind of old-fashioned, I like classical music, I dress kind of old-fashioned, and I'm uncontrollable, and incredibly opinionated. I tried liking a guy once, but he just laughed in my face and told the whole grade. If I sort of let down and turn into just a regular girl, people will think i've gone soft and I won't feel like myself! Advicenators, help me! (link)
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I think you will just have to be patient. My son is a lot like you. He is 19 now and has been in a meaning ful relationship for 6 months. But when he was 14, 15 and 16 and 17, etc. he didn't have a girlfriend all that time. Or in high school. But he is happy now, and he didn't have to change. Once you are a young adult and are out in the world, going to college, working...etc. you'll meet people who don't think it is a bad thing to have strong opinions and have a mind or a thought about something besided going to the mall. I think you'll do fine and you'll be glad that you waited. Teenage love is overrated. Young adult love is the best. when you are still young enough to really enjoy, and have no responsibilities yet. And have the freedom to make your own decisions. SO DON'T CHANGE, DON'T GO SOFT> Stay who you are. You will reap the benefits in just a short time.
Michele
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just this year i decided to loose my virginity to my boyfriend of 10 months. the first two times we had unprotected sex. it freaked me out because i thought just maybe i could be pregnant. we have been intimate a couple of times more. truthfully, i wished i waited like i intended in the first place. i love my boyfiriend and i am 100% sure that i will marry him. but i am soooooo scared of the responsibilities that comes along with sex. i really wanna wait til we get marreid, or at least until we are finanially responsible for any "accidents". He loves me , and he said he will never be upset if i decided to wait. but lately he haven't been coming over. i think its because he knows i dont want to have sex. he is very persuasive and that scares me because 80% of the time i give in to him. i love him and he loves me, but i truly believe he will be very unhappy if we discontinued being sexually active. (link)
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Well he'll be even more unhappy if you get pregnant. And so will you. And you will be the one with most of the burden. The burden of telling your parents...dissapointing them! Carrying the baby, gaining weight. Your hormones will be up and down and so will your moods. Giving birth, no picnic. Then taking care of the baby. You can kiss life as you know it goodbye.
No you just think babies are a lot of work...you have NO IDEA. And no one can explain it to you. You have to find out for yourself. But it is soooooooo much better to find out when you are ready. Ready to give up sleeping, ready to give up having money, ready to give up peach and quiet, ready to give up freedom. Ready to be totally 100% responsible for another small, vulernable human being. OMG,you could do something wrong and really screw it up. That is what grown women feel when they have babies. Even married ones. Imagine what a young girl who isn't even ready to have a baby will feel when she is alone with it. And of course you'll be along, because everyone else will be at work, or at play. Living their lives, while you have to sacrife yours for the baby. Because the baby, once it is here, has to come first. Unless you want to raise screwed up kids.
Listen, it sounds like your guy loves you very much. He said he would respect your wishes. Be pragmatic about it. Tell him since you are the one who will bear most of the burden of having a child when both of you are not ready, then you have decided to wait until you are married.
For goodness sakes, you seem so responsible, can't you go see a doctor and geton some birth control? With sexual activity comes great responsibility. Being on birth control puts the control in your hands. Why you guys can finsish school, maybe go on to collge, get a good eduction, get grate jobs, get married, travel, buy all kinds of great stuff. AND PLAN FOR YOUR BABIES. Having them when you are ready to stay home. Having them when you actually have a home forthem to grow up in. And having them when you can affort it. Then you and the kids and your loving husband will have a great life. If you explain it to him this way, and if heloves you, how can he dissagree. 5,6, or 10 years from now, you will both be glad that you did. I guarantee it!
I hope this helps your resolve. Please don't take anymore chances.
Michele
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My mind wonders during school. Mostly about my current bf and how I want to like talk to him or w/e. I used to be an A student now I'm a C student. It's not like I can avoid guys completley. What should I do about? (link)
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Hi honey,
That is normal for you to be thinking about your boyfriend,and I hope he is nice to you and thinking about him puts a smile on your face. Adults think about someone they love too, when things are good.
But what about those grades? How did you feelwhen you were getting A's? DId you feel good about yourself. Were you proud of yourself, and were your parents proud of you? How does it feel now that your grades are below what you know you can do? It must make you anxious or you wouldn't be asking? It is wonderful to have a boyfriend. But he is not going to be the one who is going to be looking to get into college,or looking to get a good paying job when school is over with THOSE grades. You are. He may have his own "grade" problems or not, but those are his grades. Like it or not, when you are a young adult, (and you will be some day soon.) You are going to be judged on your grades, on your abilities, and on your competance, and on how smart you are. NOT on whether or not you have a boyfriend, or two or a dozen. That won't matter. You want to have money, you want to have nice clothes, you want to have a nice car and a nice boyfriend. Well the boyfriends are usually free, and they stay with you because you are nice (and hopefully they are too!) You won't be able to get the other things without a good education and good prospects for a good job or college. Some kids work real hard and the best they can do is a C average. Being able to get A;s and not bothering, is a waste of your talents. Better grades and doing well in school, then college will OPEN MORE DOORS for you in the future.
SO just try to dicipline yourself to do better in school. Set aside some time for school and some time for the boyfriend. Just like adults do. Married couples, no matter how much in love they are, can't spend all their time together. They have bills to pay and food to buy and they need their jobs, and they are usually separated 8 to10hours a day. If they spend all their time at work daydreaming about their spouse,they'd soon loose their jobs and then were wouldthey be. In love, but broke.
I hope this makes some sense to you. Being mature means taking your responsibilities seriously. And having fun after the work is done.
I know it's boring, butit makes life more managable. Good luck to you and your current boy friend.
Michele
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bladder infetion sympthoms and what causes it? (link)
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Wow,a bladder infection can be caused by a lot of things. Because your kidneys filter almost everything that goes through your body, including infections, then empties into your bladder, you can catch a secondary infection there. Sometimes a bladder infection can be caused by a tooth infection, that is draining into your system and ending up in your bladder.Even if you are on anti-biotics, the infection/bacteria, have to pass through your bladder before disposal, so you can easily get an infection there. The symptoms are constant urge to urinate, but only passing alittle urine, and then feel the urge to go again soon after. Buring in urethra,(tube the urine passes through) and pain in bladder area. If left unattended, the pain can make you double over.
There is also something called "honeymoon syndrome" too much sex, in a short period of time, with a gentleman who is say....well endowed, and it can cause injury and inflammation to your urethra,and cause pain and urgency to urinate. Only a physician can diagnose a bladder infection by checking your urine output for white blood cells (sign of an infection) and it can only be treatect with anti-biotics. They sell over the counter stuff to alleviate the pain, but you still need to deal with the infection.
Hope this makes it clear.
Michele
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Hi!!
I have been having problems with relationships, I was married at one time and I also was in an engagement relationship to get married. Right now I am alone and I am very depressed right now. I know this is my fault with my relationships fail. I have panic disorder and it seems when I would have a panic attact I push everyone away from me???? Especially my last relationship my ex-fiancee, he was very good to me , he would of gave me the world!! Then I think maybe I haven't metthe right person I am 40 years old and I am a very attractive girl, I have a wonderful son by my ex- husband and he is 13. Me and my ex-husband try to get along for our son but, we just can't communicate??? I can but he can't??? Will I ever meet that right person?? I don't want to be alone anymore!!! Where do you meet that right person?? I don't liike bars, or clubs seen???
I still have feelings for ex fiancee but he won't give me the time or day!! its been over a year now , I have n ot heard from him , I have done everything to try to talk to him and he avoids me??? What do I do??? we were together for almost 4 years???? I know his family had alot to do with him ending this relationship!!!!
I have also another situation, I have had redness on my neck with itchy little red pimples and I did go to a dermatologist and she gave me cream thats not working really!!! I have another appt with another dermatologist thurs. It seem like when I get nervious or upset and I get hot , I flush in my face and my neck???? Could it be from my panic attacks???? or just my skin, I am very very fair skin person, What can it be???
Please I hope you can give me some advise concerning my relationships and the problem with my skin (neck)
Thank you so much (link)
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Hello, I am glad that you wrote. I think I may be able to help you. I think you should go and see an naturopathic physician. he/she can help you naturally deal with the panic attacks and the skin inflammation. they may very well be related, but not in the sense that you think. They may both be symptoms of the same disorder. To help the panic attacks, he/she may recommend St. John's Wort or L-Theanine or Noni Juice. All have worked wonders on this disorder. The skin inflammation could very well be a digestive problem, and you need to build up your health and your immune system so that your body functions normally. As far as your relationships, I can't advise you based on what you told me. Idon't have enough information. But I think a good way to meet a nice guy is by doing volunteer work. I find most guys are selfish, but if you find a guy that volunteers as a big brother, or at a food bank, or at a church or hospital, he must be a nice guy. Performing volunteer work yourself, will get your mind off yourself, and you will soon begin to feel so much better about yourself. As you accomplish things, and people come to rely on you and appreciate you. You will feel better about yourself, and you will have more confidence. Confidence if very sexy and men are attracted to confident women.
So you need a total health make over (naturopathic physician) and a total emotional make over (volunteer work) Give yourself some time to grow in these two areas, and when you are walking around each day happy and with a smile on, you will be very attractive. Not only are men attracted to women who are confident, but they are also attracted to women who are smart and interesting. Your volunteer work will give you something to talk about. You'll meet many new people. You won't be wrapped up in your problems. You'll be better company.
I not this works. I work and volunteer with children, and I belong to some business networking groups. I meet men all the time, I am 52 years old. I am constantly being approached.
It can work for you. go for it.
PS As a quick fix, trying putting cold buttermilk on that rash. It works well. And it won't harm. You can get it an the super market. Cheap too!
Michele
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I don't think you'll remember any of the people I mention but I believe that you were the person that my girlfriend and her friend spoke to so it's worth a shot.
My girlfriend, Lauren, had a friend named Sam. Well Sam didn't have the best life and she got involved in a lot of bad things. If you're the right person then I think you know all about it and if not then I'm sorry. Well, Sam went to this place where she was being taken care of and I guess things were going really well. Lauren was happy, and from what I heard so was Sam. Sam was also one of my friends so knowing they were both happy made me happy. Well after a while we stopped hearing from Sam and we started to get worried. Then the cops showed up at Lauren's house and told her that they found Sam in a ditch. I was there when they got there and Lauren just froze. They told us this long story about what they believed happened to her and it was just horrible. Well ever since that Lauren hasn't said a word. She wouldn't talk to her mom, me, counselors, the police, anyone. Then last night she said that she was going to get Sam's parents back because all of this is their fault. That's all she'll say. I'm really worried about her and I don't know what to do. I know how angry and upset she is, but I don't want to see her do something stupid. I've tried talking to her but I'm still worried that she might try to do something. She was talking about making them pay the way she paid and it's really scaring me.
How can I get through to her? How do I make her realize that she can't fix things by getting herself into troulbe? Thank you in advance and if you're not the person I think you are then I'm really sorry, and thank you for your advice.
Chris (link)
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Are you telling me that Sam has died? How did it happen? Was it drugs? I told Lauren that she may not be able to help Sam. But she did, she got her into a place that was better, and she had a chance. Why didn't she take that chance. I think I need a little more information if you want me to help you help Lauren. I do want to help, but I need more info. If you do not want to put what happened. I think I can help to make Lauren realize that to help Sam, or to honor her memory, she should do something positive.
It is important to tell her that. How are Sam's parents. Are they upset at all. Sam was a minor, why haven't the parents been arrested for neglect? Do they have any other kids? Have they been taken away?
I am so sorry that this happened. But Lauren was the one person who made a difference. She make the effort to give Sam a second chance, but she could not make Sam use that chance. It is true, Sam was set up to fail by her parents. All of this sadness it on their doorstep. I think it would be better to do something more subtle that could drive them crazy for the rest of their lives. Something that will remind them of SAm every day, or week, or month. Something that will remind them of what they did to her. Something that shows what lousy parents they were. A card or note or copy of a newspaper article. Mailed to them. So that they will never forget. Maybe you guys should ask someone or some company or non-profit to start a scholarship in her memory. Maybe Lauren should volunteer or get to know some people like Sam who are in rehab, so she can realize that there was nothing she could do. Everyone fights their own demons. Sam's parents have demons that they fight too. But that does not get them off the hook. Could you ask Lauren to write to me so that I may give her my condolences and maybe she will confide in me, and I can try also, to talk her out of doing something foolish. Again, I am so sorry for Sam. But I think she is a peace now. I believe in spirituality. As a human, Sam was walking around very wounded. Life was too hard for her.
Thanks for letting me know.
MIchele
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I was wondering which whitening system would be best, Crest or Rembrant? Thanks! (link)
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Actually The Crest Strips system that I purchased from my dentist did the best job, it cost more, but it works. It is stronger than the ones that you get in the store. You can save money by buying direct from your dentist and not waste money on the brands in the store.
Michele
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just listening in class can be enough to get a's. just doing the homework. studying is memorization, not knowledge.
no one is a stereotype.
thank you for your advice. (link)
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Then never stop in your pursuit of knowledge.
Or perfection for that matter. And don't forget inner peace.
M
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I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
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Hi honey,
I am glad that you wrote. Well it certainly sounds to me that he likes you. And that is he concerned enough for you that you didn't run into a wall. I think it sounds nice. I thought you suggesting about finding info on it, was funny,but then I thought, well.....let me look. and guess what... I found some info. Here is a link to an article from GIRLS, INC magazine and a QUIZ to take, and earn points, and I guess the most points you get, based on his behavior, means that he likes you. I didn't take the quiz myself, I know that my boyfriend likes me. (He better!) Here is the link. Have fun.
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0IBX/is_5_10/ai_114701347
Michele
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hii well i dont play ANY sports at all, and i know that i need extracuricular activites for college, though. i want to be in clubs, but my friends are in clubs that are boring, and im really shy around people i dont know. do you have any tips for what to do about clubs, or anything else that could help with extracuricular activites? thankss! (link)
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Well you don't really NEED sports for college, unless your parents are hoping that you will get a sports scholarship. But there are all kinds of scholarships. HEre is what colleges really look at.
So many kids drop out of college the first year. what colleges what to see in a student, is a person who can handle herself. So if you are a good acacdemic student who is involved in sports, and extra curricular activities, then they think, Hey this kid can handle many responsbilities at once. So they will be able to handle college and perhaps being away from home.
But the extra things that you show you can handle don't have to be sports or clubs. It can be a job. It can be volunteer work. In fact many of the NON-ATHLETIC Scholarships require that the student have some volunteer work in their back ground. Now if you think you would like to try that, there are a few areas that always need volunteers. Seniors, little kids, libraries and camps. The YMCA's need volunteers, girls scout camps, and stuff like that. Veternarians some times use volunteers to help take care of the animals. Farms, maybe. What are you interested in? If you think you want to go into the medical field, then volunteer at the hospital. If you think you like writing, then volunteer at the newspaper. My son liked radio, he volunteered at a radio station, and now he runs the radio station on his college campus. He NEVER played sports,and he wasn't very popular and didn't belong to any clubs. But he did get good grades.
GOod luck to you, in collge.
Michele
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Hi, my mom's moving to this house, and my bedroom is really small, so I have to use a daybed. We're trying to ocean theme the room, so I need ocean bedding for a daybed, and I can't seem to find any. I've tried Google, but all that came up were things describing hotels oceanside with bedrooms. It didn't really get what I meant, I guess. So does anyone know of any websites I can go to or any links to ocean bedding for a daybed? Thanks so much.
x3 Erin (link)
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HI Erin,
Love that idea. Go to www.domestications.com
they are an online linen and bedding dealer, they have all kinds of themes. Some are very nice. Don't be put off by the BARBIE stuff on the home page.
Michele
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There are somedays where I will not eat all day and not be hungry. The smell, sight, or thought of food makes me sick to my stomache. Then there are other days where I have a huge appetite and overeat, especially around midnight. I know my eating habits cant be healthy, but its out of control now. How do I get back to eating 3 meals a day, like I used to a couple years ago? I've tried to eat when I wasn't hungry (so I wouldnt be THAT hungry the next day), but I always get sick and throw up. It's almost like my body wont let me eat every other day or so. Any ideas of what could be wrong with me? (link)
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Food aversion is a syndrom that is common in Premie's or baby's that are born pre-term. But not common in teens or adults. It could be a food allergy that you suffer from. Vomiting can be a symptom of food allergies. As well as not liking the smell or sight of it. But eventually, your body needs nutrients so you have to eat. I think in your case it is definitly physical, (allergy?) and not in your head, because anorexics do not eat at all. I think you should see an allergist, and/or a naturopathic physician. You could also have some sort of intestinal parisite, they are more common that you might think. And a naturopathic doctors would know how find that and get rid of it. An allergist may be able to discover what you are allergic to. Gluten which comes from wheat, is in almost everthing we eat, even some icecreams.
You could be allergic to that, it is very common, but goes undiagnosed all the time. Since you are still growing and developing, you need certain nutrients, like calcium, protein, vitamins and minerals so that your bones and brain can develop. It is important that you get to the bottom of this conditon. Good luck to you.
I hope you feel better soon.
Michele
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too bad i wasn't lying.
too bad my parents are amazing.
too bad i'm planning on going to college--brown, or yale, or maybe dickinson, because it's smaller and i like the smaller classes.
too bad i get straight a's at a small private school.
but i really don't see why that's bad at all.
i'm just asking for you, when answering, because i know that you remember what it's like--keep your cool and don't call people stupid, and don't always assume that they're lying. because on the off chance that they're NOT lying, it could hurt to be accused of it.
it's like you give good advice, but with a sting.
not everyone is a stereotype. i'm definitely not, as you can tell, if you believe me yet. are you? (link)
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It stings because the truth hurts. If you have that much going for you, why would you waste your talents on helping "the poor fellows" on line, who need some help masturbating. Men have not needed help getting laid since men have been on earth. They usually can do exactly what they want. I don't believe that you are going to Yale or Brown or Dickinson, not with an attitude like that. If you spend all your time on the internet helping guys jack off, when do you study to earn those A's, you say you get.
15 year old girls who are "easy", ARE A stereotype, I was trying to keep you from going in that direction. But to each his own. If your parents are AMAZING, then why do you have to bother these boys with all your problems. And if they are so AMAZING, why don't you let them in on your secret?
You've read my column and many of my answers, you knew that I was not going to condone that behavior, so why would you ask me? You must be looking for a reason to stop. Well I gave you one. You'll look back on this behavior of yours in the future, and feel shame. But I can't stop you. It's your life.
Michele
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what is wrong with me?
i talk to guys, and i'm a girl. i'm 15. i constantly tell them my problems, and then, so that they won't leave because they're annoyed at my talking, i help them masturbate (all online). this guy has been really sweet to me for the past three years. we're both virgins, and he really wants to do it. so i told him yes.
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WHy are you starting out your life just being a sex object for men? Are you that starved for attention. Of course that boy wants to do it. They all want to do it. And they'll do it with any girl who is willing. It doesn't make you special, it makes you easy. They'll do it with you. Then dump you. That is the least that will happen. Sometimes they do it with you, get you pregnant then dump you. And then call you a bitch all your life because you expect them to support their kid, and be a dad. Or you go through the emotional trauma of having an abortion, all by yourself, except maybe you have to ask your parents to pay for it. Or they do it with you then give you a disease, then call you the whore and dirty.
There is so much more to life than boys and sex. I am advising you to stop looking for this kind of attention. Get an education, go to college, and have a career. Be smart and confident and have the money you need to survive, then all the men will want you and you can pick and choose the one YOU want. As long as you maintain a good reputation, you will be the one who can choose who you want when you are ready. These boys on line are just telling you how wonderful they think you are, you are so sweet, and nice to help them out with their fantasies. Look around you. Does life look like a fantasy. NO reality is you need a good education, you need a good job, you need a husband who loves and respects you if you are going to have a good life. A home, a car, money for bills, for food for utilities and to support those kids you are going to have. And please keep a better eye on your daughter than your parents do, so that at the young age of 15, she has more of a future ahead of her than being a receptacle for young men who want to get laid.
You think you have problems now......you're just asking for more. I don't care what your problems are, I know that families and parents can be real jerks, but if you follow in their footsteps you'll have the same kind of life that they have. YOu can break the cycle by getting an education and getting out as soon as you are 18. That is what I did. It made me strong and I survived better than they did.
Please, when you answer, and say "I was just lying." I don't really do that, I just wanted to see what you would say", and then leave me a bad feedback......remember this, you are the one with the problem. I have everything I need, and I don't do this for the feedback.
Michele
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theres this girl and her mom died like in november and i live right down the street from her and she is seriosly every where i turn: my house, school, swim team, bus,my brain, i mean seriously she ia everywhere. she is so weird and annoying but when she was at my house once she said that i am her very best friend so now i cant do anything about that because my mom would kill me, id feel guilty, and id practically be the meanest person on the planet. i really do not want to be her friend anymore but i cant get away from her. any suggestions? ill rate you (link)
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Help her to make friends with other kids. It seems like a solution that no one can have a problem with. Won't happen immediately, but if you work at it, it could work out fine. And your mom won't be mad and you won't feel guilty.
I know you are smart enough to figure this out.
Michele
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I'm going 2 a new school but heres the thing, i have a bladder problem. i've had it since i was about 5 and it can be easy 2 get rid of but i don't know how or if i have the control. the problem is that when i have 2 go 2 the bathroom, i have 2 seconds 2 go, either i'm 2 lazy 2 go or i dont get 2 the bathroom fast enough. what should i do to prevent this from happening at school in my new school and make a good impression? i rate high for good advice (link)
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Well,wear a pad all the time, you can change it if you have an accident. A lot of older women do that. but you should see a doctor about this problem. You are too young to have to deal with a problem like this.
Michele
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Does anyone know (please) some quick solutions to a zit...I'm not talking a pimple but one of the bigger zits that form under the skin and hurt=( i just want it to decrease in size without it becoming a scab. Please help! (link)
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Tea tree oil works great on zits. Origins uses it in their acne products. It smells like really strong medicine but it works. It gets deep inside the skin and kills the bacteria that causes the acne to be red and inflammed.
Hope you have some in the house. You can get it at a health food store.
Michele
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I told my mom I wanted to go on a diet and she thought it was a good idea to see a nutritionist. So before we could do that she had to make me an appoitment with my doctor. Im really scared because I dont know if she is going to measure my weight. I hate that and that is like my fear! Will she just talk to me about my eating or will she see how much I weight? Please answer! And what will the nutritionist tell me? Thanks so much. ♥ (link)
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Of course she is going to weigh you, how else will you be able to track your progress. I thought kids were just afraid of needles!
THe nutrionist, will ask you about your diet now, and then tell you what foods to avoid, like soda, chips, candy, cookies, cake, pie, doughnuts, etc, and tell you that you should eat more fresh veggies, and fruit and drink low fat milk, and low fat dairy products, and drink lots of water. Eat mostly chicken or turkey or fish, and no fried foods and cut way back on oils and butter.
And get some exercise each day.
I think it is a great idea that you want to loose weight, and that your mom is taking you to a nutritionist. Must of us get our food messages from TV where all the commercials are for fattening, fast food, that is very high in calories, and fat and salt. But no one in the commericals is fat. (and the secret is that no one in the commercials actually eats that stuff. Good luck to you.
Michele
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I will attempt to void being cliche' in this question. More often then not I know most of you are tired ( I know I am) of people asking "ok so theirs this boy, and im this gurl, ummmm ok soo ". Most of the time the question asker cant even spell the most simple of words as in the example above. However this is certinly not meant to be an attack on the question askers, more to just make you aware I am not the typical demographic. All said here is the question that seems so trivial.- I ask, What is the legall age of consent in most states. I grew concerned about this recently due to the fact that a considerably younger female approached myself Via internet, and lied about her age.(stated she was 17, later I found out she was 15). Also it might prove helpfull to know that I am a 19 yr old male, about to turn 20. Im a model so this kind of thing has happened before however for some reason it hasnt bothered me until now. So in recap, if anyone knows the legall age of consent, or the law stating adults and minors please add your advice. Gratfully yours. (link)
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I believe the age of consent in most states is 16.
It is against the law to have sexual intercourse with anyone under the age of 16. Some states make an exception when both children are minors, if there is less than two years in age between them, but I don't know which states. If the girl or her parents decide to press charges, you can be labeled as a sex offender for the rest of yourlife. and have to register with the police department where ever you live. It is not worth it. You can kiss your modeling career good bye.
And it does not matter if the girl lies to you about her age. And unlessyou see proof of ID, there is no way to be sure, so just steer clear of anyone who even seems to be to young. I know you can't always go by how they look. That is why, model or not, no mater how many opportunities you get, it is not worth it. Get to know a girl and her family before you have sex with her. You could be very sorry otherwise.
Not to mention avoiding unwanted pregnancies and diseases. If you get a girl pregnant, and she has the baby, you are stuck supporting it for 18 years, and that is the law in every state.
Again, if you have taken these kinds of chances in the past, and so far have avoided trouble, I would say that you are very lucky, cut it out now, before your life is ruined. You still have so many more years to live, and have a very exciting life. Sex with a girl underage, or who you don't know well, is not worth trading that in for, now is it?
Michele
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my mum had this friend and she was my mums friend for ages.She used to act really nice around me and never show me that she did not like me!The other day my mum told me that her friend used to call me and my brothers retards this has made me so angry and it keeps playing on my mind.She has also been very bad to my mother!I think she might be jealous of my brothers and me because we are all successful.I beat her son in our gcses and i think this made her hate me!What i am asking is why does she call me and my brothers retards when we are not it makes me so angry.My mums other friend said its because she thinks i am pretty i don't know please advice me. (link)
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A better question to ask is why is your mom still friends with her? I wouldn't be. You are right to be mad, but consider the source. The woman obviously doesn't know how to raise kids, and is also jealous of your mom and her success, and your success and yoru brothers. I don't know why your mom bothers with her.
Tell you mom she can do better than that, and needs to drop that friend. Otherwise, you'll wonder about whether or not your mom really supports you and your brother and your success.
Michele
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