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Death
I don't think you'll remember any of the people I mention but I believe that you were the person that my girlfriend and her friend spoke to so it's worth a shot.
My girlfriend, Lauren, had a friend named Sam. Well Sam didn't have the best life and she got involved in a lot of bad things. If you're the right person then I think you know all about it and if not then I'm sorry. Well, Sam went to this place where she was being taken care of and I guess things were going really well. Lauren was happy, and from what I heard so was Sam. Sam was also one of my friends so knowing they were both happy made me happy. Well after a while we stopped hearing from Sam and we started to get worried. Then the cops showed up at Lauren's house and told her that they found Sam in a ditch. I was there when they got there and Lauren just froze. They told us this long story about what they believed happened to her and it was just horrible. Well ever since that Lauren hasn't said a word. She wouldn't talk to her mom, me, counselors, the police, anyone. Then last night she said that she was going to get Sam's parents back because all of this is their fault. That's all she'll say. I'm really worried about her and I don't know what to do. I know how angry and upset she is, but I don't want to see her do something stupid. I've tried talking to her but I'm still worried that she might try to do something. She was talking about making them pay the way she paid and it's really scaring me.
How can I get through to her? How do I make her realize that she can't fix things by getting herself into troulbe? Thank you in advance and if you're not the person I think you are then I'm really sorry, and thank you for your advice.
Chris
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Are you telling me that Sam has died? How did it happen? Was it drugs? I told Lauren that she may not be able to help Sam. But she did, she got her into a place that was better, and she had a chance. Why didn't she take that chance. I think I need a little more information if you want me to help you help Lauren. I do want to help, but I need more info. If you do not want to put what happened. I think I can help to make Lauren realize that to help Sam, or to honor her memory, she should do something positive.
It is important to tell her that. How are Sam's parents. Are they upset at all. Sam was a minor, why haven't the parents been arrested for neglect? Do they have any other kids? Have they been taken away?
I am so sorry that this happened. But Lauren was the one person who made a difference. She make the effort to give Sam a second chance, but she could not make Sam use that chance. It is true, Sam was set up to fail by her parents. All of this sadness it on their doorstep. I think it would be better to do something more subtle that could drive them crazy for the rest of their lives. Something that will remind them of SAm every day, or week, or month. Something that will remind them of what they did to her. Something that shows what lousy parents they were. A card or note or copy of a newspaper article. Mailed to them. So that they will never forget. Maybe you guys should ask someone or some company or non-profit to start a scholarship in her memory. Maybe Lauren should volunteer or get to know some people like Sam who are in rehab, so she can realize that there was nothing she could do. Everyone fights their own demons. Sam's parents have demons that they fight too. But that does not get them off the hook. Could you ask Lauren to write to me so that I may give her my condolences and maybe she will confide in me, and I can try also, to talk her out of doing something foolish. Again, I am so sorry for Sam. But I think she is a peace now. I believe in spirituality. As a human, Sam was walking around very wounded. Life was too hard for her.
Thanks for letting me know.
MIchele
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