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My name is Becca. I wish that I could live in a eutopic world where nothing ever went wrong and smiles could brighten up everyone's day. But life isn't always rainbows and sunshine. All good comes with bad. What makes or breaks a person is their strength through those tough times. I am a simple person with simple ambitions, simple pleasures, and a simple life. I usually try to find the best in people, ergo, I can be a very forgiving person. Show me respect and treat me nicely, and I can be one of the nicest people you'll ever meet. I am worth $2,886,158 on humanforsale. I change my mind more than I change my underwear, so don't set what I say in stone. I am the biggest procrastinator in the world. I have horrible spelling and typing skills. The person who has changed my life the most would have to be my two year old cousin, Chelsea. She is the most amazing person ever, and I've been blessed to be a part of her life since March 23, 2005. I want to be a positive influence in her life, and guide her to grow up and make a difference in the world. This little girl means the world to me. She is my best friend.
I love to feel loved. Ian makes me feel loved. He is one amazing person. We have been dating since June 28, 2006, and we will stay together for the rest of our lives. We were made for eachother. He calls me his Bibbles and his lady bug and makes me smile my biggest smiles ever. He tickles me until I almost cry. I love every second I am with him.
I am done things in my life that I regret. I wish I was a better person. I am currently trying to find myself and what I want from life. I am currently trying to become who I want to be. Let's just see where that takes me.
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I will be 14 in 4days! Right now i am in 8th grade. I've had a boyfriend once, in 7th grade. He was in 8th grade (not the cutest guy, but he made me laugh) He asked me out on AIM during thanksgiving break. I said yes. I told my sister and shes like "you scored an 8th grader", and im like yes. My sister is now a freshman in college. So i dont talk to her that much. About this age is when i think is good to have a boyfriend, but i can't figure out the best way to tell my mom if i get one. I never told my mom about the other guy last year, because he was an 8th grader and it didnt last long. He moved wayy to fast so i broke up with him after a week. I am not officially allowed to go on a 1 on 1 date till im 16. but i can still have a boyfriend, and he can come to my house and i can go to his. The big question im trying to ask, is how i should tell my mom when i have a boyfriend. Im nervous for when that time comes. Please help me!
I think that the best way is to sit her down, when she's in a good mood of course, and tell her.
dont be like "i have a boyfriend and you cant stop me" because she'll get mad.
just say something like "mom, i wanted to ask your permission to have a boyfriend. i am 14 years old and think i am mature enough to understand the situation. i will obide by all of your rules, tel you where i am, who im with,what time ill be home, and all that stuff. would it be ok with you if i dated?"
she would respect the fact that you are acting in a mature manner and you are willing to follow her guildlines.
hope i helped!
and happy birthday!
Mecha Becca
Okay so lets say you wanna start making out with this guy and so on...but how do you get to that point? Like ill start it but how do u get his attention to make him want to kiss you? Like its not just some random guy i mean ive had sex with him so its not like a first time or anything...
ok so if you've had sex with him, then yo can just kiss him and it wouldnt be akward. but im gonna give you some real advice which is probably what you wanted.
dont be afraid to be sexy with him. make him horny. that may not sound too good but since you've had sex together, it's ok.
like i bend down infront of my boyfriend while wearing a mini skirt "to pick something up" or randomly come over to him and sit on his lap. do things like that for him. he'd enjoy it and want to make out with you.
ahh okay. i was talking to my friend at the table and he rides my boyfriend's bus. well he said that my boyfriend was begging him to show him how to make "the move" to like get me to make out with him. and i dono when he is gonna do it but i havent even had my 1st kiss yet so is there anyway you can like explain to me how to kiss? or if you cant, maybe give me some tips? thanks a bunch
im gonna agree with teacup and say, just le it come naturally. its something of pleasure and is good no matter what. just watch out about nervousness. that lead to my first kiss. lol. i accidentally headbutted my boyfriend. but i was nervous. if you arent nervous, then you can just relax and enjoy the moment.
Alright, well I know a bunch of unheard of bands and I want them on my ipod, and obviously, since they're not that heard of, Limewire usually doesn't have them available to download. So is there any other way I can download them onto my ipod?
search the band on myspace music and most likely the band will be ther. if not, morpheus works sometimes. like name the bands in feedback and i can get my boyfriend to help. he's like a super genius at this kind of stuff.
I dont have a love life at all i'm to shy to go up to a cute boy and start talking to him. what are some tips to find out if a dude likes you or not?
well, to find out if he likes you, word of mouth can always work. you could talk to other people who talk to that person to see if they like you.
but dont worry, i used to be shy too. i was cured by my boyfriend.
you could get friends to hook you up if you're daring and trust them enough. no one knows you better than your friends and they should know your tast better than anyone.
well hope i helped any.
Mecha Becca
I have a big question thats always been bothering me. Being a punk rocker or a goth is it really unmoral? Is it bad so God won't except your or anything?
I dont think it is. I am punk and used to go to a catholic school. In my opinion, God accepts you any way you dress as long as you still love him. If you are the kind of goth tat worships the devil and makes chicken sacrifices, then I can see that the issue was questionable, but if you just dress that way, nothing is wrong. Its the inside that counts.
is there any kind of way to make your butt bigger because people make fron of me for not haveing one. Thanx to anyone who helps
well, the only way to make it bigger in an operation or very unhealthy eating habits, but big butss are not all that great so dont be mistaken. i have a big one and it maks it harder to wear mini skirts, some dresses, and pants that fit me right. but white pants, jeans with designs on the pockets, and mini skirts that are shorter in the back make your butt appear bigger.
you know when people say that when you first have sex, you usually pop your cherry? well if i were to have sex and the guy did pop my cherry, does that mean i bleed more when i get my period? becuase they say your hymen or cherry is like a tissure that blocks the vagina, so when i do have sex for the first time and it pops, doesnt that mean ill bleed more on my period? if anyone knows what i mean? and thanks
well, not everyone's cherry gets popped first time, depending on roughness of sex and how deep he goes in.
as for your period, everyone is different. i didnt bleed more but for some reason my periods are shorter now. im not sure why though.
hope i helped any
Mecha Becca
Okay so this is definitely not an advice question but really an opinionative one. Sorry. Anyway, do you think that in the song "I Write Sins Not Tragedies" by Panic! At the Disco that the lead singer is the groom or a guest or what? Thanks.
I think that he was more of like a story teller/narrator in the video. if that wasnt an option, then guest but i dont think that he was the groom.
it was a good video though and i absolutely ove it to feath. and it won a VMA.
okay, i have a question. So i've been dating someone for 4 years now. i, no questions asked, love him to death right. He was my first in everything but i wasn't his first in bed. After all these years he won't tell me who he first slept with. If i really think about it really it makes me a bit mad. He says he wants to at least keep something to himself. What do you guys think i really think i have the right to know, it makes me mad that i don't know. I rate well. ;)
I think you have the right to know girl. I would be mad too. When I started talking to my boyfriend about sex, he told me flat out about the other girls and I understood. You need to ask you boyfriend to tell you. You do have the right in my opinion. I you want to know, you should be able to. Im not sure why your boyfriend wont tell you but I hope you get this sorted out. Hope I helped any.
Mecha Becca
i need a website that has free cliff notes for a walk to remember by nicolas sparks and the outsiders by S.E. hinton
i have to finish this tonight im in high school so they need to be good cliffnotes please i will give 5's for useful websites
i already have cliffnotes.com sparknotes.com and pinkmonkey.com
well three time's the charm and if you havent found good notes already, the oher sites with be just about the same. the only thing i could tell you, even though you probably dont want to hear it is, READ THE BOOKS AS FAST AS YOU CAN. they really are good books. i read the outsiders last year and cried during it. it's on my top 10 favorite books ever. but the majority of cliff notes websites just take the reviews from other websites and just reword them so i really dont think you will find anything. sorry i really didnt help.
Mecha Becca
so I have a good boyfriend; we've been going out for a little over 6 months. well i used to have this other boyfriend; we were on and off for like 2 years. he was a jeerk and i don't even know why i liked him. we don't even talk anymore and i have no feelings left for him. but today i look at his gf's myspace and there was a picture of them together kissing. my stomach flipped and i kind of god sad. it was so weird; because i know i'm over him. why did this happen?? is it just because i used to be her? i don't want to be jealous like this ; do you have tips to not be anymoree?
i think that element might just be there because she now has something that was once yours. i used to get that way about my ex boyfriend too and sometimes still do even though i have the most loving boyfriend on the world now. he still talks about his ex girlfriend and seems to have those moments too. id say that its normal and dont worry and try not to think about your ex, look at his myspace or his girlfriend's. forgetting is a powerful healer.
Alright for the guys and girls...
Girls what do you think the most perfect place a guy could propose would be. what would be the setting.
Guys, where do you prefer not to do it. or what do you think of the whole idea
Thx.
im all about the water and i think that it'd be perect if my guy took me out into the country by a lake, then it start to rain. we'd kiss and then he'd propose to me, right there in the pouring rain.
or if he took me to the beach at night and proposed to me as we're walking along the water.
it'd be so cute. i'd just die if either of those actually happened to me.
this mite be kinda gross but does it seem weird that when it comes to like oral sex/fingerin/hand jobs ya kno all that [not sex tho thats a whole nother level!!], i wouldnt mind havin it done to me but the thought of doin it to my bf or whatever grosses me out !?!? is that normal ??
see, im kinda the opposite. i HAVE had sex with my boyfriend but i've never recieved oral before. i dont think i'd be uncomfortable with it though. i think i'd be self-consiounce about it. but im totally fine doing it to him. i dont have a problem with it. and he's told me that i'm really good at it too. my boyfriend doesnt like hand jobs but all guys are different.
it is normal for you to be grossed out by this kind of thing. it just means that you are not ready for sex yet. dont worry, its not a big deal so dont sweat it.
hope i helped
Mecha Becca
This is for girls. I want an honest answer; is penis size an important factor in relationships and does it matter?
not in my option.
its just who it belongs to
and what you do with it. :P
My boyfriend and I have cyber sex. Is it possible to pour out our sexual feelings online through a computer and not getting totally horny around each other? I mean, we want to stay virgins until we're married. So is cyber sex helping us with the temptation, or making it worse? Is it ok to have cyber sex or is it immoral and wrong? What would my parents think? I'm afraid they won't understand if they find out... Thanks for the advice!
It all depends on the person really. Cybering isnt the same as the real thing but it might help to not be so horny so often. I dont think it's immoral at all, just like masturbation. It's safe and can be entertaining.
Your parents might be iffy on the subject depending on how conservative they believe you should be and they did not have cybering back when they were younger. It can be sort of healthy in a way like masturbation. If she catches you, just tell her you cant get pregnant off of this kind of sex.
Hope I helped.
Mecha Becca
well heres my problem:
I Dont know when but soon im gonna meet up with my boyfriend that i havent seen for ages, weve been going out for 5 months, and we talked about sex im only young and a vigin but hes older and experianced and i trust him. I told him that i was ready do "do it" when we met up. Now thats true i do wanna but my worse fear is getting pregnant and im scared about it. i dont know what to do or what to tell him or if its worth the risk. It is somthing i trust him with, but bad things always seem to happen to me and i really dont want to get pregnant but i wanna do it. Please Help What Should I Do? And Wha Should i tell my boyfriend
first of all, to pprevent STDs and pregnancy, make sure that he uses a condom. That can prevent anything from happening. For added protection, you can also get birth control from your doctor.
I think that if you're having doubts about this, then you are not ready, hon. Sorry but you should be 100% sure of it before you do anything with your boyfriend. If he loves you, then he'd understand.
hope I helped
Mecha Becca
i have a boyfriend that really does'nt treat me right he makes fun of me with his friends hardly ever spend time with me so i dumped him. but i miss him so much i feel soo empty inside. should i get back togther with him even after all he has done to me? but how bout he has moved on should i tell him i still like him?
-help me thank you
if he doesnt treat you the way you want to be treated, forget about him. he isnt worth your time hun. you can do better than him. you just need to move on and find someone else who truely loves you and treats you right. there is such a guy out there for you girl. go find him.
hope i helped.
Mecha Becca
My boyfriend and I have been having sex only for a few weeks now. He's been enjoying it very much and it doesn't take him long to 'cum'. I see no pleasure in it at all. It doesn't hurt any longer, it's just...blah. Why is this happening? Is this on my part or his? I was a virgin before him and I thought sex was supposed to be amazing when you're in love!
he might not be doing things that pleasure you. some girls cannot orgasm from intercouse, but there is hope. he just needs to find stuff that you like, or you find things you like and tell him. he cant read minds. sex and relationshios are about communication.
Do you guys have any tips for begginers to Lacrosse? I'm want to play when I go into 11th grade and I like to play with my friend but I reliazed, I actually have no clue what I'm doing.
So if you guys can please give the basics? and an overview of how to play? and some tips on buying sticks? Like, how much you should spend?
Thanks
http://www.longstreth.com/Pages/Womens_Lacrosse_Main.html
the best website for all of your lacrosse equipment needs. i get my field hockey stuff there and im gonna start lacrosse soon too so im getting my equipemnt from them too. they're awsome and super fast when it comes to delivery.
http://www.uslacrosse.org/the_sport/womens_rules.phtml
a total overview of like everything. im gonna put some on here but if you need more, there's the site i got it from.
WOMEN'S LACROSSE EQUIPMENT:
The Crosse:
The crosse (lacrosse stick) is made of wood, laminated wood, or synthetic material, with a shaped net pocket at the end. A girl's crosse must be an overall length of 35 1/2 - 43 1/4 inches. The head of the crosse must be seven to nine inches wide. The pocket of the stick must be strung traditionally; no mesh is allowed. The top of the ball when dropped in the pocket must remain even with or above the side walls. The goalkeeper's crosse may be 35 1/2 - 48 inches long. The head of the crosse may be mesh and up to 12 inches wide.
The Ball:
The ball must be yellow and made of solid rubber. The ball must be 7.75 - 8 inches in circumference and weigh 5 - 5.25 ounces.
The Mouthpiece:
All players must wear mouthguards.
Protective Equipment:
Eyewear is mandatory! Click here to view the latest list of tested and approved eyewear. Close-fitting gloves, nose guards, soft head gear are optional, and may be worn by all players.
The Goalkeeper's Equipment:
The goalkeeper must wear a face mask and helmet with a mouth guard, throat protector and chest protector. The goalkeeper may wear padding on hands, arms, legs, shoulders and chest which does not excessively increase the size of those body parts.
WOMEN'S LACROSSE RULES:
Women's lacrosse is a non-contact game played by 12 players: a goalkeeper, five attackers and six defenders. The object of the game is to shoot the ball into the opponent's goal. The team scoring the most goals wins.
Women's lacrosse begins with a draw, which is taken by the center position. The ball is placed between two horizontally held crosses (sticks) at the center of the field. At the sound of the whistle, the ball is flung into the air as the crosses are pulled up and away. A draw is used to start each half and after each goal, and it takes place at the center of the field.
The collegiate game is 60 minutes long, each half being 30 minutes. The high school girl's game is 50 minutes long, each half being 25 minutes. In both collegiate and high school play, teams are allowed two timeouts per game (including overtime).
There are visual guidelines on the side of the field that are in place to provide a consistent indicator to the officials of what is considered the playing field. The minimum dimensions for a field is 120 yards by 70 yards. Additional markings on the field include a restraining line located 30 yards from each goal line, which creates an area where only a maximum of seven offensive players and eight defensive players (including the goalkeeper) are allowed; a 12-meter fan, which officials use to position players after fouls; and an arc in front of each goal, considered the critical scoring area, where defenders must be at least within a stick's-length of their attacker.
The boundaries are determined by the natural restrictions of the field. An area of 120 yards by 70 yards is desirable.
When a whistle blows, all players must stop in place. When a ball is ruled out of play, the player closest to the ball gets possession when play is resumed. Loss of possession may occur if a player deliberately runs or throws the ball out of play.
Rough checks, and contact to the body with the crosse or body, are not allowed.
Field players may pass, catch or run with the ball in their crosse. A player may gain possession of the ball by dislodging it from an opponent's crosse with a check. A check is a controlled tap with a crosse on an opponent's crosse in an attempt to knock the ball free. The player must be one step in front of her opponent in order to check. No player may reach across an opponent's body to check the handle of a crosse when she is even with or behind that opponent. A player may not protect the ball in her crosse by cradling so close to her body or face so as to make a legal, safe check impossible for the opponent.
All legal checks must be directed away from a seven-inch sphere or ""bubble"" around the head of the player. No player is allowed to touch the ball with her hands except the goalkeeper when she is within the goal circle. A change of possession may occur if a player gains a distinct advantage by playing the ball off her body.
Fouls are categorized as major or minor, and the penalty for fouls is a “free position.” For major fouls, the offending player is placed four meters behind the player taking the free position. For a minor foul, the offending player is placed four meters off, in the direction from which she approached her opponent before committing the foul, and play is resumed. When a minor foul is committed in the critical scoring area, the player with the ball has an indirect free position, in which case the player must pass first.
A slow whistle occurs when the offense has entered the critical scoring area and the defense has committed a major foul. A flag is thrown but no whistle is sounded so that the offense has an opportunity to score a goal. A whistle is blown when a goal is scored or the scoring opportunity is over. An immediate whistle is blown when a major foul, obstruction or shooting space occurs, which jeopardizes the safety of a player.
Sorry That Its Alot
Hope I Helped
Mecha Becca